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he lied about drugs
my boyfriend used to be a big druggy before we went out. i'm a huge anti-drug person! he told me the day before he asked me out that he had quit! i was very proud of him and all, but resently someone who didn't even know we were going out told me that they saw him smoking a cig about a week after we started going out! so now he lied to me and is doing drugs (which i really hate!) the other person who told me could have made it up, but my bf has lied to me before! what should i do???
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confront him. just ask him about it and see if it is true. and a note in future: if you cant trust someone then there is no point in having a relationship because relationships are built on trust and if you dont trust him then you will always question him. keep me informed
~ANGE
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I'm not concened about the "lie" part here. I'm concerned about the long-term chances of this lasting, since he does srugs and you're anti-drug. Now, some may say cigs are not a drug, some may say they're a light drug, but that's not the issue. The issue is that YOU have a problem with it.
If it's true that HE asked you out, and not the other way around, then you're in good shape-- because he really, really likes you. There may be a chance that you could be a positive influence on him. Don't dump him over this; draw him closer to you, be someone he can trust. But be careful! Sometimes you can't change somebody, no matter how hard you try. And all that trying may just break your heart even harder in the end.
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Ask your boyfriend to be honest with you. If he aviods your eyes he's most likely lying.
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you should ask him because i have been in the same thing before and the person was just lying, and if you do ask him and he says no then you should question him. not in a mean way that you guys get in a fight, just try to be nice about it.
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Well first of all i dont think cigarettes are drugs.. but thats ok.. if it really bothers you that much you should dump him. DEFINITELY! also, if he has lied to you before, that means you cant trust him and more than liekly he is probably smoking or doing whatever you hate.
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honey, its a cigarette. there are way worse things that he could be out there doing. you should first, chill out. dont let it all go to your head. communication is the biggest key here. talk to him about it, find out why he did it, why he lied, etc, etc. dont be all pissy about it, but be there to comfort him about it. dont break up with him because of it, just tell him that he didnt have to lie to you. he has been doing it the whole time and you didnt know. so what you didnt know didnt hurt you. and what he was doing didnt effect you in any way, shape, or form. so it wont harm you now in any way, shape, or form. the only thing you should be upset about is him lying to you the whole time.
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Mmm. Hun, him smoking a cig isn't concider a "drug". Even though, I'll try to help you out. If this person did make it up, you'll have to do some talking with him/her. As for your boyfriend, try talking to him about it. Try to get as much as you can out of him. Tell him you wont be mad if he tells you the truth, it's better then lying. And tell him if he lies about it, you'll find out. So, either way he'll be screwed and will have to tell you the truth!
♥ Krissy
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who cares!!
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