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i have light brown hair and green eyes.im thinking about dying it black,i feel like i need a change or something and i really wanna do it,should i? (link)
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It depends on if you've dyed your hair before.
If you haven't, it's best to maybe just go to dark brown and then get dark from there.
I have black hair but my hair is naturally dark brown so it wasn't a big transition.
I think black hair is pretty with green eyes but I'd go and try out something a bit lighter than black before you go all the way.
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I had a best friend lets call her L and i had another best friend lets call her V.. they didnt really get along..
So i left V to hang out with L more.. i was really close to V but i guess i was attracted by Ls personalty..
she didnt give a fuck about anything.smoked weed. (I already smoked weed before) she was a good listener..
So we all went to the same school and everything was fine until people at school started calling me and L sluts.
No one liked L because she caused to many problems and she was supposely a two face.
But i didnt believe them because i trusted L .
So then L and I started stealing and smoking more
frequently and we got closerr..
we got so close i took the blame for everything she did.
I almost got in a fist fight because of her. I almost got expelled because her dumb crush stole tequila from a store and she basically said i did it.
I would buy her things with my moneyand shed never say thank you.
When shed do something hurtful shed never say im sorry.
Then random people came to me and asked me to have sex with them.
I said no to all
Then random guys i didnt even know msged me on fb asking to sex because they heard from an anynomus source that i am easy.
I would cry about it everyday because it got to the point were i would go to the mall and girls would shout hurtful things at me..
Prostitute.. slut..whore..bitch....nasty..
And i would always cry to L about it..
Shed comfort me..
But then i had to transfer schools because of an unrealated cutody battle..
And when i was at my new school..
my ex best friend V would call me telling me L is talking smack about me telling people i
Fuck every guy i am with
I give bjs for money
Etc..
I didnt believe her until people starting msging me on fb everything that L said....
I couldnt believe it i didnt want to.. i was extremely heartbroken...
But now im still a bit heartbroken and i feel super betrayed..
I am currently friends with V now and im glad because she has demostrated to be a true friend..
But the problem is ..
The school year is ending and we are all ending into high school
i recently found out L is going to the same school i am going to with V.
the thing is i WANT TO KNOW why is she telling people that?
She blocked me on fb so i cant msg her.
She moved so idk where she lives..
She even changed her number so i cant call..
How can i talk to her calmy and effectively without starting another figght?
I dont want to be friends anymore i just want to understand why sheis doing what shes doing..
And i want to make the peaces with her so i dont get anymore drama in high school
Please help... how can i get in touch with her???
Pleasee i will be extremely gratefulll(: (link)
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In my opinion, it's best not to get in touch with her. You never did anything wrong so you won't be able to make peace with her. She was never a "good person" to begin with, and you can't make her change.
You aren't friends with her anymore, she never really was a friend and you know that.
There will be plenty of drama in high school, but if she starts it then you just need to be the bigger person. She'll keep doing more to you if you react and if even if she does, you can just talk to a counselor and get some advice from them to see how you should react and deal with what she says or does.
The reason she is doing what she is doing is because she likes attention, she likes putting people down. Eventually people will realize what she is saying are lies.
You aren't the only person who has gone through something like this. Many people have had friends they really trusted that ended up betraying them.
Just be the bigger person and pick good friends.
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well, my boyfriend and i of 6 months, broke up on Monday. i was sorta happy, but VERY upset at the same time. He says he's over me. But, my bestfriend who is also one of his good friends says hes been "quite, or depressed" and so on. which has me thinking because he is NEVER quite. I'm working on getting over him, but the memories however, are holding me back from moving on. We don't talk a lot anymore, and honestly...it kills me. But i NEED to move on...any ideas? (link)
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It will take time to get over him completely. You can't expect to get over him overnight.
It's different for every person. Some people can get over it in a couple weeks, some people it takes months, and some people it takes years.
Now, people who take years to get over someone, that's because they didn't try nor did they really want to.
You don't want to sit and drown in the memories. You want to try and do your best to stop thinking about him.
