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I am a 29/f that loves to listen and try to help out. I have always been the one people go to for advice.

I will tell you how I feel about it. If you don't like my answer, I'm sorry. However, usually what I say is true, people just can't handle the truth.

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ok...i have a question about birthcontrol && my mom.I'am a 14year old female and i want to get on birthcontrol but my mom kinda has a problem with that.She doesnt know that me and my boyfriend have had sex or anything and i dont want to tell her either =( so i REALLY WANT to get on the pill or get the shot because i DONT want to get pregnant!!(OO NOO) but how do i tell my MOM that?
like i dropped hints to her that i want to get on one of them but she just blows me off =( ...so what do i do?? .::.K.::.

well, there is a solution if your mother doesn't allow you to get bc. I can understand her point of view, but it's also not wise to live in denial. In the long run, it could be worse if she doesn't listen to you. I can suggest that to get on birth control without even having to tell your mom about it, you can go to the health department. They legally can't tell your parents about it, unless you are a threat to yourself or someone else. In this case, since its just sex, it is not considered a threat.

If you are dead set about making sure that your mom knows, just go up to her, tell her straight up that you want to be on birth control. Tell her that when and if you decide to pursue an actual sex life, you would rather be safe than sorry. (even though we know you are already active, but she doesn't have to know that). I hope this helps. Good Luck!!

Okay, here's my story.
I'm 18/m, graduated, with a year of cooking school under my belt. I'm currently a dishwasher/prep cook at a high end restaurant. My problem is that I recently discovered I don't want to be a cook. And now I need a career change but don't have enough money to go back to college. I live in B.C. if that helps. Any advice is greatly appreciated, thank you.

I am not sure if this will help, but the University of Phoenix offers classes to individuals that they can do from home. I am such an advocate for this college. I am currently attending this college and think the best of it.

I get student loans that covers all but $100 a year. The rest is taken care of by the pell grant, plus I get extra money twice a year to help cover expenses for other things.

Here is a link that is for B.C. area and this college.http://phoenix.19gi.com/state/BC/

The sky is the limit on what you can choose to do for this. I do want to say though, I wanted to be a chef too. It was horrible for me not to be able to attend a wonderful school that offers culinary arts. I am sad to see that you have lost your love for it. I hope at least you will continue to pursue your passion, even if it's not for your career. Best of Luck!! If you need any more advice, I'm here.

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okay..
well ive had my period for about a year now

and... its still really dark...
like burgundy/maroon

1)is that bad?
2)please tell me i dont have to go to the gyno?
3)whats it from? and whys it still here?

1) no
2) at least once a year
3) it's normal, everyone's period is different from the next persons. It's still here because you are a woman now and if it were gone, what would that make you?

I think you are worried about nothing. I wouldn't judge yourself based on someone else's experience. Women are unique in every sense. Just like two snowflakes are never alike, neither are people.

However, with that being said, you still need to go see a gynocologist at least once a year, even if you are not sexually active. This will allow the doctor to find any abnormalities that you would never even notice before without a doctors eye. It's for your own safety, and it's also better to be safe than sorry. Good Luck!!

Well my best friend is popular, and really pretty, but she doesnt think so or just likes to be reassured. She is always like im so ugly, noone likes me, im fat, etc. But the thing is, a lot of guys like her, they think shes pretty, and every time i start to like a guy, they start to like my bff I really started to like this guy, like i would do anything for him. I was planning on telling him and my bff this weekend, but he had always had a thing for my bff. Well the day b4 i was going to tell her, she imed me, "OMG "Chris" (code for guy i like) just told me he liked me!!!"

She didnt know i liked him so i told her, oh cool, and shes like i like another guy but i think i might like "chris" too. I was crushed but i didnt know what to say. SHe could get any guy she wants, and i cant even get one guy. I am really sad about this. What can i do to make her stop saying shes not pretty, but make her not think im mad at her? And how do i tell her i like "chris" when she likes him, well KINDA likes him, even though i REALYL like him? and i cant just say, oh well i like chris, its not that simple. Thanks 14/f!

Honestly, it is that simple, just tell her. Let her know that you were working up the nerve to talk to him, but she kind of beat you to the punch. If you two are as good of friends as you say you are, then she should understand. Let her know that you actually really like him, and would like for her to let go of this one.

