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Q: My boyfriend for 5 months broke up with me because of another girl. It hurts me a lot.. I really love him and i gave him everything. It's only 2 weeks since we broke up and he is now with that girl. He told me that he loves her already and that there's no chance that we'll get back together.. What is he talking about? Is it that easy to forget the memories we had? Is it that easy to forget someone you loved? Two weeks ago he just told me that he loves me a lot and that i'm the only one for him.. And now, he's inlove with another girl.. He just met that girl in disco and they've already slept together.. His family is doing everything for us to get back together. They told me that they don't like his gf and that i'm the one they want for their son. His brothers are telling me that he still loves me, they said that he's just confused. But i don't feel his love anymore. He doesn't call me anymore. He said that he's not calling because his gf is jealous. He's so mean. His family told me to never give up because they are sure that we'll still get back together. I still love him and i'm still hoping that he'll go back to me.. What should i do now???

oh that was a kick in the crotch...
thats so wronge.. hese just wronge.. listen to me
he left you didnt he?? so why take him backk
he hurt you and if he really cared about you then he woldnt forget you just like that and he wouldnt take things so easily and leave you so fast that showws that he never accually loved you if he accuall had true feelings for you then he would have never ever left you and never have forgotton you so quickly show him that your not weak and you accually have a personality and that you accually have a life dont let him come running back to you and you just accepting it have some dignity im sure that its hard for you to let go believe me i have a strong like for somone right now and its so hard i understand but dont take him back take him back if he cocmes bak but dont like forgive him right away... DONT ..you have to feel that hese accualy sorry for what he has done to you and that your not his backplan.. okay
hope i helped if you have anymore questions you can ask me
and remeber dont let him take control

Q: 14/f
Is God real? I'm a raised catholic, but I for about 2 years now I've felt atheist/agnostic.

How do you know it's YOUR god that's real? What if there are many gods? what if there's a goddess?

just give me some proof.

because a lot of times i feel guilty for not being religious and i feel like i should be religious. But I don't want to save myself for marriage and I masturbate which makes me think that I shouldn't be a christian! Can i still be a christian even in spite of those 2 things?

please just give me advice.

God is something no one knows who he is
God exists because you see how the moon the sun
the earth the people the plants the animals.. look around you do you think its just the "way of life" it is the way of life but dont you think somone MADE IT the way of life?
earth didnt make itself
because if it werent for God.. then this world would be nothing.. seeriously nothing.. hang in there because he does exist without God you wouldnt even be alive
here i am saying it again just to advise you
this world is nothing but a test.. and your being watched my God.
and masterbating is such a sin you dont even know how much of a sin it is.... masterbating isnt healthy i dont find it healthy

Q: Why do guys like girls with curvy butts? What's the appeal?

haha thats what i always ask myself ......... well they like girls with big butts because it turns them on i mean guyz jst have this habit of getting turned on by anything lol haha and what wise women said..
thats about it ...
lol

Q: 13/f

My dog just died. I' mreally sad. I feel funny inside too. I don't know what to do. I don't want to forget him, but I feel hurt. Like someone justkicked me in the stomach. My question is: Where was God? Hm? Answer that? Where was Mr. Hig hand Mighty?! Answer that!

--Izzy Uchiha! T/_\T

sorry about your dog
Gods up in the sky just cause you cant see him dont mean hese not there =]=]
it all happens for a reason =]=]

Q: i think my girlfriends dad sexually abuses her. her parents are divorced and she has five older brothers but they all live on their own since there alot older than she is. i went over there for dinner one time because she said she was scared but she wouldnt tell me why and the whole meal her dad kept making perverted comments about her chest size. shes like a 36d which is nice. her dad was like wow molly your tits look huge i just wanna grab them. and she kept telling him to stop and saying not now dad please. and he kept asking me when i was gonna fuck her next. and he thinks she would be good in bed. she kept getting really embrassed. then all of a sudden he did grabb her and then she started crying and her dad told me to leave but she looked so scared i couldnt leave her. i took her to my house. and i kept asking her did he always do this to you and she wouldnt answer me. i dont know what to do. do you think he rapes her and sexually abuse her. thank you in advance.