Best way is to cut contact with him. Don't keep talking to him, don't have him as a friend on facebook because it's easier to go and check up on him.
Find other things to do to get your mind off him. Find things you love to do or try new things. Times after breaks up and great times to start doing something different with your life.
Go out with your friends and have a good time. Just ask your friend not to talk about him about how he's been and such. Because you don't want to be thinking he's not over you yet, because it will make it ten times harder to get over him.
So take your time, tell yourself you will get over him, and eventually you will.
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It's not that I don't like her, I do. It's just that I don't care what happens in the relationship. Is this relationship unhealthy or unfair to her? P.s. I'm a guy and 16 (link)
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It is unfair to her because if you don't care what happens in the relationship, then you don't really care for it at all.
When you're in a relationship, you keep moving forward. You go through each stage and you invest into the relationship. If you really don't care what happens in the future of your relationship, then you both need to move on.
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At the end of November I found my biological siblings. I have a brother who is a 36 year old grown man. We bagan to talk through text and on the phone and seemed to gotten along well. My problem is that in the past month, he has sent me 3 digusting photos of his penis. I explained to him the first 2 times in a calm mannr that I am his sister and it is comple yr elt unacceptable behavior and makes me very uncomfortable. The third time, I lost my patience and decided to tell him like it was. He didnt seem to take me seriously...he is a great guy and we get along sooo well when he acts normal. Now I am in a debate whether to meet him and hope he processes it or run for the hills. I met with my biological sister and told her about him flirting with me, I did not tell her about his photos because I felt it was better unsaid. Is he not getting it? Maybe he is a creep?... Do I try and meet him? Help (link)
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It is extremely inappropriate for him to do that, obviously. Anyways, I really don't think it would be a good idea to meet him. Even though he's your brother, he's kinda a creep and doesn't respect your boundaries.
I mean if you meet him, who knows what could happen. If you are ever alone with him, who knows what could happen.
If you decide that you do want to meet him, don't be alone. Have your sister with you.
But my advice would be not to meet him because it's really wrong of him to be doing that.
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This girl at school is fucking hot ive had dreams of both of us having sex but the prob is i dont evan know her name i dont know if shes horny or anything im 13 but i dont give a damn i need help i really want to finger here her ass is hot hot *_* (link)
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Well honestly, you won't get her. Girls want different things than guys do at a young age. Since she's 13, she won't want to have sex with you or do anything sexual with you.
Girls want to feel loved and respected. You couldn't give her either of those because you just want sex, you don't want a relationship.
It's understandable how you feel, because you're a teenage boy going through puberty. But it'd be wrong to take it out on her. So deal with that yourself because you can't get her in bed.
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So I Have been talking to this guy for about 2 months, when i say talking i mean texting everyday all day. However he goes to a different school so we have only been on an actual date twice. So i think everything is going great, except when he kisses me it seems rushed, and this is annoying because i even went in for a second kiss. Well the next day i find out he just wants to be friends because he doesn't really see a spark with me. My personality is too shy for him in person. I dont know what to think is this whole personality thing an excuse to not date me or is he really telling the truth? If we were friends for a while is there a chance this could change when i get more confortable with him? I'm confused and sad. By the way I'm 17, he's 18... (link)
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I don't think he realizes that once you are comfortable with him, then you won't be shy anymore.
Who knows if it was an excuse or if he actually meant he didn't want to date you if you're shy.
It actually really bothers me because he didn't really even give you a chance.
Either way, he doesn't sound like he's meant for you. If he wants you to change, then he doesn't like the real you and this guy wouldn't be able to be what you need.
It bothers me that he couldn't even realize that once you get more comfortable with him, you won't even be that shy. It makes sense to me.
Although, I know lots of guys who think girls who are shy very cute.
Anyways, I think the best thing to do is move on and find someone who likes you for you.
