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If your raped and the guy gets his **** into you and forcefully starts to F*** you but you push him off after he was at least 2 inches in...does that make you a non virgin? Does rape even count? Or what? IM SOO LOST

This is a tough one. Virginity is usually defined as never having intercourse. Someone who has been raped has had intercourse. Some people define virginity differently. I think it would be fine to still consider yourself a virgin if this happened to you. Doing so may, however, cause problems. If you're dating someone and you tell them that you're a virgin, but later on in the relationship tell them that you were raped, they could get really angry or upset with you and stop trusting you. It's okay to consider yourself a virgin, but your partner probably won't understand this and my be hurt if you don't tell them what happened. You don't have to go into detail, but instead of telling him that you're a virgin, tell him that you're a virgin, but you were raped for a few seconds before you could push the guy off. If he gives you a hard time about calling yourself a virgin get rid of him immediately. You don't need to put up with that kind of garbage. If you believe that you're a virgin than you are. If it means anything I do too. I'm not sure by your question if this actually happened to you, but if it did I'm really sorry and I hope you feel better. :)

Okay here it goes it may be a long one this time..

For starters I'm a 18/f I have been dating this guy he is 22 for 5 1/2 months. On my birthday he asked me to marry him. I said yes. Well that next week when we got home we got into a little argument which is normal and he said u know what i never even fell in love with u. Right when he said that my heart broke. I was totally in love with this guy you know ? Okay so then the next day he loves me again..hes like playing games with me. Well then i get a phone call from this guy i have known since march and had a total crush on well hes looking for a serious relationship and he is like totally falling for me. But i dunno what to do. Should i stay with the guy and fuss and have him play games with me or get to know this other guy ? I so need help !!!!

It doesn't sound like you are ready for marriage to me. Don't say yes to someone unless you are ready for the committment. Since you are even considering your crush, that shows that you are not ready for marriage at all. You should know someone for at least a year before you decide to marry. I don't think you should necessarily break up with your fiance, but you need to have a talk with him about where the both of you stand in your relationship. I think there's some miscommunication, that's all. And please don't do something like agree to marriage if you're not sure that you're ready for that. Don't do it because it's the next logical step. You really need to think things over for yourself and think them all the way through. I hope that you can work things out with your fiance and good luck! :)

Does anyone know any sites where i can buy pants from, mostly really long pants. Im a size 3 and im 5'10'' so i cant find any pants long enough for me in stores.Preferably jeans that arent mighty expensive. But pretty really long ones, thanks so much!

Arizona jeans are really cheap, you can get them for around $14 if they're on sale, which they usually are. They have lots of different styles, one of them including "long". I usually get them from JCPennys, but I'm sure you can find them in other stores too. I hope I helped and good luck!

Okay so the past week I started to have to use the bathroom a lot and there was like a burning fealing but then when I would go to the bathroom there wouldn't a lot of pee. So then on tuesday I got a head ace
And a stomac ace my mom said it was a bladder or kiddney infection cause a lot of people in our family have had that so she made me drink a whole gallon of cranberry juice. I was also going through "I'm so fat I have to stop eating" stage. Then on tuesday it was much better but I still had a stomach ace so we went to the docters. She had me you know pee in the little cup. Then she came back and said that it came back fine but she wanted to send it out just to make sure. Okay now I am better now I still get a little dizy when I sitt up but that's all except for an ocasional kiddney pain. Okay now I read on a website the signs of being pregnet befor. But right befor I got sick I had my period . I have only had it for a year but my 2 best friends had theirs at the same time when I didn't. Okay now about a year ago I think. I let my dog lick me down there. Then my brother saw and he said that he had let our dog lick him befor to. This disturbed me but it felt funny when the dog licked me so I let him lick me again then one time I saw the dog licking my brother. Now I know that my brother didn't you know cum in the dogs mouth. I know for a fact he didn't but anyways I let the dog lick me after he had licked my brother. Is there any chance I could be pregnant or is it just a bladder infection like my mom said? Oh and one more thing my mom said it was good to drink a lot of fluids so she had me drinking water and juice a lot. So for the past few days I can't tell if I am bloted or if I am getting fater cause I might be pregnant. But I pushed on my stomach and it went in but I could only hold it in for like 5 seconds then I like farted throught my vagina. Is this a sign of being bloted or pregnant?

