ok so theres this guy and we have never talked but i have known him since grade seven, and i have always liked him.now were in grade nine and i think he likes me cuz he has sung to me and he always smiles at me and tries to get my attention. but y wont he ask me out?? is there anyway i could seem like there was no way in hell id reject him?cuz i wouldnt!! and im way too shy to ask him out myself wat should i do?
well your gonna have to put yourself out there... ya know i used to be shy (i mean really really shy) and finally i woke up one day and ask'd my self "why am i shy?" once i ask'd myself that i wrote down reasons as to why i thought i was shy... such as i didn't want to get hurt... i was afraid of ridicule... and other personal things... once i prioritized that i have never looked back since... i feel that your shyness is hindering both yours and his decision to commit to this relationsip... here are a couple of sublte things you could do to make him sort of realize that your interested... because lets be honest we're guys and HA darnit all if we don't screw everything known to man up if the opportunity is given to us... so you have to kind of show him that YEA you are interested... ok here a couple things i look for when i talk to girls.... 1.) first off TALK TO HIM... its hard to carry on a conversation when he is the only one talking... trust me i KNOW i have been on both ends its very depressing... 2.)LAUGH AT THE THINGS HE SAYS... there is nothing more comforting to a dude when we say something funny and in return we get nothing less than a hearty laugh... trust me thats dang sexy... 3.) DON't be afraid to touch him... now im not saying hang all over him... but amid conversation don't be afraid to touch him maybe when your laughing just kind of rest your arm on him for a BRIEF second... trust me it makes us guys feel wanted when a girl touches us (AT LEAST I DO)... 4.) ok almost done ... ASK him to hangout on your own time... trust me this is HARD!!... but it works... and 9 out of 10 he will say yes... even like a movie or something... but don't come out and say "HEY LETS HANGOUT"... actually that might work LOL... but ask him "HEY have you seen this movie yet" "oh you haven't well ya wanna go" trust me i suckered a girl into that trap once before HA HA...but anyway just gets SOME PERSONAL TIME thats the number one thing PERSONAL TIME no matter how you acomplish it .... PERSONAL TIME... ha ha im gonna pound that point home.... PERSONAL TIME...and the last thing i have to say is DON't BE SHY trust me i used to be down that road and now i regret every minute i was...because honestly it sux and i certainly hope that you realize that being shy is difficult
.... I HOPE THIS HELPED
PIECE OUT
-kev
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my friend's boyfriend flirts with like every girl he sees. i always tell her and she was like "oh, it's ok. he's not sesrious." and i'm like yeah he is! he ALWAYS does it! Not just that, but she ruined her relationshp with her best friend to go out with him. none of her friends like him and they totally dont approve of them "dating" he's always hanging on her in school and he wont leave her alone sometimes, and then other times he refuses to talk to her because he is busy flirting with other girls. she's making a mess and i don't want her to. i'm trying to help her, what should i do?
you should sit her down and tell her... and tell her she is not leaving the room until you two agree on something... and make sure you are very kind to her about it... and make it seem like you are REALLY concered for her well being... and tell her that this guy is nothing but bad news for her and he doesn't care about her... and if she isn't big enough to say hey ya friends are more important than any boyfriend in the world...and if she isn't big enough to admit it... then you tried... then when things fall apart... and they will she will have to spend several lonely nights by herself because she dind't listen to you
BE STRONG!
BE BOLD!
kev
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ok here is the thing i want to have a long relationship but then again i dont. if any one has been in this place b-4 plz help. i just dont kno wat to do thanks.
oh god i think we have all been there... especially me... but best thing to do is take it one day at a time... because the more you want a long term relationship the more you will have expectations of the person you are dating... and you will never be able to reach your standards... but then on the other hand if you go about a relationship thinking that you will prob only be together for like 1-2 months that is no good either....so your best bet... is just to find some one that you truly feel comfortable around and you don't mind spending long peroids of time with... because if you find someone like that then you two are gonna be togehter for a long time... but the key is DON't RUSH anything!!!... but only time will tell if you two end up having a long term relationship or a little fling... but long term relationships are prob the best route to go... because that other person give you stability and... plus the two of you will have such an enjoyable time hanging out all the time.
