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Should I end an apathetic relationship?
It's not that I don't like her, I do. It's just that I don't care what happens in the relationship. Is this relationship unhealthy or unfair to her? P.s. I'm a guy and 16
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If you don't feel it going anywhere you should probably end it sooner thwn later because if you don't your just leading her on.
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It is unfair to her because if you don't care what happens in the relationship, then you don't really care for it at all.
When you're in a relationship, you keep moving forward. You go through each stage and you invest into the relationship. If you really don't care what happens in the future of your relationship, then you both need to move on.
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If you do not care, Then this relationship is not for you.
People can care about someone but sometimes we can "like" someone and not be in love with them.
You shall seek what is compatiable to you, not what meets your needs.
Keeping a chick around and not giving two shits is not a healthy relationship. Find someone that makes you happy, someone you can have fun with and relate too. On the other hand dude, maybe tour just not exactly...ready. :/
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First of all, there are many kinds of healthy relationships between a guy and a gal. At your age, hormones take over for many and they decide to become sexually active. I recommend waiting until out of high-school. You did not mention that so I will assume that we are talking about just regular friendships. I will attempt to make a point here: You must have guy friends that you are real close with and you spend a lot of time together. And then you likely have some guys you don't know as closely and don't see as often, maybe just for some sports events. When there is that kind of distance, a casual friendship with a guy, you aren't going to care as much if they get a bad grade on their term paper but you might care more if it was your best friend and you saw how upset it was making him. It would be the same for a girl.
So is she just a casual friend as far as you are concerned? Talk to her..and find out how she views the relationship..is she comfortable with you as a casual male friend. Or is she hoping for something more. If she is, you need to let her know how you feel.
Now on the other hand, if you commited to seeing her lots as if you were going steady, or so she's being led to believe, you need to let she know how you feel. Be sure to let her know that it is not her, the issue lies with you.
This is all part of your learning process in relationships. If she is hurt...she will have to learn how to deal with it. But certainly do not dump the friendship and cut off communication without saying anything...which I dont think you are capable of anyway or you wouldn't have written to ask for advice. Keep being thoughtful like that and you will grow up to be a wonderful man who some day finds a female who see's how wonderful you are.
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if you dont care what happens in the relationship, youre not really invested in it. youre only 16.. youre still so young and its normal to feel this way because youre not taking it too seriously yet.. like, its not as if youre thinking about marriage yet.
so if you just want to have fun, have fun and date.. but whatever you do, dont just lead her on. you like her, so you can either try it out or break it off if you really think it is going no where.. and be honest with her ! if you dont know what you really want right now let her know, gently.. maybe later on you could try it out again !
good luck ! xxo.
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