On approaching her with the "I'm not pretty" part, just tell her "yes, you are very pretty, every guy seems to find you attractive for some reason or another, you wish she could get over her low self-esteem, because she has no reason to be." Of course, she could be one of those ego-maniacs that want to hear all the time of how pretty others think she is, just to keep her morale up, but considering she seems to not have this characteristic, I think your safe.

Friends are suppose to be able to talk to each other about everything and anything. I would see no reason why these two subjects would be any different. Just try to be honest and not catty, and I am sure that things will work out for the best.

I would like to say though, even though you express interest to her about "Chris", he may not share the same feelings for you. Just be prepared to be turned down, because he already has his sights set on your friend.

Good Luck!

i heard that eatting alot of oinion make your hair grow faster, i want grow my hair so fast and long, how? buy special shampoon or eat oinion?

I can honestly say that I have never heard of this one before. I have, however, asked a beauty technician of any sure fire ways of getting my hair to grow and she just said to get routine hair trims, keep it well kept, and take a multi-vitamin. I asked her if mane and tale works, and she said no it doesn't. She said it just builds up on your hair making it appear oily and flat. Besides, do you really want to have onion breath all the time? Even if it works, noone would care because they wouldn't want to be that close to you ;)!!!

Ok, so my boyfriend has a show (he raps) at a club this friday. I've been with him for 2 years and havent seen him perform yet, so i kinda want to. But, the problem is..is that i am nottt a club person. I cannot dance and if I tried I'd look so stupid infront of my boyfriend and everyone else. So I thought about standing off to the side and just watch him. How stupid would I look? I'd feel weird having everyone else around me dancing and then me just standing there. So what do you think, go there and stand or dont go at all? I just cannnottt dance.

At clubs, they tend to have tables and chairs, or at least they used to. If they do, just go and hang out there. If it will make you feel less left out, take a friend to sit with you and help keep you company. Have fun.

alright so me and this kid have been talking for a while now and we both like each other alot but we go to different schools and live in different districts :( which totally stinks. and its weird cause whenever we try to hang out he ALWAYS has something going on or he cancels at the last minute. and well...we play truth or dare alot online and i told him that i would give him a hj and that he could finger me but we would have to wait...and all this was after he told me he liked me. so idk whats up the kid cause like all the sudden he's freaking out and not being how he was...and we don't really have that same connection as we use too..and i want it back cause i liked him alot.

alright this was long but thanks you're awesome :)

Here's a thought, maybe he's all talk and no action. He could be scared that you are going to actually live up to your part of the dare and that may scare him. I would suggest just taking things slower and maybe talk to him like friends to see if he comes to you and asks if there is something wrong. If he does, just tell him you thought he was shying away because he just wanted to be friends, and you would rather be friends with him than nothing at all. Maybe it will go from there.

My boyfriend and I go to different schools. I've never cheated on him, I don't flirt with other boys. But the other day he heard from a few people that go to school with me that I was all over his best friend Freddie.
Fred and I are really close, but he's going out with my really close friend. I would never do anything with him; I see him more as a cousin or brother or something. All that happened was at lunch we were insulting each other helluv, but really just kidding around. Then I made fun of his hair and he started fake pouting, so I ran behind him and hugged him (he was sitting down). Apparently everyone that was there thought it was really weird. His girlfriend got freaked out and thought that I was doing it to piss her off.
So my boyfriend hears about all of this later and gets really upset with me.
I really don't know what to do
I talked to my boyfriend about it but it didn't really solve anything. i told him that all I was doing was screwing around, but he seemed hurt and basically said he was thinking about breaking up with me. I really don't get how something so meaningless turned into something this big. I wasn't even thinking when I did it... I definitely didn't expect it to blow up and piss everyone off.
I apologized to Fred for making him uncomfortable. I apologized to his girlfriend, but she said it wasn't a big deal because she shouldn't have gotten so worried in the first place. i felt really bad though.. and I hope things are actually okay between me and them.

I honestly am not the type of person that would do something so horrible on purpose. I didn't mean it the way it looked.

