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now a lot of women hit on me...why I don't know, I am straight....anyway here's my issue so i needed 2 use another coworkers comp so I found one which was unfortunately by my freaky coworker and she just said 2 me, so you are going be my cute desk buddy, just smiling with all 32 teeth...I said uh hell no....she smirked and said so you don't wanna be...see I knew she was freak/had a thing for me ....eeeewww sick
the fact she called me cute, told the story right there...who calls their coworkers cute.....she's around my age 30's ...I swear every job I go too there's always some chic hitting on me or flirting with me...so gross ...
anyway folks are saying if women hit on you then you are giving off some kinda gay vibe...I don't think that's they case, I just think they find me attractive and that is all...while it is gross I don't think they think im gay...this seems to happen 2 me at every job im at, some chic is crushin.....what do you think....
Lets get this straight at the start, if you are female and you believe another female is hitting on you, then either she thinks you are bi-sexual or gay which also means lesbian. I used to attend a swing club with my ex. We didn't part because of that however. In the club there were lots of bi-sexual women. My neighbor friend was bi and told me not to worry, that the bi women would just automatically know I wasn't bi. There was a dance at the beginning of the evening attendance. I like to dance and normally would dance with only men as I am straight. After attending many times, one night on the dance floor which was really crowded, a female asked me if I was bi. I said no and she said "Oh, I'm surprised, I thought you were by how you were acting." Since it only happened once, I assume she wasn't able to read people well. I really don't think it has anything to do with our actions as in my case or even peoples looks as you seem to think possible. I had a guy who was straight, tell me that he got hit on all the time by men. I was surprised and asked why he thought it was so. He said that they simply told him that he had the look/a certain kind of handsomeness that gay men have and it had nothing to do with the exaggerated actions of what TV portrays gay men to be. I happen to know some gay men, a couple in the family and they do not act at all like the stereotype. If they hadn't told us they were gay, I wouldn't have known at all. So I don't think there is a certain kind of look for males or females if they are gay. If gay women are trying to find a new female sweetheart, then going only by a persons appearance is like hunting for a needle in a haystack and not a good way at all to find someone. So they add the leaving of little hints like stating you are cute or the way they smile or brush up against you (seemingly accidentally,) too often.
So that would leave a vibe, or some kind of energy they pick up on. In your case, I don't think you are giving off vibes. But here's something you can think about. I followed an experiment in a magazine to gain self confidence by imagining yourself to be a certain famous celebrity. I chose to focus on my eyes, my best feature and no one ever had said anything about my eyes. Several times a day, especially before entering a building, store, room, etc. I would picture myself looking like that celeb as I entered, and getting the kind of attention she would, due to the self confidence many celebs have. From the very first time I tried it, I began to get comments from men and women about how beautiful my eyes were. I was not even wearing make up or acting different. I only focused on this picture in my mind. SO what were they picking up on all of a sudden? It was that unseen thing, energy, vibe, whatever you want to call it. But I know a tiny bit of psychology and so know about the subconscious mind. I think its the subconscious rather than the conscious mind that picks up on subtle things. Our subconscious can be wrong at times. It also has our best interests in mind. What ever a person thinks about most, a sub. mind will think must be important enough that it needs to help their person get it, achieve it. IF a person also thinks all the time about being in a car accident or getting raped, our subconscious doesn't see it as bad or good, just important enough to you to find a way to make it happen. I have put myself in gay people shoes as far as finding a partner. There really aren't any sure-fire ways to discover who is and who isn't. Like I said, you really can't tell from looks, maybe actions but that can be misleading too and some peoples sub. minds are at war with the conscious mind and both want something totally different so what they do in life is always fluctuating, all over the place. So I am thinking that you might try an exercise of using your imagination to picture a man at your side holding your hand where-ever you go. Perhaps the females who hit on you will pick up that mental energy and feel you are straight and not bug you. The best way to meet someone very specific you are looking for is on the internet. There are many chat rooms, dating sites, support groups for gay people on line. I used the internet to find my 2nd husband. I learned the hard way from the first what things to spot that are a troublesome partner. Before the internet, I attended singles events to try and find someone. It only took twiced with many failures every time of guys approaching me, asking a question which I answered truthfully and when they didn't believe the same way i did on some things/issues, they were horrified and told me to get away from them and not come near them again. Most the time, they approached me first so I actually just laughed and turned to the internet. That way I could put a very strict list of criteria a guy had to meet before writing to me. Thats how I whittled down the choices so it wasn't like hunting for a needle in a haystack.
If you try to imagine if you were gay, how would you go about finding a date? Its hard enough between heterosexuals, both afraid to share how they feel if the other doesn't feel the same, overthinking actions and words, you know, the usual issues why two people don't get together...like a big one of fear and of rejection. So many resort to lukewarm cues which many may not notice or being blatant and just spilling it all out with professing how they feel or hinting all the time with lots of flirting. Gay people basically need to do the same thing.
Your best bet really is honesty and speaking up.
If it were me and that gal said to me 'so you are going to be my cute desk buddy", I would have said "First, thanks for the compliment but that comes across as something a female doesn't say unless she's gay, so to let you know, I am not gay." Them by what I said, She either has to clarify that she is indeed gay and sorry for thinking you are gay or she could say, I am not gay either. This is just part of my weird personality. Thats the easiest way to find out whats going on with the women who seem to be hitting on you. Don't react with horror and the eeewww disgusted face, no matter how you might feel inside. If you asked a guy out and He gave you that reaction, wouldn't it bother you, maybe even hurt? NO matter if he was gay or not? I think your generation is one unlike mine that grew up as kids in a time when being gay is openly accepted among your age group, maybe some pep rallys for gays at HS,(I know of two girls at different HS that did that) and it's in the TV shows and movies as a normal part of life.