-sacred

You're not pregnant. Sperm don't stay alive outside the body very long and unless the dog went straight from your brother to you and put it's tongue way up inside of you the chances of you being pregnant are about the same as if you sat on a toilet seat an hour after a guy did. I could go into a larger explanation, but pregnancy isn't the issue here. I think you should be worrying more about having a dog lick you. That's really unsanitary and the reason that you got the infection. A dog's mouth is full of bacteria. Plus, oral sex with a dog is ILLEGAL. You can get that same feeling by using your fingers or something else. I mean, don't you think what you're doing is really wrong? You need to stop or you'll end up with another infection and arrested too. I hope I cleared some things up for you and please don't do that with your dog anymore!

is human moral an instinct or an learned behavior?

According to Sigmund Freud there are three things called the Id, the Ego, and the Superego. The Id is the ultimate expression of bad, the Superego is the ultimate expression of good. Things that make us feel good physically are part of the Id, things that make us feel good mentally are part of the Superego. Since we want and need to feel a little of both, the Ego is there. The Ego is a combination of the Id and Superego and where human morals come from. If you want to learn more about it or don't quite understand what I said, just look up Sigmund Freud on the internet. I hope I helped and good luck!

if an atheist lived an honest life according to his own morals, which were parallel to "god's law" would he be condemned to hell? because the bible seem to condamn all who does not believe in jesus and god to this hell. there fore if all one need to do was to believe to get into heaven, then why bother the pious behavior? similarly if pious behavior without faith earns one hell, then is this judgement really fair?

Lots of people don't understand Christianity. Many of these people are Christians themselves. I'm a Christian and I'll try to explain this to you as best I can. All you have to do is believe that Jesus died to forgive you of your sins and you will be forgiven and will get into heaven no matter what you did. Nobody in the world is perfect, only Jesus was. You don't have to follow Christian morals to get into heaven. You don't have to be a good person. God gave us the gift of life, so we should use our bodies to do good. God has a path that He wants each of us to follow. It is our choice if we want to follow this path or not, but it is my belief that if you do you will find the most happiness in life. So basically, all you have to do is believe. Everything else is your choice. I think where the confusion comes from is that if you believe in Jesus, because that is good and right, you shouldn't want to do wrong and you should try to please God as best you can. I hope I cleared some things up for you and good luck.

ok usually my 3 best friends are very easy to shop for around xmas but this year we decided that since every1 calls us the most countriest gurls they've met we decided to go with something along the idea of "redneck" any ideas?!? im realy stuck on this! i rate high thanks!!

Get them really cute cowboy hats. That would be awesome. I hope I helped and good luck!

I keep breaking out around my face is there something that will work? I have tried almost everything.

The best advice I can give you is to see a Dermatologist (skin doctor). When my aunt made me see one I thought it was a really stupid idea, but I am so glad that I did. I didn't have a huge problem with acne, but I did break out a lot and regular acne products didn't help at all. The Dermatologist looked at me asked me like three questions and gave me a perscription acne medication. It is so wonderful! After two days of using it my face was completely cleared up. I hope I helped and good luck!

i'm moving into a new house and I don't know what
color to paint my room!!!!!! Please Help. All the color quizzes I've taken say different things like I'm purple, gray, green and blue. Is there any true color test where it will really tell you what color you should paint your walls so you won't get annoyed etc. of it. Please I really need help

Think of what kind of mood or atmosphere you want your room to have. If you choose a darker color the room will, well, it'll be dark. Pastels are the way to go. A yellow pastel, I think is the best color for a room because it really brightens everything up. If you don't want your room to be quite so happy, a blue or purple pastel would probably have a very calming effect. Green would look good if you have a lot of green stuff in your room, like a green blanket on your bed or a green rug, but otherwise it may look kind of funny. If you're not sure, I'd go with the light purple or blue pastel. That'll look really good. I hope I helped and good luck!

Ha okay i had no idea what to put this under. But anways. I'm planning on getting a new cell phone for Christmas. I was just wondering, is VerizonWireless a good company? And also, the new LG "The V". Does anyone have it on here? And can you tell me if you can recieve pictures? And if you can send them too? Thanks so much.

Verizon is definitely the way to go. Most people will tell you that. Verizon to Verizon calls are free and practically everyone I know has a Verizon phone. They have the best service too. There aren't any hidden fees. If you listen to and read everything like you're supposed to there won't be any surprises. Whatever you choose, I wish you luck!

