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Well i made cupcake two days in advance o fthe day that they will all be eatened and I can't decide whether which way will keep it mroe fresh and keep the taste so it tastes and looks as good as it did on the first day i made them:

-put them in the fridge
-leave them on the counter (air temperature) in/not in bags.

This is my first time making..any type of cakes so I'm really not sure.

By the way, they have no icing, I'm going to ice them on the day at the last minute.

Thank you!

I just did a bit of research for you and apparently it's best if you put them in a container and put them in the freezer. Once you take them out, allow them to thaw, then put the icing/decorations on.

http://cupcakestakethecake.blogspot.com/2005/07/how-long-do-cupcakes-keep.html
http://au.answers.yahoo.com/answers2/frontend.php/question?qid=20071024141800AAPCYgM

If for some reason you can't freeze them, put them in a container and then the fridge.

There's this guy that I hook up with every weekend. (Hook up as in making out, not sex). I want him to give me a hickey, but I don't know how that could happen. I can't just say, I want a hickey, that would be wierd. So what can I do to make him give me one.

You could try giving him one first.. Or at least kiss his neck a little. He may get the hint and do it back.
but if he doesn't, you can't make him. He might not be into that.

i have a hair straightener, but it's really cheap (around $18 from walmart). and, of course, it doesnt really straighten my hair that well.

is there a straightener out there that gets REALLY hot and makes your hair REALLY straight?

[please nothing over $200]

GHD's. My hair is very curly and it works great. It heats up within seconds and the plates are ceramic, so it locks in your hairs natural oils and doesn't damage it as much as metal plates would. It's also in your price range. :)

I plan on being a virgin until I'm married. I am currently a fifteen year old female. I've been confused lately about whether or not I should be dating and in relationships. Can I be in relationships and still manage to stay true to the no sex thing?
[By no sex, it includes everything, not just intercourse. No oral, fingering, touching someone below the waist, nudity, cybersex, phone sex, etc.
]

And no, these aren't rules set by my parents or anybody else. My parents have set no boundaries on me or even talked about it. This is something I decided on my own.

That's a really nice decision you've made by the way. I admire it.
Of course it can be possible if you find the right person who will respect your decisions.
I also hope you have enough will power to stay true to your word, because with you growing up and experiencing the world of dating etc, it might prove difficult to keep to it.
but I guess if it means that much to you to wait until marriage, you'll remember your reasons and hopefully not give in.
I really wish you the best of luck. :)

sory if this is gross. I hurt myself when i was playing lacross with my friends and i had a scab on my leg. yesterday it fell of and bleed alittle but now there is an indentation where it was, and the skin is red, but its not a scab its like normal skin. i was wondering how i can get the redness away and get it back to normal looking as fast as possible becuase i have to wear a dress on friday thanks.

It can fade within a week, but I highly doubt it will disappear. It's most probably a scar.
I had a cut on my ankle, weeks later, the scar is still there and is red as ever.
To help you, try rubbing in some vitamin E oil to the area, or creams made for scars. Keep it moisturised.
I wouldn't worry too much about it though. You can hide it if you like. Make up does work.. :)

so my life is pretty much going the wrong way. first the love of my life...(bf)... dumps me for nuthin. and then my labtop crashed so my mom got me a new one. im known as a spoiled brat. but i feel like im getting poorer cuz i aint really getting nuthin for christmas and stuff. so idk. my mom is getting like depressed and stuff and shes smoking again. and i wanna find a job but i dont turn 14 until december 24. and that aint old enough to get a job. the neighbors that moved in said i could babysit but they havent told me when yet. so i just needa do sumthin to earn money.

thankx

Thankyou for your question.
Well, seeing as you aren't really old enough, you can't get a "proper" job right now.
Here are a few tips to help you earn a bit of money.
*Start by asking your neighbours again
*Offer to walk neighbours dogs
*Offer to cut your neighbours grass and keep their gardens neat and tidy
*Try to get a small job (fruit shop for example)
*Sell things you don't want on ebay or in real life
*Bake cakes etc and sell them
*If you're good at a particular subject, become a tutor and charge a small fee

If it's okay to in the area you live, make some leaflets and hand them out. So if people need the odd job doing, they know who to call.

and remember, life does have it's ups and downs, but in the end you'll come out as a stronger person. Keep your head up and try not to worry. Things will get better eventually. :)

what should I do my girlfriend is so mad at me that doesn't want to talk to me or see me I haven't seen her over a month?