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Well, a while ago I told a so called friend I liked a girl in my school, next thing I know everyone knows. I didn't want anyone to know so I denied it and said it was a rumour however a close friend of mine had told the girl I liked about how I feel so I don't think she believed me when I said I didnt like her. But now me and the girl who I really love and had been friends with for 2 nearly 3 years dont talk because of it she has said we're not friends she doesn't know what we are and all this happens in like January. Time hasn't helped what should I do- also her bday is in may so should I say or get her anything?? :s (link)
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I think you should talk to her. If you really like her, it'd be worth the risk right? If she doesn't feel the same then you know it's time to move on instead of wait around.
Just tell her you have feelings for her and you were wondering if she might feel the same. If not, then oh well, everybody gets rejected at least once in their life. You will feel better knowing instead of wondering "What if"
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How does water help make your hair more shiny? (link)
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When you rinse your hair with cool water, your cuticles lock and they lock in the moisture. So it ends up reflecting the light and looks shiny. It also make your hair less frizzy and smoother.
So I think it's best to wash your hair with warm water and then rinse with cool water.
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So during my relationship with my ex I had an abortion. I feel so horrible about it and honestly it haunts me. he doesn't know that I got pregnant. He doesn't know about the procedure at all. It was such a traumatizing thing for me and then I grew into a depression and because of that me and my bf broke up. I just wasn't the same person anymore. I haven't been ever since. Me and him just recently broke up and we still talk and hang out. I really do love him and I don't know if he should know or not. (link)
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He doesn't have to know, meaning you have no obligation to tell him. But if you feel like you really want to, because you still love him and you want to consider getting back together with him then that's your choice.
There are tons of women who feel horrible and are traumatized by having an abortion. You should get counseling for that because it can eat you up if you don't do something about it.
If you are planning on trying to be with him again. I'm assuming you do since you still hang out with him, go to counseling first. Once you feel like you're better then go to him and tell him the news.
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Im dating someone but i like someone else. Is that bad. Like we flirt here and there ALOT. But thats my bf bestfriend. So i dont know what to do. I try to stop taking to him but i just dont. I like him alot and he says he likes me to but im not sure if i believe him. For some reason i cant stop. So any advice here??
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If you can't stop then you shouldn't be with your boyfriend. It's not fair to him.
If you really believe that you like this other guy who happens to be your boyfriends best friend, I wouldn't stay with your boyfriend. Even if this other guy is just talking and flirting and doesn't want a relationship with you, it doesn't mean that you should just stay with your boyfriend.
So if you care about your boyfriend, then stay with him. If you like this other guy, then break up with your boyfriend.
To answer your question if it's bad to like someone else, it depends. It's ok to have a crush on another guy as long as it's nothing more. It's not ok to flirt with the guy you have a crush on while you are in a relationship.
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Ok well I like this guy and i think he likes me. The best sign that he liked me was that i went to this track practice that anyone at my school could attend and he was there. He followed me everywhere and we had to race each other and we tied because were both trying so hard to beat each other. On the next exercise i switched lines because it was really uneven and he sprinted right after me. Then I said to my other friend i won't abandon her and he sprinted to get behind me before she could. Also at this bingo thing he was in line because we both won and he ran to me and said i finally won in a really silly voice. He also plays with me at recess no matter what the game is. He also jokes around with me in class and stares a lot a me. These middle schoolers said he likes me because they were at the track practice too and said it was really obvious that he like me. So does he?? Please help me he's really nice and funny and i really hope he likes me. Thanks for everyone who answers. (link)
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It sounds like he could have a crush on you or is at least a little bit interested in you, unless he's a really friendly guy.
But you sound young so I'm going to assume that he's not gonna be a guy who just likes to be really friendly with girls unless he likes them.
Other people seem to notice as well so there is a good chance.
You'll never know for sure until you ask him or he just happens to tell you.
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What do I do to get him to get him interested again? I don't call him.we only communicate now through Facebook.which is how we met.I really like him.I always respond to him if he pokes.should I back off .make him wonder (link)
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Do you see him at all in person? If not, then it's really hard to keep a guy interested when it's only messaging. They don't get to see you and see how you act with people, how you look or dress, ect.
