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So I am totally into my best friend ex fuck buddy what should i do? Is it bad to act on it? They haven't hooked up in over a year and she never admitted to liking him more than just a hook up. (link)
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It really depends on how you value your friendship with your friend.
If she has a problem with it, then don't act on it because then it will ruin your friendship.
If she doesn't have a problem with it, then you can do whatever you want.
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Hello...i am 13 and i cut. well it stared over me being very stressed about my grades and thought i was going to fail 7th grade. i know i am smart and capable of being the best i can..i just let myself fall..i was in the shower one night and a broken razor used to shave your legs or whatever, was there. i herd people cut to relive pain...so me being a curious girl i did it..it felt good but than i started to freak out!! my wrists wouldnt stop bleeding...my mom and dad were out and my 17 year old brother (who i am very close with)was in his room and i had to tell someone. knowing he would understand i got out of the shower got dressed and ran into his room. i was crying and he asked me what was worng...i look at him with teary eyes and just flipped over my wrist. he started crying and pulled me into a tight hug. he said stuff like "you are so much better!" and "never feel like you have to hurt yourself!" and "your so beautiful and talented, why?" i didnt answer i just cried in his arms. soon when i felt better i tould him why i was depressed. and also my parents had been mad at me for my grades..so that too. also my grandmother who i was also very close too, had just passed away. my brother understood and was there to support. i asked him if he would promise to never tell my mom and dad and he promised. little did i know...he would break that promise. i went to bed because i just wanted to sleep from all the stress. later that night i guess my bro tould my parents when they got back. i was kind of half awake and half asleep when i heard my door open. my mom came and sat on my bed...took my hands from under my blanket and looked at my writst. she woke me up and started yelling and sceaming on how dumb i was to do that...my dad always agrees on everything my mom says so he just did the same thing...story short it caused a huuuuge shit storm between me and my mom...not so much my dad cause he was sort of calm. so i promised i would never do it again. now today at school i get called up to the office to see the couclier...i already knew what was coming. i was freaked out and crying the whole time. i stayed there for at least an hour or two, just venting. they said they would have to call my parents and let them know. i was sobbing begging them please not to tell...i tould them my mother would never look at me the same way again...i cut on my leg this second time btw. so they called in my bro. i tould him everything and we promised the school him and i would tell my parents tonight. it is 6:32 p.m. and i am scared to death..my mom thought i was crazy and mental the first time...and now the second...i am going to never be looked at the same by her...and that hurts...how should i approch them? please help....i am just a 13 year old girl who feels scared and alone...please....help. :( (link)
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Ok I can say that I completely understand your situation.
I'll tell you my story and maybe it will help you a bit.
I was about 12 when I first cut. I did it for about 5 or 6 years. My parents didn't find out until I was 14. I was freaking out and they broke down the door and dragged me out. They yelled and screamed at me. Then I was grounded for 3 or 4 months.
I never got any help for it, I wish I had.
Then when I was 15, my close friend knew I still did it. She went to the counselor and then she called my parents. Nothing changed their mind. They just didn't understand.
First thing, don't become bitter with your parents. They don't know why you do it and they won't see why you're so unhappy when you have a good life.
This is why I think you guys should go to family counseling and see how to fix this problem.
Cutting isn't the solution. It will make you feel better for a few moments but it's a problem and your body doesn't deserve that kind of abuse.
Also, don't be mad at your brother. He did the right thing by telling your parents. They love you and they just don't know how to handle it.
Be honest with them, and tell them you need some help.
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I'll get straight to the point.
19/f
I am in a 2 year relationship and up until this point have never had a problem with my boyfriend or myself watching porn. I always thought it was a healthy form of sexual expression and completely normal. Were very open about these kinds of things.
But then the more I started thinking about it the worse I felt. He doesn't abuse it at ALL and when I watch it, its maybe once a month or less, so these feelings came out of nowhere. It doesn't interfere with our relationship whatsoever.
(Also i'm not religious)
So I just need opinions!
1) Is it healthy/normal for a relationship?
2) It's not considered cheating ... right?
