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I have to go on birth control because I keep getting headaches and the doctor said that it will put my hormones back in balance. My question is - Will they ask me if I am sexually active and if so, do I have to tell them. When I do tell them do they tell my mom?

be honest with them... they can't tell your mom anyway. take care!

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well there is a problem as you know or i wouldnt be here. I was talking with my gf and then i came to this website and red what she said about me. she obviously likes her ex too but she doesnt know who to pick. i love her and i would do anything for her but she doesnt see that in me. she said that it seams like i dont care and shes nothin special to me but ahh.... it just makes me sad. i really dont want to break up with her please help. p.s. i am a 14 yr old MALE

awww! well, honestly, a lot of girls are like that...it's typical to be with someone and think about someone else. maybe you guys should take a break until she makes up her mind? i'm here if you need to talk things through.

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I'm getting to the point where I can't stand to be around my boyfriend. He is really frustrating me. I don't really consider myself unreasonable and I feel really guilty about all this. He's constantly analyzing every aspect of our relationship on whether it's considered "sinful" or not. He even went on about kissing and how it must be considered 'selfish' to a persons own desires. He reads all these sexual purity books and gets his morality and philosophy from them. He is really stiff and concerned about purity.. I know most girls would love a guy who isn't sex obsessed, but sometimes I think it'd be better if he was. I feel I'm not worthy when I'm around him. I always feel like shit when he preaches about morals and stuff. what should I do? is it stupid to care about this? i feel like i'm making a big deal and should just accept it and move on.

thanks

If you can't stand being around him and his purity obsession, break up with him. It won't work...you want different things.

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I want to loser 10 pounds in a week. What would be the fastest way to do so?

that's not healthy but if you MUST be thinner in a week, eat celery, cottage cheese and carrots. drink water too.

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i want to make xanga layouts but im not really sure how. i can make myspace layout and understand html pretty well but i use mygen and other websites that give you the code ...are there any sites like that for xangas?

I usually edit layouts because I'm picky. you find a layout pattern (it has a code already) you like then you edit the colors, the backround image and anything else you know how to edit. hope that helps at least a little.

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How would I properly say this sentence -

If I were you.
If I was you.

I believe it's "If I were you.."

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Hi everyone!

My name is Todd, and I am a 15-year-old teenager. Well, my question is whether or not I should take the next step. Let me explain.

About close to a year ago, I met this girl, Andrea, in my Freshman year, and she and I didn't date, but we were good friends. We were both the same age, but I was about a month older. Through the months, we knew more and more about each other from our last names to what candy we like.

As strange as it seems, I've never had a relationship, much less my first kiss. I am trying to see if Andrea likes me or not, but more than a friendship. Some relationships can be harsh, so I don't want to try that, but I just want to know if she has the same or at least similar feelings that I do for her.

I am always glad to be around her, and sometimes I hang around her more than some of my other friends. I've also noticed that when I am with her at lunch, she wants these other girls at the table to go away, since they're annoying, but I'm not sure if it's just because she wants to be alone with me or something, since she and I usually sit alone.

As far as hanging out goes, she and I have hung out at my home once, and we've seen each other at school. I've been trying to hang out with her more, but she has a dysfunctional family which makes it tough for us to hang out on weekends. She is also depressed, so I try to help her through it.

I have been trying to show her that I love her by telling her that I care about her, how much I do care about her, and by doing things for her, like buying her gifts or getting things for her. Whoa, lot of "her"s in that one. Well, anyway, she never freaks out, but she always smiles and sometimes nods her head up and down a little bit. She might say things like "that's nice" or "thanks", but I never really can tell if she is nervous or anxious. I remember when I told her that I did really care about her, she smiled but she kind of laughed, and she said "I'm sorry for laughing...".

So, I would like to ask if I should take the next step and try asking her out. My parents have said I shouldn't because of her family, and some of my friends have said to go for it, just because she's single.

Thanks for reading this.

Todd

I personally have too completely different sides to this...I'll give you both...pick the one that suits you best.

on one hand, I say yes. you guys are close and if you already sit together and try to be together, I say by all means go for it!

On the other hand, dysfunctional families are hard to deal with. My ex's family was all messed up and my family didn't like him or his family. he was depressed but we brought joy to each others lives. Also, you guys are friends...what if it doesnt work out? I think she already accepts the fact you like her tho.. hmm

ok I've made up my mind (after thinking out loud for a while...) and I say go for it!! goodluck && let me know if you need anything else.