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I like this kid that goes to my school, but the thing is, I kno nothing about him... and ive told my friends about the confrontations that we;ve had and they say that its a good thing, eye contact and him looking away really fast n stuff.. I jus wanna kno how do i get him to come talk to me or get him to notice that i like him or somethig I can do to get his attention.. I rate high~!
thnx!
lol this is a simple one... the best thing you can do about this is take the first step... because if he likes you like you think he does then he is prob confused also... so it is now your job to talk to him first...you know make some small talk... and then start to talk to him more and more... trust me it will help you will be glad you did it in the long run
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hey my boyfriend and I are going out for 3 months and he tells me he loves me.. but he cheated on me by kissing some other chick .. ... so i broke up with him and .. now we are dating again .... do you then he is using me or he really loves me .. i need a guys point of view .... but your self in his shoes..
cheaters are not cool no matter how attractive they are for whatever reason...if he did it to you once he will do it to you again... and obviously you don't mean enough to him for him to have enough self control to not kiss a girl... so you know my answer... break up with him and don't regret it.... cause that is the last thing you wanna do... so break up with him because it will be better for you in ot long run
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okay crazy hair day is friday and i dont kno wut to do i am a guy and my bangs are past my nose and my hair goes to the bottom of my neck and is about 5inches long wut shud i do with it besides spiking it?
HA HA HA...i am brilliant.. .you could part it like a nerd would... like move all the hair on the top of your head and then put get in it and pat it down so it is sticking to your forhead...LMAO if you need a better description let me know...
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I have this guy friend who i never EVER thought as a boyfriend but i also have a boyfriend that i love very much well today my guy friend wrote me a note and gave it to me between classes it said " Would you go out wit me and if the answer is no keep it between us 2" I don no what to tell him and i need some help NOW!!!!
Yours truly, confused
just tell the kid no... and tell him also that you still want to be friends thorugh all of it... because the last thing you want is your friendship to be ruined over something dumb like this... so here is what you gotta do...call him up sometime and talk to him tell him everything that is on your mind...it will be hard at first but it will get easier as you go...TRUST ME...talk to him the both of you will feel better about it...i did the same thing to one of my best friends i told her that i liked her... and then the next night she called me up and we had this long dinscussion about how the two of us want t obe friends through it all... i think the most memorable comment she told me was "kevin your the best friend i could ever ask for and i want you to stay that way, i want you to be there 5 years fom now when i have forgotten about my boyfriend and i have moved on to better things...i want you to be there for me, being the best friend that you know how to be"... and ever since then we have been best friends for the past 4 years of our lives and i don't ever plan on changing that for whatever reason... so talk to him and you could even say what she told me... as long as you get the Point across that though you don't want to date him you still want him to be there for you for the rest of your life
kev
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Hello, I'm a 17 year old girl who has a problem, guys. I don't have any self-esteem issues so i agree I'm good looking (many guys think so also), I do really well in school (one of the top ranks), and I am devoting most of my school week time to studying, keeping my grades up and preparing for the SAT. However, on weekends I go out, party , socialize, have fun and forget about school work. So i would have to say my life is kind of balanced although I have a lot of school work. This is just some background information. Now, my problems are guys. I have no trouble getting guys interested/attracted to me without even trying. Most of the boys my age, and those a bit older (i tend to get along better with guys who are 2-3 years older) are interested, maybe cause of my looks, I don't know. Something always goes wrong though. I am the type of girl who likes the chase, who likes guys that are harder to get and have something different about them. I don't like to be an ordinary person. I never have serious relationships, and I am kind of glad because I dont want it to interferre with my school work, but it would be nice to date once in a while. I am not gullible or easily deceived, therefore "sweet talks" or any false attempts don't really work with me cause i can see right through it. However, the two past guys i've been interested in HAVE turned out pretty deceiving. First guy I deeply connected, date went well, but in a few days he decided to "ignore" me at one of our get-togethers/parties and kiss somebody else. Of course I would never put up with that, so the very next day when he tried talking to me I told him off. Second guy had been interested in meeting me for quite a while, and after the "1st guy altercation" we met kind of a double date sort of thing. Everything went well and it was extremely fun, until I found out he's been in a VERY serious relationship with someone for quite a while (but they cheat on each other quite often??? i don't get that). I was glad I was able to stop both cases before getting hurt. What really bothers me is the fact that I couldn't realize the way these guys were (i can usually read everyone) and I still can't clearly see it. It really bothers me I was gullible like that, and that I go for these kinds of guys!! What do u think about this? Sorry its extremely long.!
