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this is confusing me...
so there is this girl i like, and one of my friends know, but my best friend doesnt believe me so he doesnt really care because he thinks i dont like her. But this girl is stuck between my friend that knows i like her, and me. I think she knows i like her cause my friend told her, im planning to ask her out but im scared of rejection, because i got rejected 3 times in my life and never had a girlfriend. I flirt with her a lot, but i dont think she notices, and sometimes it seems like she likes me but other time it seems like she doesnt like me. what should i do?
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Get to know her. If you're so afraid of rejection, start becoming her friend and get to know her.
Eventually, if you think she might be a bit interested, then ask her out on a date.
Pretty much everybody is afraid of rejection. That's natural. But if you let your fear get in the way, you'll never get a girl. Girls aren't just handed over, you know? So you have to put yourself out there.
If she doesn't like you, then you move on. Then eventually, you'll be happy you put yourself out there and didn't let fear get in the way.
You'll never know unless you try.
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As a female, I can attest that the flirting of boys in grade school, through college age even in some cases comes across as goofy behavior, more of the class clown persona, or downright confusing. What's really gross is when older adult men haven't figured out how to approach a woman yet and think some kind of sexual contact is gonna get the interest of a strange female. If he isn't Brad Pitt he may as well forget that approach.. Just tossing in some humor here.
Okay, so what does this leave you with? Conversation...talk to her, get to know her as a friend first. Not every girl that you become good friends with is going to see you as more than just a friend, but some will be attracted to you for more. But if you're really young, I suggest you wait if possible before getting sexual and also being very careful.
I have a nephew who at age 10 already had girls calling him at home. He is both white and black and has girls of any race interested in him. He has girls begging to BE his date, his girlfriend.
So what does he do different. I guarantee he's never been rejected. She's a human, just like you are with the same needs, moods, talents..etc... You are an apple, she's an orange both are very different from each other...but they do have common ground, they are both a fruit. Find out what she likes to eat, if she like sushi but you don't, keep on trying till you find the common ground there. How do you hang out with your guy friends? You can do pretty much the same with her, just don't talk crude and raunchy jokes to her. My nephew has very good manners, makes the girls feel special, like a princess and yet he does it without groping her and asking for sex. The most he has done is hold hands, kiss and cuddle. He has great parents he can talk to about anything. He has not had sex with any of the swarms of girls who are interested in him and yet they're drawn to him like a moth to a flame. He is not gay. He is handsome but still average looks, there are guys in his school hotter looking than him. So thats not it. I hope this helps. Any more question or something I did not cover, let me know.
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