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I'm Christina, and I'm 27. I tend to be brutally honest when I give advice or an opinion. I don't tell people what they want to hear but rather what they need to hear. They don't always appreciate it at first, but I usually get a thank you in the end.

I have 15 tattoos, and 8 piercings. I'm married and just gave birth to a baby boy in May. I'm currently a SAHM so you can find me taking care of my son and binge-watching television while he naps.

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Me and my "boyfriend" had sex for the first time. He's a big jock and I was really excited that someone was actually interested in me. So when he came over to my house he wanted to have sex and I for some reason agreed to do it with him. Anyway, my period was 4 days late and I was freaking out and my bestfriend told me to take some pregnancy tests. All three of them that I took were positive. I told my "boyfriend" about it and he just laughed and broke up with me. I want to keep the baby, but I don't want to me known as a slut for the rest of my school life because I made one mistake. I don't know what to do. i still have to tell my parents too and they think I've never even have had a boyfriend before. I just need some advise, and please don't say, "your way to young to be having sex" because I already understand this. Thank you!

If you understand that you were too young to be having sex, then why did you? I understand the shock and happiness girls tend to get when certain guys go out with them, but that doesn't mean you should give it all up right away. I'm not going to scold you though.

For telling your parents, you need to sit down the parent who's more easier to talk with first. If you're closer with your mom or your dad, tell them first and then telling your other parent could be a little easier.

Obviously, you need to think about your options when it comes down to this whole thing. You can put the baby up for adoption, you can have an abortion, and you can keep it. I think you should have an adoption. Rather than killing your baby, you can give it a good home to someone who needs it more than you do.

I can't say you won't be called a slut when you go to school and the word spreads. It will probably happen, and other girls will probably give you a ton of shit. But, if your parents are understanding when you tell them, maybe you can come up with an alternative solution about school. See if you can take a leave from school & get a tutor to come to your house and teach you.

I really hope you get some help with this because you really need it. I also hope you never make this mistake again. Maybe what's going to happen will give you a little insight and big lesson to learn.

Good luck sweetie, you need it.

i was wondering what is relationships like for mormon girls and sexually what do they do like aloweed to .. im a catholic so i was just wondering. thannks

I used Google and found this:

http://www.lds4u.com/Missionaries/rules.htm

how do u pop a cherry

Having sex, masturbating, and some sports can even cause your hymen to break.

If you're thinking about having sex, I wouldn't. I'd get some more knowledge before doing anything drastic & risky.

Give me advice how to get ungrounded

You could behave and stop acting like a child. The quicker you give up the routine of screaming, and whining and talking back, and misbehaving, the quicker you'll get off of punishment.

Just a thought.

i have a girl friend but she lives in californa and i like her but i like some one here to should i breke up with her and go after the one here?

If there are chances that you're never going to meet the girl from California, I'd break up with her and go for the girl that lives where you are.

However, I'm from New York and my boyfriend is from California, and we ended up meeting and now I live with him. :) Things worked out for me, but obviously it can't be the same deal for everyone.

Me and my boyfriend have recently been fooling around,but not actually "making love". About one month ago,he cummed ON my vigina,but not IN it..could i be pregnant?

It's possible. Cum is a liquid. It can roll down and roll inside of you if you're not careful to clean it up immeadiately and clean it up. So yes, it is possible. If you miss your period, I'd take a test just to be sure.

I always wanted a little tattoo, something pretty and feminine or something like my horoscope (saggitarius) I dont want it too big. My thing is 1. I am a p*ssy! I am soo afriad of needles!
2. Where should I put it.

I dont want it on my lower back (tramp Stamp)
I want something that will still be ok to have when im 40!

I dont want it on my bicep I want it to remain feminine.

I was thinking my foot, ankle wrist. But isnt it going to be sooo painful. Im afraid when I get it I will get up off the chair and never go back to finish it and get stuck with half a star or something. So pls help me.

tell me the truth. Does it Hurt? Where should I get it? What should I get? How BIG?????

Thanks....

I'm like you. I HATE needles, but I sucked it up to have my lip pierced, and to get my two tattoos. To be honest, it doesn't hurt too bad. The location affects the amount of pain you'll feel, but it also depends on how you're feeling at the time. If you're scared and nervous, it's going to hurt. If you're relaxed, you probably will feel it, but not as much as you would if you were jumpy.

I'm not sure how old you are, but if you're 18 and this is your first, do not get it somewhere noticeable. The reason I say this is because it'll be hard to find jobs if you have some HUGE tattoo in a noticeable spot. Also, it could affect the chances of you getting into a good career. Places like lawyers offices and doctors don't want to see someone come in for a job with some huge tattoo. It'd be a turn off for them & they wouldn't think you're very responsible.

