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I love helping people out when they are down in a bad situation or are even just upset and need someone there to talk to or to listen. I can help out with anything you need, no matter what it is, and even if I can't help out good with the situation I will still be there to listen or atleast try to help out. I am also very open and nonjudgemental so feel free to tell me or ask me anything you need.
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Hi my name is Michael and my best friend has been hitting on my girlfriend (who i love more then life it self) I need to know what to do cause my friend(ben) wont stop hitting on her and he knows that i'm dating her and she dosent let him touch her but he cant take a hint can you help me out Julie.
Hey Michael, situations like that are extremely hard to deal with. What I would do is confront him and let him know how you feel and whats up ya know even if its just like hey Ben your my best friend and I love my girlfriend why are you doing this. The only way he will know how you feel is if you are honest with him. Then if he decides not to listen to you then hes not as good a friend as he says. Well good luck!! If you need anything else feel free to drop me a msg.
What if you think your falling for your best friend and its not a guy and you know she BI do u tell her how you feel? or what Help i kno this sounds gay but please help!!
Well if you think you like her then yes you should tell her. With her being bi she will be sure to understand. Whether people think its right or wrong is their problem you're not supposed to help who you like. So if you like her you do so I say tell her and possibly you will find the person you are meant to be with. GOOD LUCK!!
Do you think its wrong for a tenth grader to like a seventh grader even if the seventh grader is supposed to be in eighth grade? Im a female tenth grader and theres this male seventh grader thats hella kewl....what do you think?
I don't think there is anything wrong with that at all. You aren't supposed to help who you like. So go for it. GOOD LUCK!!
I broke up with my BF at this dance we have in my city...this was only because he was dancing with other girls....(girl) and I was jealous, so I broke up with him, but I have been walking with him and I really really like him a LOTTT!!!!!!!!
what should I do???
If you tell him that you want to sit down and talk. If just the two of you do and you confront him about your jealousy maybe you can work things out and get back together. GOOD LUCK!!
Hey! As you all probably know, Valentines day Is coming soon! And I need to Know what to get my boyfriend he's 16, but he'll be 17 in April. So I would just like some of your ideas. We have been together over a year. I had alot of good ideas but I got his a lot of the stuff for our One Year Anniversary! So If I could have some good Ideas that would be great. And If you are a guy who has gotten something that you really like from a girl- tell me! Or if you are a girl who has gotten something for a guy that he really liked! thansk so much!
I'll Rate 4 or 5!
:)
God Bless You!
*KeLsA*
Hey kelsa, one thing I have done in the past for my boyfriend for valentines day was: a card, bear of some-sort, and just a little treat like candy or chocolate. He liked it a lot. I hope this gives you an idea, I know its classic but it works. GOOD LUCK!! (or even a single red rose is always meaningful)
ok well my name is ashlee.. and im in the big junior high my first year and it sucks beacuase there are so much gossip and yesterday i was tied down with a bigg roomer..and i skipped school today i know it sounds weird but i did bc i like lost all my friends yesterday bc this boy named alex wrote a note saying i said bad stuff bout my 2 so called best friends..maddy and sonisha and its gotten worse and we were all suppose to go to the movies today and im just feelin rele bad.. AND I DIDNT DO ANYTHING and i swore up and down i didnt it sucks i dont know what to do..bc i have like no friends cause they're all believeing sonisha and maddy and alex..i need some help on what to do i mean im crying cause of this=( and i skipped school today cause of this... i need some help please help me=(
signed..lonesome child
If your 'so call best friends' won't trust you then they aren't your best friends and they aren't worth the time. You will find friends that trust you. Maybe if you talk to someone about it you will feel better. Kids in junior high are mean, they spread rumors for their pleasure whether it hurts others or not. But it will pass by just give it a little time.
Yesterday I saw my friend smoking, so today I hoped to stop her from getting addicted or doing it again. I asked her if she tried smoking yesterday (rumours were going round she had too) and she acted as if it was a joke, said no and kept trying to change the conversation. I know she has told other friends. However, she does know I am strongly against smoking and she has in the past told me that she was too. How will I get her to terms with what she has done and stop her from ever doing it again? She seems to ruin her life at any opportunity- in the past she has been a cutter, anorexic and bullimic. Please help!
