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is it bad i like someone else
Im dating someone but i like someone else. Is that bad. Like we flirt here and there ALOT. But thats my bf bestfriend. So i dont know what to do. I try to stop taking to him but i just dont. I like him alot and he says he likes me to but im not sure if i believe him. For some reason i cant stop. So any advice here??
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If you can't stop then you shouldn't be with your boyfriend. It's not fair to him.
If you really believe that you like this other guy who happens to be your boyfriends best friend, I wouldn't stay with your boyfriend. Even if this other guy is just talking and flirting and doesn't want a relationship with you, it doesn't mean that you should just stay with your boyfriend.
So if you care about your boyfriend, then stay with him. If you like this other guy, then break up with your boyfriend.
To answer your question if it's bad to like someone else, it depends. It's ok to have a crush on another guy as long as it's nothing more. It's not ok to flirt with the guy you have a crush on while you are in a relationship.
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Ive been in this situation once, and it got bad (me being the bf's best friend). Make a long story short, ALL it accomplished was losing 3 friends and needless to say im not with her anymore, and by you saying that he likes you too, that tells me you two have already talked behind your bf's back... it saves alot of friends if you just be honest, but you do what ya gotta do!
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Oh dear! The age-old indecision and uncertainty, eh? How happy you'd be with either...if it wasnt for the OTHER!! I'm afraid that when your 'only' dating you might find it difficult to make yourself simply 'stop' using willpower. A couple of long standing may have 'invested' years of time and effort in each other...and then the desire not to 'risk losing what you've got and what you've worked for' could indeed make you stop. You don't quite believe the other likes you? Possibly that's because if you DID know for sure it would be enough to tip the scales in his favour? And those scales are hanging delicately balanced right now? I honestly can't tell you what to do, wish I could. Got to search your soul, and that's never easy. Play safe? Or risk it? In your search, give a little thought to this 'test' maybe? When you've had a totally crap day, feel thoroughly fed up and you sit down and try to think of something to cheer yourself up a bit....which one do you think of? Since they're friends, if you do choose to date the other guy be VERY particular about the ORDER in which you release one and select the other, won't you? A little 'white lie' can be a good thing...meaning when he asks 'Why?' you want to end the relationship, you do not blithely announce there's someone else, and even worse the someone else is his mate...NOT tactful!! And a 'decent' space of time before announcing your new boyfriend can often allow 'honour to be satisfied' all round as you might say. Good luck whatever you decide.
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