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my boyfriend has kissed so many girls (and boys) that its just ridiculous. i have never been kissed. the thought of kissing him makes me really nervous. i'm not asking for kissing advice. but when we do have our first kiss, how bad am i going to be? lol. i mean is he going to be really turned off by me being inexperienced? share your stories, plz, i am nervous. :( (link)
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Here's the good thing about kissing: There is not a right nor a wrong way to kiss. I wouldn't say you're going to be bad about it at all, I went throught the same thing you're going through. And my first kiss was great and I was a good kisser, at least that's what my then boyfriend said. The point is, is that if a boy really likes you, it won't matter to him how you kiss. Because he'll like kissing you no matter what, which is another good thing. Good luck, I'm sure you won't need it though. :)
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I have a few questions about Myspace:
1)What is Myspace
2)What's so bad about it ? (some people's parents won't let them have one)
3)Where do you get one ?
Any help would be apreciatted and rate & feedback for good answers (link)
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1) Myspace is a social networking site, where literally millions come and visit each day. You have your own profile that you can personalize however you like, you can add friends (most generally, the people you know) along with celebrities, and you can also watch videos and listen to music, and much more!
2) The things that parents complain about, which they every right to, is that there are a lot of online predators on Myspace. And it's known for it, so if you're not careful and don't only talk to the people you personally know -- you can get yourself in a heep of trouble.
3) You can get a Myspace Profile at http://www.myspace.com
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Before I even start, I'd like to say that I'm seventeen, I think this situation is stupid, but I'm still at a loss and I need help.
I have quite a few best friends. Two of them told me this year that they are lesbians and they are together. I already knew this - and am totally okay with it. But now that they've come out to me about it, and even before them, the only conversation I get out of them is about their sex life. We never do anything together anymore - and I basically feel as if they don't need me.
I expressed how I felt on my xanga - my friend read it, as she would anything else, and then sent me a message on myspace asking me if it was about her and her girlfriend and I told her the truth - she wanted to know "what the hell" they did and I told her that it wasn't a big deal and that I was just feeling down.
Well - now she's arguing with me and making a big deal out of nothing. She takes EVERYTHING way too personally - but uses me as her vent and doormat, as if I'm inhuman and don't have any emotions.
What do I do? (link)
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To be honest, these girls are not your friends. Friends don't treat their friends this way, no one deserves to be treated this way. I would consider talking to the both of them and letting them know how you're feeling. See what they have to say, and if you feel it's good enough to give them another chance -- then I would give them one more chance and that's it.
If you don't want to give them another chance, I don't blame you if you do not. Only trying to help you with your options. I would talk to them and tell them you don't want to be their friend anymore, because of how they treat you. And leave it at that.
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my boyfriend fingered me yesterday and now im sore. is this normal and how long will it take for the soreness to go away. (link)
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Yes, this is normal, especially if this was your first or second time. After 2-3 days it shouldn't be sore anymore, if it happens to still be sore, I suggest getting it checked out.
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Hi all, this is yg. I consider this a question, I am also kind of looking for opinions. I am asking here instead of the mod forum because I'd like answers from those who are mods, and those who may not be yet. There is no right or wrong answer, so please, honest opinions only.
In the last month and a half this question, or a version of this question has come up and it bothers me. 'How can I hide that I have been on advicenators?' I assume it was meant from parents.
I would like to know if others have this problem.
Do you have to hide that you use the site?
If so why?
What do you think would make it acceptable to your parents?
Would you be embarrassed for your parents to see the site?
If so is it because of questions asked?
Questions you've asked? Or just the questions in general?
Answers given?
YOUR answers given, or just everyones answers?
Has anyone, besides myself, (who talked to both my kids about it), Talked to their parents about BECOMING an advicenator?
I think it is a great way to initiate conversation
about topics you may be embarrassed to discuss with a parent about yourself. I wonder if anyone has done that?
I think I have plagued you with enough questions for now. Thank you! :)yg (link)
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1. "Do you have to hide that you use the site?
If so why?" No, I don't hide that I use this site. I love Advicenators and have told everyone I know about my column and the site in general, which includes my parents. I'm proud to be on Advicenators, and a moderator here, too.