hey i would really like to answer your question... but i didn't really understand what i was trying to answer...so i understand about all of your altercations and i understand all of that... but when you get this just mail me back and tell me what you would like advice for... just give me a sentence or two... ok thanks a lot...i really wanna help
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my doctor told me i was anemic, but i have no idea what that means. can anyone exaplain it to me?
anemic is where your blood cell count is low... and that means that you can not get the ample supply of oxygen... NOW DON't WORRY YOUR NOT GONNA DIE IT IS NOT FATAL as long as you are smart about it...because you have low oxygen levels that means that when you particpate in extracaricular activities you will become very tired and pass-out...so that means that becomeing involved in things that require running could endanger your life... but talk to your doctor about safety precautions......... i did some research for you and here is a really great website www.anemia.com (really good one) check it out it will do a better job then i could ever do
stay safe
good luck
kevin
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my friends and i might be going to the movies and i want to sit next to my crush but i'm scared what should i do? how should i plan this?
lol this is a simple one..just ask if you could sit next to them...or if you are to scared to do that... just walk behind them as you guys file into your seats (that is the sneaky way i have pulled that one several times)
kev
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I have to switch schools (7th grade) and I'm so nervous. I have cramps in my stomach and I feel like I'm going to puke. I have talked to friends over the phone about it and they say I'll do fine but I don;t about that. Please, someone tell me what I can do to reduce nervousness of this change?
umm your best move would be just go ahead and do it... i had to move schools when i was a freshman that was really hard cause i didn't want to leave my old friends behind...but the first couple days there be sort of quiet don't do anything to dramatic to make people feel uncomfortable around you and see how things work at the new school... and then after that is over start talking to new people... and i am sure your first day or two people will talk to you and ask you about where you are from...and that is a really good way to meet people also... i think the reason you are so nervous is because you don't know what it is going to be like... i think to make this experience go a little better you should go there knowing that you are gonna be yourslef and that you are gonna make some new friends along the way... and hey if this new school isn't really the best for you... you still have all of your other friends back at home that will help you through this...but hopefully that isn't the case...
kev
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my cat has this bump under her left eye and it is losing hair and it has some red spots on it. Does anyone know what this is or have any ideas? Please help me!
why don't you just take it to the vet... he would be alot more knoledgeable than any of us would be
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Alright..I've lost a good amount of weight...but I still have a huge butt and thighs...and I'm pretty freaking skinny everywhere else...how do I get them smaller...any good toning exercises anyone knows of?
umm running would be a good start... people don't realize how good running is for them...it pretty much tones all the leg muscles and the abs and it is also a good upper body work out also...so start running
kev
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I like this guy. But my guy friend HATES him and i'm so close to going out with this guy but my guy friend says he'll never talk to me again if i go out with him. my friend is begging me to stop liking him but i like him so much! I don't want to lose my friend but i want to gain the guy i like. what should i do?
you know i always say that "it is better to have a best friend for 5 years then have a boyfriend for 5 months"...i know you don't want to hear this and i wouldn't either if i was in your same position... but i still say take your friend over this guy... because your friend is gonna be there when you need a shoulder to cry on 1 or 2 years down the road... and your "boyfriend" may only be with you for several months of the relationship is good...
good luck
kev
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Alright, well I just broke up with my boyfriend yesterday that I had been dating for 2 months and some days. And we had tried going out like 8 times before and this time it worked out for a while. Well as the relationship went on the attention he was giving me slowed down immensely and he started talking to other girls way more than me and hardly called me anymore and stuff. We talked about it for hours and he didnt change so I finally decided that I could do better. I was pretty happy when I first broke up with him. But then I listened to a song that I used to tell him was to him and tried talking to him online and that upset me and I cried a lil bit but after I stopped talking to him I was better. And he suppesdly still likes me and cares and crap. Should I try and go back out with him or just get over it considering he doesn't want to pay attention to me when he had plenty of opurtunities to change.. thanks xo
i say just get over him it sounds like he is only intereated in you just to say that he has a girlfriend and doesn't really care about how you think in terms of him conversating with other girls and the attention factor that all girls need...so my advice is plain and simple...forget him your probably better off without him anyway
good luck
kev
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okay so i went out with this guy for only two weeks...he asked me out ONLINE two days before school ended. he is hela popular and stuff and im not that popular and people said that we were kinda random, but we had soo much in common...and he was really hott. so after two weeks, he tells me that he's moving to a different state, and my bitchy friend told me he was lying so he didn't have to go out with me again, but then he really did move. now, its like 6 months later, i hela miss him and i dunno why....and he visited like last week but he didnt even want to hang out with me, and everyone was al "o ya he's in town i saw him today' but i had no idea..should i just get over him
ya... i know it is not what you want to hear but it is probably your safest bet... so i just say get over him...