I don't know what to do. Is everyone overreacting? ..or did I really screw up that badly?
How am I supposed to fix this.

I would like to point out that even though you thought it wasn't a big deal, it may be to someone else. However, he does need to trust you enough to be able to handle the jealous tendencies. Let him know that he can trust you, but if he feels that he can't maybe he should just walk away now, because a relationship without trust wouldn't be worth pursuing. I hope that make sense.

Also, remember not everyone has the same sense of care-free actions as you do, and it may actually offend someone. Do I think you screwed up badly? No, you didn't. I think you were just being yourself and that they all took it wrong. Do I think they are overreacting? No. I think they are justified but since you are their friend they should understand that nothing was meant by it.

As for the lil snitches that told your bf, watch out, it could be someone wanting him too.

everymorning about 8am i alwaayysss hungrryy, so i didn't get up and eat but why i always feeling so hungry everymoring at 8am? because i don't eat enough? i eat alot last night, eatting good thing, i don't understand why I'm still hungry in moring, and have to get up 8am to eat ugh.

and is it safe to eat then lay down?

Actually, I have found if I eat right before bed, I am starving when I wake up. I would suggest waiting an hour before you go to bed after eating.

Although, it won't hurt you to eat and then lay down, but it does increase the chances to gain weight. You do burn calories asleep, but not enough for the food you eat right before going to bed.

Also, if you used to eat breakfast at 8 am around the same time for a while, your body has set up it's own routine in which they know when your body is hungry. I have learned that if your stomach growls, you are already past the hungry stage. I hope this helps.

My baby is having a problem with getting rid of a diaper rash.

I have tried the following:

-Diaper rash ointments such as, A+D, Desitin (Zinc Oxide), and pretty much any other diaper rash ointment I can get out of the store.

-Corn starch and baby powder with cornstarch.

-Gold Bond medicated powder.

-Gold Bond Cream.

-Using baby wipes only when wet washrags are unavailable.

-Of course, diaper changes more frequent than normal.

-Letting it air out. (Diaperless crawling baby doesn't work so hot.)

-Using a blow dryer to dry the area.

I have gotten rid of most of the rash, but there are places left on his bottom that is still red and sore.

It isn't severe enough for me to feel he needs to go to the doctor, or trust me, we would be there already.
He seldom gets rashes, and when he does, they are usually difficult to completely get rid of. This one is being especially stubborn.

I know the cause already.
He is eating solid foods for three meals a day now, at 30 ounces of milk a day, 6 ounces of 100% fruit juice a day, plus his favorite snack, shredded wheat, a couple of times a day. Which means, the more he eats, the more frequently he moves his bowels.
(In case you are wondering, his pediatrician is aware of how much he consumes in a day, and says he is right where he needs to be on that.)

He isn't consuming anything new for it to be caused by allergic reaction. He is prescribed Benedryl to take in the event that happens.

He isn't ever left wearing dirty diapers, it is just that the sensitive skin on his bottom isn't used to all that pooping, which is recently 1-2 times daily.

So that is all of the information I can think of that can be helpful for you to help me.

Any suggestions of other home remedies I can try to get rid of this rash?

My daughters used to get diaper rash all the time. Here are the few things that I learned.

1- It could be the diaper, even if the baby hasn't responded badly before to the diaper, he could have developed new allergies to it, diapers tend to try to make their diaper new and improved, which could lead to more diaper rash problems.

2-Like the other one said, the Boudreaux's Butt Paste works absolute wonders. It was the only one I found to get rid of it.

3- You said he drinks 100% juice. Juice has a lot of acidity in them, which causes diaper rash, regardless of how long the diaper is on the baby. I would suggest dilluting the juice so it's not as strong for his bottom.

4- Use the nautral wipes. Wipes have alcohol in them that even though it kills germs, it also aggravates diaper rash.

5- Milk and acid reducing type agents relieve the acid in your system, you could dab some milk on a cotton ball and blot the areas that are infected, or coat it with something like Mallox.

