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My Friend Is Suicidal
Bascially I have a really good friend.
She has a brother and sister ( who is disabled),
her dad is a policeman and is kinda of big - and he ONLY hits my friend.
She doesnt do anything...and her mum just doesnt want to believe its going on really. She took 56 pain killers, and past out on the stairs ( she told me she was trying to kill herself). Her mum and dad found her on the stairs and her mum had asked her why they were out on the side...so she made up a pathetic lie that she had a headache - and her mum and dad believed it! I personally think its because they cant come to terms with the fact their daughter isnt happy, especially because of her dad. I know she also suffers a bit from depression and as well as our exams coming up so she was under lots of pressure.
I dont know what I am supposed to do. I cant report it because she is my friend and she has a family - and if I said anything..she'd be taken away by social services. Im just worried because waht about the next time she tries to hurt herself and she dies??
Right now, Im just trying to keep he happy and make her smile - she has told me that I am helping her be less stressed and just mor ehappy with herself. Thats great..but what more can i do?
Also she has taken so many tablets, she can bearly walk because she has stomach ulcers ( Ive had it before so as soon as she started with the pains i knew..) but she cant go to the doctors because her mum and dad will fall apart and then just everything will fall apart....
what do i do to help her?
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You're not being a very good friend to her right now. I know you want to protect your friend, and that you don't want her to get taken away, but standing by & doing nothing is just as bad as her father abusing her.
Her parents know she is unhappy and refuse to get her help. They're also contributing to it. They are refusing to see the truth & are keeping themselves in denial about their daughters depression.
You NEED to tell a trusted adult. Tell your parent or a teacher at school. You cannot let this continue & call yourself a friend. She'll be mad at you, but in the end, she'll thank you. Get help for your friend because if she continues on the path she's on, she'll kill herself.
Do not let that happen.
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If you want to truely be her friend, you need to report this. This is frightening. This is a difficult emotional and legal time for you and your friend, but it is necessary.
If this behavior continues you may very well be visiting her grave site instead of her bedroom.
Her family is of no consequence to you. It is not about them. If dad hits her and mom closes her eyes, they are not good enough parents to deserve such a special gift as this girl. All children deserve the best in the world and in this case the worst is coming from the parents themselves.
I am going to give you a website that also has an 800 phone number. I do not know if you are in the united states but if you are this number is free and available 24/7. If you are outside the U.S. you may need to do an online search for a crisis hotline in your area.
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Boystown 24/7 hotline number 1-800-448-3000
This hotline can likely help you decide what the best corse of action is to take.
This is a terrible situation that you have to be in; trying to literally save the life of your friend. You must not take the attitude though that "I can't tell anyone because she asked me not to" or some similar way of looking at it. For her life and safety this information needs to be passed on to someone.
A couple of options I know of off hand are teachers. At least in the United States teachers are required by law to report suspected abuse. Talk to a teacher or your principal and see if anything can be done. You may also talk to a member of the clergy who may have suggestions.
I am so sorry this is happening to your friend and yourself. I hope this information is helpful enough that you are able to help your friend in more ways that could lead to her surviving this crisis.
Best of luck.
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