It really isn't all that bizarre or ungodly to be gay. For eons, farmers have watched to see which of their male sheep or goats for example were interested in female sheep and which tried unsuccessfully to mate with males. See, they want to grow their flock and a straight animal will not be good to kill for meat if they will help produce more baby animals to sell or just grow the flock. The gay ones would be the ones more likely to be killed for meat. SO its not just humans but in animals too. YOu have to decide ahead of time how you want to handle each situation. If you are wrong, then don't act embarassed, just giggle and say, oops, well I was pretty sure thats what you were getting at. Sorry. If you act light hearted, most likely the other will not be offended if you were wrong,and if right, at least, they now know to not plan to do any flirting with you.
I'm a 14 year old girl who goes to a music camp. I have a chorus class in which we are singing songs from the musical Les Miserables for our next concert. There are some solos open, one of them being I Dreamed a Dream. A few lines in the beginning, and the "now life has killed the dream I dream." I really want a solo and I think I'm a pretty good singer. Today we got to practice singing solos and I volenteered. I sung in front of the class, and I was applauded (no one else was applauded) and recieved a couple compliments. I'm still really nervous that I'm not good enough, that people are only being polite or doing it because they are my friends. How do I get over that feeling and just sing?
If you are not sure if friends and others are being truthful, then the best thing you can do is to work at gaining self confidence. I know that sounds hard.
For a talent, can't say I've heard how to gain self confidence, but I have heard how to gain confidence in ones own looks by borrowing the self confidence of a celebrity. In this practice, a person chooses a celeb for a certain visual feature, I chose eyes. I like my eyes. Then I picked an actress who I felt had eyes close to mine. I know the actress can turn heads and enter a room with confidence. SO the deal here is that once you've decided on a celeb. then every time you leave the house and several times a day, refocus on you looking like, but in your cause, singing like that celebrity. You would be imagining yourself to look like and act like and sing like that female singer, age doesn't matter, just the one who most closely sounds like you. It may take lots of your friends to tell you who you sound most like. I had an elderly neighbor who sang on Second LIfe and she sounded just like Angela Lansbury. i think this is worth a shot.
I'm turning my life around now in college and I just find it insane how so many kids were on the right track during my most difficult years in my life. Most people have school dance memories, first relationship memories, hanging out with their friends memories and for me it was mostly just blank. Watching tv, going online, lacking motivation, having no confidence, etc. Even as an adult female now, I'm still learning how to do social relationships properly.. it makes me feel like a child to be so behind, while my peers are getting married, starting jobs above the minimum wage, and so on.
Why didn't things just click for me too, when I was younger, like they are now? The only thing I've really changed is my diet, but I knew kids who ate terrible diets and still did really well in school, so I'm not even sure. My parents were pretty uninvolved and I really needed someone to kick my butt, cause at the time, I didn't know how to discipline myself to reach my dreams.
Is that all it was?But it doesn't also explain why I had so much difficulty relating to my peers. Even now at 20 I still only use my phone to communicate with my immediate family and co-workers 99% of the time
Am I always going to be behind like this or how can my experiences make me a better, stronger person? I don't believe everything happens for a reason, because I don't believe anyone deserves to get bombed or raped. So it makes it kind of hard to rectify my past. I'm a hard working person but when I look back at what people consider pivotal years of their life I just see a black fog of confusion, sadness, isolation, and reducing motivation levels. I don't blame anyone, I can't. My parents tried.
But what do I make of those memories? I focus on my present and future but it's hard to imagine people accepting my past when I even struggle to accept that I was really like that, leading to the struggles I still deal with.
We all have lots of maturing and growing and experiencing to do once we are out of high school. We do some of that during college years whether in school or not.
The truth is that a great majority of teens all have angst of some kind. For myself, it was social anxiety, others compare their looks to others and feel bad, others just want to be popular but are too shy, we have low self esteem and practically no self confidence.
I just attended my 40th High School reunion. I wasn't able to make the 2 last ones. What I learned there blew me away.
Of those you saw who seemed to enjoy school and get involved, going to dances, etc... the majority were just good at masking their shyness, introverted-ness, and low self confidence. I am no longer shy of approaching people and did so at reunion. When I told people I was too shy to even make friends in HS, and wished I was more like them, they ALL except 2, told me that they had anxieties and issues and it was hard for them. In fact, there were a few for whom it was kinda hard to talk and mingle at the reunion, scary for them. So it was me, the one who used to be scared and lonely in HS who was putting them at ease. One gal apologized for never befriending me as she had and still has, the same as I had once, social anxiety.
The majority are all somewhat scared and go thru the motions and fake it well how they feel. Then a small amount were like me and you. Another tiny amount are the ones who were popular and that was only because they had self confidence. I went to grade school with such a girl. These people are still confident today and had lots of people vying for their attention at the reunion. So no matter how bad your HS days were, even at a 10 yr reunion, you can attend and forge new friendships because all the people have changed and matured.
HOw do a whole group mature at the same time?
In HS our bodies were mature, but our brains were not yet done growing. There is no person who gets to skip this point. We all have under developed frontal lobes while in HS. THe lobes aren't done growing until mid twenties (a Scientific fact) that is the one thing that does change. So don't spend too much time looking back at your past or you may miss a lot of things that were meant for you in the present.
when we saw each other last week my guy friend was like touching and patting my shoulder and I said stop it jokingly and he said I'm trying to show my love and affection and you're not letting me. also, he said he would do anything for me. by the way, he does help me out with my homework and projects. so, you're guys are the experts. do normal guy friends says something like that, particularly about love and affection part? we do joke but I'm thinking now he likes me a bit. thanks
Guy say something like that if they have a certain level of interest in a girl. Not all will use same words though. It depends on how brave they are or if worried you won;t feel the same and it ruins the friendship. Guys don't usually toss out the L word, meaning 'love', without knowing the gal feels the same way. For him personally, this may be the bait he puts on the hook to see if you'll bite, meaning you then say or do something back that gives him a for sure clue that you are also in to him.
