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Hi, I take dance class and I'm in the marching band. And I have dance tonight and I'm also supposed to play at graduation. Dance is from 5-8 and graduation is from 6-whenever. So I can't do both. But I have to, lol. For dance, my show is June 17, and I just got new pointe shoes, and I need to go to dance as much as possible to break them in, in time for the show. But I have to go to band, too, because we're turning in our uniforms afterwards. And plus, my band director gets really mad if you don't go to these kinds of things, except if it's an emergency or something (ex. having surgery, family death, etc.) So I don't know what to do! I'd rather go to dance if that helps. I was thinking about asking my mom or dad to drop off my uniform after graduation and telling my band director I was sick. Oh, and if I miss a dance class, I have to make it up, and I HATE making up classes. So what should I do? Please help.
x3 Erin
Go to the band thing because by signing up for band you made a dedication to it, like any other sports team. you can make up a practice but you can't make-up a graduation. Good luucck!
how exactly do you wash your face like i have this soap kind... n i use pads n water of course to put it on my face but are u supposed to put water on to wash the soap off after or keep the soap on?
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yeah i went to our softball/baseball fields for the WHOLE day today and i have the worst fricken sunburn on my most sensitive shoulder right now and I DONT KNOW WHAT TO DO! it hurts WICKED bad! is there anything else to put on it besides aloe or burn cream because that isnt doin much right now! ANSWER ASAP! thx!
There's this stuff called Noxema i think? I bought it at the beach when I went there last year. It's like a lotion sort of and it soothes the burn!
I got over somebody perhaps two weeks ago and decided to move on with my life. Moving on materialized in a new matter with a friend of a friend, and we started going out. At the same time everything else in my life has been going awry, and I don't feel attracted to this person anymore. I'm extremely confused right now, but if I break up with him I'll hurt his feelings and since he's part of the circle, my friends will make me feel bad about it forever. I'm beginning to think I have no sexuality at all, and he wants to do so much stuff. I just feel like getting away from him, not that I don't like him as a person. His attempts at romance only succeed in making me sick to my stomach with self disrespect.
I just want things to be the way they were. I don't want the status of having a bf, or being in a relationship. I cannot act all happy when everything else in my life is falling down around me.
I am so malcontent.
Uhhh I don't get it. What's your question?
Basically, here's the deal. Long and complicated, unfortunately -- and if it matters, I'm 18 and F.
* My two best friends, who I'll call A and B, have been fighting for years. After some stuff went on with B's mom, who A's always hated, B decided she had enough and broke off the friendship.
* I've told them both that, even if they stopped being friends, I was going to stay friends with both of them. A, however, will not have any of it. Every time we talk, she has to tell me that B will end up stabbing me in the back and isn't my real friend (not to mention she hates all of our mutual friends). B, for the record, doesn't understand why I'm still friends with A, but is okay with it.
* This has made my friendships with both of them pretty crappy. I've stopped hanging out with B so much just to shut A up, even though B and I are really close. This isn't enough for A, she wants me to hate B as much as she does, and it's about to drive me nuts.
* They can't make up, because A still wants to be friends with B (god knows why if she hates her so much) -- either that or she wants B to admit she's ruined A's life (which isn't true, IMHO). B doesn't want to be friends, and she doesn't want to apologize for everything A's accusing her of (some of it's true, most of it isn't).
* A takes all of this out on me and doesn't seem to care how I feel about it. This really pisses me off, and I've told her and tried to explain myself a zillion times, but it never seems to work.
So, I'm at my wit's end, and I have no idea what to do about any of this anymore. Anyone got an idea?
Just go up to A and say that You're friends with B and if she doesn't like it then that's it. But that you really love being friends with her but you're friends with B as well! Hope I helped~! Oorrr you could try to pull a 7th heaven thing and make them be friends again.. neways gooodd luucckk!
I am in 7th grade and I am in level math... Next year I am skipping Pre-Algebra and taking Algebra.. can any1 give me any expectations or any math tips? Thanks a bunch!
