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I had an abortion :/
So during my relationship with my ex I had an abortion. I feel so horrible about it and honestly it haunts me. he doesn't know that I got pregnant. He doesn't know about the procedure at all. It was such a traumatizing thing for me and then I grew into a depression and because of that me and my bf broke up. I just wasn't the same person anymore. I haven't been ever since. Me and him just recently broke up and we still talk and hang out. I really do love him and I don't know if he should know or not.
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If you aren't comfortable in telling him, or you don't think he will take it well, then avoid bringing it up. If you really want your relationship back and on the right track, tell him about it and tell him how it made you feel, why you've been the way you've been, etc. You've got nothing to lose and he might even take you back. Hope this helps :)
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He doesn't have to know, meaning you have no obligation to tell him. But if you feel like you really want to, because you still love him and you want to consider getting back together with him then that's your choice.
There are tons of women who feel horrible and are traumatized by having an abortion. You should get counseling for that because it can eat you up if you don't do something about it.
If you are planning on trying to be with him again. I'm assuming you do since you still hang out with him, go to counseling first. Once you feel like you're better then go to him and tell him the news.
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This is not a question I believe any of us can give you an answer for. I am a supporter of abortion rights which to me means I also support your right to chose. You have the right to chose what is best for you and it is your body. No one has the right to tell you what you need do when it comes to a pregnancy that you are not ready for.
Even if you are a married women I cannot see forcing you to have a child you are not capable of caring for or not emotionally ready to care for. Given my thinking on this subject just what rights does the male have in these situations. As a boyfriend none. It is totally your decision. As a husband his rights would depend on the strength of you marriage, maybe, though the choice is yours and yours alone.
I know this doesn't truly answer your question. Hopefully my views on the subject will give you a cleared picture as to whether you wish to tell you boyfriend about the abortion. In my mind you are under no obligation to tell him.
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I think if theres even the slightest possibility you may want to get back with him in the future. part of that is letting him know, and know why you were so depressed.
I think it's important you seek counselling for this issue-clearly the whole thing has been traumatic. And abortion is a traumatic thing, so you need to consult your GP and ask them to refer you to a counsellor, because you want to move on.
If you don't want to get back with this boy, I don't see there's any reason why he should know.
If you do get back with him, part of that is recognising where you both went wrong the first time, and acknowledging this. This is where your abortion news may come in, and until you're ready for a child I suggest you don't have sex unless the guy wears protection, so that you don't have to go through such a trauma again.
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