I have a sausage dog (male) he's about 3 or 4. I got a pitbull (female) in december and he didnt like her at all but then he did and theyve been playing and liked each other. shes 6 months now. For the last two or 3 days days my sausage dog has been growling and trying to bite the pitbull constantly. She just wants to play with him and he wants to bite her. She is getting neutered in a week. Please help he's never been an aggresive dog and i dont know whats wrong or how to fix it. He's also been wheezing/moaning lately especially in his sleep. we've never had a problem with dogs biting each other in our whole lives so we dont know how to fix this.
I am not studied in canine behavior so I personally couldn't answer that. The best answers that may help will be in books on dog behavior or on the internet.
I put in these words for a search and got plenty of hits: Reasons why an older dog bites puppy
Once you are reading the sites you can sift through the things that don't apply if its age related, type of dog, neutured or not, etc....
Good luck
Do I have any chance at transfer admission at any top college for going from a 2.9 high school GPA to a 4.0 after completing an Associate's?
I'm also a mature student, essentially taking a 4 year gap after high school. I actually first went to one university after being forced to by my family, to study a subject I had no interest in, where I flunked out before starting community college two years later. Yes, as an adult I should have refused, as I did not think I was then ready to start college (right after high school), but went along with it anyways. I really learned more about myself in that time, gained confidence, got healthier, and found drive to pursue my goals more than ever before. The student I am now is how I wish I was in high school, but it was not possible then. The insights I have now I did not have then. It's literally night and day. I was suffering from depression, lack of sleep, poor diet, having no friends (my family moved around a lot and I was quite socially awkward and anxious), and so on. I can't change the past and am trying to let my past make me into a stronger person. I still struggle socially but I now have the drive to spend most of my time with studying, beyond course requirements (I read entire textbooks) because I do enjoy learning and always have. I am on the executive board of several clubs at my community college, volunteer, and also work part-time. It was my approach that was wrong. I'm sorry for rambling here but do I only have a chance to enter state colleges or do any top colleges consider students with very nontraditional backgrounds like mine, if they've proven that they can earn top marks again and have big goals they're finally ready to pursue? Should I invest time and money into applying to them? I plan to get my PhD one day and to work as an economist.
If your heart is set on a top college, then it makes sense to check them out first. get a list of possible ones and then you may have to tell them what your background is, where you're at now and does it matter to getting accepted. If you are shot down by all of them, then go for state colleges
y is it dat someone feel pain after having sex for the frist time also is a must blood must come out during sex also will someone get pergnantduring sex without using condom
If you really meant pain after, not during sex, then any soreness felt simply from having been stretched out in areas never stretched before, or from some rather vigorous thrusts by a females partner which can give an achy feeling to the pelvic floor from how hard his body slams into the pubic bone or from the penis maybe long enough to really pound on the cervix and that also can feel sore. Once used to it, you don't get sore as often, just during any wilder times. Not all women bleed from sex the first time. I never bled and I was a virgin.
Imagine covering the end of a used toilet paper roll. YOu cover it tightly with nylon stockings. Then you cut a hole in the center of the stocking that doesn't reach that round circumference of the toilet roll.The tube represents your vagina. The stocking represents your hymen which goes all the way around the circumference. It needs to be stretched out like a rubber band until it against the circumference. If the stretching is done slowly, sometimes over two different times, a females hymen can stretch out enough to fit a penis inside without the tearing and thus drops of blood.
Regarding pregnant without condom use, it depends on where in a cycle a female is. If she is a few days before ovulation, the release of the egg, during ovulation which is best time to get pregnant and even after ovulation. Sperm released inside can survive a few days to wait for ovulation to occur and still impregnante. During ovulation, again is best chance at getting pregnant and after your peak ovulation days, an egg may still be surviving and not shed yet by a period, and theres a slight chance of a live sperm from current day or days before, meeting up with it.
Hi there, so to make a 4 year long story short, my best friend got married to a guy who's just all around bad news after getting pregnant with his son 2 years ago.
Throughout the entire time her family and I have been trying to get her away from him because he's physically and mentally abusive, makes her work while he sits at home and plays games, hates all her friends and family, leaves her and comes back all the time, has sold her prescription medication, and is just a disgusting person.
Her family and I eventually gave up on trying to get her away from him and now her family has also put a stop to giving her endless amounts of money whenever she runs short (a lot) because he always spends it.
Anyways, she finally sees the light and wants to leave him, but she said it would be difficult to get a place of her own with the child and she wants to get a place with me.
The upsides to this are that she has a good job and without him in the picture she could actually save a good portion of her money and I know she'd pay rent fine. I have a great time with her whenever we go out so I think living with her would be comfortable. She wants to move to an area that's close to the university I'm trying to transfer into in the next 1-5 months. It actually might be a godsend because I can't afford housing on my own either and it would be nice to not live in college housing.
The downsides are that I'm 22 and not really into living with somebody's 2 year old. I mean if she kept all his stuff in his own room that's one thing, but last time I was at their house his toys and stuff were all over the living room. If he started screaming all the time I would get really mad. If she ditched me on a lease to go live with her husband again I would be screwed...I'd want only her name on the lease just in case.
Other than that, she's a really clean person and we both love to cook and do all the same things. Her husband and baby are my only concerns.
What do you guys think?