Omg... wtf... omg you have to go to the police if you really love your GF... seirouly... icant beleive he would say something like that
its wwronge and she shouldnt live with him
please help her

hope i helped i kno its not alot but i just couldt think of anything at the momment
hope everything works out =]
peace

Q: This question is for the girls out there... My stepmom says that bras with underwires are really bad for you. Does anyone know why?

nope thyre totally not bad.... at all
bras are to lift up your boobs and make them look nice
im sure you dont want them saggy and fallin down
and underwears.. umm if you dont wear underwears thats just gross
honestly.. u have to where it you should =]-]

Q: Ok well....I am 14 years old and a girl if that helps....My parents divorced when I was 7 and my mom and dad both got remarried. well i hate my stepdad. my stepmom is ok i guess since i never see her. but anyway, my mom and stepdad had 2 kids. my mom and dad had 2 also. me and my older brother wich is 16. well my stepdad, lets call him Fred, he treats me and my brother like crap but he treats his 2 sons like they are angels. I dont get it. I am not close to my dad at all. i rarely see him. im closer to his parents than him. I see all these little girls holding their daddy hands or riding on his back while i dont have a dad bc my dad nor my stepdad cares about me and the only dad i have is God. and my mom is a huge christian and she and my stepdad fight all the time and today he actully hit me and my mom told me that if he doesnt go to counseling on monday then we are gonna move out. i cant live like this any longer and i dont know what to do. i just really wish my parents would get divorced or me and my dad would get closer and he would actually care about me. I just feel soo sorry for myself and i cant help it. I dont know what to do any longer. if my stepdad actually treated me like his own daughter than it would be a different story. but i dont have a dad and i hate it! i dont wanna have a single mom, i wanna have another stepdad that like my own dad. but i know i wont. Please help me. i cant deal with it any longer.

Hey girl =]
i know its hard for you and i totally understand... and yes dont deal with it talk to your dad and explain your feelings to him and if that doesnt work then you should talk to a counsler in school or somone very close to you
i hope that will work

Good day ;)

Q: I used to like this guy. Lets call him B. I stopped liking him ever since I realized how much of a jerk he was.

This was our convo on AIM:

him (7:59:31 PM): be my new princess
me (7:59:18 PM): maybe
him (8:00:14 PM): please
him (8:00:17 PM): i'll be good!
me (8:00:11 PM): hmm
him(8:01:16 PM): pleeeeeeease
me (8:01:22 PM): we'll see
him (8:02:05 PM): please
him (8:03:18 PM): what do i have to do to make you my princess?
me (8:03:23 PM): be good
PHM1248 (8:03:56 PM): how so?
me (8:03:34 PM): why do you want me to be your princess? :P
him (8:04:06 PM): because
him (8:04:10 PM): you are princess material
me (8:03:49 PM): whats that supposed to mean
him(8:04:22 PM): it means
him(8:04:25 PM): your a keeper
me (8:04:07 PM): aww
him (8:04:41 PM): its true!
me (8:05:44 PM): :]
him (8:06:22 PM): pleaase
me (8:05:58 PM): maybe
me (8:05:59 PM): we'll see
him (8:06:43 PM): if im good
me(8:06:21 PM): stop asking
him (8:07:19): new topic
me: yes please
him: ummm... ily?
me: no you don't
him: thats it your getting a hug on monday

Does he still like me?

i mean clearly your trying to make him want you more and more thats not rite..
and hese just being creepy..

Q: every so often after i go pee, it feels like i still have to pee,but i dont.its not exactly a burning feeling, but sort of.what could it be?

thanks.

you might have STD i prefer you consult a doctor
:)

Q: So my ex n i have been on n off for like 4 or 5 yrs. At least once a yr we get back together..but its almost gonna be a year n we havent talked or seen each other n i miss him a lot. Im thinking about sending him a text just 2 see how he's doing n then take it from there. But im kinda scared he'll have a girlfriend or tell me that he's over me or something. What should i do?? 18/f

hey listen if he tells you trhat he alreayd has a girlfriend or hese over you just be like haha no i just wanted to see how you were.. thats all
im over you too :P dont sound seprite
hope i helped =]