I hope your baby gets better, and that some of these suggestions will help. I, too, was a upset mamma because I didn't like to see my babies in pain. Good Luck!!

have you guys heard of erythema dyschromicum perstans? its a really rare and BAD skin disease and noone knows the cause and the cure for it...

short synonym for it : ashy dermatosis

i sadly have it and have you guys heard of ow to heal it?

ive had it for 2 years. im 14 and i wanna a normal teenager with nice skin not one with spots looking likea tiger or cheetah

please research it would help al ot i wanna know what i can do so i can prevent from getting darker

more information would be helpful

i appreciate it

thanks in advance

My best advice to you is to ask Michele. She has some background in skin care. Here is her link at advicenators:
http://www.advicenators.com/column.php?u=Michele&t=&skip=200

Well im a very sensitive person . just the littlest , tinyest things can set off my emotions and make me cry , being yelled at , someone say a certain thing to me , just anything . No im not an emo im 99% happy most of the time , its just the smallest things hurt my feelings . How do i control this or , like " not care " so much ?

I am the exact same way. I would get called into the bosses office to get reprimanded, even if it was something small but still I'd cry. Someone would get onto me, I'd cry. My best friend would give me a look and I'd yell and cry.

Being sensitive sucks, and there is nothing wrong with it. I would rather be sensitive that not have any emotion at all. However, I have finally learned that not everything deserves a tear now. I am to the point where I get mad. I'm not sure if that's any better, but at least I don't feel so vulnerable anymore, and believe me that's what makes it so hard to be sensitive is the vulnerability.

I would like to tell you that for one, you need to look at that person and think, ya know what I am strong and you are not getting to me, and two, try and remember that you are a person who is strong, independent, care-free, and full of life. If you look at your strong attributes when you are thinking about crying, it may help build your tolerance. I hope it gets better for you, good luck.

I know this may sound dumb, but I was wondering if a stainless steel ring would turn your finger green? I know that some jewelry does that... I just didn't know if stainless steel was one of them. My boyfriend and I are getting eachother rings for Valentine's Day. Nothing expensive, just like 40-60 dollars. The ones I have found are stainless steel, so I wanted to make sure that wasn't a bad idea.

Any ring can turn your finger green, real or not. I had an 18k ring turn my finger green and it was real, not plated. It has to do with the acidicty in your body. Sometimes, it can be so high, that it reacts to you by making it turn green. Now, what I would suggest, getting something you know that doesn't turn you green for sure, but even then it just depends on your body's acid level. I hope this helps.

okay so there is this guy sam and he likes me well at least i think he does and he has asked me out before and i said no becuase i only look at him only as a friend.....so months passed by and i went out with his friend two of his friends tommy and nick and im still in love with tommy by the way lol....but now sam is texting me more and im talking to him becuase i'm always bored well he told me he has strong feelings about me and i said the same thing back becuase he's a really cool guy he's nice and gives good advice then theres this guy my friend wants me to talk to adrian and im interested in talking to him to but what if i want to get with adrian? but...dont want to hurt sam what do. and i really want a boyfriend also, i do this all sucks but i need advice becuase i dont want to hurt anybody and seem like a bitch that is leading people on you know? so yeah if someone can help

In all honesty, you are leading them on. You are bouncing from one guy to the next to see which one you think is best for you. It's not right to be bouncing from one person to the next without considering how they would feel if you were to get caught. I would suggest you take a step back, figure out which one you truly do want and go from there. Stop leading others on, and pick one. Honestly, there's no use in even bringing another guy in the mix as is.

Carolyn is my Substitute Mother because mine isn't there for anything, yet my real Mother has made it very clear our relationship is SchoolWork and thats it.
Well I know Im not doing good, im just so hyper and social... I need to stop I dont want to hurt peoples feelings by saying I dont want to talk to you right now but I have to because if I dont I'll lose her.
So I'm planning on asking Adam who is hardcore genuis to give em some advice and were firends so I know he will.
I just don't know how easy it will be...
I dont wanna hurt peoples feelings so
Any tips would be rocking.

Ok, I am sorry, but I am not sure what you are asking exactly. I know that you are having problems with one or two of the people you consider as a mom, but who are you wanting your friend to talk to?

I know they're the same person but music wise, what's the difference between 2pac, Tupac, and Tupac Shakur. Isn't one of them not really him or something? and what music by him do you reccomend?