3) How could I maybe cope with it better?
Or anything else you guys wanna say please do.
I'm a little confused about the whole thing and have been feeling pretty bad every time we talk about it.
Thanks!
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I never really liked porn. I think it really a preference for people. Although, I've met adults who have ruined marriages because of porn. If it gets carried away, then it will ruin the relationship.
When I learned more about it, in like sessions and stuff, it does give guys unrealistic expectations about girls. I mean normal girls don't do the things they do.
Anyways, I guess I can say it's normal for a relationship. Idk about healthy but if you both don't watch it very much, it shouldn't ruin you guys.
I don't consider it cheating either.
I really think things like this can ruin relationships, just like any other problem if it gets out of hand. Like drinking, smoking, ect.
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hey guys! so i recently got netflix and i finished watching gossip girl and one tree hill. i fell in love with the shows so much that i watched the whole show in like 2 months! i know its bad haha. but anyway do you guys recommend another show i should watch that has friendships and romance kind of like gossip girl and one tree hill, i also watched pretty little liars (which i loveeee) and smallville. any other good shows out there? thank you!
btw i was thinking about vampire diaries but I'm not really into vampires and stuff.. but if you have seen it do you recommend it? what about 90210? (link)
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I'm 18 and I like those corny friendships and romance. I love Gossip Girl and Pretty Little Liars.
These are some that I watched..
Greek
How I Met Your Mother
Desperate Housewives
Scrubs
That 70s Show
Switched at Birth
Once upon a time
Make it or break it
The Secret Life of the American Teenager
Friends with Benefits
The Lying Game
Jane by Design
Psych
Monk
Pysch and Monk aren't really the type of show you're looking for but I love them.
I haven't seen Vampire Diaries cause I was never really into that. I haven't seen 90210 either but hopefully you'll like some of these.
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Are you saying that even though my daughter will be off alcohol for a year and is going through a punishment for her actions she will probably still drink when she steps out? My goodness. (link)
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If she has a serious problem with drinking, yes.
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my 22 year old daughter is in jail for the next year for a hit and run. If she admitted what she did they would have gone easier on her but she refused. She was also drunk when the accident happened and she revealed to me she has a drinking problem. Something I was never able to see before. So I wonder, in jail you obviously won't have access to alcohol. Is one year away from it enough to be able to give it up? If so, then maybe a year in jail won't be a bad thing for her and she will learn some discipline and maybe realize because of her problem she lost her freedom.
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No, it's not.
If she really does have a drinking problem then when she gets out, she'll just go back to it.
She would have to go to programs and cut alcohol out of her life completely. If she even has one drink, she can slip back into drinking again.
I've known someone who has gotten in trouble with the law and she was drunk. She's out of all that now but she is drunk all the time. Your daughter may not be that bad but that's just the cycle.
She gives it up when she wants to. No one can force her.
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So i asked many questions about her, and decided to summarize everything. We are friends and we flirt sometimes, i tease her and she teases me also sometimes. But sometimes it doesnt seem like she likes me, there is a rumor some of her "friends" told us guys that she is in doubt between one of us guys, but he likes another girl, and me. But these are just rumors, so i dont really know what to do. I was planning to ask her out on my best-friends Facebook account since i dont have one and if she rejects me i can just pretend that i am my best-friend. What do YOU think i should do? (link)
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Don't ask her out on your best friends Facebook account. I really don't even understand how that would work. She would be answering to him if you went through his Facebook. She wouldn't know it was you. You can't ask her out and she'll say yes thinking it's him and then you'll be like, "Oh, by the way, it's me."
And if she says no, she'll be thinking it's him.
Anyways, I hate when guys ask me out over Facebook. I will never say yes because they aren't man enough to do it face to face.
So you should just ask her out in person.
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I wanna do sex with my bro
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It is illegal. And there is a reason why it's illegal.
Honestly, you need to go talk to someone about this who can help you. This isn't normal.
Wait until you are older to have sex. Wait until you fall in love with someone. Wait until it's a guy who isn't your brother.
You will look back and regret it.