You should get it kind of small. Anywhere from half an inch to an inch is fine. If you want it a little bigger, then an inch and a half is okay too. It just depends where you put it.

I have one on my wrist, and one on my hip. The one on my wrist hurt more than the one on my hip did, and the one on my hip is much bigger, and had to be colored. The tattoo on my wrist is small, and in black ink. You really want to discuss this all with the artist because they can tell you more than I can & they will be much more help. You also want to get a quote for a tattoo too make sure you're not paying too much. Also, you must tip! If you tip, it can help them to remember you, and it's just nice to tip in general. I usually tip about $10.

You should really do some research on the tattoo shops where you live so you know who's good, and who's bad. Obviously, you want to go somewhere with a good reputation, decent prices and where they're clean. So you should really look up some places or ask around. Maybe if your friends have tattoos, you can ask them & see what they recommend. You also want to make sure that you don't act on impulse when getting something done. DO NOT see something you like and assume it's the best idea for you. You need to pick something that means a lot to you and that after 20 years will still mean just as much. If you get something spontaneously, you could be likely to regret it so keep that in mind!

Remember the tattoo artist will do what they can to comfort you. They're not going to keep going because it's too much pressure if they just never stop. They stop every so often to relieve you. Also, if you tell them you're in pain, they'll stop to let you relax for a little bit. :)

Don't worry. The pain is very much worth it because tattoos are amazing. I promise everything will be fine. If you have any more questions, feel free to drop a question in my inbox or you can e-mail me as well. The tattoo artist is also there for help so do not be afraid to ask!

if ive been goin out with a girl for 2 months and we really like each other will she really care about the penis size if its like 5 and a halp inches

5 inches is actually average size for a penis, so I don't think she'd care. If she does, then she's shallow & you shouldn't be dating her anyways. However, if she really loves you and accepts you, things should work out fine.

i have bn dating my cousin for 1 year and a month and i luv him i guess i should have not asked for advise but we love each other we are already planing our feauture and im actually really excited

i am the happiest girl ever even though i am dating my own cousin

i know 4 a fact that 4 nothing in this world would he give me up or 4 any1 thats the main reason y I love him

neways we are happy and we are old enough too no what we r doing im 17 and he is 19

i no that ya have gone thew thinking about dating like me but you dont have the nerves to admit it but it ok

so if you want advise 4rm me do what you think is right even though pe0ple w0nt except you 4 who you are!

love ya
;!

I would never think about dating my cousins; only because I personally think it's disgusting.

Nothing against you, but I'll pass on dating within the family.

Good luck to you though.

what do you think about cousins dating?

I don't think it's a very good idea. That would be like brother & sister dating. No good can come from it, and it's just really immoral, in my opinion.

If you're thinking about trying it, I wouldn't.

I'm looking for a good Christian music magazine. And I mean an actual magazine, not the online type. Any suggestions?

It isn't exactly a Christian Music magazine, but they do sometimes feature Christian Rock Bands. You can read Alternative Press. It's about $4-5 dollars depending where you are.

I'd just check the magazine aisle at the market though. Also, you can check at a newsstand. :) They should have what you're looking for.

I really want to move towns but my mum doesn't want to. i haven't exactally asked her but she seems happy here. but i hate it. i get bullied at school constantly and i don't think i can learn well here. any advice? 13/F P.S im from australia.

You really need to sit down with your mom and talk to her about this. Explain what's going on with school, and maybe see what her insight is.

If she isn't willing to move even after you've talked with her, maybe see if she can talk to an administrator at your school. Surely they can do something. Bullying isn't tolerated anywhere, and I'm sure they'll put a stop to it.

You, however, need to stand up for yourself. I can understand the fear of a bully and not wanting to get hurt, but I'm sure it would hurt more to be picked on, than to do something about it. You also need to learn to ignore them. They are no one important so you must treat them as so. If you don't acknowledge them, they'll soon get tired of picking on you. It isn't fun to pick on someone who doesn't react. Remember, they're just doing this to get a rise out of you. The more you react, the more you encourage them.

I can only tell you that things will get better. You'll make friends (if you haven't already, you didn't exactly say) & things will be fine. Ignore them and concentrate on your studies. Bullying has nothing to do with the teachers. :)

I hope this helps you, and if you need anything else, feel free to send me an INBOX question, or you can e-mail me as well. My e-mail address is on my column. :)

A long time ago..like 2-4 years ago, maybe longer, I saw this little commercial thing on Disney channel. It wasn't exactly a commercial, just like one of those things where the kids talk. It was this girl who had red hair and she collected elephants. And she was telling about where she got each one and everything. Ever since then, I've looked everywhere online and I can't find it. Can someone help me?

