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just confused .
there's this guy whom i really like or i think i like. i'm not going to justify that because i don't want to get hurt. well, last year my friend called him up and asked if he'd date me, and he told her no. also he and i weren't so close then. we argued a lot, but were friends. now i talk to him a lot more, and we laugh more than argue. we're the same in many ways. i don't really see him much outside of school. i will not admit my feelings to him because i don't want to ruin our friendship, and he may be doing the same. i'm not really sure what kind of girls he goes for. i know one girl he crushed on last year but they didn't work. he's black and i'm white, but he acts white. haha. what should i do? pursue my feelings? or ignore them to keep the friendship? really would help if i knew if he felt the same, but i couldn't stand the rejection shame.
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Well, there are 2 major options you can go about to solve this problem:
1. Be blunt about it.
2. Be shy about it.
I highly suggest being blunt about it, and either asking him if he's into you too, or simply asking him out yourself. Guys like when girls show confidence, and there's no better way to show you're confident than walking up to a guy and asking him out!
Or, you can go the other route and be shy about it, possibly doing nothing to show him you're interested in him. Sometimes, people who use this method drop subtle hints such as smiling [which is common in girls and doesn't always show you're into a guy] or having a friend ask if he's into you [this only shows that you're too shy to do it yourself]. This option is really kind of stupid, and is used all too much...
As I always say:
Life is WAY too short to not take chances and risks once in a while. Why sit around wondering what could've been, what would've been and what should've been, when you can answer all of those questions and then some by being honest and telling a boy how you really feel about him?
-Laura (17-f)
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I think you should go for it. Pursue away. Tell him how you feel, because honestly, if he's a good friend he won't make a spectacle if he doesn't return your feelings, and you'll have lost nothing.
Life is way way too short to wonder how people you care for feel about you. If he doesn't like you, then you're still friends. If he does like you, then yay.
If you're too shy to be straightforward then just try flirting a little bit, and gauge his reaction. Maybe that will tell you how he feels.
-Jasmine
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I would just stick with friendship for now because you dont want to ruin a good thing and if things dont work out you might not have the friendship anymore so just stay friends for a little while but hang out with him more outside of school and just talk more maybe he will realize you like him or maybe he will realize he likes you too and will ask you out. It will take time but dw in time everything will be fine :)
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