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sexual abuse
i think my girlfriends dad sexually abuses her. her parents are divorced and she has five older brothers but they all live on their own since there alot older than she is. i went over there for dinner one time because she said she was scared but she wouldnt tell me why and the whole meal her dad kept making perverted comments about her chest size. shes like a 36d which is nice. her dad was like wow molly your tits look huge i just wanna grab them. and she kept telling him to stop and saying not now dad please. and he kept asking me when i was gonna fuck her next. and he thinks she would be good in bed. she kept getting really embrassed. then all of a sudden he did grabb her and then she started crying and her dad told me to leave but she looked so scared i couldnt leave her. i took her to my house. and i kept asking her did he always do this to you and she wouldnt answer me. i dont know what to do. do you think he rapes her and sexually abuse her. thank you in advance.
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Omg... wtf... omg you have to go to the police if you really love your GF... seirouly... icant beleive he would say something like that
its wwronge and she shouldnt live with him
please help her
hope i helped i kno its not alot but i just couldt think of anything at the momment
hope everything works out =]
peace
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There is a chance, and she's probably afraid someone is going to tell on her. Her father probably threatened her. I think she you should file a sexual abuse on a minor (if she's under 18). Report thise for sure because it's against the law. First, ask her at your house and talk about what he does. Get her to spill because this can be used against him in the future. Ask her what he does to her. This site explains the stuff in oregon but some of it works across the usa so glance at it and you can call the police on it. Do something before it gets worse!
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I think he does both. Shes obviously very embarrassed, and the reason she wanted you to go with her, is so, he wouldn't rape her while she was there. She doesn't wanna tell you because shes embarrassed, and is afraid that she'll get introuble or something. Whats her mom like? Have you ever met her? I think you should tell your paretns, or actually, vist this website.. dmlive.com i was listening to a the radio, and you can either call in, or like talk to them live on the site, and there like these adults, i think there kinda like the people here, only all adults, and kinda like professionals.
this is something you like need to do. help her, she needs it.
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i think he both rapes her and sexually abuses her
i think you should tell your friend to either call child abuse
or
she could run away from home to a place that he will never find her
like she could work and buy a house if shes old enough
or if she just runs away to one of her friends house like yours and he tells the police she could easily tell them whats been going on
or
she could get consuling for this stuff like see people so they can talk to her about this if she doesnt feel confortbale talkin to you about it
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firstly your a real sweet boyfriend good on you this is definetely abuse this is horrible im female and i would hate it if someone did this to me can you talk to her mum or your mum ask her straight and make her give you an answer you believe phone childline or anything that supports young people make sure you do something about it this cant go on and do it fast you r a real hero
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CALL THE POLICE NOW NOW NOW NOW NOW NOW ! sorry i spazzed out but he is definitely a raper. oh my god i can't even believe any parents saying HALF the stuff her dad says. most parents try not to bring up sex and dont ask "when are you gonna fuck her next?" that's sick and inhuman. she needs to get out of that house and she NEEDS to open up with you and tell you whats going on. if he does that IN FRONT of you, try to imagine what happens behind closed doors. yeah, he is probably sexually abusing her RIGHT now. even if he's not, he doesn't deserve to be a parent for making those comments. it's just not human. call the police and if she gets mad tell her it's only for the best, and eventually she'll forgive you because she'll be living the life she always wanted to be living. just remember, NOBODY deserves to be treated like that and if you dont tell anyone, and the police find out somehow and find out you were a witness of him saying that perverted stuff, you will get in trouble too. just dial 9-1-1 because if she ends up pregnant one day from him, you'll probably never be able to live again knowing you didn't tell anyone.
good luck,
-candace.
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sounds like he does maybe you should talk to someone about it like her mom or something or your parents someone that will understand what is going on but make sure she tells you what is going on first just to make sure
hope i helped
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im not gonna repeat th below answer, cuz its a good one, and ill just be wasting my time, but i were you, i would have booted him and then like, giv him a fist straght on the old fish n chips. this answer probabaly aint gonna help, but yeah, punch the guy straight in the face....show him what its like to be hurt...
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There is definitely something going on here. I think, unfortunately, that you've got it exactly right. Your girlfriend is in desperate need of your help. You did the right thing (and a courageous thing) by removing her from that situation. Now, things will get harder before they get easier, but her life is at stake and you MUST carry this through to the end. You're involved now, and it will be a major ordeal, but you cannot give up. If you do, she could die.