2. "What do you think would make it acceptable to your parents?" It already is acceptable to my parents, however, to those whose parents do not accept Advicenators. I would point out all of the great and wonderful things about Advicenators, and even show their parents their column, so they can see exactly what's going on with their child and this site. And they can see how good this site is, and quite safe, if I might add.
3. "Would you be embarrassed for your parents to see the site?" Nope, both of my parents have already seen this site and think it's great.
4. "Has anyone, besides myself, (who talked to both my kids about it), Talked to their parents about BECOMING an advicenator?" I sure have, and they thought it was a great idea.
5. "I think it is a great way to initiate conversation about topics you may be embarrassed to discuss with a parent about yourself. I wonder if anyone has done that?" Actually, YG, I have done that and it was pretty fun. I always like doing the unexpected, that is, as long as it doesn't get me into trouble. :)
6. "I'd like to ask also if you'd be embarrassed to look at the site with a parent IF they DIDN'T know you had a column here, and couldn't see what you've answered. They wouldn't know what questions you asked anyway.." No, I wouldn't be embarrassed. I think I've given good advice overall, and am a good columnist and moderator here on Advicenators. So I don't believe I have anything to be embarrassed about.
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...Anywho is it possible to give yourself and orgasm i mean i know that sounds really weird but someone was saying something about it and yeah if you can any ways how to??????thanks in advance
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Yes, it is possible and is very common. The website below should give you information on the how-to.
http://www.infosex.com/female-orgasm.htm
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Ok so i wanted to get my hair perm staright should ii ge tit perminate or should i judt straigten it everyday
which one is better ?? (link)
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Both of these can cause heat damage, but I would think you would get more damage using a straightener daily, than one time and it's permantely straight. So I recommend permantely straightening your hair, but they are very expensive. Usually $120-$180.
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this is a really dumb question but if you steal a shirt from abercrombie, will you go to hell? or will anything bad happen to you? just wondering, thanks. (link)
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I'm not one to judge if you go to Heaven or Hell, however, I believe stealing would be considered a sin. And sins aren't good, even though we definitely all have committed them and still continue to. I don't think God will be too happy about that, which is soley in my opinion.
It's not a very good idea, if you want my opinion. More than likely, you'll get caught and the police will come, that will get your parents involved and be in a heep of trouble.
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can vegetarians eat animal crackers? is that considered eating fiber, but thinking about meat? i just want to know... :] (link)
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Yes, vegetarians eat animal crackers. I don't believe they think about meat while eating them, because they know it's only a cracker -- so they aren't hurting animals by eating animal crackers.
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what do sophies look like? like a picture of them please. and could you wear them over a baathing suit? (link)
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Yes, they're great to wear over a bathing suit.
http://www.nealwear.com/pictures/soffe_mo37.jpg
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I'm only 14 and I think I'm fat... well, I didn't really think about it that much until my boyfriend started mentioning it all the time. He won't, well, rarely takes me out to eat anymore. If we do go out I have to get a veggie delite at subway. And he only lets me get a 6 inch. then I tell him I wish I had (at least) another 6 in... nevermind... So yeah, i think my problem is more with him than my weight, what do you think? (link)
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I agree with you, your boyfriend seems to be more down on you, than you would be on yourself, soley.
This is not right, your boyfriend should not be treating you this way. It certainly isn't the way you deserve to be treated. In fact, no one deserves to be treated the way your boyfriend is treating you.
If your boyfriend liked/loved you, he wouldn't be saying even the smallest thing about your weight. People who love and care about each other, don't care what the other person weighs. It shouldn't matter to him at all, if he really cares about you.
I would talk to him first, and let him know how you're feeling. That you don't deserve to be treated this way, and that he should like/love you no matter what you weigh. Listen to what he has to say, then make your decison. If you want my opinion, I would break-up with him. And if not that, give him only one more chance and then, it's over if he doesn't come through.
I just hate to know that you're being treated this way, it's terrible. I'm sure you're not fat, nor am I a fan of that word. I believe young girls and women are beautiful no matter what their weight. I wish you nothing but the best of luck!
