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My name is Kayla and I'm 13 years old. I started my period not too long ago. But I have skipped about 3. Is this normal for me? I don't want to be able to not have children or anything? Is it serious? Please help.

It's normal, because when you first start your period, it can get very irregular. But if you skip another one, I would see a gyno about it, because there could be something wrong. Good luck!
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♥ Erin

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my hair is straight already, but sometimes it flips on the ends. do you think it would be dumb if i got a straightener even though my hair is already straight?

Nope, cause it's not like you're straightening all your hair, just the ends.
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♥ Erin

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everytime i leave my hair down if i brush it it gets all staticy. how can i stop ot from getting like that??? (i use conditioner)

Make sure you only use conditioner on the ends, and not your roots. (plus it can make your hair oily) Use static guard, that works GREAT! It's really cheap. You spray it on your brush and just brush it like normal. Good luck!
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♥ Erin

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does anybody know how hard it is to get into princeton b/c i am freaking out about getting into it. i am a straight A student but will it be enough?

Good grades are a part of it. You have to be involved with after school stuff and clubs, too. Good luck! I'm sure you'll get in. Wish I got straight A's, lol.
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♥ Erin

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I got my hair permed but its finally out. But now my hair is all frizzy and puffy what can I do about that? U use garnie frutics milk but it seems like it dont help

Try using different frizz products. I use the Garnier stuff, sleek and shine, which works pretty good. I heard the pantene kind works good, too. I used to use John Frieda, and it worked really good, just use the right kind. If nothing else works, try seeing a hair stylist, and they can help you with that. Good luck!
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♥ Erin

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How exactly do you hook up? And what is it?

If you hook up with someone, it means you either hang out together or are going out.
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♥ Erin

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Hey...ok i like this guy in 10th grade sooo much and he is my neighbor...and i dont know if he likes me should i ask him myself?? and do you think it would be weird for neiogbors?? ir eally need help someone! please!!! and i dont know what to ask him and stuff i wana no so bad and i dono if he has a gf!!
PLEASE

love
rach

Ok, try asking his friends or his parents if he has a gf. If he doesn't, then go ahead and hang out with him. Build a friendship first, then work from there. Once you've been together for awhile, tell him your friends keep bugging me about how you'd be so cute together. That way, if he says no, you won't be embarrassed, cuz you can just say, ya me neither. Good luck!
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♥ Erin

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What are some good online journals??

I use http://www.livejournal.com
It's a pretty good online journal.
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♥ Erin

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Almost exactly a year ago i made a BIG mistake. I was going through a depression and I felt horrible about myself, and my best friend's boyfriend was also one of my best friends. We talked all the time but before he started dating my best friend he liked me but I just didn't see him that way. Well while i was goign through my depression he was really there for me and he made me feel really good about myself. And somehow he managed to talk my way into having sex with him... while he was still with my best friend. Now i know that it sounds horrible but honestly i am NOT that type of girl i am like an awesome friend and i'd do anything for anyone because i'm just like that. After i did it i cried for like weeks. It took about 3 months until my best friend found out and she was crushed. This just through me into a deeper depression. But eventually she forgave me and now we will still talk and such but we are nothing like we use to be, and nor do i expect us to be. But the thing is is i still can't get over it, even though she forgave me its like i can't forgive myself. I drive myself crazy thinking about what a horrible thing i did and how horrible of a person i am. I honestly feel like shit everyday because it doesn't get out of my head, everytime i see her i think to myself how couldi have done that to her i am jsut a bitch. And like i just put myself down so much. I've only had sex with 2 guys in my whole life but i feel like a total slut. And i should i think. I'm starting to fall back into my depression and it is driving me crazy. I got over it for a few months but now its just all starting to bother me again. I don't know how to deal with it. Does anyone have any ideas on how i can rid myself of this uncontrollable guilt? i mean i know i should feel guilty but i honestly feel likei am driving myself crazy. Thanks so much

What you should do is write her a note and tell her how you feel. She did forgive you, but maybe she doesn't realize how bad you REALLY feel about it. The only way to get her trust again is to talk to her about it, and maybe do something nice for her. Also, for the depression, tell your parents, and go to the doctor and get a prescription. Good luck with everything.
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♥ Erin

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I was wondering, where do your wisdom teeth come from? Are they on both top and bottom, or only on the top.. or the bottom?

Um, well, I guess they come from your mouth, lol! They're on both top and bottom.
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♥ Erin

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i'm a freshman in high school.. 14 years old, and i'm dating a sophomore. all these girls my b/f hangs out with don't like me. today, these two girls - anna and liz were talking to my ex boyfriend, corbin about me and ryne. anna asked corbin if me and my b/f had sex.. (its not true).. liz said no, corbin said no, and anna didn't believe them. anna hates me w/ a passion by the way.. but yeah.. she's going to go around telling evryone a stupid rumor, and my b/f already bitched her out and went to the dean and told him. but what can i do to make this rumor go away or stop? or how can i stop them from ruining my reputation? i have a good rep right now and i don't want it ruined.. plz help! i'll rate all 5's for an effort.

