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i'm a 16 year old gurl and i just recently started going out with one of my friends(gurl)and i dont know if i'm bi but i think i like her....anyways when i'm not with her i think about her but when i'm with her it feels odd and i dunno i just dont know how to act.....from what you here does this sound normal to you? and if i get anything like.....no its not normal cuz your with a gurl....i will give a very low rating anyways thx in advance to those who help!
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some people say not normal
some say awkward
some say weird
but i say
its perfectly normal
you're 16 you've got your whole life to experiment and find out whats right for you. If dating women is something you're unsure about go right ahead and do it and find out the answer instead of sitting in your room and wondering. And since you might not have done this before feeling odd and weird around her is normal and you have nothing to feel ashamed of either
hop it helps
haylerz
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well to me it sounds like your a lesbian. i dont mean that in a mean way. it probably feels wierd to be around her because you like her and your a little shy around your crush. i think its find to be a lesbian if thats how you want your life. or you could just be bi. as long as your happy thats good! hope i helped
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you feel weird because you aren't sure if you are bi or not. give it time and you will realize one way or another
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Everybody has the potential to feel weird in a new relationship, no matter what their gender or the gender of the person they are dating. There's the ever-awkward questions - does she like me as much as I like her? Will our noses bump if we kiss?
I think what makes this a little more strange is that it's your first girl-girl relationship. Ultimately, this is no different from any other sort of relationship; until you feel comfortable with that idea, and who you are, you're bound to feel somewhat strange.
I think you need to do two things....the main one being relaxing. Just go with the flow, see how things develop, pay attention to your feelings. If things work out, great. If you're still feeling umcomfortable, then I would try to figure out if you feel that way because it's a new relationship, or possible because you aren't with the right person.
Awkward can be delicious and exciting or new, or it can be plain uncomfortable and draining.
Good luck.
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Hey sweetie, that is perfectly normal. It will feel odd if you are bi because you aren't necessarily used to a homosexual relationship and it will seem odd in the beginning because it is different than what you are used to. And if you think you like her than give it a little time and you will realize if you do like her or not. And it does sound like you do like her and that you are bi but that only you can prove to be true or false. If you need someone to talk to or have any other questions don't hesitate to IM me at all. <3 Julie
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first off i hate fags u need to get a life and a guy
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It's completely normal. You seem to be bisexual, but you would know better then us.
-Farren
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It's not odd hunnie,it just sounds like you are,as you said,confused.I think the real issue here is do you have any sexual attraction to your friend? If you're feeling like that about her,then yes there's a good possibility that you're bisexual,and there's NOTHING wrong with that.It's a part of who you are.If you aren't having any physical or sexual thoughts or feelings for your friend it may just be a real good friendship,but since you are confused and curious about your own sexuality,you're starting to question your feelings for her.I think you should take some time alone and just really examine your thoughts and feelings about females in general,not just her.Maybe even keep a journal or something to write down how you're feeling.Ask yourself if you are physically attracted to girls,if you get turned on by females,if there are certain girls you know that you could see yourself being in a relationship with.You may just be curious,so ask yourself,do I really want to be with a female,can I see myself with her romantically,or do I just think she's an attractive girl? Because it is possible to think another female is sexy and not want to get with her,ya know?I'm sorry for rambling but I hope this helped you out some.If you need anything else,just leave a note in my inbox!Take care! :)
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It is completely normal to feel like that. Unfortunately most of us have been brought up in a society that frowns upon this type of relationships. She knows how you feel for her and you know how she feels for you, so it is natural to be together any way that you want.
If you feel weird about her, then just tell her why you feel odd. She'll understand and for all you know she feels the same way. Then you two have that out in the open and then can work on it and before you know it you'll be a regular couple. You're discovering youself and it takes time- but you'll get there.
Anymore questions- feel free to drop a line.
-Arun
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i believe that this is totally normal, because not all people like others of the opposite race. And w/the experiences I had, I don't blame them. You can't help who you like. You probably feel odd around her because of the way society looks down upon issues like this. But I wouldn't worry about it, though. Hope everything works out okay!
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Hey! No, it's normal to like a girl, some people are just like that! So, don't worry about that. But, you're probably feeling like this because you're just trying to get use to this whole thing because you're not use to going out with a girl. Do you know what I mean by that? Once you get use to knowing that you're going out with a girl, you'll feel more comfortable around her. So, when you're around her, just think as if you are when you're not around her (since you said you think about her all the time when you're not with her). You'll get use to the feeling of being BI I'm sure. It's just like if you had a b/f, like you have to get use to having a relationship with him. Do you know what I mean by all of this? I hope this helps and if you need anything else, just post a message in my inbox!
xoxo Kourtney
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