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my "family", mostly horrible parents.
Hello. Im asking advice today for a stupid little problem i have, but im not sure if there is any way i could control it. If im in school, or with my friends, or whatever (by the way im 14), when they mention "mom" or "dad", or "family", my eyes start to water and i just about cry. Not the "WAA-WAA" kind, it is just the red face, tears coming down and stuff, no squeaking or any of that crazy stuff. I cant say anything about parents or anything. When i talk about my family when someone asks, my voice gets shaky and i choke, and it makes me very uncomfortable because crying in front of the class isnt really a fun interest. I cry because my family has...problems. I just feel like i want either them or me to die. I feel like i hate them so much. Its not some "im mad at them because they took away my cell phone" kind of thing. Its more of a love issue. Im seeing a therapist but that is not working, she's not changing them. Well, in a nutshell, whenever someone talks about their parents, and when i talk about mine, i cry. Umm, i hope someone can help me with this, if its possible. Thank you.
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well im really sorry that you are having problems with your family and no that isnt stupid because no question is stupid unless you are trying to be stupid about it and i would need more details to really help you so just drop one in my box
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First of all no problem is stupid. It's just complicated. You are going through a struggle in your life that is hard for you to cope with. Some people try to put a wall of misery around them to null the pain. You have to look at the positve things in your life like your friends. Next you have to be happy with yourself. Maybe there is a best friend of yours that you can talk to. Sometimes therapist have a way of psycho- analyzing and trying to tell you what to do. Maybe you should try talking to your parents yourself to let them know what you are struggling with. Changes should be made by you not them. If they are not willing to accept you for that then focus what you need to do to keep builiding your life and head towards a positve future. Take advantage of the positive resources you have now like your friends and other family members you feel you can trust and be there for you. Crying is just releasing the pain you are feeling. It's better to cry and release then hold and botlle up inside and break you.
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aww..a lot of people have family problems and i'll be glad to help you out..if you can give me more detail that would be great! just drop me a message in my inbox
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Please give more details if you want me to help.. thanks
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hey sweetie, family problems are hard to deal with. And its hard to help you without any detail to the problems...so IM me or drop me a msg in my inbox I would love to help you out. <3 Julie
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dont be such a damn sissy.
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Without knowing at least a little about the "Problems" you feel your family has, its hard to give advice on exactly what I would do. If the problems are of a legal, moral or life threatening nature my advice could be completely different. However, since you stated you are seeing a councilor, I have to assume that the problems are not of that nature or the councilor would take appropriate action.
One comment you made however makes me wonder about your expectations. You stated "I'm seeing a therapist but that is not working, she's not changing them." If you are seeing a councilor, why would THEY be the ones changing? Even if they are the soul reason of your unhappiness, If I were you, I wouldn't expect them to change by your seeing a councilor. If you would like more direct advice, I would try choosing someone here and perhaps go into a little more detail on your problems. Just remember no problem is a "stupid little problem" to the one that is experiencing it, and neither is yours. My inbox is open if you so choose to use it!
~Eric
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i know sometimes having a faimly is a hard thing maybe talk about before any of this drama has happened and maybe if you dont like your family build a family of your friends if you need more help that should really help they should be there for you maybe like ask the councler if you can be put up for adoption or something it would save money from your mom and dad well i hope i helped please rate me
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Maybe you need to spend time with them!And maybe you will feel more comforteable about you talking to your friends about it! i hoped i helped!!
~ Andi
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well when they are talking about parents and whne they ask about yours instead of thinking the usual things about them, try and remember one of the good days you have had with them and describe them from that particular day. try not to see all of the bad ties. try and remember some of the good ones. trust me no one has a perfect family. everyone goes through some bad times. hopefully in your case things will all get better sometime.
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i have the same problem my "dad" left us and when people talk about him i get sad to what you should do is tell them whats going on or ask them not to talk about that around you if your in school you can tell your teacher to see if she wont have nothing to do with that!
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