Q: well.....im a dude. big surprise huh? i asked a question simalar to this one awhile back, but anyway. the girl i loved and still love with all my heart, broke up with me about a month ago, over her "parents". which i heard was complete bull. well i go to ozzfest (the one in st.louis) right after she breaks up with me. for about a week i forgot about her.( i had one hell of a hangover). then on bebo, (the thing like myspace) she puts a blog up saying shes glad she broke up with me, she's never felt better about herself etc.... well i read that, it pissed me off. so i played a few george jones songs, and felt alittle better about it. then...she has her best friend tell me that she has a new boyfriend, and that hes sooooo much better than me. now this is the part where i wanna shoot a dude. sooo... i know what i need to do. just let it go. but me and this girl had been goin out since like 8th grade and im in 10th now. so its kinda hard. so anyone got any ideas on what i should do about all this, or how to just let go?

-thanks

hm well im really sorry... but you should try to let it go.. she doesnt seem to care..
im sorry man
just relax and do stuff that will make you not think about her
read ,go out with your friends..,go on the computer
delete her frrom myspace
so that you dont see her and feel bad (thats ur decision )
hope i helped ha.
bye

Q: What do these phrases mean?

hella/hecka

rawr

you are the sex

Thanks for the help!

mmm.. rawr is like when you see a lion and a lion goes RawR! well people just joke around whenr they say it for example heres a sentence
you look sexy rawrr! its a joke..

Q: 14/f

i'm not really religious at all. my family doesn't go to church or anything and one day my parents found out i don't really believe in god. and they kinda like freaked and said we're going to start going to church and stuff [we never did]/ k so i have some questions about all this religion stuff.

-who wrote the bible?

-i mean really how is it possible that theres some great god up in the sky?

-who all thought of this? like there had to be someone who came up with this?

-who created these so called sins?

-if being gay is a "sin", why did this god create them?

-how do people know anything of what they looked like or did?

thanks =]

okay hun im muslim and ofcourse we all beleive diffrent stuff i just want to show you our point of views.. and the truth..

1) God made the bible. but.. back then wayyy back people messed around with the bible and started writing all these things that werent true so the humans are the ones who wrote stuff that God didnt write..
2)God exists because you see how the moon the sun
the earth the people the plants the animals.. look around you do you think its just the "way of life" it is the way of life but dont you think somone MADE IT the way of life?
earth didnt make itself
because if it werent for God.. then this world would be nothing.. seeriously nothing.. hang in there because he does exist and dont listen to the people that tell you he doesnt.. because without God you wouldnt even be alive
here i am saying it again just to advise you
this world is nothing but a test.. and your being watched by God.

3) no one came up with this exept God...
Nobody knows how he was created one day the last day
the day of judgment God wil ltell us how he was brought up but you see thats why God sends us all these miracles.. and these miracles are to see if we are really gonna beleive him its a test.

4)again.. God made up sins like i said its all a test sins are for people who do bad stuff good deeds are for people that do good..
so thats why God made sins so we could learn from our mistakes

5)God created women and men so they could be together to have kids..

6)i dont get your question..

hope i helped ..

Q: I feel terrible for needing to ask ths but does God really exist??

My family (and i??) are christians but lately i doupt that God really made us the earth and everything around us. If so WHY did he make us and the earth EVERYTHING!!!

please don't tell me he doesn't exsist b/c in the back of my mind i believe but then agian?!?

okay you seem so lost man i seriously need to help you out =]
okie look
first thing
he made us in this world.. this world is nothing but a test
and yes God does exist.. i answered another question just like this one but its diffrent.. she says that people tell her hese a man..
God isnt a man..
God is something no one knows who he is
God exists because you see how the moon the sun
the earth the people the plants the animals.. look around you do you think its just the "way of life" it is the way of life but dont you think somone MADE IT the way of life?
earth didnt make itself
because if it werent for God.. then this world would be nothing.. seeriously nothing.. hang in there because he does exist and dont listen to the people that tell you he doesnt.. because without God you wouldnt even be alive
here i am saying it again just to advise you
this world is nothing but a test.. and your being watched my God.
hope i helped

