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New BF
(Sorry lame queation everyone hates answering BUT...)Well I just started going out with this guy, "Greg" and I really like him and he really likes me. But the problem is, neither of us are very touchy-feely people, and so my friends are constantly yelling at me for not holding his hand, giving him a kiss, etc. Well I think that I should, so what should i do to just be a little bit more physical, I guess...
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Do whatever YOU feel confertable with. Don't do what your friends what you yo do.
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The exact same thing happened to me and they didn't stop going on at me until I acted a little more physical. So I wont answer with the corny cliche: Oh you shouldn't listen to what other people say, it's your relationship bla bla bla. What you need to do, is act touchy feely for a few days and then gradually stop. The chances are, after your friends are satisfied that you and your boyfriend are acting how they want, then they'll forget about it.
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well if he isnt doing anything he probley isnt ready or he might like you for your attitude and personality which is alot better. everything will fall into place after that.
hope it works out.
luv Britt
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If your uncomfortable woth doing stuff like that you shouldn't. Next time when your friends yell at you for that then yell at them. Be all like "I'm not like that and it's my life not yours so back off". My best friend wasn't like that with her old BF and some off our friends would get mad and she would get pissed because it's not them who decides it's you. I hope I helped!
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You shouldn't have to feel pressured from your friends do act touchy-feely if you don't feel comfortable with it. Every relationship is different. But if you really want to change the way you are, if you really want to be touchy-feely with Greg, then just make sure you go slow so you don't freak him out. Hold his hand in the hall once in a while. Then after you've become comfortable with that, give him a kiss once in a while, and just keep moving from there.
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If neither of you guys aren't touchy-feely then don't be. You don't have to prove anything to anyone. My friend was the same way with her boyfriend, they weren't into it, and one of my friends got so annoyed she actually took their hands and put them together down the hallway, and they hated it. Don't do anything if you don't want to, screw your friends.
But if you wanted to, and he does too, just hold hands, or hug or something to show a little affection. I'm personally not into pda though, it's lame. Just do whatever feels right though, don't feel pressured to hold his hand or something.
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You shouldn't do something just because your friends want you to. If you really want to be more physical, then do little things first like lightly touching his shoulder or just kind of brushing past him so he can get used to that. Then, you can move on to holding hands or whatever. Just don't be physical because everyone else thinks you should. Do what makes you and your boyfriend comfortable, not what everyone else thinks is acceptable.
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