Well, if you see her smoking again you could tell her you saw her and what not. Or even confront her about lieing as well. However you can't stop her from doing anything. She has free will to do what she wants. And she may have her own reasoning for past actions right along with her current ones. All you can do is express how you feel. Hope this helps.
well with valentines day coming up i was soo confused on what to get muh boyfriend of 2 months. and i was thinking about doing this for him but i don't know if its stupid soo im asking you ppl for input! ok well here... at the beginning of the day im gonna go to his locker and hang out with him and act really bored! and then when i see him at the end of the day im gonna tell him that i really need to talk to him and its important and just to call me when he gets home. and im gonna hand him a note and that he has to read it when he gets home! and the note is going to be about how much i really do love him and care about him... does that sound like an ok thing to do for valentines day? and for the guys tell me what you would do if ur gf did this for you! thanks bunches
I think that sounds like an adorable idea. I think he will like it. GOOD LUCK!!
i was really good friends with this sophomore named ryan (im a freshman) and we have started talking since the summer. the guy im dating now (kyle) and my friend ryan are best friends. well at least they were. ever since me and kyle have been dating ryan's been a real dick to kyle and telling him that i've been cheating on him n im using (and IM NOT). and ryan keeps telling me that he loves me and that he really cares about me. and just recently he told me that he really likes me. is this just an act of jealousy or does he just want me to go out with him?
Honestly it could be either. He could be jealous that his best friend is dating someone and hes not. Or he could actually love you and want to be with you. The only real way to find out the truth would be to confront him and ask him what it is. GOOD LUCK!!
I invited a friend to come with me on April vacation and my other friend is meeting me there with her fam! but now all our other friends are pissed! and talking behind my back and stuff calling me not their friend! What do i do?! I didnt mean to hurt ANYONES feelings!! i just chose my best friend to go with me.
If your friends are going to get angry and jealous that you brought your best friend, than how good of friends could they actually be themselves? Friends don't do that to each other. So maybe you should tell them how you feel and what not and maybe it will work out. If not than they are missing out on a good friend. GOOD LUCK!!
I'm 17 yrs old and me and my girlfriend have been together for 7 months and i love her alot. i've been pouring out my feelings to her, tellin her how much i love her n everything, but i dont feel like she feels the same way.. what do i do? i dont wanna dump her cuz i love her alot..
The only way to find the answer to that question is to sit down with her and ask her. If you talk to her and tell her how you feel than it should at least answer your question or give you some closure to those feelings. and who knows maybe she does love you back but is just scared because it could be a first love for her. Just let her know you love her and that no matter what you always will. GOOD LUCK!!
heyy! i wentout this this guy who was basicly my 1st real boyfriend..we broke up about a year ago, but though crushes and boyfriends have come and gone since then, i cant keep him off my mind! is it just a "1st love" kinda thing? i need help!
With him being your first 'real' boyfriend it probably just is the 'first love' kind of thing whether it was even love or not. Your first will always remain there, that doesn't mean that you will always have feelings for him. It does take time to move on, but it will happen.
isit true that girls that dont grow up with any type of male figure in their life wil often cling to a possible male figure that pays alittle attention to them ?
srry if it doesnt make sence..
It can be true, it does vary between people. But many girls do look for that male figure, sometimes because they feel abandoned or feel that it will fill a hole in their life.
Ok, I'm not entirely sure if this is the right category, but yeah. So I was sitting with my Girl on the porch, and she was kinda Lying kinda sitting on me, with her back toward me, and I had my arm around her, and she grabbed my arm and put it down her top onto her breast, (This is while I was nibbling on her ear... I'm 17 and not really skilled in this area.. What am I supposed to do?
I think she is trying to signal to you that she is ready to move the relationship along, and go to the next level. If you are ready for this I say go for it. But if your not, you should say something before you do something you are not ready for. Or maybe even talk to her if you are ready to see what her intentions are. Hopefully this helps, if theres anything else feel free to drop me a msg on IM or in my inbox. GOOD LUCK!!
im a 13/f and no one likes me everyone spreads rumors ant talks about me all of my friends r backstabing bitches!! sometimes on the i sit alone and the highschool people r mean everytime i go to school one person or the other talks about me what should i do??????