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So I've been dating this guy for quite a while now, and I find myself often wondering if I'm wasting my time or not. A few things that might help: I cheated on my last boyfriend (who was my first that I got soon after I turned 18 & that lasted 3 months on & off) with the guy I'm with now. Everything went great once we started dating, even though he was maybe even more awkward than me. After about two weeks or so of dating he asked me out, and about 2-3 weeks in I took his virginity. He told me he loved me first, on our 2 month, and that freaked me out since I had never been in love. I eventually fell in love with him, but a dent was put in our relationship when he called me his close girl friends name(not during anything romantic/sexual, but still, and I found out he lied & said he went to coffee with his guy friend, but really went with him. I can be pretty jealous(as can he, but he isn't as jealous anymore-which I kinda miss), but I really wouldn't have minded them hanging out if he just told me, but since he lied about it made me wonder why. I've found kinda flirty texts/messages between them where they would talk about his & my relationship-really intimate details. If I ever bring her up he goes crazy though, & says he hasn't talked to her in so long, but I don't get why he's so angry that I could even suggest it. I've caught him lying quite a few times, and I don't think he'd tell me a hard truth unless I forced him to/found proof. My hands aren't exactly clean either, but he's so cold/emotionless about it, and unlike how I used to be; since I fell in love I've been extremely emotional, and he gets amused when I cry because I do for ridiculous reasons. We're so opposite, but we have so many good times & I love him & his family so much (mine is unstable) & he's my first love that I want to be my last, but I'm not sure what to do.
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You both have your faults but you want to make it work.
The first person who said to back out just because he lied, then that person will end up divorced in a second.
Everybody lies, but he shouldn't have and when he did, he should have told you the truth. He shouldn't have been texting her either.
Now that's all the should haves. You can't change it, it's now in the past.
You guys need to move forward and he needs to start trying again.
You have to sit down with him, no distractions. Don't do it during a tense time, do it during a good happy time. Tell him that you need to tell him how you feel because you want this relationship to work.
Don't start accusing him of everything he is doing wrong. Don't fight or argue with him. Tell him that you want to start being truthful in this relationship, no lies and you want to be able to trust each other. Tell him that you aren't ok with him texting his friend about your relationship, but you're willing to put that in the past if he agrees to move forward.
Also, let him speak. Let him tell you what bothers him about the things you do. Don't try to defend yourself, just listen and do your best to change those things.
Anyways, just talk to him, don't point fingers and talk calmly.
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My boyfriend and I have been dating for two years. I am graduating high school in June,and he has a very successful job. We've had our fair share of hardships, but they just never get solved, really. We'll talk about it, and then we'll be better equally for a few weeks or even months, and then it's back in our fighting cycle. I bottle my feelings up because I don't want to hurt him if something serious comes up, he walks away during fights, gets aggressive, and jumps to conclusions, twisting my words up into his own form.
For a while, we both stopped being so irritated with each other, but of course, like always, it came back. I've also noticed lately he seems uninterested in me. It was my birthday, so he took me out to eat, and it was a romantic dinner. But after that, he stopped doing the little things he normally does. He no longer seems happy to see me, calls me beautiful, or makes me feel special. I'm at a depressing point in my life with all this pressure of graduating, family life, and everything else going on. I feel alone, suicidal, and destructive. I feel distant and like we're just friends because he doesn't do anything special for me anymore. I have adjusted my attitude and life to make him happy...why can't he do that for me? I'm giving and giving and he's just taking. I tried to talk to him about it, but he just takes my honesty too seriously and stomps away. He always pouts when I don't run after him, but this has become so tedious since we fight so much...and I feel we're past that point in our relationship. Someone please help...I'm going to let go of him if this doesn't get fixed... (link)
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Your situation isn't uncommon. Since your problems never get solved and this turns into a cycle, you're going to have to changed this.
He is truly being immature for stomping off and not taking these problems seriously.
After being in a relationship for awhile, guys don't keep doing the sweet little things to keep you interested and make you happy. They kinda just expect you to stay. During a time you guys aren't tense, sit him down and talk to him, no fighting, don't argue with him and don't threaten him with breaking up or something.