I think the two year old is the lesser of the issues. Her husband is the top problem. He is a controlling person who will not want to give up control of her. Even if she is determined to not return to him, that wouldn't stop him from just stopping by the place, uninvited, or stalking her. If there are threats, it can vary to harming her or the son, entering and destroying your belongings in the apartment.
I do feel that having her for a roommate is a good solution to both your issues. However, she may want to be working with an advocate on women's abuse to know what steps to take next. That may include giving police reports when she's received threats from him, put a restraining order on him, and starting the precedings for separation and divorce.
I know that her husband is the risk of her wanting to go back and leave you without a roommate. Even if her name only was on the rent contract, she could cancel if she doesn't worry about her credit rating and you not being on the contract have no place to live and must not only find a new roommate but get accepted for the new lease. So you may as well both of your names on the lease.
As for a 2 year old. yes, kids can mess up a place pretty quickly. Whether he keeps toys to his room or is trained to put any in the main living area back in toy box once done is entirely up to what the mother of the child teaches. I hope you've had time to observe her with the child to know if she has been able to train him. And yes, children that young can be trained. Its usually by age two that an adult can watch a child and know if they have parents that are right on top of molding the childs character. The twos are not as terrible if a parent is really involved. However you may simply feel awkward around kids cus you don't have any yet. Or maybe you are more the type of female who is so sure that she would never be okay having her own kids and all kids drive you crazy, even well behaved ones. When you are that type of person who does not like children at all, thats the only person I can for sure say would regret moving in with a mom with child.
My ex and I got back together in January, and it's been peaceful and very nice, though we have some problems, we settle it and move on. We decided not to tell our friends about our relationship and just to keep it to ourselves and family. He didn't tell his best friend about us cos she was one of the reasons we broke up before.. Now she was suspecting and he told me. she said she was going to get to the root of the matter. And all he said was that she wasn't jealous and that is how she does when it comes to the issue of girls and that she only wants the best for him.He keeps supporting her and making me feel annoyed.I told him out of annoyance that I was going to get a male bestie and he got angry and started shouting. I'm kinda confused cs I think they both lyk each other but they are using best friend issues to cover up.He even told me that they were best friends before we started dating again, so it's no problem.. I really dnt know what to do.
If two people of opposite sex just do not, nor ever had any romantic feelings for each other, then yes, they can remain best friends for ever without ever cheating on their partners. I say that as it seems to be your big concern.
Why is this true? Because of chemistry, or more to the point...pheromones. Pheromones are something all mammals use to find a mate that is most appealing to them. Lets explain this way, when a persons pheromones closely resemble those of another, they will be sexually attracted. When the pheromones are too different, then a romantic kiss from such a person is going to feel yucky and make you shudder in disgust cus it feels like you got kissed like that by a Dad or brother or other male relative. Long story short, if this is the case for them, then you have nothing to worry about.
However, you did mention the reversal of roles, with you getting a male best friend. Never mind that it is hard to find, but his reaction is a potential Problem for you. It would seem his thinking is, that its okay for him but not for you. That is not right. Males who are not confident and have low esteem usually don't want any other males in the picture for you to compare him with.(not that you might, just that he is subconsciously worried) This might come across as jealous or controlling of you. Both are not good for a relationship. So be careful as you continue to date him. I don't know what started the first break up, maybe that would shed more light to the type of male he is and whether he is good boyfriend material or not.
You should be able to feel free to chat with people standing in line, whether female or male without him throwing a fit. So even if you never have a male friend, and just happen to look at a guy or talk to one and he sees that, if he comes unglued over that, he is a controller and not good bf material. And you could be in danger of being cut off from All friends and family by such a guy, worst case scenerio. I have known gals whose bf or husband treated them that way.
Just be smart and if he becomes too controlling or jealous, it might be best to find someone better than settle for less.
How do you cum
By masturbation either self or mutual masturbation or penis in vagina sex.
If you want to know the actual step by step, check the internet for videos to show what to do for a male or a female since you didn't specify.
Hi there!
I am a 19 years old girl. Me and my bf did oral sex. He fingered me and he was not masturbrating at that time. So there is Noway that I could be pregnant. My periods came on 22nd last month and now today it's 23rd already. I am worried. What could I do now? Please answer.
No, none of what you did can make you pregnant. Females can have delayed, or earlier than usual periods depending on whats causing it and none have to do with being pregnant.
When daily among a group of females, like when I was in an office of only females, for some reason, females periods will regulate to occur at the same time for each other so it can come earlier or later until they all get it the same time.
For being late, usually stress of some kind, the stress of school, job, moving elsewhere, stress on the body of being sick, getting sick or just getting over being sick and lastly, the stressing and fear of wondering if you might be pregnant. That one is the most common one followed by sickness.
He wants to stay friends forever. Confessed if he hadn't had his fiance, if would have asked me out but we will stay friends ok he says. Now I'm thinking, does he want to stay friends because there's a chance of something happening in the future somewhere between us or is he just testing me? Known each other for a year and we get on well. Become good friends. Flirty or joking time to time. Please help! Thanks for the input.
That's an odd one. I have no idea where he was going with his confession. Doesn't sound like what a normal person would do. He is engaged to be married and has the nerve to say he would have asked you out?! Wonder what his fiancee would think of him if she'd heard him say that to you. It doesn't matter that she wasn't around to hear. What does matter is his integrity as a man. He should be as loyal to whom he is planning to marry whether she is around or not. It sounds like he is trying to find out if you have ever had feelings other than just friends for him. I would venture to guess that maybe he even is hoping to see if he can get you to be the other woman he goes to for sex if you are interested in him that way. I could be horribly wrong. But for what reason is he marrying the other girl. He should break it off with her if he wants to be dating you or even anyone else. If he really wanted to be available for you and ask you out, he would not use the fact he is engaged as a reason he didn't ask you out. It sounds like this could be a situation where he was engaged before he met you as a friend. If he wasn't that sure that his fiancee is the one, then why the heck is he still with her? There is no one forcing him to marry someone he isn't sure of and thats the message he sends when he goes around saying he would have dated you. That is not helpful info to you. Maybe he is marrying her for a reason other than love. Maybe she has money. Maybe he isn't interested in her sexually or even love her. Sorry but I just can't think this guy is someone on the level.