It's not hard, I guess just do your homework and ask questions if you don't get something! good luck!
hi...i really need help. i am on a dance team and they told me that i had to lose weight. this was about a year and a half ago. right when they told me that i had to lose weight to stay on the team i started getting ideas that i was too fat. and now i think im fatter than fat. so during that i year i decided to skip a meal to see if that would help but then i started to skip 2 meals and now im not eating at all. my best friend keeps saying that im anorexic but i dont want to believe it and i dont think its true. either way i am really scared because im losing weight really fast and all but i dont want to lose it this way and im scared that im going to die or something. i dont want to tell my parents so i dont scare them so what do i do......PLeASE HELP ASAP!!!!!!!!!!!!
I watched a movie on bulimics in health last week, and even though that was a little different...but neways, You Have to tell ur parents. Or another adult that you trust. You might scare them but you really need to. What I really recomend is telling your parents and then look for a counselor either at school or somewhere else that can help. There's people that specialize in helping you. Or, you could just start eating. To lose weight you could eat better and work out about 3-4 times a week- or go for a jog everyday. But do something to help yourself!
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I like this guy and we are already friends. I don't have many classes with him but I sit right behind him in the one class we do have. He always turns aroud at me and tries to make me laugh. I told one of my friends who hasn't told anyone. He's really cute but i don't want to tell him. It might ruin our friendship and i don't want anything like that to happen. I just really like him. Help, i'll rate low if you tell me to tell him because that won't get me anywhere
Well, umm i read in a YM magazine that you should just like slip it in there. Be talking about something and just say "I like you." It can be after he makes a joke and while ur laughing. Now, this is what it said, but I've never tried it. So MY advice is to wait it out until you think he might be interested. I guess "flirt" with him and maybe he'll get the message. Good Luck!
june 2004 my cousin died from a mistake a police officer made. i cant seem to get over his death and i dont know who to talk to. i still cry all the time over him, and i htink about him a lot too. the rest of my family has moves on it seems, and they dont like to talk about him. if u have been in this situation... or one like it please shre advice. thanks
Honestly, it's hard for me to relate. But I'll try to help! I'm sure the rest of your family still thinks about him also, it's really hard when yu lose someone you love. I recomend talking to your mom, because in my exerience mothers are good with just letting you cry. Sometimes it's just good to cry with someone. Try it, when you're mom is alone one day and the moment is right just kinda go in there and talk about it. I really hope i helped!
Okay well there was this guy I use to like. He was nice and cute ect.. well I was sick one day at school and my best friend (his ex) was like "will you go out with Casia?? she likes you alot" and he was like i dont know.. then she was like "please!! for me?" and he was like sure. When she told me that I was like wow I go out with him?!? then I was like wait.. for you??? I dont want to go out with him because hes only doing it for her.. am I doing the right thing??
haha yeah I agree with lollypopgurl769
Hey, well i live with my mom and my sister. { My mom & dad seperated when i was 5, now im 13 }. My mom has been qettinq me so mad lately, and it qets me so mad because ive been really depressed lately, and she just makes everythinq worse. Well i miqht have a chance to move in with my dad, which he lives like um 15 minutes away { same state, same school district }, but the only problem is, the high school i want to go to is the school i would go to where i live right now, but if i moved in with my dad, i would have to go to a different high school, and he wouldnt let me choice! what do you think i should do? Sorry if this is a little confusinqq!
He wouldn't let you choice? Confusinqq? Your mom probably doesn't make everything worse. Your just being an annoying teenager. But if you still think she is then you have to move with your dad and go to a different high school. It's your choice, no one can make it for you.
tommorow at school we'll have to do a run for 12 minutes and i have a soar throat. if i run for that amount of time my throat will taste like blood and i dunwant to make it worse so what can i do to fix my soar throat?
If it's that bad then you're sick. Go to a doctor.
my friends are always asking me to do stuff but not together like they all want me to do something with them sepratley. i never no witch one to choose i just want to hang out with all of them but they kinda don't get along wat do i do?
Hang out with them at different times? It's not that big of a deal. Whoever asks you first go with them. If the other calls then just explain to them the situation. You could even invite them to come along.
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I am 16/f and my boyfriedn and I are planning to get married when I am 18, My bf is 21, but my mother said she wont except this marriage as i am too young and have to finish my education first. I dont want to hurt my mother as she is very upset. But i am absolutely in love with my bf and so is he. We are totally sure about this marriage. What should I do?
