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God help you if you trusted the advice I gave at 13.trisspoke (7:31:17 PM): make me your forum link!
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that was a joke question by the way
number 1: who are you (your name doesnt show up when you send this)~number 2: what are you talking about
Ok, so I'm in jazz band I play the trombone. Theres this boy and we share music and stuff. I'm really shy and stuff, like insecure of my playing (when its not totally with the band, and today we were practicing as just sections) and I wasnt play loud and stuff. So then I was in study hall and my sister comes out "aww someone likes you" to me and I was like 'duh nuh uh.' and shes like 'yeah someone from bannnd' so I was like 'whatever.' and she names off the guy who I share music with in jazz band. Well she's like (her friend) was talking to him and he said something about there being this freshman that plays trombone but sucks and just fakes it and shes cute (or some other compliment I dunno) and I've been sitting around for a day and a half just wanting to cry since this. I'm CRUSHED. How could he say this about me? I know I'm not the GREATEST but I didnt think I sucked. And I dont fake it. It really hurt my feelings. I dunno how to get over this...like its hard. I'm thinking about quitting band but I dunno. Any suggestions?
Don't quit. He's just a jerk and it doesn't matter if he likes you or not go up to him and ask him for an explaintation. Tell him what he said really hurt and that you're not going to take that. JUst remember DON'T QUIT. I hope I helped!
Do you neciserrily have to think a guy is cute to like them? Like can you be attracted to just there personality and still have a crush on them?
Not at all. He can be the ugliest person on the face of the planet but if you like his personality then it's fine. All that matters is he appeals to you in some way. I hope I helped!
I'm getting a haircut and I'm not sure what kind to get. I have dirty blonde hair to my shoulders. Its straight and really plain. No bangs. Any ideas?!?!?! I rate good if u give me a real answer!!! thanks a bunch!!
Try getting it angled. It looks really good. I hope I hepled!
I have this friend who used to be my best friend ever. We still talk alot and she is still a good friend but we have been spreading apart. We always talk about how we dont hang out enough but every time I try to hang out with her she is out with other friends or wont call me back or just doesnt pick up. Its making me really frustrated because she is awesome but I am to the point where I just want to stop trying because she never trys to hang out with me Im always trying to hang out with her. Should I just give up? And is she just trying to tell me she dosent care anymore?
Talk to her in person. Ask her why she is asking this way. Tell her you're mad that she is ignoring you. If she just doesn't care dump her. Hopefully, she'll understand. I hope I helped!
My boyfriend and I are over. He broke up with me and I thought I was okay and didn't still feel for him but I do. He broke up with me because we weren't right for each other but I still love him. I need him more than anything and I can't get over him, don't tell me just to forget it and move on because I can't.
Tell him that you want to get back together with him. Say your true feelings and everything you said here. Even tell him you asked for advice and that's how bad you need him. I hope I helped!
Well i have thins friend lets call him Jen. Well Jen is so ANNOYING she follows me around EVERYWHERE. Everything i do she does. (ex: i color my hair, she does the same. i cut my bangs, she does the same. i make up crazy words, she says she did.) its getting really anoying and i cannot even joke with her about things and then she gets all mad. even my friends know her for a month and thinks she is annoying. She even tried to steal my BF and she didn't even like him she just wanted a bf. She also like a guy after one hour of knowing him. She always complains about not having a bf and i will never have one. and i cannot do much about. So what should i do be friends or not?
You should tell her that she needs to lay back a little. If she starts to get mad while you're saying this then tell her to calm down and let you finish. Explain how this is annoying you and you feel (and are correct) that it is very rude to try and steal your boy friend. If she storms off she's not a real friend because a real friend would understand. I hope I helped!
(Sorry lame queation everyone hates answering BUT...)Well I just started going out with this guy, "Greg" and I really like him and he really likes me. But the problem is, neither of us are very touchy-feely people, and so my friends are constantly yelling at me for not holding his hand, giving him a kiss, etc. Well I think that I should, so what should i do to just be a little bit more physical, I guess...