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umm what is the exact use of pubic hair? is it ok to shave it all off cuz i do every once in a while because to me i fell cleener ! is this good or bad ? i grow the hair back and keep it trimed especially wen i have a bathing suit on!! its just everonce in a while that i shave it all !! bad or good ? and wut it for? (link)
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This should be of help to you -- http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Pubic_hair
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Okay if someone likes you and shows alot of body lang of liking you, why is that when we are with our friends she grabs my attention and flirts. but then when its the two of us and no one around she is not like that. Why? (me 20/f, her/21).
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This may seem strange to you, but she may not be comfortable enough to show anything other than friendship toward you, while the two of you are alone. While when you are all with your friends, she's around all of those people, so she feels more comfortable with you. And she knows you're more than likely not going to make a move, while everyone is around.
I'm not saying she doesn't want you to make a move, but for example -- When I'm with a guy I like, I may flirt with him while our friends are there, but I may be afraid to do that when we're alone, because he might try something. More than likely, I'll want him to make a move even if it's just a few sweet words. It's just that seems to scare me every once in a while, or for lack of a better word: nervous.
So I'm guessing she probably feels something like I would with a guy, as she does with you.
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I feel that me and her are made for each other, but she doesn't feel the same. What can i do to change that? I really, really love her, mind you and i don't want to lose her. (link)
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I'm sorry, but you cannot make someone love you. They have to feel it in their heart, and really mean it when they say it. I'm not sure if you're saying that the two of you are close to breaking up, but if you are, you could ask you to see how things progress first, or if they progress, and if not, then break up after that. I'm afraid it's just about the only thing you can do, I wish you the best of luck.
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okay i cant find a good deoderant that keeps you smelling good all day and dry all day..and its really hard to trust the commershals.
please help. i need as many opinions as possible.
thanks in advance (link)
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I recommend Secret Platinum Deoderant. I use it daily, and it's very long lasting and smells great. :)
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So im 14/f and i got my FIRST period march 10th and ive got them normally and stuff but i have it now and like when i peed i looked and i was peeing blood (duhh) but when i was done peeing and i was gonna wipe but i looked down and blood was like still coming out and it wouldnt stop but i wasent peeing?
it was just like a stream of blood that wouldnt stop but i just wiped it anyways because it was still going after like a minute, ANYWAYS this is scarying me is it normal?? should i be worried??
whats wrong :[ (link)
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Hi, I'm the same age as you are and have had my period for quite a bit longer. This is completely normal and you have nothing to worry about. You just happen to have an excessive amount of blood, as young girls tend to do when they first start their period, and even someone who has had it for years. :)
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There is something terribly wrong with my computer and i can't firgure out how to get it back to normal. I HAVE NO START AND ICONS! When i restart my computer all i have is a desktop background nothing is there!!!!! Someone please help me firgure this out! The way I get to programs is through the task maneger. And I dont even know how to get to all programs. Any ADVICE on how to get it all back would be helpful. Thank you! (link)
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I know a lot about computers and I'm afraid your hard drive is wiped completely out. Meaning, there is nothing on your hard drive. Which means, you'll have to format your hard drive and put everything back on.
I'm not sure what type of computer you have, but if you have recovery disks -- use those and it will ask to format your hard drive, and click "Yes."
Or if you have something like, "Max Blaster" you can format your hard drive with it. If you do not have any cd's to format your hard drive with, in order to get your computer to work -- you'll have to take it to a place where they fix computers, and they'll format it for you.
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whats bronzer for? is it just foundation? when you have foundation on your face do you put it on top of it all over your face? im just confused about it and if its any different than powder foundation. (link)
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Bronzer is to make you appear tanner is areas, you apply it after you have applied your foundation.
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i no this question doesnt really fit this category but i hav msn and on a bunch of ppl's personal names tht deal w/ love hav a sign: 3 sum lik tht 1 of those 2 ive asked a bunch of ppl but WAT does it mean???
Delesha :) (link)
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You use the less than sign to create the heart. Like, this...
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Any advice to sooth cramps? Or any good medicine?
I know Advil, Tylenol, lying on your back, and exercising helps.
Any other tips? (link)
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Midol is the best for cramps, I always recommend it.
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