But I really don't know what could work to keep him interested through the internet. I guess the best advice is to be yourself, you don't want to act fake because it's not you.
If you decide to try to back off and see if he comes around, it might take awhile and it might not even work.
Maybe just talk to him every once in awhile. Maybe once a week or every other day and see if he starts talking to you more again. It can get boring if you're just messaging every day, the person becomes less interesting.
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WARNING: you might get confused, and this is quite long:
PART 1:
So i like this girl(lets call her susan.)And my friends all know. We started off flirting and being friends, sometimes it would seem as she liked me other times it seemed as she really didn't like me. She admits we are friends which means she likes me as a person but not "like-like". Today susan and one of her friends came up to me and this is the conversation:
*Susan- hey,
*Friend- susan needs to ask you something.
*Me- ok?
*Susan- ummm... this is sooo akward!!! Shes going to tell you.
*Friend- Its just that susan likes you.
(susan smiles and laughs)
*Susan- its not true!(while smiling)
(i looked at her is a weird way and my heart beat fast.)
*Susan- its because she getting revenge on me!
then i just leave not looking behind, and susan tells her friend,"we're just friends.
PART 2:
the same day i avoided her, i didn't look at her and i didn't talk to her. Then one of my friends said that another of susan friends said that she doesn't like me as a person.
What is happening? what should i do? if i need to explain something better just tell me.
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Wow that is really confusing. She could be playing hard to get or something and likes to keep it going but that could get annoying after awhile.
Honestly, she probably is into you at least a little bit, especially if she flirts with you.
So I'd say just flirt back and hopefully she'll stop doing this with her friends because it can be really confusing and really annoying.
Some people can straight up admit they like someone while others like to hint around or are too shy.
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I Have Friends That Were G Strings ThaT Are 10 Or 8.so is it still o.k to wear them? Cause people complain about them and realy. There being baby's over some one wearing underwear -_-. But i was just asking.
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In my opinion, I think that is way too young to be wearing that. Only because they definitely weren't meant for that age group.
Young girls aren't supposed to be trying to be sexy. They are supposed to be kids and dress like kids.
Anyways, I do think their parents are the people who should be talking to them.
It's really something people shouldn't obsess over even though it's a little bit ridiculous for them to be wearing those already.
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I have a guy friend and I know i'm interested in him. He is a really big flirt, so he gets really confusing and its impossible that i'm the only girl to like him... We dont talk a ton, but he's not one to talk everyday. He invited me over to his house to watch a movie and cuddle a month or so ago, and we did watch the movie but just wound up sitting on the couch and later played Call of Duty; he later told a friend he thought I didnt want to be there (in which he was set straight and was told that i did..)
the other day we were messaging back and forth and having a random conversation where i told him i was tired of watching movies alone with my dog, and he said "well you don't have a boyfriend to watch movies with so yeah that would get boring!" and i said "exactly!" he then told me to "go find a guy at the club lol" and i said "i dont think so.." and he said "why not?" so i said "well im not going to find one at a club.." so he said "then where?" i replied "i have no idea.. see, i'm a traditionalist. he, must come after me haha" and then he replies with "oh, so he has to make the first move?" and i said "yes sir." so he said "i see i see."
thats where i'm confused; did he repeat the question because he was confused on how i worded it, or did he repeat it for a reason? someone help! (link)
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It's really hard to tell what he means with all of this because we don't know him.
He is interested in you, obviously. If he invited you over to cuddle and watch a movie.
He might be interested in you, but who knows if he is interested enough to be your boyfriend. You said he's flirty, so he might be the type to just go that far and not want a steady relationship.
Because he was telling you to go find a guy at a club, so either he's saying he's not that interested or he's seeing if you're interested in him.
Anyways, you'll never know unless you ask.
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Ok so my ex best friends boyfriend drives meee crazzzzzy!!
I dont know what it is about him ... i just feeel so uyyyy when im with him.
