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okay i've always wanted to become a cheerleader, and i think i will be next year but my question is could i possibly be a flyer when i weight 80-85 lbs and are about 4 9 1/2? cuz i have flyed alerady i've been put up in double base for the first time and i loved every minuete of it i mean i was a bit wobbly at first but i got the hang of it. so plz help thanks i rate high

I'm a backspot and sometimes a base so I can help here. Chances are you can fly as long as you have tall bases and you are strong enough to push yourself up. You can't rely on the bases and backspot to push you up. You have to do some of the work too. You should be pretty good though. I hope I helped! ♥ good luck
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I'm 14 years old, and I want my hair dyed. Like I want a drastic change SORTA. My hair right now is Dark Blonde. I don't want like blue pink colors though. I'm white, and my face is sorta red usually. I'm not really tan, I am sometimes. But not always. Whats a good hair color for me =)

Get brown and blonde streaks. Carmel is a good color brown and light blonde (sorta like Paris Hilton's hair color) would be a good blonde color. If you want something more drastic go with reds or blacks. Any color would work. Number one rule though: STAY AWAY FROM NON-NATURAL HAIR COLORS!!! Also don't dye it too much or it'll fall out. I hope I helped ♥ good luck
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I like a guy ALOT!... and wells there alot more to this then im gonna say but... I like him alot and im really shy around him and hes really shy too... he wont tlk to me my friend always tells him to tlk to me but he doesnt and im too shy to tlk to him... i really like him and he feels he doesnt kno me so thats y he doesnt like me how can i get him to kno me if im shy and he is too>??>??

Well, you can get your friend to get you two some place where you can talk. Or if you can try to get his screen name and talk to him on AIM. To me it's just easier to talk to people about how you feel on there. If you rather be brave and talk to him in person the best way you can get yourself to be confident is ask yourself what's the worst that could happen? He sounds like someone who wouldn't spread a stupid rumor or something because he talked to you. I hope I helped! ♥ good luck
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Okay so here's my problem...I have a lot of friends, and i would say 50% of them are males. YOu're probably wondering what the problem is right? Well the problem is, i have a tendancy to fall in love with my guy friends because they are so sweet and the perfect boyfriend material type for me. Sometimes i think they like me by how they act around me, but then i find out they only like me as a "friend" I'm sick of being just the "friend" and i want to show guys i can be more...how can i should my guy friends that i can be more then just friends with them? That i want to be seen as girlfriend material? Thanks in Advance!

There is no such thing as girlfriend material. There are different guys so they like different girls. You can be a stereotype ditz, a sport girl, a totally and completely out there girl, and anything else you can imagine. It's impossible to tell you how to act because the truth is if a guy doesn't like you for who you are there's no changing that and if you change for him it's just stupid because you're probably wonderful as who you are. Maybe you can look outside your normal group of friends for someone. I hope I helped! ♥ good luck
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13/f ..In my group of friends and in school, i am such a prude good girl but all of a sudden now i just wanna be a slut!! like i cant wait to go on vacation and pick up random guys. I really want a bf, to makeout,smoke, drink do all that stuff. Is this normal? I feel so weird because im getting all these urges and i dont know where theyre coming from! I feel dirty and like i wanna be like those girls in the movie Thirteen.. please help! im starting to do things.. i bought a thong, drank my moms wine and wanna do other stuff that i know ill get in trouble for! but i cant help it! what do i do??

OK, first off you are 13 you have plenty of time to do all those things. Smoking and drinking can kill you and it's illegal to drink at your age. Your hormones are kicking in get used to it because for the next few years they're gonna be there making you feel crazy. But be happy about hormones I learned in science they make healty bones (it scares me too). You can get a boyfriend that's not weird. But make sure you have one "safe person" that you can go to when things get way out of hand. I hope I helped! ♥ good luck

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ok 13/f i have a boyfriend but im falling for some one else who is very nice to me and hes soooooo sweEt * but i dont know what to do ? should i end our relationship and go for the other guy ? is that slutty or stupid ?
thankz !

You pick. Seriously pick which one you can see yourself with. Just pick

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my boyfriend used to be a big druggy before we went out. i'm a huge anti-drug person! he told me the day before he asked me out that he had quit! i was very proud of him and all, but resently someone who didn't even know we were going out told me that they saw him smoking a cig about a week after we started going out! so now he lied to me and is doing drugs (which i really hate!) the other person who told me could have made it up, but my bf has lied to me before! what should i do???

Ask your boyfriend to be honest with you. If he aviods your eyes he's most likely lying.

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Ok I have green eyes that have a little bit of yellow splash to it if that makes any sense lol!! Well all my friends say it looks really pretty and exotic (it is a weird combonation) but they usually can't see them unless they look closely. I have a lot of eyeshadow but can't find any that will make them accented where evryone will be able to see them but not to dramatic wehre its like eww...

Gold would look great. Really any shimmery color. But like you said make sure it's not dramatic. I hope I helped!