Why can't you wait? If you guys are ment to be together then you should be able to wait. Your mom is totally right on this one. You are to young. There's so many divorces now and days. If he does leave you then where will you go? You can't get a good job w.o a college education. Have you guys discussed kids, work and do you agree on everything? Even if you do still wait. You could move in together and just wait to actually be married when you're out of college. Please wait!
Yesterday I saw my friend smoking, so today I hoped to stop her from getting addicted or doing it again. I asked her if she tried smoking yesterday (rumours were going round she had too) and she acted as if it was a joke, said no and kept trying to change the conversation. I know she has told other friends. However, she does know I am strongly against smoking and she has in the past told me that she was too. How will I get her to terms with what she has done and stop her from ever doing it again? She seems to ruin her life at any opportunity- in the past she has been a cutter, anorexic and bullimic. Please help!
Holy crap she's 12? Geez. All you can do is keep asking her about it. Tell her you can tell her anything and you won't get mad. If she admits it- don't get mad. Just ask her why and tell her you really care about her and smoking could hurt her in the long run- especially at starting it when she's so young. Good luck!
My friend, Angel, never liked my boyfriend, Wyatt. Wyatt is my best friend, even now that we broke up. Now Angel won't let me have anything to do with Wyatt because we aren't going out. Angel tells Wyatt to get lost because i don't like him, which isn't true. They're both good friends. What should I do?
Ask Angel what's up. When you guys are alone just say "How come you don't want me hanging out with Wyatt?" But say it very caring..ly. Good lucK!
I liked my friend's brother, we'll call her Sally, and him Fred. Well..Sally didn't like it too much. But Fred introduced me to his cousin, we'll call him Kevin. And now me and Kevin date, and Sally is mad at me..What the heck?!?! What do I do???
-Incapable of Pleasing people.
You may have wanted to talk to her before you dated her cousin. But talk to her now and ask her why it's bothering her. Make sure you say you're sorry!
i hate my life so much, all my mother cares about is my sister and i hate them both so much. she always gets her way and shes so perfect and were only a year apart. they both drive me crazy. and theres this boy in my school who i really like, im like in love with him and hes in all my classes except 1 so i always see him and he doesnt like me and he saids he has a semi girlfriend in hamden, and i just cant take this anymore. everyone i love doesnt love me. i feel like no one cares and im alone... i really dont care about my mom or sister all i want is him
Go see your counselor. Talk this out, you might be going through depression. But think of ur friends, they love you!
my friend and his band are performing and i was invited to go. i told my friend i liked him and i was wondering should i do anything special for the concert. any suggestions of what i should do?!
I don't really think you should. Just look the best you can and be there. You can show him you like him in different ways. Good luck!
I'm not a person that opens up to people usually. There is an acquaintance that I've had in my life for over 6 years that recently started becoming my best friend. We would spend every waking hour together for about 6 months. It was so great. She did get annoying sometimes, but that happens with all consistancy I believe. She had two good friends before her and I really became good friends.
Here's a little background about us. She is more into the fashion scene, while I'm more into the music scene. Somewhere we meet in the middle. I usually dislike people who are into fashion and showing themselves. But she is different. She has some kind of hippy-like quality inside her.
One of her friends was moving, so she moved in with that girl for about a month, to help her packup. We almost didn't talk at all after constantly being together for 6 months. After a month had gone by, she said she was going to drive across the country with them and help them unpack. After about 2 weeks of that, she decided to move in with them 3,000 miles away.
[[Her reason is to get away from her parents and grow up. But she's moving in with people that are 2 years younger than her and way too wild to let her mature into an adult and not a partying adolescent wanna-be adult]]
I'm moving into the country soon, so my chances of making new friends are going to be even more slim. Her family is moving about 5 minutes away from me though. She's leaving behind her childhood friend and myself to follow dreams I know she is still too immature to accomplish.
She has come back for a month to get her stuff and say goodbye. Should I release her back to the fashion-hungered, immature group that she was in before? ... Or do I fight to keep her here and keep the best friend that I came to know and love?
You can only do so much. She has to go out and make her own mistakes. But you can still try. Sit down and talk to her. Basically tell her what you wrote ^. good luck!