So heres the story..
A couple of months ago when school started again my best friends boyfriend started hitting on me. And at first i tried telling him to stop because i dont want to hurt my friend. But theni gave in and hit on him back. So one time he and i went to sit by a tree and we were just talking.. then talking transformed into flirting then.. play fighting. And next thing i know our lips are inches away from kissing.
i realllly wanted to but then i remember my friend and at that time we were supeeerrr close..
So then i turned away and i saw my friend staring at us with tears rolling down her face.
I felt horrible. And her boyfriend ran to her.
Then that same day in 6th period my friends bf used to sit next to me and start flirting. And then when i would get home and check my facebook he would msg me.. "your tits looked nice today(;"
"I want to fuck you"
But the thing was he ALWAYS msged me first
then we sexted and my friend had her boyfriends facebook password and she read out messages. And she blocked me from his account.
I tried to apologize but she just started crying.
She didnt say anything when i called her. She was just crying. I felt so guitly.
But then i transfered schools and when i left my ex best friend forgave me but things just arent the same
and now my friend who hated my ex best friend is throwing a party and she invited my ex best friend an dher boyfriend. (Shes still with him)
And i just dont know what to do..
What if he starts flirting with me?
What if i cant resist?
How do i tell him no when i reallly want him?
I dont to hurt a second possible chance with my ex bestfriend..... but i know for a FACT he doesnt love her or
want her he just feels bad for her because shes chubby and has 0 chance with any other guy..
And i have a good number of guys asking me out but i want himmmm. My ex best friends boyfriend.and he has cheated on her before. Idk what to do...
Friendship or a guy?
Over time my ex best friend has demostratex to me that shes a true friend but shes agressive and two face sometimes...
And her bf hes such a sweetheart.
In person but online hes super perverted and a dick.
He knows when i have an urge to cry an dhe was always there to listen to me.
even whenmy ex best driend had a dight he supported mee...
But i dont know what to do...
Forget him or give in...
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My advice to you is to move on from this guy. Not to be offensive but you betrayed your best friend over a boy, he betrayed his girlfriend and she's still with this guy even though he's a jerk. You guys all don't know how to be good friends toward each other.
Now, you said, "What if I can't resisit him?" That means you have no self control. If they are going to be there and you don't think you can control yourself, don't go.
Honestly, this guy might be a good guy. But if he really wanted you, why would he be with a girl he feels sorry for?
And if he was with you, how could you possibly trust him? I mean he was willing to cheat on his girlfriend with you. It's not like he couldn't do that to you either. Plus guys who text and message you like that are no good for you.
If you do decide to go to the party, don't talk to him. If he starts flirting with you, don't flirt back and tell him to stop.
You don't seem to care much for her feelings, just yours in this situation. I mean you wouldn't keep talking to this guy if you really cared about your best friend.
He probably doesn't love her, he probably doesn't love you. It really seems like he loves himself.
You need to let yourself move on from this guy. It's all drama and you don't need it.
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my daughter is actually asking what her mothers daily life and living conditions will be like, again in a total indifferent way. What do you think I should I say to her?
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Just tell her the truth. But also, be positive and always remind your daughter that her mother will be ok and things will get better.
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You say even though she committed a crime and went to jaill, she can still be a positive role model? I know that's what other people are not saying (link)
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Yeah, people do some stupid things in life and you can't change it or take it back. If your wife knows what she did is wrong and is improving, then yes she can be a positive role model for your daughter.
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some say it is wrong for me to allow my wife to see her daughter because she committed a crime and is a bad role model now. But she is not defending herself or what she did was right or influencing her daughter to do crimes so I don't know If I can accept that. Again, also other than this misdeed, she was a great wife and mother. What do you think? (link)
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I don't think it's wrong for you to allow them to see each other. She messed up, she's doing the time. It would be wrong not to let them see each other. She hasn't hurt your daughter or anything, and she is a great mother.
If your wife is sorry and knows she messed up, that makes her a good role model.
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