I am a 15 year old boy and I know it's gonna sound really strange to adults but I think I really fell in love with my best friend's sister last year. Since then I managed to keep a close relationship with her ( we were only friends) and recently ( two months ago ) I told her how i Feel about her. She was surprised. However we did become a couple. I was sooooo hapyyyyy. Although we have broken up I can't get her out of my head since we last broke up ( 1 month ago). Ok we said we could be friends. But we are not as we used to be. I have made a couple attempts to move on but I dont think I will ever Feel the same about anyone.I dont wanna give up on her. I was actually thinking to make a move again in one year or so. But she doesnt give me much attention or she doenst text me especially now when she is on vacation. She seems to have completely forgotten about me. She doesnt know how I feel about her. Now, I know some of you are gonna say " Move ON!" "You are worth way more much". But the truth is, this girl has inspired me to accomplish so much this year and I dont wanna move on. I only wanna be with her. PLease, if you are to give me some advice then please dont try talking me out of staying dedicated to her. I wann a stay with her. I dont know whether now is the right time to say her how i feel. But I want you people to tell me what i should do some day to get her back.Thank You!
Lets turn the tables and pretend that you are the one who broke it off and didn't show much interest in a certain gf anymore. She is still interested and doesn't want to move on. But you spent enough time with her as a couple to know that though initially you were attracted, which happens to many of us, that after a while, you realized that you no longer had any interest in her. Would you expect that she should get some great advice that will change your mind and make you fall in love with her again, even if you have already decided you do not want to be with her forever, to ever date until you marry, have kids and grow old together? Do you think there is something another person can say or do that would make you fall for the same person you were no longer in love with? This is reality. It is not some conjured up hope. Lets talk scientifically and psychologically for a moment. In the beginning of any new relationship, there is something called NRE, New relationship energy. IT is a heightened feeling of excitement and warm fuzzy feelings that make you want to spend lots of time with a person and its easy to fall in love. However, NRE, is not the real thing and can fade after a while for a person. Maybe you felt the real thing and for her, it was only NRE that had her thinking it would work between you two. Both need to feel the same way after NRE wears off. I can explain that level of excitement in another way that hasn't anything to do with a relationship as this type of heightened exciement can occur in other things...like for example when a little kid, watching commercials for a new toy. You wanted it so bad and went to look at it in the toy aisles and it sounded so good you had to have it and asked Mom and Dad to get it for your Birthday or Christmas and then you could hardly wait until you recieved it. Then once you had it, you played with it all the time the first couple weeks, or maybe a month or longer. But at some point, you lost interest in it, and its not because it was a bad product. Another kid geared toward that type of hobbie or interest would be mentally stimulated enough to always find enjoyment in it. I too asked for things that I lost interest in after a while even though I was so excited in the beginning and thought it the best present I ever had. I learned that I was geared more towards the craft type of kits, painting by numbers, spirograph, any creative type of toy. So I wisely asked only for the things I knew would hold my interest.
Same for relationships. Some times, a person will not hold an interest for something or a person beyond a certain amount of time.
I believe you that you indeed do love her. The thing about one person confessing their deep feelings if the other doesn't feel as deeply, is that it will make the act of trying to remain friends, awkward for the one who doesnt feel the same. So she may feel awkward trying to spend with you as a friend when she knows the feelings you have for her have not changed. I have experienced that once. Many older people in college and older write in with the same situation. I can't tell you to stop feeling that way. You will probably always have a soft spot in your heart for your first love. And I also know that no one can see into the future and imagine anyone better or just as great as someone they lost to death or an unrequited love. But it can come later, after you grieve from the loss of her not feeling the same as you. Take your time, but if you try again in the future and she just doesn't feel that connection to you, then the best thing is to not harrass her or try to keep making something happen that won't ever scientifically or psychologically be able to occur.
One more thing people aren't always aware of cus we cant see, or hear, or taste with any of our senses is something called pheromones. If two peoples pheromones are quite similar or the same, it will be a strong lasting attraction. However if the pheremones differ too much, it will not be there or not last beyond the NRE. This is what people are talking about sometimes when they say there is no chemistry or they don't feel any chemistry with a person. After a divorce, I dated alot til I met my second husband. When I did not feel that connection to a guy, I let him know that I did not feel any chemistry, no matter how nice and wonderful a guy was. None of them remained just friends cus it was too awkward for them. I do have that chemistry with my 2nd husband. I thought I'd had that with the ex husband but realized I was mistaken at the time because what I have with hubby now is not comparable to what I thought was true lasting love with my first husband.
My wisdom teeth have not started coming out but i want to get them removed before im 18 (im 17 now). Is it possible to get them removed before they start growing in or do you have to wait? I know its not always nesssary to remove them but i want to
Yes, You can get them removed before they come in. Don't let anyone tell you it can't be done. It is more likely, that 'will the insurance (if any) cover it or not'.
I had a Dad who had wisdom teeth come up. I also have a small mouth and my regular adult teeth were crowded. I had one upper tooth not able to come straignt down as there was no room so it came out sideways in the roof of my mouth. It was this tooth I saw a Dr. about removing surgically. And since I was going in for that, I asked to have my wisdom teeth removed at the same time since I had a small mouth and knew it was highly likely since other family had the same problems as adults that it was a good idea.
