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Friend smoking..but she denies it!
Yesterday I saw my friend smoking, so today I hoped to stop her from getting addicted or doing it again. I asked her if she tried smoking yesterday (rumours were going round she had too) and she acted as if it was a joke, said no and kept trying to change the conversation. I know she has told other friends. However, she does know I am strongly against smoking and she has in the past told me that she was too. How will I get her to terms with what she has done and stop her from ever doing it again? She seems to ruin her life at any opportunity- in the past she has been a cutter, anorexic and bullimic. Please help!
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As a smoker myself (definately not a t 12, though), I must say, I wish that I didn't smoke! Let her know that it is very unattractive! Many guys are turned off by smokers, especially as you get older. Also, the longer you smoke, the harder it is to quite! I quit for almost a year (when I found out I was pregnant I stopped right away), but when I went back to work after having him, I started again. Tell her you care about her and she only making her life shorter by smoking. Don't give up on her, though, that's the worst thing to do!!
Bridgett
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Let her know how much you care for her and instead of hurting herself to come and talk to you. Compliment her to raise her confidence. Search google and find a page of all the diseases smoking leads to. Try to convince her how horrible it is with some facts.
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Holy crap she's 12? Geez. All you can do is keep asking her about it. Tell her you can tell her anything and you won't get mad. If she admits it- don't get mad. Just ask her why and tell her you really care about her and smoking could hurt her in the long run- especially at starting it when she's so young. Good luck!
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well in the past since sheve done those things, i think shes just trying to find some ways out of things, she probably thinks that her life is terrible, which its not i bet, i just think its a fase that girls go thru, smoking and stuff like that, once they get older they will realize how immature doing that kind of stuff is, so just talk to her about it, if she denys it again, dont bring it up, dont get mad at her, just talk to her about how you dissaprove smoking and your point of view on things, xox
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If she really just tried it that once, she's not likely to be addicted. She may be lying to you about it just because she's embarrassed that she did it at all. I would just keep an eye on her because, if that's the case, she probably won't do it again. In the end, you really can't keep her from doing something - she'll have to do it for herself - unless you want to try bringing her parents into it.
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ok i have had a friend just like that and i told her that i wouldnt be mad if she just told me the truth so try convinceing her that you wont be mad but you really wanna know and just tell her that smoking and cutting doesnt help.
please take any advice you can get but please remeber your friend needs you
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My friend was/is like that. She is copping..sort of anyways.. I would just talk to her and make her relize how much you want her to stop. I actually gave up hope for this on my friend. I spent a year and half on it. Nothing i got out of it. You just need to tell her how you feel about it. And I told my friend if you love and respect me you wont smoke around me. And s/he doesnt. So you just need to set boundaries and talk to her but before you do bring any of this just really positively make sure she is smoking. ANd just be like i need to talk to you and i need the blunt truth. I heard you were smoking now before you say anything i want you to know i care and i dont want antyhing to happaned to you-trix
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Well, if you see her smoking again you could tell her you saw her and what not. Or even confront her about lieing as well. However you can't stop her from doing anything. She has free will to do what she wants. And she may have her own reasoning for past actions right along with her current ones. All you can do is express how you feel. Hope this helps.
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Alright, here we go. If you see that your friend is smoking again, I would confront her about it later, actually telling her that you saw her. If you wish you may want to tell her that it hurt you that she lied to you about it in the past. However, you cannot make someone stop doing something. It is alright for you to voice your concern for her and let her know that you think what she is doing is wrong, but constantly telling her this will drive her away. She has to be willing in order to actually change.
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