You don't mention how old you are, but if you're under eighteen, the first thing to do is to get an adult involved who you trust (preferably a woman, since she's been abused by an older man and will probably have a hard time confiding in one). Your girlfriend is obviously traumatized (for good reason!) but you won't be able to save her unless she can acknowledge what's going on.
DON'T let her go back home to her father. If she already has, take your first chance to go back over there and get her out. Her life could be in jeopardy if he thinks you know what's going on.
The most important thing you can do is listen to her, BELIEVE her and stand by her. Assure her that you will listen and support her, and then follow through on that. When she is ready to open up to you, listen to every word without judgment. Try not to become angry or disgusted; she may feel that those reactions are aimed at her, not at her abuser. You will go through feelings of outrage, helplessness, pity, and so on. Don't burden her with your feelings; just let her tell you about hers. The last thing she needs is to feel guilty about involving you.
Don't press for details; let her tell you what she can in her own time. Don't insist that she report it to the police or to anyone else. The one thing you should try to insist on is that she not go back. If she insists upon it, then you may need to involve the authorities just to save her life, but that could end up backfiring badly - her father may be able to convince the police that there is nothing going on, and then punish her for it after they leave.
Help her in practical ways. Get her medical attention if she needs it, and professional counseling if possible. You are in over your head on this one - any of us would be! Helping her to find other people who can help will be one of the best things you can do. Recognize your own limitations; you cannot be her sole support, and both of you need to understand that.
Make sure you do not assign blame to her in any way. It sounds obvious, but even something like "Why don't you leave?" is placing blame on her. It is not her fault in any way.
She's going to be emotionally distraught for some time. She may become angry with you. She may try to harm herself. She may insist upon going back to her father, just to "prove" that nothing is wrong. You will need to be strong and trustworthy throughout all of this. It will probably be the most difficult test of your character you will ever face.
My best wishes go out to you, and to her. I hope you can save her.
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If her dad does that much in front of you he could be doing a lot more when you're not there. You should probably try to get her out of his house..If she can't stay with you try to get in contact with any of her older brothers and see if she can stay with them for a while. Hope she's okay. Keep her safe.
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If you are at the point of questioning that type of activity, then report this behavior to the police. You've seen him touch her and you whitnessed the amount of verbal abuse that went on. That is not a typical conversation between a father and daughter. Do what's right: notify the authorities.
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Yes, I do think he has sexually abused her. It is her silence that gives us a clue. And yes I think he always treats her this way. It couldn't be new behavior on his part, and if it were, he certainly wouldn't try it in front of her boyfriend. If this were a new phase in his relationship with her, she wouldn't be so complacent. She would be mad as hell. Do you think she would let a stranger talk to her that way. Her inability to stop him, and her embarassment tells me that this started long ago, before she was able to mature and create her own identity. Sexual abuse is often accompanied by psycological abuse. He has convinced her that he (the dad) has some rights to her body, or he has blamed her, in any event, at this point she is powerless to stop him. She needs help, and it is good that you are there for her. There are people, officials and stuff, teachers too, that if they knew, they are required by law to report it. You are not required by law, but somehow, and with her cooperation, it needs to be reported and her dad needs to be arrested.
She may be embarassed and ashamed of herself. WOuld it help if you told her that no matter what happened, you know it is not her fault, and you would not judge her or think less of her if she were to tell you. Tell her that you are there to help her, and be supportive NO MATTER WHAT. Maybe you have already said these things.
He belongs in jail, I hope you are strong enough to help her through this. She doesn't deserve this kind of treatment. There are many people and agencies that are ready willing and able to help her. Problem though, does she have a place to stay if the police arrest her dad? Is she a minor now, (though I am sure she was one when the abuse started)
How powerful is her dad in the community? Does he have a lot of money, friends, politicians? I hope not. Hopefully he is just an uneducated, poor jerk, and if so, they will just arrest him and put him in jail. One other thing if your girl friend is a minor, she may end up in a foster home, where things could even get worse. I hope she is not, and I hope you do report him. You are a good guy, and she needs your help.
Michele
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i think he does.
if her ad does this when your around,who knows what happens when your not around.
if you feel comfortable then you should tell someone.
parents counselor or anything.
imagine how yu would feel and if you would want someone to tell about your situation.
she may love her dad but he has to realize what hes doing to her.
your welcome.
hope it helps
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yes, she definately is sexually abused, he did it right in front of you. you need to go to the police about this asap.
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