Tell him you want to do more things with him, tell him you miss when he did sweet things for you. Tell him that you feel like he's losing interest in you. Hopefully he'll tell you he's not and reassure you.
Relationships are give and take. You know that, but he probably doesn't realize this and is probably losing interest because of the fighting.
Find a way to work through the problems. Tell him to tell you the things that bother him, but don't defend yourself, just listen and you can do the same. Don't attack him with "You're doing this wrong! And this and this, ect" It'll push him away and cause him to defend himself.
Just tell him to listen to you, and that you want to fix these problems. You can't be lazy in relationships.
Give it a try and if he's not willing, then just let him go.
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so there is this girl i like, and one of my friends know, but my best friend doesnt believe me so he doesnt really care because he thinks i dont like her. But this girl is stuck between my friend that knows i like her, and me. I think she knows i like her cause my friend told her, im planning to ask her out but im scared of rejection, because i got rejected 3 times in my life and never had a girlfriend. I flirt with her a lot, but i dont think she notices, and sometimes it seems like she likes me but other time it seems like she doesnt like me. what should i do? (link)
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Get to know her. If you're so afraid of rejection, start becoming her friend and get to know her.
Eventually, if you think she might be a bit interested, then ask her out on a date.
Pretty much everybody is afraid of rejection. That's natural. But if you let your fear get in the way, you'll never get a girl. Girls aren't just handed over, you know? So you have to put yourself out there.
If she doesn't like you, then you move on. Then eventually, you'll be happy you put yourself out there and didn't let fear get in the way.
You'll never know unless you try.
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So I met this girl a few months ago, I threw a party and she showed up with her boyfriend, he is an old friend from highschool. Anyway, she is really pretty and loves all the same things I do. Her boyfriend has been with her for a year and half the time I see her she is sad. Whenever she comes over to a party I chase her around and get touchy with her, she never says anything to her boyfriend but never really says it is okay that I do it. She sometimes flirts back but she never touches me or anything.Last weekend I threw a party and her and I put on cat ears and we were running around and chasing each other, I looked up her dress and she got upset, then her boyfriend got in a fight with her because she is too friendly with me. I don't know what to do. Does she like me? Should I pursue it or is that just going to complicate things?? What do I do?? (link)
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No, you don't pursue her. She's taken, don't interfere with their relationship. If she's unhappy, be there for her but don't go chasing her around the room, be touchy, flirty or look up her dress.
If she has a boyfriend, she likes him. That's why she's with him. If she wanted out, she can get out of that relationship. I don't think she's ok with you being touchy with her. She doesn't do it back and she got upset because you looked up her dress. My advice is to stop being like this with her because it's inappropriate. She has a boyfriend, find someone who is single.
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Okay, I'm 17 & the guy I've been seeing for almost 2 months is 18. We hang out for a little over the school week & then usually all day & night Friday and Saturday nights. Yesterday we hung out all day & then we went back to my house and we were laying in my bed & cuddling. We were spooning and I could tell he was already hard from that & we had talked about hooking up a few days before. We've obviously made out before but i haven't had the chance to really do anything to him because we're never in the right place for it. I decided to give him a blow job because I have my period and it's too early for sex.
He started kissing me and we were making out & it was getting pretty heated. He was really hard and at one point he was like ontop of me and humping me so I decided it was time to blow him.
Of course I've given head before, but I've never given him head and I was really nervous. My mom was downstairs and I was paranoid so I just went under the covers and blew him down there. It was really hot under there and it was hard to do a good job. I couldn't look up at him or see how he was reacting. He was breathing pretty heavily, but about halfway through started moving his hips around. Is that good or bad? I was feeling like I wasn't doing a good job after that. I had almost his whole penis in my mouth and I was also using my hand at the bottom and had pretty good rythm. He came and i swallowed all of it and when I came up, he was smiling and I was like sorry that sucked and he was like "no it was amazing" but didnt really convince me.
