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Friend & mom have cancer
14/female Okay well this is going to be long, so I'm just going to warn you ahead of time, but please help. Well, a friend of mines mother has tumors in her head. Well about a month ago they were removed and there was this tube thing that the doctors put in her. Well less than a week ago the tumors came back and she had to go to the hospital for surgeory. I was pretty close w/ my friends mom and it's hard for me and one of my other friends to deal with it, and so were thinking about how our friend who's going through it is feeling. Well the girl who's mother is in the hostpital (Brittany) is being checked for tumors, and we just found out that she has one and will be getting her head shaved. Well a few of us girls (about 5) and a few close guy friends (about 10) were thinking of shaving our heads/cutting our hair really short. If you were the girl Brittany, how would you react to that? Would you think it's kind of mean/too hard to handle, or do you think it's a good gesture? I am so willing to do it because it's such a great friend, but I want some other opinions, the guys are defninitley doing it, and I got her a bunch of x-mas gifts and we've talked a lot. Brittany is very sensative when it come to her mom and her own problems and we think she'll either be sooo happy that she'll shed some tears of joy, or sooo sad that she won't be able to face us 'bald'. I know you guys don't know her, but if it were you, how do you think you'd respond. Again, I apologize for the lenght, I just wanted to add some detail, and sorry if it's confusing I tried to make it not confusing, but it still sounds that way to me. Thanks in advance for any help.
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I think the best thing to do is to ask her yourself. That way you can make sure that there aren't any issues with it and she's cool with it. It won't be a surprise, but atleast you'll it won't bother her.
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ASK HER FIRST!!!! She might take it defensively and the wrong way dont do it unless u ask.
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don't cut your hair...but if you do ask her first just to see how she feels about it... cause you don't want to offend her or anything... so ask her FIRST... but ya it sounds like a good idea BUT ASK HER FIRST... make sure you do that...casue like i already said you don't want to offend her
good luck with it
kev
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yeah i think that is such an awesome idea! if i was her i no it would be hard to deal with that and i really hope she gets better and with your support you will help her through that! your such a great friend to her
~keely
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That is really thoughtful. But you should first make sure it wouldn't make Brittany shed tears of sadness. I think you should do that it's an amazing gesture. I hope I helped!
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If I was Brittany's mother I would think it was incredibly sweet that you would shave your head. If I was Brittany and my mother thought that then I would think so too. However I don't think you really should just in case you know? Maybe talk to her and maybe she will even do it with you who knows? Good luck and I am sorry.
XOXO
Charmed-Cherry21
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alright....i just want to start out by saying that what you are saying is encredibly sweet and that your friend (brittany) might act a little insulted but she will really be greatful that she has friends that care for her so much that they would do that for her so i say go for it.....it would be a major compliment to her....well....being in her situation anyways so ya
and if you have any more problems feel free to ask me.....bye bye
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Gosh, it's awesome that you guys are willing to do that. I don't know if I could. I've actually heard of a group of kids in I think the fourth grade doing it when their friend had to get his head shaved, and the little boy with cancer was really happy about it. If it were me.....I would probably think it was really awesome too. It would make me realize how great my friends are. I think Brittany would feel the same. And it might also make her not so embarrassed when you go out places together. She won't stand out. You'll all just look crazy together. I think she'll like it. Again, it's awesome that you'd do that, and good luck! :)
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well, she might think everyone's making fun of her if they shave their heads. She might feel like everyone's trying to imitate her. But i think that she'll appreciate the thought and sacrifice you made for her. If she takes it the wrong way, try to explain that you did it to make her feel better. Hope i helped!
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I think shaving your heads and cutting your hair is such a cute idea! she will probably be happy..also go to a wig store and buy her a nice looking wig..cause like my aunt has cancer and lost all of her hair and she wears a wig and you cant even tel its a wig! hope your friend and mom get better! xo mauuh
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Every individual is different. Most likely, though, Brittany just wants to forget about her problems. She would want to hang out with her friends just like old times. A steady and able friend is better than anything in her case. Having all of her friends shave their heads would show they care, but that is not what she needs right now. Instead of bringing attention to the fact that she is hairless (no doubt this would make her feel self centered and that everyone cares about sad she must be since she lost her hair,no how she feels.) Try to spend more time hanigng out with her..treat her as if nothing is wrong. Friends are people she looks to to show her a good time....not make her feel different.
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That is incredibly nice of you. I think it is a good idea and she will feel so much better that she has great friends like you. I know I would definatly be selfconcious if I was bald, but if my friends were too, it would be much much better. I am not Brittany, but I think that if you all did that she would be happy and glad that she has as great of friends as you.
Good for you,
Ann
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I think it is a very sweet and noble idea of you guys. I would be honored and very proud that i had such great friends, I really would. I hope that one day my friends would do that for me if I were in that situation. Go for it!
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well if i were Brittany then i kno that i would obviously not be happy, because to me it would feel like my friends were mocking me adn making fun of me. but then i dont know Brittany but i'm just telling you my opinion
hope this helps
aliya
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That is a very nice thing of you to do! She will feel more comfortable around you if you have short hair too. whenever you have your short hair and talk to her, act like it's nothing. she will feel better about her situation, because she has her great friends at her side. =)
[[laura]]
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I think its a very sweet gesture. But if your still iffy about it, talk to her and see what she thinks. I know it spoils the surprise, but its better than her being upset about it when your hair is gone.
Thats a very nice thing you thought of. It shows dedication...all who are involved in this. I wish that more people had that sorta dedication to their friends.
Hope that shed some light...hope she gets to feeling better.
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I think it's a great idea. When I was going through Chemo, a few of my close friends said if I lost my hair, they would shave their heads so I wouldn't feel so different. <3
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