Q: okay so at my school this girl who started crap with me last year and again on myspace over the summer. and i said stuff to her to defend myself. and she doesn't like me. and she gives me dirty looks now. and she's really mean & so are her friends. & no one likes them. & she does drugs and drinks all the time. and i heard when she was in 7th grade everyone found out she had sex with this one guy. and i don't get like why is she soo mean & does drugs when she knows she shouldn't be like that?

tell her to back the hell off of you and warn her if she makes fun of you again your gonna beat the shiznitz out of her make her feel scared man i scare people away cause of my face reactions and voice .. but only to the people that are rude..
this is why we have middle fingers
lol..
anyway
i prefer you tell a teacher about this
if it doesnt work
and let the teeacher work it out

Q: I am choosing between two outfits for the first day of 8th grade. I want to look mature in my outfit yet fun. One thing i'm not sure about in these outfits though is the miniskirts. I want to give a good first impression to my teachers, and not give the new kids and younger kids the impression that I dress slutty.Do you think they are too short? I can't wear shorts because all my shorts are old and too ratty to wear that day. Oh by the way, you can't see the shoes so in both i'm wearing gold metallic flats. Also, how should I wear my hair?

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2. http://tinypic.com/view.php?pic=4t77i4x...

hey =] They are wayyyyyyyy to short.. especcially the SEcond one
try to dress more appropriatly

Q: I have used just about every product there is out there and it seems it does not help my acne out at all. Should I try proavtiv? Does it really work?

dont use anything
just let it go away on its own '

Q: Ok, here's the story. When I was younger, I thought of God as an invisible being that always watched you and could do anything he wanted. So i'd always say "yes I believe in god". But as I grew older, people who don't believe in God have pointed things out to me. I mean it was MAN who wrote the bible, and MAN who wrote the ten commandments. who's to say man didn't make it all up? One of my frieds once pointed out that "man does not like the thought of nothing after death, so the created an afterlife to believe in instead". Another person that doesn't believe in God said "he is just like Santa Claus, used to make children be good". These seem like pretty realistic remarks to me. Plus there is no "proof" that he does exist right? People who believe in him just say "the feeling is truly wonderful". I have asked God to come into my heart many times, but I never feel any different. Does this make me Atheist?

well ,,, the people that tell you that God is like santa clause.. they are COMPLETE idiots that dont understand what "life means" i am sorry.. seriouslyif you want me to be straight forward and strict.. because religion isnt something you let go all of the sudden its not a game.. ok so if you dont beleive in God... think to yourself.. whats the purpose of this life??
why are we here..?
who do you think created the moon the sun the galaxy the planests ... A MAN?? wat the hell??
how can a man possibly do that.. people say this is how life is
how the planets and etc.. were made.. how can they suddenly be made?? seriously..? what now it can creat itself?
think to yourself who makes the plants grow
who made ME..
who is giving you a test
and there is heaven in hell because this life is for something how are you just gonna be made and then theres no ending whatsoever.. how? how cant there be nothing in the end..? so what your gonna live and just die?? no
there will be one day when we all will get judged for our sins..
because life is al about makin
good deeds-- and bad deeds--
please dont listen to anyone
and by the way im sure the reason that God hasnt brung it to your heart yet is because God wants you to beleive in him first not to let oither people play with your mind go on the right path and dont let anyone mess with your minds because seriosuly they have no way of thinkin.. if they think that a man.. .made the bible.. im muslim so yeah.. i dont even go by the way of the bible..so ya.. i dunt wanna start talking about it rite now cause its pretty much a long commment imjust trying to help
take care

may God lead you to the right pathh =]
byee

Q: i have bras that fit me at home but when i go to victoria's secret and try on their bras i find out one of my breasts is smaller?? is there something different with their bras? i forgot what kind of bra i was looking at. i tried a size smaller and same problem..

nothing is wronge with the bras..
its ur boobs. because sometimes
ones bigger than the other
but one day
they will even out
dont swet..
bye

Q: I know being shy 't been sis for little kids and I havhy on the first day of school since gr. 4 but it it kinda a big year for me!! I was put in school a year late so I'm 13 going into gr 7. I know that I'm not the only one but I am scared of this is anyone has advice please let me know!!!!