Tupac Shakur (Tupac) is his real name. 2pac is the name they use on the albums titles. It is all the same person. The album All Eyez on Me (both sets) is the best one I think. I also like the greatest hits vol 1 and 2. If you want to the best of his music I would go with that. I forgot to add that Machivelli was one of his other names he went by. It was used to make 1 album before he died. Tupac is a very controversial story that some like to speculate on. I myself, think he was a great artist, loved his music, and believe that if he is still alive, he's no longer with us, so it's the same thing ;). If you want more info on him, you could always google him or find him on wikipedia.

I have recently purchased a used boat from a private seller and found out after the sale there is major engine problem. I had the boat taken to a well known company that has its own marine department and is an authorized Mercury Boat Motor service center. I paid them to check and inspect the boat and motor and to change and inspect the motor lower end gear lube prior to my purchasing the boat. The results of the inspection indicated only minor problems with the boat and that the gear lube was dirty. The oil was changed in the lower end at that time. I purchased the boat five days later and took it home and put it in my garage to do some of the minor repairs. Within 15 minutes I noticed an oil leak coming from the prop area in the lower end. I took it back to the shop and they found major damage to the lower end costing several thousands of dollars to repair. This is the reason I took the boat in to this shop in the first place to protect my self from this situation.
Do I have any recourse against the seller or the shop that inspected the boat? I have not had the boat in the water or even started the motor since I purchased the boat.
Thanks for any advice you can give me.

From what I understand, there really isn't. Did you have a contract with the guy that sold you the boat, stating that the boat had no major problems with it? You could go and talk to the manager from the repair place and see what guarantees they make.

I would also check to see what kind of civil and other legal options you can pursue. The best I can say right now, is call an attorney and ask them the questions you need the answer too. They usually offer free phone advice if you just want to get retribution.

when you have your hand in your boyfriends crotch area, and you can feel the crotch, but you dont put your whole hand around it. so, its not a hand job.. its like... feeling someone up.. but in their crotch.. haha. is there a term for that?

I would call it foreplay ;)!!!! No seriously, there isn't really a technical name for it, however feeling him up would be the most accurate. I am also assuming that you are referring the outside of the pants, in this case, that could also be called copping a feel.

so i've been with my boyfriend for 9 months now and i'm very sure about us. when we are going out for atleast a year i want to have sex with him. i'm 17 years old and i feel that i'm ready, the only thing holding me back is that i won't have birth control. i would deffinitley use a condom but i'm so scared about getting pregnant. is there any advice you can give me on not being so nervous about it?

Here's the thing about sex, it's almost like playing Russian Roulette if you are protected 100%. With that kind of pressure, no wonder there is so much nervousness.

If you are intent on having sex with him, (by all means, if it will make you happy then do it) I would suggest going to your local health department and getting on birth control. If you are planning on doing this, birth control starts working one month after you have started taking it, giving you 2 months to be totally prepared. This way, you won't have any worries about it because you are taking two different approaches to birth control. Also, the health department can absolutely NOT tell anyone, including your parents, about you coming in to get birth control.

That is the best advice I can give you. I had a friend who had a baby at the age of 15, she wasn't ready, but she had to deal with it. If you make sure to protect yourself, you can have fun and still avoid any complications. Good Luck!!

I was born a natural blonde, and when i was younger it was really blonde up untill i was about 12. Then my hair started getting dark blonde almost brown, so i finally got sick of it and dyed my hair blonde for the first time around Sept. Now i have dark roots and the blonde color looks ridiculous. I was thinking about dying my hair really blonde like anna nicole smith or marilyn monroe, but im not sure where to get the dye. I've looked at walmart, and some local stores around where i live, but i don't want to buy another dye, and it doesn't come out the color i want.

In all honesty, the best way to get the color you want and it look right, is to go to a salon. I know it is expensive but here's why. The kits you can buy at the department stores don't use the proper amount of developer which can give you an orangy tint to your color.

It's best to leave this kind of thing to a professional. Also, they have the right products to use on your hair so it won't get damaged.

I mean you could be walking around looking like Carrot Top, with bright orange hair and frizzy. EWWW!! The way I look at it, I wouldn't try to do lipo on myself because I don't know the proper technique or have the proper tools to do so, why should I try to do my own hair, for the same reason ;)

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