I did not feel a thing as the Dr worked on me in case you wonder. They really do drug you up well and you will need someone to drive you home after as you can not drive while awake again but still under the influence of all the pain medication.
Having all removed at once, I swelled up, looking like a chipmonk or squirrel with its cheeks stuffed with nuts or something. And it was sore and tender and I had some bruises on my jaw where the Dr. had to grip hard to tug some out. But other than that, it should go okay.
I found out that lately, I started belching frequently, and I haven't been able to go to toilet like I do everyday, I also feel like vomiting. my stomach also tends to be big until I'm able to pass out poop... I have no idea what is wrong, i was told its constipation and i've been using Liver salt but it is not working. what can I do??
I knew a gal around 30, who was my boss when I was young and she ended up in emergency thinking she was having a heart attack and it ended up all she was is severely constipated. No one feels good if they can't eliminate on time and if the stomach has no room to take on more food cus its not passing through the digestive tract, its entirely possible to vomit food back up until the problem has been resolved. Belching also can't pass down and out as gas so it comes up as burps and belches.
You can search the internet for natural remedies to become regular again and get the back up to start flowing again. I would recommend not getting used to stool softeners to use as a habit because it will then be doing the work your body is meant to do naturally and will only compound your problem.
There are foods that can help. Although you may need to use something to help clear things just to begin and then keep using the food item that works best for you. I have not heard of liver salt.
So to start with, you must decide if you want something off the shelves of a pharmacy or from a natural supplement store. There are some laxatives by Natures Way and other brands. Just ask where the products for constipation are found and then decide. Or you can try something like ex-lax or Dulcolax. Many in the past I've tried were like like pieces of chocolate to chew and swallow. Then I have also tried Magnesium citrate, a lemon flavored liquid in a bottle for you to drink as a dose to get things moving. I found those pharmacy type helps to be too harsh for me, getting the opposite effect, eliminating all that was blocked inside and then continueing to have diaarhea conditions after. Every person is different. What I found works best for me now is to eat an entire avocado. I discovered that it is one of the foods highest in fiber, more than beans and other things on lists I looked at on line. So i tried it and it works for me. I also have to remember to drink enough liquids. If not hydrated enough, you can constipate no matter if you are eating pretty good. I don't eat avocado all the time, and don't make it in salads or make guacamole. I just peel and eat it as is if I have a day where I have not had even a small poop. SO its not something I have to do all the time. How ever, I am older and the older we get, constipation is something older people tend to get more often so I average take an avoado once a week even without any symptoms to keep me going regular. I just put in a search for "Foods that make you poop" and got lots of hits. You can do the same. Heres one of those sites:
https://greatist.com/eat/best-foods-constipation
Once you've gotten rid of the constipation with medicine or herbal remedies that help, experiment with foods. Keep a diary of what you have eaten especially if its something you can eat for a few days in a row and see if your poop changes from soft to harder and smaller like animal pellets. This is when you'll know the food item you are eating doesn't help your body eliminate. Go on to trying the next one. If nothing on one list works, go on to another list with more food idea choices. I wish you well dear.
About two weeks ago, I had a guy friend over, we made out but we didn't have sex.. We dry humped without clothes and he came on my private part.. I cleaned up and now, I feel uneasy.. I took d sugar pregnancy test, and it came out negative, I did the bleach pregnancy test and it fizzled and became normal with little foam on it.. I belch alot and have not been able to go to d toilet, my stomach has been kind of big cs of my inability to pass out poop.. I want to knw if I am pregnant cs I'm kinda scared.. and my period is not due till next week.
I was confused until I figured you used the wrong word. Here;s what dry humping is:
http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=dry%20humping
So if you took clothes off but had underwear on or bed sheet covering between the two of you, there is no way to be pregnant.
If there was nothing in the way, no cloth or clothing and bare skin on skin, then yes, there is a slight chance you could be pregnant if the right conditions prevailed. You'd have to have been fertile at the time, not been on any contraceptive, the sperm would have had to swim through any moisture on your outside genitalia to get inside quick enough to survive. And then any surviving swimmers would still have to make it to an egg that had been released and ready. Sperm survive for a while inside even if not yet ovulating. So you can ovulate a couple days later and a surviving sperm could still enter an egg, fetilizing it. If you try to check too early, and a fertilized egg had not yet reached the womb and attached itself to the inside of your womb, then the hormones a test looks for will not come up on tests, even though you may be carrying a fertilized egg. Also, until it does attach, you can take the Day after pill right away and that can help if you have a fertilized egg. Theres no way to know if you do, so taking Plan B pill is just a precaution. If there was any cloth between his penis and your vagina lips, then even if he came, sperm, small as they may be, will not be able to find their way through cloth and travel inside of the vagina where the conditions are right to survive. They die before reaching the vagina.
YOur belching and not being able to go #2, is due to your diet, not pregnancy
As stated in the title, I'm 24.
I was in and out of sleep this morning, my alarm had already gone off and I had hit snooze several times. Then I started dreaming and before I know it I was dreaming I was on the toilet, doing my business. Then I felt REAL wetness and woke up immediately to find myself actually peeing the bed! I was absolutely horrified and immediately pulled up the sheets and threw them in the washer.
Now I'm terrified this will happen again.
However, I also think it might be because last night I had three bowls of tuscan bean soup and 3/4 of a bottle of water before I went to sleep. I've never eaten more than two bowls, but I was being lazy and didn't want to store the rest or throw it away. I didn't go to the bathroom before bed so I might have doomed myself.
I also took four vitamins because I'd forgotten to take them earlier in the day. I'm not sure if any of them are a diuretic, but maybe it was the combination of everything?