I will rate fives for all answers! In about 12 days it will be my boyfriend and I's one year anniversary. I was really low on ideas so I got a fleece throwover blanket embroidered for him, it has our names and December 22nd, 2004 on it and it also says I LOVE YOU. I dont' know, is this a good idea and if it is, what also can i get him to go along with it. I bought all kinds of things to make him a card and I just think maybe a lil' something else will do. thanks! -sahara

Wow, you just gave me a great idea for my boyfriend! I love it! I don't think you need to do anything else. That sounds really perfect! If you really want to get him something else though, I'd say to get him a DVD, a video game, a shirt, or something like that. Not all guys are into being completely romanticized. :)

Okay
So basically I live in Arizona
and it's pretty warm here year-round
& a few of my friends have heated pools and they throw x-mas/newyears pool parties.
Problem is:
I kinda lost my bathing suit and I need a new one.
Anyone know where they sell juniors (xs,s) bathing suits?
online,in stores, I don't really care.
Websites are helpful =]

Sporting goods stores will have bathing suits that are small and they sell them year round, I don't know what stores are in your area, but Dick's Sporting Goods has really nice ones. I hope I helped and good luck!

Wrong Catergory didnt know which one...

Ohk tomorrow after the party with my work we are going bowling. I have not benn bowling since the summer and i seriously suck at it no lie. im going with people that are oler then me and i seem to embarass myself more then the average person idk what to do.. im not sitting out and watching because i love bowling but suck at it.

Should i just embarrass myself or what?

Please dont give me any website links on how to bowl because changes are i wont get it.
thx.. and tonight and tomorrow before 4:30pm would be great

Nobody's particularly good at bowling unless they go all the time. I'm terrible at it and so are a lot of people. I have trouble getting a 70. Chances are that someone you're going with will be just as bad as you if not worse. When people go out to bowl, they don't go to compete, they go to have fun. Try not to take it so seriously. Have fun with it. Mess around a little, throw the ball with your other hand, throw it between your legs, throw it with two hands, set it on the ground and push it with your foot....there's no reason to be embarassed. If people laugh, they're not laughing at you, they're laughing with you. So laugh! Also, think about how boring it would be if everyone was really good. Nobody's going to think anything of you if you're a bad bowler. You'll have a great time, don't worry. Good luck!

http://fashionbug.charmingshoppes.com/Shopping/product.aspx?product_id=FM002607&nav=FM

Anyone think that shirt is cute cause i want to buy it

I like the shirt a lot and I think it's cute too. You may encouter some problems though. I would suggest that if at all possible you go to the store and try it on first. It's very hard to find the right fit with those types of shirts, especially for me. I'm not very blessed in the upper half of my body and I find that that kind of shirt is way too low cut because I have nothing to push it out or hold it up with. Then there's the issue of how tight you want it to be and since it's not on a model in the picture it's very hard to say how long it is. If you can't get to the store, I would risk buying it because it's such a nice shirt, but be prepared to be disappointed. I hope that everything works out and I may even get that shirt myself now, I like it that much! Good luck!

Yea ok so heres the story .. very tragic.. something happened that id never imagine.. my sisters brotger was at his friends and there was some sort of gas leak and the house like exploded... her brother is only 12 and she is only 10 shes so upset and everyone is so worried were not sure if hes gunna make it hes got so much wrong w/ him.. he has head trama collapsed lungs, punctured spleen and a punctured liver and 50% burns that are VERY severe.. the thing is i barely know this kid since he lives w/ my step sisters mom but when i found out i cried and cried and i just cant stop i dont really understand it since i only met him like 3 times but still i mean hes juts a kid n hes been through so much i dont even know why thiswould happen to someone like him expecially a kid!!! i dont knowwhat to think about it everyones praying and stuff n its like ive never prayed and had ne results so i dont knwo what to do or how to feel.. some advice or stories or ANYthing would be helpful at this point and time .. thatnk you for any help! ...

There are two things that you can do. The first is keep praying. Believe that your prayers will come true, you don't sound very confident about prayer. Pray for your sister's brother, for your sister and her family, and pray for yourself too. The second thing that you can do is to put your energy into comforting, supporting, and reassuring your sister. She was much closer to her brother than you and she needs your support. If you focus on making her feel better it may take your mind off of your own feelings a little and it will probably help you feel better about it too. I hope that your sister's brother pulls through and I will pray for him too. Good luck!

