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I like my friend's girlfriend.
So I met this girl a few months ago, I threw a party and she showed up with her boyfriend, he is an old friend from highschool. Anyway, she is really pretty and loves all the same things I do. Her boyfriend has been with her for a year and half the time I see her she is sad. Whenever she comes over to a party I chase her around and get touchy with her, she never says anything to her boyfriend but never really says it is okay that I do it. She sometimes flirts back but she never touches me or anything.Last weekend I threw a party and her and I put on cat ears and we were running around and chasing each other, I looked up her dress and she got upset, then her boyfriend got in a fight with her because she is too friendly with me. I don't know what to do. Does she like me? Should I pursue it or is that just going to complicate things?? What do I do??
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Don't waste your time,doing things to her .First of all she has a Boyfriend,and second,she could end the relationship right now,but did she no.
She probaly not ending it now because,she's scared of making a decision that will ruin everything with you or maybe her boyfriend.You need to ask her how she feels with you doing this flirting,touchy stuff,so you and her can have a good relationship.
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No, you don't pursue her. She's taken, don't interfere with their relationship. If she's unhappy, be there for her but don't go chasing her around the room, be touchy, flirty or look up her dress.
If she has a boyfriend, she likes him. That's why she's with him. If she wanted out, she can get out of that relationship. I don't think she's ok with you being touchy with her. She doesn't do it back and she got upset because you looked up her dress. My advice is to stop being like this with her because it's inappropriate. She has a boyfriend, find someone who is single.
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Oh my God I can't believe by the way you talk that you are college age!!. Sorry, but it sound's like the maturity level of a middle schooler! Time to grow up boy...are you really ready cus I don't want to waste my time here. She is not your entertainment playstation...she is another human being. No female, dating someone or single is there to gratify only your horniness. The sexual part is just the icing on the cake to an already healthy friendship where both people feel mutual love, care, trust for each other. You say she's often sad. I'll bet no one knows cus they don't bother to ask. Stop thinking of yourself first. If you want to learn to grow up, start by asking people about their lives. Let her know that she seems to look sad. You're wondering if she'd like to talk about it. If she doesn;t, guess what she needs more trust between you and her. Your friend can't fault you for being a listening ear but chasing her around the room is childish...are you a child or a man. Don't stop with her. Start talking to other people...especially the women you don't have any sexual attraction to. Force yourself to do this if you want to grow up. Not just a couple times, make it a daily, weekly habit and see where you end up in 6 mos time.
If it feels hard for you to start with conversation, here's something else you could try...giving hugs to random people. You've seen the people on youtube with signs Free hugs and they give hugs to people. I can think of something even easier, go to an old folks home and ask the old ladies there if they want a hug, talk to them. People at old folks homes are so lonely and ignored and unloved that they are an easy place to start.
Notice I did not give advice on what to do about her being with your old school friend? Because that's the least of your troubles...you'll run into that in life. If a woman has made a promise and she is married to a man...she is off limits. An unhappily married woman is off limits because if she is not separated, then you are an aid to her committing adultery. Be a man of moral character. And lastly, there will be the girls who are single but dating. If you come across someone like that and repeated get to see them and interact with them in association with groups of friends, and If you feel an attraction growing for her...it is okay to let her know that you are attracted to her and wish she were free. Mention that you will not interfere. But if at any point in time that she changes her mind, you will gladly accept her as a girlfriend. Thats the right thing to do. Ahhh but you grew up in a world of "Instant Gratification" Fast foods, info at our fingertips, etc... Instant gratification plainly often created a "Spoiled Kid" You can remain a kid til the day you die but you will be a very lonely single man your entire life unless you are willing to learn to become a man. Women are not attracted to kids in adult bodies. The body might attract women into bed for a night but not for long if there's nothing behind the eye candy on the outside.
If you are serious, and want to ask related questions to becoming a REAL man, I am married to one so I have much more to share.
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