Anyways, is this a pretty normal occurrence that happens to everybody at least once or do I have reason to be concerned?
Help?
I think that when connected to dreaming about needing to be and using a toilet in dreams, that its very possible to wet the bed. I have actually begun peeing the first couple drops when I wake from dreaming of seeking a toilet and using it. Usually in the dream, I will feel I have a full bladder and need to go badly. I don't recall having emptied my whole bladder in bed. I think my subconsious mind wakes me from the dream as soon as it senses I am releasing the muscles that hold the pee in. I wouldn't worry about this repeating any time soon unless you dream every night about going pee.
By the way, I haven't done this just once in life but I will guess at least a dozen times and I am in my late fifties. Once your subconscious mind is aware that the next time you feel like needing to dream of the bathroom, that its best to wake you up in time, it probably will. The subconscious mind is what runs things in the body while you are asleep and also what keeps track of anything in your surroundings changing so you can wake if something is wrong.
To explain, heres a true story. My husbands daughter came to visit us one weekend and we had only one bed so when he woke in the morning, she said she'd slept bad on the couch so he said since he was up she should just go crawl into his side of the bed. I was unaware, being asleep thru this. My husband has long hair while his daughter has short hair and he is hairy. In my sleep, without consciously being aware, my hand reached out to touch his upperback, shoulders, or hair. The next thing I knew is waking in a panick with the only thought in my head that something was wrong because the shoulder was hairless and the head hair was short. My subconscious mind woke me because what I knew to be normal and to expect, even in my sleep, was different. So just talk to your subconsious as if it was another person inside you and tell it to wake you up the next time you need to pee while sleeping and to wake you before you get to the point of dreaming of sitting on a toilet.
Hey,
Right, truly sorry it's long. I caught him looking at me while he we were in our project, asked him what's he looking at, he said he likes looking at me, I said stop looking at me like that otherwise you're going to fall in love with me, he slightly smiled and asked me would you like me to fall in love with you (about 4 times, oh my god, I was so blushed I covered my face when he asked me back), I said no, not in this life, maybe next life as we both have gf and bf, you can't fall in love with me, he said who says so, I could be, I could fall in love with you, I said no not in this life, he asked me back are you going to be my lover then with a smile, I said no, I've always been a gf. told him I'm embarrassed you saying we could be lovers, he's like come on, we both are adults. also I'm going away for 2 weeks and he was like where you going (few times) I said why, he said because we're good friends. we're friends. we get on well with banter and tease. guys, what's he saying ? Is he testing me or actually likes me? or am I dwelling too much? I like him though and I think at some stage he knows that. please help!!! thanks
You need to understand that the really good guys do not tease and pretend when they say such things, just to get in a girls pants. A player might. But to be honest, all males are going to be interested in having sex eventually with a girl they are very interested in. If a guy was not interested, he would not say the things he did which are open and encouraging. All he is waiting now for is some positive response from you.
Yes it is entirely possible to be dating someone or engaged or married to someone and not entirely happy with them and knowing its not the best fit but willing to settle for less, for the time being unless someone more suited for you comes along. With marriage, people are more willing to try to work things out. But a person shouldn't change who they are to be perfect for someone.
So what matters is how you feel about your current boyfriend and what he thinks of his current girlfriend. If the current partners for either of you are just 'place holders', then both of you could do better. But both of you would have to be willing to break up in order to be available again. Don't put off a break up simply because you are afraid of the bf being hurt. Everyone feels hurt in a break up. You need to make your decision because of who is the better fit as a partner for you. It might be that your male friend will not consider breaking things off with his current gf, until you have given him some positive feedback, input that can not be mistaken, so he is sure of how you feel before he makes that approach. SO unless he is a guy who is unfaithful and plays around all the time with females, his saying he might. I just answered another question quite differently of someone going away for 2 weeks. But that question did not have all this info. so in case that was you, ignore my other answer. Here I have what i need to know for sure my answer has to be different. Guys do not continue to look at females even to the point of staring if they are not interested in them as more than friends. A male with female friends who has a sweetheart already will most likely enough looking at her more than any other female he finds cute or beautiful. Males like looking at females, they are wired that way. Theres nothing wrong with it. You enough looking at breathtaking vista's as you are on vacation traveling, right? Who doesn't enjoy looking at something they find beautiful. That alone isn't enough to mean they are also seeking more than just enjoying the sight. However, his answers to you show he'd be open to at least trying dating to see if you both get along well. If he wasn't willing, he would not have encouraged you with what he said. You reveal that you like him. Good. Do you want to find out if you can grow from liking him to loving him and discovering if he would make the perfect person to settle down with for life, either with or without a marriage certificate? If you are willing, say the following to find out where he stands.
You have said you could possibly fall in love with me. I like you well enough and realize that it is possible I might too. But I'd need to know for sure. So since we get on well as friends, what do you say to us breaking off with our current bf/gf's and start dating to check if its possible.
Theres different kinds of dating. Dating is a way to discover more about an individual to find if theres enough in common and you could enjoy each others company and fall in love with who they are, or whether there are behaviors not good for you or detrimental to a healthy relationship. Then there's those who date because they are just starting to check out a person and believe they have made a commit to them with only accepting an invite to a couple dates. That is not a commitment though it seems lots of females today seem to think it is. And then they are disappointed when a guy breaks up. Dating should be mainly a investigative period of time of seeing each other, and this can and probably should include how well one gets along sexually unless they have religious beliefs that go against that. I know you may still have some feelings for the current bf, but it may not be strong enough to sustain a long term relationship for, well . . . long term. That fact that this all is important enough for you to write to ask for advice reveals that even if not consciously, at least subconsciously this is important to you to find out because there is enough curiousity and interest to want to know for sure. You don't want to make a mistake and go with the wrong guy for life. I do know that if you ignored this and married someone else and had kids with them, that sometime in the future it will begin to bother you, always wondering if perhaps your 'okay' marriage could have been more like an exceptionally wonderful marriage if you had just tried dating him and seeing where it led.