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14/female Okay well this is going to be long, so I'm just going to warn you ahead of time, but please help. Well, a friend of mines mother has tumors in her head. Well about a month ago they were removed and there was this tube thing that the doctors put in her. Well less than a week ago the tumors came back and she had to go to the hospital for surgeory. I was pretty close w/ my friends mom and it's hard for me and one of my other friends to deal with it, and so were thinking about how our friend who's going through it is feeling. Well the girl who's mother is in the hostpital (Brittany) is being checked for tumors, and we just found out that she has one and will be getting her head shaved. Well a few of us girls (about 5) and a few close guy friends (about 10) were thinking of shaving our heads/cutting our hair really short. If you were the girl Brittany, how would you react to that? Would you think it's kind of mean/too hard to handle, or do you think it's a good gesture? I am so willing to do it because it's such a great friend, but I want some other opinions, the guys are defninitley doing it, and I got her a bunch of x-mas gifts and we've talked a lot. Brittany is very sensative when it come to her mom and her own problems and we think she'll either be sooo happy that she'll shed some tears of joy, or sooo sad that she won't be able to face us 'bald'. I know you guys don't know her, but if it were you, how do you think you'd respond. Again, I apologize for the lenght, I just wanted to add some detail, and sorry if it's confusing I tried to make it not confusing, but it still sounds that way to me. Thanks in advance for any help.
don't cut your hair...but if you do ask her first just to see how she feels about it... cause you don't want to offend her or anything... so ask her FIRST... but ya it sounds like a good idea BUT ASK HER FIRST... make sure you do that...casue like i already said you don't want to offend her
good luck with it
kev
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I have a friend that lives quite a way away from me in a different state. We really enjoyed being together at a summer camp, and I really want to stay in touch with her, and "snail mail" goes so slowly. I don't want my parents to find out that I'm constantly sending letters, because she'll think I'm crazy and that I like her and stuff and she'll tell everyone that I know and mess up my life... I know I'm a guy, but how can I just let this be a friendship without people thinkin' I'm serious because I'm not? Thanx in advance!
umm...i think i understand what your question is ...but i don't understand what in the world "Snail mail" is exactally... but umm i am sure that who ever "SHE" is won't ruin your life... i say tell who ever you think is going to ruin your life ahead of time... but don't just go up and tell them "oh hey i met this girl at camp and i am sending her letters, but i don't like her so don't tell people"...YA DONt DO THAT...sort of like have a conversation about your summer camp with that person... then as your talking just sort of tell them a casual as possible... something like this... "ya camp was so fun i met a lot of people there... ya i met this girl there she was so cool... ya we have been talking everyonce and a while...i can't wait to see again next summer"... you could try something like that... and besides it is normal for friends to mail each other all the time...i met this girl up at my cottage and we would only get to chill on the weekends over the summer... and her and i mail stuff to each other all the time and my friends know about it and no one really seems to care... so i say don't worry about it... and don't get all nervous when someone asks you about this girl... just tell them that she is one of yoru friends from summer camp i am sure they will understand...sry if i got a little to wordy there...i hope it makes sense.... OH I THINK I MIGHT HAVE ANSWERED QUESTION WRONG SO GET BACK TO ME IF YOU STILL NEED ADVICE ON IT I WOULD BE HAPPY TO HELP...
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is it just plain wrong for a 15 year old straight male to babysit?
NO I BABYSAT when i was 15 LOL what a strange question... and hey money is money
kev
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Hi I am christian, and I have a friend who is jewish. I want to get her a "holiday" present, but I am not sure what to call it, or if she would think it was rude. I am also not sure when i should give it to her. I don't know when haunaka is. What do you think?
just give her a gift it doesn't have to be a "Christmas Present" or anything... you could just give her a gift and don't even tell her what kind it is ... but give it to her as soon as you can...so it does't look obvious... just tell her that you got her this gift to show her how mush you care for her and just drop it at that...
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