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cousins death
june 2004 my cousin died from a mistake a police officer made. i cant seem to get over his death and i dont know who to talk to. i still cry all the time over him, and i htink about him a lot too. the rest of my family has moves on it seems, and they dont like to talk about him. if u have been in this situation... or one like it please shre advice. thanks
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You could talk to anyone you trust and feel comfortable with. Your mom, dad, sibling, teacher, guidance counselor, best friend.. anyone. If you're having a really hard time I would suggest talking to your mom about going to a counselor.
Hope I helped!
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Honestly, it's hard for me to relate. But I'll try to help! I'm sure the rest of your family still thinks about him also, it's really hard when yu lose someone you love. I recomend talking to your mom, because in my exerience mothers are good with just letting you cry. Sometimes it's just good to cry with someone. Try it, when you're mom is alone one day and the moment is right just kinda go in there and talk about it. I really hope i helped!
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i know exactly how u feel. my best friend died 1 year ago last ssturdaya nd im still upset.
Even if you think the rest of your familys over it, most likely they arent. people have different ways of showing sadness or emotion.
You could talk to a counsler or something. At my school, they had like 10 counslers in the library because a girl in our school died. and acctually i think it helped those people. u dont need 10 counslers.. maybe 1.
<33 hope i helped.
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well, I just wanna say, Pray! even if you arent a religous person, just pray! and just talk to God and Jesus! and your Cuz too!
You Cousin will always be there for you too! Because he will always be up in Heaven watching over you!
there are some lyrics, im gonna try to find them!
Artist/Band: Wariner Steve
Lyrics for Song: Holes in the Floor of Heaven
Lyrics for Album: Burnin' the Roadhouse Down
one day shy of eight years old, my grandma passed away
i was a broken hearted little boy, blowing out that birthday cake
how i cried when the sky let go, with a cold and lonesome rain,
mamma smiled, said don't be sad child, grandma's watching you today
(chorus)
cause theres holes in the floor of heaven
and her tears are pouring down,
that's how you know she's watching,
wishing she could be here now,
and sometimes if your lonely,
just remember she can see,
there's holes in the floor of heaven,
and she's watching over you and me,
seasons come, and seasons go, nothing stays the same
i grew up, fell in love, met a girl who took my name
year by year, we made a life, in this sleepy little town
i thought we'd grow old together, Lord, i sure do miss her now
But there's holes in the floor of heaven,
and her tears are pouring down,
that's how i know she's watching,
wishing she could be here now,
and sometimes when i'm lonely,
i remember she can see,
there's holes in the floor of heaven,
and she's, watching over you and me,
well my little girl is twenty three, I walk her down the aisle
it's a shame her mom can't be here now, to see her lovely smile
they throw the rice, i catch her eye, as the rain starts coming down
she takes my hand, says daddy don't be sad,
cause i know mamma's watching now
And there's holes in the floor of heaven,
and her tears are pouring down,
that's how you know she's watching,
wishing she could be here now,
and sometimes when i'm lonely,
i remember she can see,
yes, there's holes in the floor of heaven,
and she's, watching over you and me
watching over you and me
watching over you and me
I know it says She, and I Know your late cuz was a he! but! I hope that helps!
Im ALWAYS here! I love helping people! You can e-mail me:
KelC2204@yahoo.com
^( If you do, let me know in the subject so i don't delete it!)^
If you ever need something!
Also, whenever you are missing him- just talk to him! really! It helps! God works in mysterious ways!
Hope I Helped-
-*KeLs*-
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my advise would be to pray. Pray to god and ask him to make everything ok. Just remember your cousin is with him now (god) so he is in a better place. One day way later .. you will see him. As for now, just remember all the good times you had with him and thank the lord that you used to have so many good times with your cousin. Just keep your cousin in your heart. I hope i helped!
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Aww I'm soo sorry. I still cry when I think about people who've died in my life. To tell you the truth I'm not over any of them. Especially the ones who were really close to me. There's nothing you can do besides realizing he's in a better place. I don't know how in the world you get over someone. It's really hard, you just take it day by day. And it's alright if you cry, but if your cousin was here right now would he want you crying over him? I doubt it, that's just the way I look at it. But if you want to talk about it you can IM me and I'm all hears, I'll comfort you as much as I can.
<33 Brit
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listen you should talk to teachers and friends along with your aunt and uncle because they(it seems to me) want to forget about him intierly so just talk with anyonethats how people get over things by talking about it
Sorry for your loss
Solemnstar
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well ive been in somewhat the same situation as yoo..i have a cousin tht i care abt so dearly and somethin similiar happened to him and i didnt kno how to deal wit it and it seemed to me like no one else was tht affected by it..juss like yoo feel ya kno but wht helped me out was to remember all the great things we usto do together and appreciate those things..i started to appreciate tht i got to spend time with him unlike some of my other cousins who barely knew him at all..i think it wuld also help in yoor situation to get over the whole police officer thing bcuz thinkin abt it would juss make yoo more sad and stuff and there is nothing yoo can do too change the past and im soo sorry this happened to yoo because i kno how painful it is! im sorry!! juss remember all the great times yoo usto have and appreciate the past so yoo can get on with the futuree...
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Dear cousin,
I'm so sorry. What you are going through is perfectly normal. You are grieving. The one thing I know for sure is that, in time, you will think about this differently. A lot of times, we feel the most grief when we feel that a person has died before his time. In this instance, you say it was from a mistake a police officer made. We don't know the secrets of the universe. We don't know why things happen the way they do and why some people have to leave the earth before we are ready for them to. However, it is something that we have to accept. We don't have to like it....but we have to accept it. In time, you will think about the good times with your cousin in life and not think so much about his death. And also in time, please try to forgive the police officer. It will help you to move on. Again, I am so sorry for your loss.
Linda
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Try to not think about all the bad things that u did to him or he did to u. Always think about the good times u had with your cousin!!!! Trust me cause my Twin Anna died in 2004 also. :'(
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