I RATE 5'S for evert answer that doesnt piss me off!!!
Thanks
Hey, if your 'friends' are treating you badly and are being backstabbing, then they aren't your friends. People who run their mouths do it because they are either immature or jealous usually, so let them because you know the truth. Just be yourself don't let other people form you, I am sure you can find better friends than that. and those kids running their mouths just don't know what they are missing out on!! if you need anything else, feel free to drop me a msg on im or in my inbox. GOOD LUCK!!
Hello. Im asking advice today for a stupid little problem i have, but im not sure if there is any way i could control it. If im in school, or with my friends, or whatever (by the way im 14), when they mention "mom" or "dad", or "family", my eyes start to water and i just about cry. Not the "WAA-WAA" kind, it is just the red face, tears coming down and stuff, no squeaking or any of that crazy stuff. I cant say anything about parents or anything. When i talk about my family when someone asks, my voice gets shaky and i choke, and it makes me very uncomfortable because crying in front of the class isnt really a fun interest. I cry because my family has...problems. I just feel like i want either them or me to die. I feel like i hate them so much. Its not some "im mad at them because they took away my cell phone" kind of thing. Its more of a love issue. Im seeing a therapist but that is not working, she's not changing them. Well, in a nutshell, whenever someone talks about their parents, and when i talk about mine, i cry. Umm, i hope someone can help me with this, if its possible. Thank you.
hey sweetie, family problems are hard to deal with. And its hard to help you without any detail to the problems...so IM me or drop me a msg in my inbox I would love to help you out.
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i'm fourteen in the eighth grade and he's a year older we met when i was going into sixth grade and he was going into seventh i rem. my friend wanted to go out with him and i thought he was ugly but after she dumped him i started to think he was cute so then i had a friend ask him out for me **cuz i was still immature girl** and so he said yes and we went out for about a month we broke up for a couple weeks went out for two broke up went back and so on and so fourth all together i'd say we went out about 7 times and now that i got my head on straight and were not going out anymore i realize how badly i miss him and i really wanna go out again i feel he's perfect for me we pretty much like a lot of the same things i told him i regret breaking up with him and if he'd give me another chance i would be more a girl friend instead of a friend whose a girl i'm just not sure how to get him to understand how much i Love HIM WHAT SHOULD I DO
In order to get him to understand is to sit down and talk with him face to face. Try to explain to him to the best of your ability that you love him and how much you love him, you can't really prepare for that part of the conversation. well I hope this helps if you need anything more in depth drop me a msg on IM or my inbox.
or maybe me just typing this all out will help me come to a conclusion of some sort..well here i go.......About 12 months ago I was going out with my bf at the time who i had been going on and off with for about 9 mths..but i never go to see him much like 3 times a month becuase he lived farther away..but the time we spent was fun yet our relationship was mostly physical(no sex tho) Anyway i wasnt happy and I cheated on him a couple times becuase i was so unhappy i needed sumone to be there with me more..So i desperately was looking for a reason to dump him besides the lame I need sumone i can see more thing...Anywho meanwhile this chad who i was good friends with and had been hanging out with and such had an older brother that i never really had met before until one day i was over to his house and heard crying...his brother jake and his gf of 2 years had broken up for good and he was a wreck..it was the first relationship he had been in and they even lived together for a while and the whole 9 yards...anyway I am a very sympathetic person and I tried to help him out..and I told him my problem of never seeing my bf and how i wanted sumone more sensitive and etc..well Jake and I started talking more and being I was friends with his brother I was over to the house alot...anyway to cut to the chase jake and i after 1 month of totally crushing on each other and late night calls and stuff he shly asked me out ( i was soo happy! this was my reason to dump chad and I had found someone who was cute and i could see alot and I had soo much fun with and he is into music and woow i was soo happy) so ofcourse i said yes.......now 11 months later jake and I are still going out but stuff to me is horrible..let me explain the first 6 mnths of our relationship was amazing, we spent all of spring and summer togther and made soo many memories and i could never get him off my mind... when school started that was when halo came out and he started be absessed with it..well know he doesnt come to school much anymore and stays up til 5am playing Halo and forgets to call me..But the thing is when we do hang out its still soo amazing, but thats only on weekends becuase i no longer see him in school now..and lately on the phone when we talk we often get arguing over stupid stuff and sumtimes i think its becuase i get aggravated with him for not getting his license and skipping school and not gettign a job..but the thing is i love him..and sumtimes i think about dumping him.. but then it seems like my life wouldnt be the same without him as my hunni..b/c we have soo many memories together and everything..But my concern is that the only thing that is stopping me from dumping him is i have grown in the past year of being used to having the comfort of him there, and that maybe i dont love him anymore, im just so used to that being the way it is.. me with Jake..and i still think about him all the time too. But wow i just wrote thatand i still didnt find a solution..so what do you think do i stil truley love him and do i stay with himn and hope the problems go away? I really think i love him but the whole just being with him now for comfort and becuase im used to that and i dont want to deal with change and throw away a whole year of wonderful memories...its just stuff inst the same and it hasnt been for a couple months now.. PLEASE ANYone see throught all this babblin and Help me!!!
