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Q: 14/female Okay well this is going to be long, so I'm just going to warn you ahead of time, but please help. Well, a friend of mines mother has tumors in her head. Well about a month ago they were removed and there was this tube thing that the doctors put in her. Well less than a week ago the tumors came back and she had to go to the hospital for surgeory. I was pretty close w/ my friends mom and it's hard for me and one of my other friends to deal with it, and so were thinking about how our friend who's going through it is feeling. Well the girl who's mother is in the hostpital (Brittany) is being checked for tumors, and we just found out that she has one and will be getting her head shaved. Well a few of us girls (about 5) and a few close guy friends (about 10) were thinking of shaving our heads/cutting our hair really short. If you were the girl Brittany, how would you react to that? Would you think it's kind of mean/too hard to handle, or do you think it's a good gesture? I am so willing to do it because it's such a great friend, but I want some other opinions, the guys are defninitley doing it, and I got her a bunch of x-mas gifts and we've talked a lot. Brittany is very sensative when it come to her mom and her own problems and we think she'll either be sooo happy that she'll shed some tears of joy, or sooo sad that she won't be able to face us 'bald'. I know you guys don't know her, but if it were you, how do you think you'd respond. Again, I apologize for the lenght, I just wanted to add some detail, and sorry if it's confusing I tried to make it not confusing, but it still sounds that way to me. Thanks in advance for any help.
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Every individual is different. Most likely, though, Brittany just wants to forget about her problems. She would want to hang out with her friends just like old times. A steady and able friend is better than anything in her case. Having all of her friends shave their heads would show they care, but that is not what she needs right now. Instead of bringing attention to the fact that she is hairless (no doubt this would make her feel self centered and that everyone cares about sad she must be since she lost her hair,no how she feels.) Try to spend more time hanigng out with her..treat her as if nothing is wrong. Friends are people she looks to to show her a good time....not make her feel different.
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My advice motto is LISTEN-CARE-RESPOND! You might not agree with me, but take my advice as a fresh perspective or an insight you may not have already recognized. Take it or leave it - just at least consider it.
My advice is sometimes different than that of other people, I spend time to think through all possible consequences of the actions I am reccommending.
Hopefully, you will consider my advice, but if not, good luck :)
now, a little about me.
you may be asking about my name...Well Roheryn is a high elvish name for My lady's horse. He was the famous steed of Aragorn (given to him by Arwen)and nobly seved his master through every battle they faced. As for me.... I work at the local zoo, play in a JAzz band, and love to read :)
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Gender: Female Location: Colorado Age: 14 AIM: Member Since: December 9, 2004 Answers: 1 Last Update: December 17, 2004 Visitors: 933
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