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can you think of a screenname i can use that has the word 'star' or 'wish' in it... please?

i'll rate 5s

SUPERxSTAR
Im Your Star
WishingONaSTAR

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ok, i'm 14/f. my b/f and i have been going out for two months. he's fingered me and given me hickies on my breasts. do you think this is too far? we don't think it is but i want to know what others think.
thanks
~~~Lazy_One~~~

well it varies for everyone. in my opinion its a little much (don't keep up the pace...) but do things you both enjoy but have some kinda of limit set, know what i mean? have fun & be safe!

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I need to get a new perfume, and I want my boyfriend to like it. What are some inexpensive (under $35) perfumes that guys will like? I started wearing JLO Still, but my boyfriend never even commented it.. and also my mom said it smelled bad. Any other suggestions?

i just got 'Live' by jlo and it smells awesome in my opinion, hollister's 'August' is good, charlotte russe 'shine', britney spears' 'fantasy' & 'curious', love spell or anything from victorias secret is good too!

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Okay...i want some really good love songs. It would be best if they were by current artists, but if it's older thats fine. If anyone can give me this list quick and with good selections, i'll rate high

well I'm trying not to repeat for your sake so I probably won't have as many...
if you're not the one - daniel bedingfield
making memories of us - keith urban
bless the broken road - rascal flatts
more than words - frankie j
anything but mine - kenny chesney
it's friday, i'm in love - the cure
under the rose - HIM

depends what genre you like... hope that helps!

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is it okay to wear thongs to bed cuz i did the other day cuz i slept at my friends house and i forgot to change, or is it like, bad for you. j/w

hahaha it happens to the best of us! i don't think its unhealthy in anyway but i can see it being uncomfortable after a while!

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Hi! Well i have like 20 belts (yeah i wear them i hate to waste clothes) and im running outta ideas of what to do with them (and hangers). Right now i have like bunches of 5 or howevermany fit in a hanger and on like 5 hangers. I dont like this idea, and i dont like putting them in my drawers either. I have more belts than clothes!! So if any one has any ideas, maybe creative ideas, for what to do with all these belts--please let me know!!
thanks advicers!!!

you can get a circle hanger...my mom has one that holds like 324382 belts then has a hook to hang it in you closet. i don't know if they sell them anymore. i put mine on hooks (like 'J' shaped ones) not creative...but fuctional.

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I was just wondering if it's possible to loose a pound a day? If so, how? Thanks.

yeah i don't see it as being impossible...cut back on food. but eventually you would gain it all back...

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hey well it's getting to the time of year where everyone who wants to be in the school talent show starts putting together a routine. my friends and i love dancing and we have a few ideas, but don't know which one would be best. We either want to do a jazz routine to heartburn by alicia keys, a lyrical routine to either iris or black balloon by the googoodolls, or a hip-hop routine, but we don't really know a song for that. Which do you think would be most enjoyable? or do you have any other song ideas for dancing to?

well my school has a dance team and they perform at almost everything....most of their songs are hip hop or just really upbeat and catchy but i say do whatever you like and can stand to practice a lot.

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okay i asked a question about being on advienators, people have been saying thing that i didnt find appropiat. Well...people answered the question i asked...they didnt answer it very nicly, most people called me bad things and it hurt my feelings but one person gave me really good advice about it, his name was dangernerd. he helped me relize this site is NOT for children i am 13 and i should be mature enough to handle it, so i am really sorry to anybody i affended, but i still dont know if i should stay on the site, because, now everybody hates me. i need help, what should i do? please i need answers. Merry CHRISTmas!

"kiss kiss"
~3frances
ps. sorry agian

No one hated you because no one knew who was asking. this isn't to hurt your feelings & don't take this the wrong way but i don't think this site is for you. there are lots of different things for you to join online...i just think giving advice isn't your strength right now. merry christmas.

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Hey Guys, This Has Really been bothering me and I don't know what to do. I Knew what sex was when I was about 6 years old. I'm 13 Now. But I'm Worried that I wasn't Raised Right. I mean Most Kids don't even know what Making Out is When their like 7!! But I Knew! Was I or Am I Normal??? No SmartAzz's About This....Thanks

oh, no sweetie you are fine. actually one of my past teachers told the class that her daughter was playing with her lil 'boyfriend' when they were like 5...they had barbie & ken naked in the barbie bed on top of one another. sooo she asked the doctor and she had to explain it to her when she was very young. also, a lot of kids walk in on their parents so they get it explained to them too. so basically, you have to find out sometime. you probably have a lot of misconceptions tho... i knew about it when i was young but lets say i didnt have all the mechanics stuff down just right. happy holidays!

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I once had this body spray that smelled like flowers. It was called "flower power" by the Smiley Calgon collection. They discontinued it and now Im left trying to find a new perfume/body spray. If anyone could tell me of a flowery scent they know of that'd be great. I rate.

i dunno how "flowery" you want this but i like 'cotton blossom' from bath&body works. i'm sure you will find something there! you can try it on first or just get one of each in little bottles until you find one you love.

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ive heard of girls in the shower taking the shower head and kinda putting it "near" their private areas...well im a girl so how would i do omething like this without the detachable shower head? thanks?

ok sooo i read this somewhere and fell out of my chair before composing myself. if you have a tub, you go under the faucet somehow..they said it was worth it but i personally wouldnt try it. try jets in a hot tub/pool.

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Does anyone here play runescape? I need your help if u do.

i used to play that... lemme know!

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