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Hey Iwas wondering if any cheerleader was reading this if they have any advise!
I have compettion on Saterday.....I had a really good roung off backhandspring, but I screwd up in it once and i could never do it again if i knew i would be doing it alone.We have a belt thing at our school but when people told me that they weren't going to spot i wouldnt do it. They told me after i did on that it was by my self. But i tried to do one and i just wouldnt go back. My coach yelled at me SOOO bad i was embaressed and upset. Is there any way i could get over my fear and jsut DO IT any tips?

Ok I'm a cheerleader but I suck at gymnastics. But I do spot my teammates because I learned the proper ways to spot without causing injuries. Anyway try doing it on the trampoline. Or sometimes what helps is doing a harder tumble (layout, back tuck, ect) on the trampoline. It will show you if you can do that you don't have to be afarid. But don't try anything without a coach or a spot. I hope I helped! ♥ good luck

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How exactly do you hook up? And what is it?

You hook up by meeting a guy and becoming girlfriend and boyfriend. If you ask a friend to hook you up it's them finding someone for you. I hope I helped! ♥ good luck

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how much wood would a woodchuck chuck?... if a woodchuck could chuck wood!?...*questioning*

it could chuck a chucks chuck chuck chucks chucks worth of wood *chucks*
ok i know that you know that i know that he knows that i know that she knows that you know we all know you are just doing this for laughs
hah i laugheth at you

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I starting going out with this one guy from my school at a ski lodge. He called me at midnight and kept saying how much he loved me, and he only knew me for 12 hours? I dumped him the next morning becuase i found out he was going out with TWO other girls that i didn't know about, at the same time We were going out. he also told those two girls that he "never went out with me" and "NEVER would" I completly freaked out on him at lunch and even slapped him. He denyed everythingg! I also heard of all these gurls he apparently screwed. What can i say tomorrow to him at lunch to make him spit out the truth??
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Sit across from him stare at his eyes and say "I know what you did. And I want to know the honest truth." Don't take your eyes of him until he spits it out. I hope I helped! ♥ good luck

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I went out with this kid name Matt and About a month ago I dumped him. The kid is like obsessed with me he's alway just staring at me, at lunch, during classes, in the halls. If i walk across the room he watches me. He seriously watches like everything I do. I have a new boyfriend, named Jon, now and both him and i are really uncomfortable with him staring at me. Its so weird im like afraid to be myself sometimes. Like people come up to me and are like Matt is staring at you. It creeps me out and makes me so uncomfortable. Some of my friends have been telling him he needs to move on and get a new girlfriend and they've suggested hooking him up with people but he's obsessed. I dont like him that way at all. What should I do about it?!?!?

You should try to hook him up with someone. Or you could just tell him you don't real comfortable with him staring at you. Camly explain it makes you feel akward. If it still doesn't get through to him you should hook him up. I hope I helped! ♥ good luck

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what kind of things do you give guys on valentines day? Like really good things, or simple things are good to. I just need some ideas. i like to get my shopping done early so i wont have to woory about it later. but im completly lost on what i should get for him as a v-day present. Any Ideas? please help

Simple yet sweet is the key. Save going all out for his birthday and around the winter holiday season. Chocalates and flowers are always good. A little romantic card and if you guys haven't kissed before a kiss. Anything simple and sweet. I hope I helped! ♥ good luck

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does anyone no any really good books. My mom wants me to get into reading (i hate reading) so i need a good book thatti wont hate to read!

anything will do! thanks a lot!

The Harry Potter and Series of Unfortunate Events series are pretty good. So are the Lord of the Rings series. If you want a book and not a series try The First Five People You Meet in Heaven. That's one of my favorites. 1984 is also an amazing book. If you need anymore suggestions leave one in my inbox because I've read a lot of books. I hope I helped! ♥ good luck

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What are some good eye shadow/mascara/eyeliner colors that go really well with green eyes? I usually use black eye liner and mascara and w/e color goes with my outfit. Is that an okay thing to do with green eyes? Thanks.

Yeah, that's pretty good. However, with the eye shadow you should use soft greens. And if you want something to math your outfit use different colored eye liners. I hope I helped! ♥ good luck

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hey anyone know of any good sites that let you up load pictures i need good advice thanks i'll rate high.

Photobucket is really good. I use that and one of my friends whos a really good artist uses that. I hope I helped! ♥ good luck

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Anyone know where I can buy a decent record player other than Ebay? I bought one off of there and it broke before the first song ended. Any web sites or store suggestions would be very helpful. Thanks!

Amazon usually has good stuff. And reto stores in your local mall may have them. I hope I helped! ♥ good luck

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See my boyfriend isaac lives s=in a hole diffrent town but this other boy Colton lives in the same town and he goes to my school how can i cheat on isaac without him noing.

Ever thought you could not cheat? Either dump you're boyfriend or don't go out with Colton. It's not gonna work out one is going to find out. Man, there're more of you fake players everyday. Rate me low I really don't care.

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