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My friend...my crush
Well my best friend is popular, and really pretty, but she doesnt think so or just likes to be reassured. She is always like im so ugly, noone likes me, im fat, etc. But the thing is, a lot of guys like her, they think shes pretty, and every time i start to like a guy, they start to like my bff I really started to like this guy, like i would do anything for him. I was planning on telling him and my bff this weekend, but he had always had a thing for my bff. Well the day b4 i was going to tell her, she imed me, "OMG "Chris" (code for guy i like) just told me he liked me!!!"
She didnt know i liked him so i told her, oh cool, and shes like i like another guy but i think i might like "chris" too. I was crushed but i didnt know what to say. SHe could get any guy she wants, and i cant even get one guy. I am really sad about this. What can i do to make her stop saying shes not pretty, but make her not think im mad at her? And how do i tell her i like "chris" when she likes him, well KINDA likes him, even though i REALYL like him? and i cant just say, oh well i like chris, its not that simple. Thanks 14/f!
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ok..well i am 14 and a female as well and i know EXACTLY what youre going through. i have a friend and she is absolutely GORGEOUS, buut the thing is she knows it. i really liked this guy, "derek" and she hated him for like a year, until i told her i liked him. once i told her, she started being all flirty and stuff..i tried to pretend like i wasnt mad at her, but it was soo hard. just tell her how you feel, i know that it will be hard, but if shes your bff then i think she'll understand. if she still goes out with him then you know who your true friends are...
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well really it is as simple as you said it. You know how they say the truth will set you free? Well... just tell her that you like him, and believe it or not there are guys that like her and she is pretty...(But hint to you, guys find girls like that a big turn off. They want self confident girls... ;).....But just tell her what you told us!!!! You will feel way WAY better! and tell him how you feel about him.....
Maybe he could like you but think that you not like him so he went to your BFF....just give it a shot...
-hayley
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Honestly, it is that simple, just tell her. Let her know that you were working up the nerve to talk to him, but she kind of beat you to the punch. If you two are as good of friends as you say you are, then she should understand. Let her know that you actually really like him, and would like for her to let go of this one.
On approaching her with the "I'm not pretty" part, just tell her "yes, you are very pretty, every guy seems to find you attractive for some reason or another, you wish she could get over her low self-esteem, because she has no reason to be." Of course, she could be one of those ego-maniacs that want to hear all the time of how pretty others think she is, just to keep her morale up, but considering she seems to not have this characteristic, I think your safe.
Friends are suppose to be able to talk to each other about everything and anything. I would see no reason why these two subjects would be any different. Just try to be honest and not catty, and I am sure that things will work out for the best.
I would like to say though, even though you express interest to her about "Chris", he may not share the same feelings for you. Just be prepared to be turned down, because he already has his sights set on your friend.
Good Luck!
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