He kept smiling after and I was like why do you keep smiling and he said "nothing yu just make me so happy"
After that I was pretty confident that he liked it. He was snuggling me and tickling me. I jokingly asked him what his favorite part of the njght was. He said "to see your gorgeous smile" and then he was like "but you want me to say your blow job" and then said "it was good but you can do better" I was kind of offended. Was it good or not? Should I be embarassed if it sucked? (link)
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I don't think he would say it was amazing or it was good if it sucked.
Honestly, if my boyfriend said that to me, yes, I'd be offended too but I would talk to him about it.
Even if it did suck, you shouldn't be embarrassed. He should be happy that you even did that for him.
Anyways, since he's only 18, I'm sure he hasn't had very much experience in this unless he's like a manwhore or something.
Don't over think it, if you wanted to know why he said that, then ask him.
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Im 13 years old and one of my friends has ben stuck in my head the past few weeks and i really want to finger her ive had sex dreams of us and one where shes fingering herself for me soo i really want to ive asked her once but she refused how can i get her to let me? (link)
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You can't make a girl want to do something sexual with you.
She turned you down, so let it go.
I'm assuming she's your age. Young girls hardly care about sex or anything sexual. They like boys, they want to feel loved, ect. They aren't obsessing over sex like you.
Your hormones are going crazy right now and that's why you have sex dreams of her. You're growing up, but you can't try to convince a girl who doesn't want that to do it with you.
If you keep asking her, it is sexual harassment. She can tell anyone and you can get in trouble so just leave it alone.
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can brother sister do sex if they both agrey
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That is illegal.
Wait until you are older and you are in love with someone who respects you, not just wants sex.
Why do it with a sibling? You'll look back and regret it. You will end up scarred for life if you do this.
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I need an EFFICIENT and rather quick way to commit suicide.
Please save the preaching, my mind is made up. I just don't want to end up as a vegetable, or a burden. (link)
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No one is even allowed to tell you how to kill yourself on this site.
Everyone on here is supposed to help people live.
You need to talk to someone about this, you obviously aren't the only person who has gone through this.
I'm assuming you are sick, your life can still be worth living. I know tons of people who have illnesses but yet still do their best to keep themselves occupied and learn to be happy.
There are tons of people you can talk to, there are ways to feel better. Go get some help.
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So me&my friend are both 15/f and my friend has depression. It's getting worse and worse and its been going on for months now and I have no idea what to do for her..she needs help. However, she does NOT want to go to the doctors, she cant tell my parents and I cant tell mine..its out of the question. Also my school is just so untrustworthy , we tried talking to them before and theyre just so stupid and unhelpful its ridiculous. Without all that is there a way to help her? I mean im assuming unhelpful answers here, but I need something thanks! (link)
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If your friend has depression, she has to get help for it. Like if she is clinically depressed, and if it's not the type of depression people go through because of break ups, ect, then she will go through way more than just this.
What did they say at your school? They are supposed to call the parents and tell them about what is going on and get you some help.
Anyways, since she has a problem, she needs a doctor to treat her. Or else she won't be getting better. Truly depressed people can fake being happy easily and eventually some get so depressed that they hurt themselves or worse.
It's your job as a friend to not let that happen.
When I was hurting myself, I was so mad at my friend for going to the school counselor. But now I am so grateful.
Why does she not want to go to the doctors? And why can't she tell her or your parents? Is it because she's afraid or some other reason?
These kinds of things can't be out of the question because she's young and she needs help. You know she does and what else is she going to do without getting medical help for her depression?
Do what's right. You can't let her go on like this.
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What if the reason for your suiside are to lift the burden you feel your putting on your friends and family now, to be selfesh is to only think ones self but what if you leave no mess for family to find what if you really have exhausted all other options I'm asking this because I am young enough know and old enough to realize my family shouldn't have to cart me from drs to drs because my poor health and being so depressed in front of them is only bringing them down (link)
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So you think that if you kill yourself that your going to lift them up? No, it doesn't work that way. They are hurting because you are sick and it hurts to see you upset. That's just how families are. If you commit suicide, you are hurting them more. You won't be making it any better for them. You may think that it will be better but then they have to go on with thinking that they couldn't help you, that they had to lose you completely.