Hey, that is quite a bit to read but I did. It sounds like you are in a difficult position right now and I can understand why and where your coming from. What I would do if I were in your position however would be to sit down and talk to him about how you feel and what your concerns are. And if it doesn't get any better after you talk to him than maybe its not worth it. However if you do decide to end it with him you won't be throwing away your amazing memories you can still have them but they may just not affect you the same anymore. But what I suggest most is to sit down and talk with him about everything your feeling and thinking.
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i'm a 16 year old gurl and i just recently started going out with one of my friends(gurl)and i dont know if i'm bi but i think i like her....anyways when i'm not with her i think about her but when i'm with her it feels odd and i dunno i just dont know how to act.....from what you here does this sound normal to you? and if i get anything like.....no its not normal cuz your with a gurl....i will give a very low rating anyways thx in advance to those who help!
Hey sweetie, that is perfectly normal. It will feel odd if you are bi because you aren't necessarily used to a homosexual relationship and it will seem odd in the beginning because it is different than what you are used to. And if you think you like her than give it a little time and you will realize if you do like her or not. And it does sound like you do like her and that you are bi but that only you can prove to be true or false. If you need someone to talk to or have any other questions don't hesitate to IM me at all.
IM 14 yrs old and i have a pretty bad life. Im not suicidal or anything. Ive had a pretty bad past. My brother andrew hurts me he will kick me in the stomach and ribs and yell at me and it got so bad my mom called the cops. He threatend me and my moms life. I called him in detention (kids jail) and he said there was nothing to be said to me and he wants nothing to do with me and he will never find away to forgive me or forget. Now he is being senet away. my mom is never home. I told her we need some serious talking to do and we need to talk It took a long time to come out of that shell and tell her that. She just told me she has to go to her boyfriends house. I was shocked. She leaves me for her BOYFRIEND. When her own daughter needs help! I was in treatment i was sent away for 5 months. Nothing really changed over that. Im not a virgin the only reason why is because i feel thats the only thing that makes me feel wanted. Just to be "loved" for that period of time. I was thinking of the long run. Now my friend offered me to live with her for as long as i needed. To sort things out. Me and my friend had some pretty ruff times we actually we're best friends but i screwed up and that ended it but she was still there for me. So she offered a home for me. Shes not into that stuff sex, drugs, or drinking. Im trying to get away from that but its hard. Like i said... i feel like i belong then. SO how do i tell my mom that i want to just not leave her but i need a break. For a bit. my friend said that we could get both of our moms together and me and her would sit down and we would talk it out. I dont want my mom to think she is a bad mother i just need a "mother" figure there for me that i can talk to. And wont leave on me when i need help. So help me please. This is and maybe a change of life.
This is a difficult situation to be in. I will attempt to help you as well as possible. This is not something easy to deal with. However don't put yourself out there for guys to use you for sex even if it does make you feel loved, because it will get worse before you find that person to love you. When you do want to sit down and talk to your mom it does sound like it would be easier for you to have your friend and her mom there because it might help you to open up and tell your mom how you truly feel. And if you do think that you need a break and to go stay with your friend than you should probably persue that so that you don't get put in dangerous positions that can hurt you mentally or emotionally. And it sounds like you will be safe at your friend's house and that you will have people there for you there. Well I hope this helps and if you want anymore advice just contact me I am very willing to help you out.