I know exactly the commercial you're talking about. I tried Google, and Youtube and found nothing.

Disney usually has a super strong grip on their material because of copyright and stuff, so that's probably why it isn't online. People who post Disney stuff online without permission from the company can get in trouble. So, I'm pretty sure they wouldn't allow it.

Sorry! :(

hello, im 15 f, and im cuban.
my boyfriend is 18 black and mexican.

heres the thing, my parents just recently found out that me and him are dating, and they fliped out. they say im nasty for liking a black guy, and that im only putting myself down and that im too pretty and light skined for him and etc.. i really dont know what to do cause i like him alot and i dont want to loose him over something so dumb like his skin color. and he isnt even that dark! hes like chris brown dark. and he dresses very nice, and is a good kid. i have to talk to my parents today. how can i convince them to let me be with him? oh and my dad was saying things like what would people think? and how it looks bad for someone whos white to be with someone whos black.

Have them meet him. I know that sounds like it'd be a disaster, but if your parents can see that he is a really nice kid & that he treats you well, maybe they'd be more accepting.

If they meet him, and nothing changes, there is a chance nothing can be done to change your parents ignorance.

Even your parents are hurting my feelings. My mother is white, and my father is Puerto Rican.

Im 13 and people come to me saying if i like tommy and i say no but they dont belive me what should i do??

Nothing. If you don't like Tommy, and they don't believe you, that's their problem. You know the truth and that's that.

is 115 a lot to weigh for a fifteen year old girl between 5'0-5'1 ?

Nope. It's pretty much the perfect weight for someone around that height.

Is it ok to stop taking birth control for good if i started it a week and a half ago? Its making me moody so i want to get off it.

I would consult a doctor before doing anything rash like that because who knows what the side effects could be.

Bascially I have a really good friend.
She has a brother and sister ( who is disabled),
her dad is a policeman and is kinda of big - and he ONLY hits my friend.

She doesnt do anything...and her mum just doesnt want to believe its going on really. She took 56 pain killers, and past out on the stairs ( she told me she was trying to kill herself). Her mum and dad found her on the stairs and her mum had asked her why they were out on the side...so she made up a pathetic lie that she had a headache - and her mum and dad believed it! I personally think its because they cant come to terms with the fact their daughter isnt happy, especially because of her dad. I know she also suffers a bit from depression and as well as our exams coming up so she was under lots of pressure.

I dont know what I am supposed to do. I cant report it because she is my friend and she has a family - and if I said anything..she'd be taken away by social services. Im just worried because waht about the next time she tries to hurt herself and she dies??
Right now, Im just trying to keep he happy and make her smile - she has told me that I am helping her be less stressed and just mor ehappy with herself. Thats great..but what more can i do?

Also she has taken so many tablets, she can bearly walk because she has stomach ulcers ( Ive had it before so as soon as she started with the pains i knew..) but she cant go to the doctors because her mum and dad will fall apart and then just everything will fall apart....
what do i do to help her?

You're not being a very good friend to her right now. I know you want to protect your friend, and that you don't want her to get taken away, but standing by & doing nothing is just as bad as her father abusing her.

Her parents know she is unhappy and refuse to get her help. They're also contributing to it. They are refusing to see the truth & are keeping themselves in denial about their daughters depression.

You NEED to tell a trusted adult. Tell your parent or a teacher at school. You cannot let this continue & call yourself a friend. She'll be mad at you, but in the end, she'll thank you. Get help for your friend because if she continues on the path she's on, she'll kill herself.

Do not let that happen.

me and my current boyfriend have gone out 7 other times in the past. I feally do like him, but in sum relationships it seems like he's not giving it his all, but i am. And other times it's perfect but my parents ruin it (they dont like him).We first went out wen i was 12 continuing on now at 13. it feels as if hes the only one for me. If that's true why do we keep going on and off?

I think going out 7 different times is a bad sign.

If your relationship is on & off, it's only going to continue that way. Your relationship has trouble being steady, therefore it'll continue to fall apart. It's not going to work.

Also, if your parents don't like him, obviously they're seeing something you're not. You should listen to them. You're 13. Parents know best.

I was just wondering and wanted to ask....What do you think about first cousins dating each other??

It would be really weird, and really immoral. Do not date family.

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