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suiside to lift a burden from your family
What if the reason for your suiside are to lift the burden you feel your putting on your friends and family now, to be selfesh is to only think ones self but what if you leave no mess for family to find what if you really have exhausted all other options I'm asking this because I am young enough know and old enough to realize my family shouldn't have to cart me from drs to drs because my poor health and being so depressed in front of them is only bringing them down
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So you think that if you kill yourself that your going to lift them up? No, it doesn't work that way. They are hurting because you are sick and it hurts to see you upset. That's just how families are. If you commit suicide, you are hurting them more. You won't be making it any better for them. You may think that it will be better but then they have to go on with thinking that they couldn't help you, that they had to lose you completely.
You said that they see you sick and depressed and it's bringing them down. I really can't see how suicide will lift them up and make them happy.
Family takes care of each other through sickness and health, I'm sure you would've done the same to your family if one of them was like you. I'm sure you wouldn't let them think suicide is an answer to their problem.
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Trust me, I work for a hospice and having a child who's dead is more of a burden than anything else in the world.
The thing is, these kids want to be alive-but are denied their right to life. If you're depressed go get help and don't be so foolish as to put the stain of your passing on your family. That'd live with them forever, and they'd be like-'oh, well they obviously didn't care about our feelings'
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I'll make this short and sweet which mean you pissed me off because I rarely write anything short and direct.
If your family did not love you and want you they do not have to be the ones to haul you from doctor to doctor. They could have and can do at anytime hand you off to the state to become the states problem. They have not done that.
You don't say just how sick you are or what your illness is. The fact that your family is taking you from doctor to doctor and caring for you properly says they love you and want you in their lives for as long as god intends you to be with them.
How dare you cheat them out just one moment of the time you are intended to be on this earth. Regardless of all the pain you may see them in it is not pain they have because of what they must do for you. It is the pain of not being able to take your pain away. This is what parenting is all about.
We hurt when are children hurt and we cry when they cry for we want too and should be able to take their pain away. By committing suicide you are not ending their pain you will for ever depend their pain for they will ever wonder what more they have could have done to take your pain away.
Suicide is being selfish as you are denying them the joy of your being.
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The only kind of burden suicide might lift is a financial one. Death of a child, no matter what the reason is a hard thing for any parent to cope with and will affect them for the rest of their lives. Us parents have the belief that we will age and die before our children so if the child dies first, it is very devastating. If you think the situation is "bringing them down" as you say, suicide will be much much worse for them.
A search on the internet will bring you many sites, support groups for parents trying to cope with a childs suicide death. Here is a site to look at if you will, a mom wrote a book and a portion of her story is on line to read:
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I know you can't quite feel right about telling your parents you are thinking of suicide but perhaps you can find someone to talk to who has already lost a child that way.
It is not selfish to think of ones needs first in some circumstances. However, Suicide is a pretty final thing. There's no changing your mind and going back to this life. However, I believe there is reincarnation. If there is even the slightest chance that I am right, this belief says that what hard life lesson you don't deal with in this life, your soul will have to deal with in another life. For that one reason...I prefer toughing out all my difficulties in this life so I don't have to go through it again and again.
I don;t have a penny to my name. Husband and I have no jobs. Some nice people are letting us live with them in exchange for helps we give them. My situation alone has been enough for many an adult to commit suicide because they couldn't cope with being so destitute. Life isn't easy for anyone. Everyone has their own set of circumstances to go through that are VERY PAINFUL..either physically, mentally, emotionally or spiritually. Oh yes, let me add one. For 30 years I was married to the first husband who was abusive. No, life is not easy. That is why it is a good thing to reach out to others for help when you feel like you can't handle it anymore. And somehow with their help, you manage to get past another day, another week, month, year.
There's so much I don't know from what you wrote that is it very hard to say much of anything more.
I don't know if you are in constant pain, if you've been ill since birth, if it crippling, life threatening, if Drs. even know what is wrong with you. I wish you the best. Don't give up!
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This sounds like my sister's keeper... Will you please elaborate more?
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