If your uncomfortable woth doing stuff like that you shouldn't. Next time when your friends yell at you for that then yell at them. Be all like "I'm not like that and it's my life not yours so back off". My best friend wasn't like that with her old BF and some off our friends would get mad and she would get pissed because it's not them who decides it's you. I hope I helped!
ok my family n friends live in connecticut b/c i moved a few years ago... we go there every xmas... im gonna be seeing my bff who i havent seen for like a year... i need a REALLY good xmas gift! im going to be seeing a few of my other really good friends so does anyone have any ideas about what i should get? please answer asap im leaving in like 2 days! thanx so much!... i rate
I'm judging your bff is older because you moved away. If you can do something a little expensive get her like an ipod or cell phone. Or maybe a pass to a spa. If you have a lower price range try a photo album. They are great my cousin gave one to my aunt and she cried (of joy!) she was so happy. I hope I helped!
my room is really lame and i hate having friends in it because its not cool. i have basic furniture, tv, computer, but its so boring to be in. any ideas? help!!!
If you have a dry ice around you try going there. They have a lot of cool stuff. Or paint your room a bright color. Maybe put candels and smelly stuff around that always is cool. I hope I helped!
Im a 15 male.. and im gothic, is it wierd that i wear black nailpolish? give me some details and convince me if it is..
Tisc, tisc, tisc. You believe in labels. LABELS ARE FAKE. YOU ARE WHAT YOU ARE!!!!!! If you want to wear nailpolish thne no. It only matters what you think. Remember labels are for soup cans, you're not goth, punk, prep, gettho, or anything else, you're yourself. I hope I helped!
in lunch i sit with my friends b/c my boyfriend basically never talked to me in lunch which is the only time i see him in school besides like 1 min. between classes where were walking and hes talkin to his friends usually, i ask him if in the last 5 mins of lunch if he'd come over and sit with me but he wont b/c he doesn tlike the ppls i sit with, which his friends and him talked and made fun of them b/c they are kinda punk rock and such. but i dont get it even when i ask him to go to the movise with me and my friends guys and girsl hes always like no lets not or sumthin. i tried to do things he likes like go to races and go snowmobiling but he wont even go to a small band concert in our town b/c he doesnt like the music he wont do ne thing for me why?? he says he still loves me and all that but i dont understand how i do all this for him but its so hard to get him to do sumthin i like for once..?
You should ask him why he doesn't talk to you. Honestly my best friend's old boy friend was like that for a while. She would get ticked at dances because he never danced with her. Anyways tell him you need to spend time with him or else it wouldn't work out. If he still doesn't care dump him. I hope I helped!
This kid in my school, Danny, he knows I had an eating disorder problem, so I lost a really lot of weight; but everytime he sees me he makes some sort of rude comment. They all tend to be toward my weight. For instance at lunch I asked my friend if they had any money I could borrow because I left mine at home, and he said something rude like "What for lunch? Looks like you've eaten enough". Which totaly goes over my head because I've lost about 60lbs since the begining of last summer. So, how should I confront him, or should I not even bother I know theres got to be a way to shut him up without having to bring the principal into it or anything like that. Or should I just resort to that?
You need to tell him this is bothering you. Explain how this is a DISORDER AND HE CAN'T MAKE FUN OF YOU FOR SOMETHING THAT SERTIOUS (sorry hit cap locks). If he keeps making fun of you go to the princpal. I hope I hepled!
I like this guy. But my guy friend HATES him and i'm so close to going out with this guy but my guy friend says he'll never talk to me again if i go out with him. my friend is begging me to stop liking him but i like him so much! I don't want to lose my friend but i want to gain the guy i like. what should i do?
You right not wanting to loose a friend. But he has no right to tell you what you can or can't do. He can't control your feelings. You need to explain this to him. Tell him that if you really like him then you should be able to decide. Just be happy. Feel happy. Live happy. I hope I helped!