Let me also tell you more about investigative dating as I will call it, men mostly do this but females do sometimes. After a divorce, I did. But you have to be up front with any guys you want to go out with, hang out with, date, to learn more about. Surprisingly, until a real commitment is made on both parts, males are really okay with knowing you are going to be go out with different guys until you are sure you have found the right one. I told guys that I was seriously looking for a long term partner if not a 2nd husband. I told them I would be dating other guys as well as the same time as they came across my life. No one had a problem with that. When I met the right guy, to whom I am now married, there was no wondering if he was good enough, he made ALL the other males pale in comparison. I knew he was special from the first couple phone calls before we met in person.
In this case, its up to you whether you want to break off or do something to have a situation in which you actually date him to discover if he's right for you and if theres a chance to fall in love. Theres those who say they love a person and those who say they are in love. The deeper love is the 'in love' situation. People love lots of things, and it can mean just a preferance at the time for , without any real deep down commitment. Had that 1st time with my ex. Said he loved me but treated me like shit. Then at end of marriage, in talking to a counselor, he finally admitting after avoiding answering the question, "Are you in love with your wife," says that he loves me as the mother of his children but is not in love with me. That answered a lot of questions in how he treated me. And I left him and we divorced. He seems to already know some of what I am telling you. HE's positive that something might come from the two of you dating but you seem to think that is not possible in this lifetime. Dont know how you got that idea but that is not true. It is possible. But you both need to be ready to end the other relationships and date each other. Or, if you know your current bf is the one you want to grow old with, then don't do anything to encourage the male friend. He's interested in checking you out more...so let him know one way or the other. Something like, my bf and I are in love and committed to each other. SO I am truly not looking. Or, "I like my boyfriend a lot, but not entirely sure there is someone maybe more perfect for me to be with and grow old with together. So, if you still feel like seriously exploring if we can go beyond friendship and become a couple in love, then I am willing to break up with my bf, if you are willing to break up with your girl friend, as I do not wish to date someone who has another girl thinking he is committed to her. Commitment is not choosing one and then choosing another to add into your life while still seeing another."
I am sure he will either let you know right then if he is serious or was just flirting for fun but not serious. The last thing a guy wants is a girl believing his non serious flirting was taken for real interest so that she is now pursuing him in earnest.
Hello,
Ok here's my story, please be honest because I'm thinking of asking if he likes me for real or just friends. He's kind and good friend of mine. Never says no when I asked for his help. Few months ago we went out for a few drinks only for a decent few hours but we always have lunch together when we are at the college. Get on well. Tease and joke back and forth. Anyways, the other day, I asked him if he could help me with my project again and he was ever so willing said,' by all means, you know I'd do anything for you, anything'. However, recently we're in his car as he was dropping me off and I asked him for a few favours, he was like of course, you should know I'd do anything for you. Same phrase only few times recently. So, what do you reckon?? Could this mean anything or nothing at all? I do fancy him but I'm so scared to ask him. Sorry guys, it's long. Appreciate all the input.
My first impression is that some one raised him right. It's hard to find males who would be willing to help a female with anything, even if asked. I usually see this more often in the older males rather than the younger ones. It could be that he's into you and thats why he'd do anything for you. But a real telling of his character is if he'd do the same for any female close to him like his mom, a sister or female cousin, aunt. It's even more telling if he'd offer his assistance to a female not as close like a neighbor who truly needed help. I remember the time my husband helped the neighbor lady put her clothesline back up so she could hang laundry to dry. She didn't even ask, he just saw the need.
Since you have been friends already for a year, a good way to find out how he feels, just friend or with romantic feelings too, is to ask in a way that you do not reveal how you feel but gives him a choice to either say he has only friend feelings or to grab at the chance and start dating you. This guy already likes you alot simply because males need to feel needed by females and so asking for their help is a big thing to them. Since you've asked for help before, that caught his attention. He could very well be interested but heres what to say to find out for sure with out risking losing the friendship.
"I was just thinking that we get along well as mates, so I am curious, wondering how we would get along as 'more than friends'. What to you think?
That last part is important. You need to ask his opinion. Since the question is about checking to see if you could be romantic together, he will quickly let you know if he doesn't feel that way at all. If you say you already fancy him as more than a friends, the stronger feelings could scare him. Guys are afraid of having to deal with an upset crying female if he has to tell her that the love isn't felt in return. SO leaving that out will make it easier for him to say yea or nay.
Hi,
We've been friends for a year. Good lad. Anyways, when we saw each other last week in the class, I said I'm going away for 2 weeks so probably won't see you for awhile and his face I noticed looked sad (but not obvious mad sad), asked me back Oh no I won't see you for a weeks, told him jokingly yes you're going to miss me until it makes you cry. He just gave me that look, like anticipated look. We do have a laugh and lightly flirt. Cheers for the input.
Unless you have anything serious like consistant body language that shows he is interested in you as more than a friend, and something more serious than flirting just for fun, then I'd say he is simply going to miss you being around, even if for only two weeks. Now if in a normal 2 week periond you only see each other once or twice, then I wouldn't think that he would miss you so badly cus obviously he has a full busy schedule. More likely than not, you are over-thinking this and he was just being polite as a friend and his comment was to let you know that you will be missed. who doesn't want to be missed by friends and family and anyone special who is close enough that you enjoy being with them and them with you. Don't tell me that your girlfriends who know you will be gone haven't said they will miss you while you are gone . . . unless they are all going with you.