You said that they see you sick and depressed and it's bringing them down. I really can't see how suicide will lift them up and make them happy.
Family takes care of each other through sickness and health, I'm sure you would've done the same to your family if one of them was like you. I'm sure you wouldn't let them think suicide is an answer to their problem.
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Well I have 2 best friends we'll start here. So the deal is me and D (one of the best friends) are simply well not pretty. While T (our other best friend) she is gorgeous. T gets all the boys. And me and D are I think the only ones in our grade who haven't been asked out. I am really good friends with boys, in fact I sometimes find a boy's company even more comforting. I have a lot of things in common with boys. For once, I am a gamer and I like scary moovies. Well my point is looks is the only feature boys notice which well I lack. Will I really be forever alone? And how shall I deal with T?
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You will not be forever alone. If a guy gets with a girl only because he think she's hot, that will fade with age. She won't have that hot body when she's older and has children, ect.
So right now, that's mostly what teenage boys look at but when they're older, they look for something more than looks because they want a girl with a good personality, a girl who can work and take care of herself, a girl who can cook and a girl who can take care of him.
Honestly, I doubt you're ugly. But not only do the drop dead gorgeous girls get the boys. Genuinely nice, normal looking girls have a man. Girls who are considered ugly end up with somebody too. Society is screwed up, you don't need to have gorgeous looks to get a guy. Either way, since you're still in school, you have so much more time ahead of you to get a guy.
With your friend being the girl who gets asked out a lot, I can see how you feel. My best friend hung out with another friend who is very pretty, super nice, and an amazing girl all around. All the guys liked her. My best friend is pretty, but she felt like the shadow to her friend because she wasn't as outgoing and she thought of herself as ugly because of it and no guys asked her out. She would be counting all the boys that liked her friend.
I'm just going to advise you, don't be jealous of your friend, don't hate her for it or anything. If she's a good friend, then there is no need to feel bad around her. Do not compare yourself. One day you will find a guy who will love how you look, and will be happy with your great personality.
High school relationships don't always last, they do on rare occasions. So looking for a guy right now isn't the best thing because you don't know them and they care mostly about how hot a girl looks.
I've known girls who waited to start dating in college because that's when you see if a guy works and can pay his college bill. You'll see how often they complain about working or if they don't. You see more from them than you do in high school.
So just keep looking up and remember that your time will come.
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So me and mt best friend are both sophomores in college &we used to be inseperetable. Even freshman year. Now this year when she's at school she barelyyyy talks to me. I always make the effort but she never does. It's been going on all year but she's coming home for summer soon. I know we wil be back to our old selves again but I don't want to only be her best friend when she's not at school. Because when I'm away I am busy but still make a huge effort. Whenever I confront her about it she says she's so busy... Yet she has a lot of time to tweet. I feel so stressed and depressed lately over our relationship. Besides talking to her because that never helps so far does anyone have any ideas of what I should do?!
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I can understand how you're feeling but there is nothing much you can do. You already talked to her, you can't force her to make time for you.
In my opinion, this is what normally happens when you get older and older. You lose touch with your friends and you make new ones.
Me and my best friend growing up were inseparable. We ended up going to different high schools and had different friends but we always considered each other best friends even when we'd only talk maybe once a week, sometimes even only a couple times a month.
We ended up going to the same college and we saw each other a little more but we both had different friends but we'd hang out maybe once every couple weeks or so. I think that's just what happens because I still love her to death and I'm not in college at the moment but she calls maybe once a month.
I went to this conference the other day and one session was talking about friends. One part she said that if you have a friend that you are very close to, even when you don't see them as much as you used to, you'll still have that closeness.
Especially when you're older, when you're married, have kids, ect. You will still have that friend that you will talk to from time to time and still consider them your close friend.
You guys are distancing and there is nothing wrong with that because I'm sure you both have your own friends. You don't have to be mad at her for not hanging out with you like she used to. Just accept it and make plans every so often to hang out.
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