Yesterday i just put god in my heart, because my life was going bad and i was doing alot of bad thigns that i shouldn't have been doing. and i'm going to follow the path god wants me to now and do what i think he thinks his right. And i was just wondering if there was anybody out there who could give me some pointers on what to do and not to do because i am new at this. And could you please name some christian bands cause i used to lisen to metal and i dont' want to anymore because i think it would go against god because of the stuff they say i dotn'w ant to lisen to any more hate singers anymore. Please help i'll rate 5's for good anwsers.

Deciding to follow God doesn't mean you should change who you are and everything that you do. I think that if you want to change you should do it slowly. Remember though, you don't have to! Nobody's perfect, so there's no point in pretending that you are. Any sins that you committ can be forgiven. Listen to the music that you like no matter what it is, but if you want to find inspiration in Christian music or you find that you like it, that's great. The best way to find popular Christian bands is to listen to a Christian radio station. I don't know of any Christian bands myself, even though I am Christian, but I do listen to the radio station sometimes. When you're writing, the word God should be capitalized. When you're referring to God you need to capitalize the words He and Him too. My advice to you is to find a local minister to talk to about Christianity. He or she will be able to help you find the path that God wants you to take. I wish you the best of luck!

i need help right now ! theres this toolbar called mirar at the top of my internet explorer and its says gay and lesbian stuff and my dad has to get on the computer i want it gone NOW !! i right clicked and told it to go away how can i get rid of it for good !!
ill rate 5's!!!!!!!!!!!!

To get rid of it quickly open the internet and click on "View" then "Toolbars". This will show a list of all the toolbars. Click on the one that you want to remove so the check box goes away and it won't show up anymore.

Even if it won't show up, it's still on your computer! To get rid of it completely, go to the Control Panel and click on "Add or Remove Programs". This will show a list of all the programs on your computer. Find the toolbar on this list, it should be under "Mirar" and click on the button that says "Change Remove". This will uninstall the toolbar completely from your computer.

I hope I helped and good luck!

my parents are gay and my friends are not my friends any more because of it what do i do?

I think that your friends were just surprised and a little scared when they found out. A lot of people don't understand homosexuality. Your friends probably think that your parent's homosexuality rubbed off on you or something silly like that. I think what you should do is give them a little time. People that weren't reaised around gay or lesbian people just don't understand and they often have a hard time accepting it. If they don't come around after a few weeks you should try talking to them about it. Tell them you miss them and that just because they know that your parents are gay doesn't change who you are, and the great memories that you've had with your friends. This is a really hard situation to go through, but I think your friends will come around in the end. I hope everything works out for you and good luck!

Last year my Pre-Cal teacher told me that if I went on to take Calculus AP that I would flunk out by first report card. I knew that I wouldn't and the only reason I decided to take the class was because she said that about me even though I kept an A+ average in her class. Well, it's coming around to the end of the semester and I now have an A in Calculus AP. I was wondering; if this happened to you, would you tell your old teacher about your grade?

I don't think that teacher is worth your time. When my mom was younger her guidance counselor told her that she wasn't smart enough to become a teacher and should go to college for something else. She ended up going for horticulture and after, I think two years, she switched to teaching and has been teaching for more than 10 years now and is a very good teacher. It's great that you did so well, that's a really great accomplishment, but is that teacher really worth your time? I think your old teacher probably knows that you're doing well. Even though you may want to go up to her and tell her how it is, I think you should be the mature one and not sink to her level. She probably expects you to come barging in and has something already planned out to say to make you look silly. Don't even give that teacher the time of day. I hope I helped and good luck!

whenever i get around my NEW [like yesterday]boyfriend.. i don't know what to say. we can never start a conversation. we sit next to each other and say nothing. what should i do. how do i break the ice? i really like him and i want to stay with him. i dont want him to think i dont like him. I DO NOT want to BREAK UP with him
..

HELP i give high rating! 5's!
~~~~~~~~~~~~~ash

You haven't been going out for him for very long. Don't worry! You'll get more comfortable around each other and with your new situation with a little time. What you can do for now though, is what brokenagain suggested. Ask him how his day has been so far. If he doesn't say much ask him a few questions and then tell him about your day. Add a lot of details and you'll be sure to find something that you can talk about together. I wish you luck!

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