Ok...Me and Caitlan are best friends, but we always get in little arguments about the stupidest things, and she gets mad at me sometimes for little things and it causes us to be mad at each other for a while. And everytime i start to like a guy, she hates him and she constantly says mean things about him. Like my ex-boyfriend Jeffrey, she doesnt know him, she's never talked to him and i havent even talked to him for 4 months and she's always like "brittani you still love jeffrey" and alot of crap and it pisses me off! and she gets mad if i get mad at her for that stuff. Then, now i like sean and she gets mad at me all the time for talking to him and it pisses me off! it seems like she's jealous! what should i do?! HELP!!
Tell her that it's starting to get annoying. If she gets mad at you because you get mad at her then she's a spolied brat...what happens is spoiled people never think it can be their fault so when someone gets mad they get mad at them for blaming it on them. Tell her that it seems rude. Say this all calmly. If she gets mad take control of the conversation and tell her to chill out and lsten to your point. I hope I helped!
im going up to New York for christmas and new years eve. Me and my friend want to do something awesome for new years eve because its the first year that were able to actually hang out with friends on new years eve, but then thing is we dont know what we want to do.. or what to do lol. what my question is, is does anyone have any ideas on what i can do for new years eve? thanks
Try seeing the ball drop in times square! It's really fun. I hope I helped!
Ok, there's this guy at my school (i live in Vermont) who everyone thinks is gay. Even though the rumors are most likely not true, no one wants to be his friend because of rumors, and neither do my friends. I really think it's terrible how people treat him, and I want to be his friend; I don't believe sexual orientation should affect friendship. How should I be his friend without making my friends mad, or making him feel uncomfortable when my friends want to hang out with me?
You should be his friend. If your friends get mad because he's your friend tell him what you told us here. It really doesn't matter if he's gay or not and it's probably just a rumor. I hope I helped!
14/female Okay well this is going to be long, so I'm just going to warn you ahead of time, but please help. Well, a friend of mines mother has tumors in her head. Well about a month ago they were removed and there was this tube thing that the doctors put in her. Well less than a week ago the tumors came back and she had to go to the hospital for surgeory. I was pretty close w/ my friends mom and it's hard for me and one of my other friends to deal with it, and so were thinking about how our friend who's going through it is feeling. Well the girl who's mother is in the hostpital (Brittany) is being checked for tumors, and we just found out that she has one and will be getting her head shaved. Well a few of us girls (about 5) and a few close guy friends (about 10) were thinking of shaving our heads/cutting our hair really short. If you were the girl Brittany, how would you react to that? Would you think it's kind of mean/too hard to handle, or do you think it's a good gesture? I am so willing to do it because it's such a great friend, but I want some other opinions, the guys are defninitley doing it, and I got her a bunch of x-mas gifts and we've talked a lot. Brittany is very sensative when it come to her mom and her own problems and we think she'll either be sooo happy that she'll shed some tears of joy, or sooo sad that she won't be able to face us 'bald'. I know you guys don't know her, but if it were you, how do you think you'd respond. Again, I apologize for the lenght, I just wanted to add some detail, and sorry if it's confusing I tried to make it not confusing, but it still sounds that way to me. Thanks in advance for any help.
That is really thoughtful. But you should first make sure it wouldn't make Brittany shed tears of sadness. I think you should do that it's an amazing gesture. I hope I helped!
What can you do with a 7 yr old boy when your babysitting him? Thanx in advance!
You can play video games with him. Or try watching TV or a movie or playing board games. Do something to keep him occupied. I hope I helped!
I can never have a good day at school. I have alot of frieds but being that i have to get up in the morning i get cranky and when i get cranky i am just really quiet.. i know you'll tell me more sleep.. besides that what else could i do? because i sleep from 10:30-7:15
Well, yeah, try going to bed earlier. Eating a healthy breakfest is important to. A lot of people skip breakfest now but it's the most important meal of the day. It gives your brain energy to work. Also don't eat sugar coated crap. If you only want a light breakfest eat fruit. I hope I helped!