First, you have to try to make it clear to her that spreading rumors about people, just because you don't like them, is really immature, and she needs to grow up. If she doesn't listen and does spread a rumor, just tell everyone you know that it's not true and tell them to spread the word. And if people start making fun of you about it, just ignore them and hold your head up high, cuz they're the ones with issues, not you. Good luck!
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♥ Erin

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ok @ lunch there r 5 of us @ the table..today were just 4 of us...i have this lil habit if something says somethinf funny while im drinking it sometimes comes out..well this girl is always a bitch like if i step on her boot or something she says shell smack me or w/e , today we some how got into the subject of how much we weighted n we were guessing n she got mine right and i was taking a drink and she said it n then had this funny face expression and i actidently sprayed it all over her face and bc i was laughing so hard n she ran into the bathroom n washed it off then came back n 1- threw my snapple out on me, 2- smacked me, i smacked back bc of it and she said dont fucking touch me and im like well then dont fucking smack me! 3- she took my friends notebook and smacked me with it..and then 4th she took my friends water bottle n dumped it on me so i was went all next period..and i had 3 ppl laughing at me...shes such an ass...and being of the year she dumped this minted stuff in my snapple and dared me n my friend to drink it...which we did...we always try to get her back and she refuses to do it...wut the hell do i do?

Ha, what a bitch! Ok, what would be really funny would be if you and your other friends came to the lunch table a little bit earlier, and then later, when she tries to sit down, say she can't sit with you and make her feel embarrassed. Maybe get some more people to sit with you and make sure there's never a seat for her. Or if you know where her locker is, put a mean sign on it, like, loser or something. (as long as it doesn't get u in trouble) Well, that's all I could think of. Good luck!
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♥ Erin

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Hey guys, our Sadie Hawkin's dance is coming up, and I want a creative way to ask my guy. We're dating, and I don't really have to ask him, I just kinda want to. Lol. Some ideas have been:
Balloons
Puzzle
Cake (but that won't work because I can't bake...)
Um...I think that's all my friends have thought of. If you guys think one of these ideas is great, tell me, and lemme know if you have any other ideas! Thanks =)

Hey, I think the puzzle idea is really cute! And don't feel bad, I can't bake worth crap, lol. Good luck!
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♥ Erin

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i have a friend who used to be very down to earth and friends with everyone. now she is "popular". Just because of that, she thinks she is better than everyone else, and everyone agrees. she is snobby too, like saying stuff like "omg i hate fat people, old people, smelly people, and people that dont like me." the problem is, i love being friends with her!! she is so much fun to hang out with when there are not other people there. with other people, she seems to think she needs to act like that. when i ask her why she is so mean to me, she says "you are mean to me because you think you are so much better!!!" what should i do?!?!

Try talking to her about it. Tell her that she doesn't need to act like that when she's around other people, you already know she's cool. A good friend will listen. If she doesn't change after awhile, try looking for other friends. Good luck!
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♥ Erin

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hey i'm in college and i'm really shy. i can't seem to make friends with anyone in class. i have friends in my dorm and im comfortable with them, but i see people in my class that i would want to be friends with, but i can't seem to get myself to talk to anyone. i like crawl inside myself and no matter what i can't say anything. especially to guys (im female). i've been trying real hard to open up, but i just can't seem to do that. any advice on how to start opening up and becoming more comfortable with myself and be able to talk to people without being scared that they won't like me? i know im in college and shoud be over that already, and i am for the most part, its just when im surrounded by people i dont know it makes it really hard. thanks in advance to anyone who answers this

I'm really shy too, but what helps is putting yourself in their shoes. Pretend like they're the ones coming to you. If you don't think of them as losers, they won't think that about you either! Trust me, this works for me. You have nothing to be afraid of. You seem like a nice person, they have no reason to NOT like you! Good luck!
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♥ Erin

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i need to know stuff about having boobs. i'm 15 years old and i need to know stuff. like should i wear one at night? what kinds of bras are right? and they hurt sometimes, so what can i do?

You don't have to wear one at night, because it can get uncomfortable. To find out what kind works best for you, you just have to try on different kinds and styles of bras, there's tons. If it hurts, then it doesn't fit. Remember to adjust the straps if that helps. Good luck!
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♥ Erin

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ok well i have had a huge crush on this guy, let's call him bob, for awhile now. i have told him this-anonymously- but i can't get myself to talk to him. i tend to be shy around guys, but i'm definitely not hideous looking either. i don't know what to do. any advice??

Just be yourself, and wear an outfit that you feel confident in. Try this, it works for me: Tell him that your friends keep bugging you about how cute you'd be together and ask him what he thinks. That way, if he says no, you won't be embarrassed. Good luck!
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♥ Erin

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i have this friend who is so selfish. she told me that if i went out with his guy named matt that shed hate me more then her friend olivia. i really like her as a frind..but i want your opinion..thanx

She has no right to do this! A friend would accept who you're going out with, even if she didn't like him. Trust me, she's not a true friend. I would go out with Matt and get a new friend. Good luck!
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♥ Erin

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i dont know how to dance. can someone pleas tell me some moves on just how to dance, like a dance for a school dance. please dont delete

Here's a good website you can use: http://www.bustamove.com/
Good luck!
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♥ Erin

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OK, I have been on Weight Watchers and I got down to 125 pounds. Well, on Sunday I splurged a bit because I went to the city and I had chinese food and today I went over my points a bit and had a grilled cheese sandwich..alright, well...now I'm 130 pounds. What's up with THIS?! how can i magically gain 5 pounds in 3 days. Is this just a trick of the scale?

It could possibly be a trick, because depending on your elevation, weight varies, but I think it's just because you splurged. Your body was used to eating a certain amount, and when you splurged, it got confused I think! Just keep doing what you're doing, but no more splurges. Good luck!
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♥ Erin

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