A question for you:
Why would you want a girlfriend who doesn't want to talk to/see you?
I don't know what you've done to make her so angry, but you need to speak to her asap. If you can't resolve your problems, there's no point in your relationship. Unless you are on a break?... then just give her the time she needs.
You could also try telling her you have some serious making up to do.

16/f.
Hi, I've had my period for three years.

Yesterday I just started it, and I felt really nauseous with bad cramps, and I threw up. Anyways, I'm just wondering why I threw up and if there is a way to relieve the pain.

Thanks.

"When you have your menstrual period, you may get mild to bad menstrual cramps or pain in your abdomen or back. You may also have nausea, vomiting, diarrhea, constipation, a headache, or lightheadedness."
It is a normal symptom, despite it being a not very nice one! Same thing happened to me once because it hurt so much. I find if something causes me alot of pain, I end up being sick. :S
To ease the pain, take a nice warm bath and pain killers if necessary. Some people may find exercising actually eases the pain alot, so give it a try.
Feel better soon!

how do i delete myself from someone's facebok top friends?

You cant make alterations to somebody elses top friends.

I was reading a magazine article (about breasts, etc) And is it normal to have a nipple, and your other boob it's like inverted I guess it's called? Like not.."popped" out? I don't get it..

Yes, some people do have inverted nipples. They can correct themselves over time though.
These links will give you information about inverted nipples and cover anything you'd want to know;
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Inverted_nipple
http://www.embarrassingproblems.co.uk/nipples.htm
more here:

what does it mean to be a virgin, does it mean you are sealed if so how do yo go for menstruation because intercourse and menstruation use the same path, or there is a small hole that every girl is born with if so how small is it

Being a virgin means different things for different people. It's mainly a penis entering a vagina. But some people consider anal/oral sex to be losing their virginity, too. Although personally, I think it's strictly vaginal intercourse for the first time which makes you lose your virginity.
Yes, intercourse and menstruation fluid use the same hole, but it doesn't really make a difference, as virgins have periods and non virgins have periods. Everyones hymen is different, but there will always be a place for excretions, whether that be discharge or periods :) Noone is totally "sealed".

My boyfriend fingered me in the butt hole. It kind of freaked me out. . . is this normal for a guy to do?

Can be. Some people like it - some people don't.
If it freaked you out, tell him.

I just recently moved into a new city and I really wanted to apply at a flower shop or pizza place, as a delivery person. Is it even worth my time applying even though I just moved here and don't really know my way around perfectly. Or is that something left for someone that's actually lived here for a few months/years?

I'm sure this is probably common sense, and you're going "duh". But I'm just not sure!

Thanks! :)

I would obviously be an advantage if you knew your way around, because if you didn't, not only would the deliveries be late, it wouldn't exactly give you a glowing reference, since you applied for something you can't really do.
But it's something you can easily work on, so if you give yourself a bit of time to get used to your new surroundings, you should be fine. :)

If your hymen isnt broken can you still become pregnant?

Regardless of whether your hymen is still intact or not, YES - you can still get pregnant.

14/f
I'm a freshman in highschool and I've been liking this one guy (whos a junior) for a while now. Well, he found out I liked him, and apparently he likes me to. He texted me and pretty much asked me to go out with him...and my reaction wasn't a normal reacton!!!
I started to feel sick like I was about to throw up and I suddenly just wanted to crawl into a hole. I don't know why i felt this way. But I had no idea what to tell him, because I've never had a guy I actually liked like me back, and I've NEVER been asked out. So I called him, and we had a pretty awkward conversation...i did most of the talking and TRIED to make small talk, but all he said most of the time was "okay...?" and "yeah...?" so it was pretty weird. I ended up telling him I just want to get to know him more.
So the thing is...I'm SO scared now!!! I realized maybe i'm not ready to have a boyfriend or anything...but i hate messing with this nice guys feelings. I'm so stressed...the thought of seeing him tomorrow is already making me feel sick. But I don't know why!!!So i'm wondering if I just need to end this completely, or if I need to give it a chance......?
what should i do??? This whole thing has made it so awkward just to be around him!

I'll try to keep this short.
It's pretty normal for you to be scared about it, especially since it's the first person who likes you back and would be your first boyfriend.
Take a deep breath and relax! If you think about it, it's nothing to be scared about. and if you truly aren't ready for a boyfriend, that's totally fine. You are only 14 afterall.
I reckon you've done the right thing. You should get to know him more so you'll feel more comfortable with him. Afterwards, you may feel differently about dating him. Just give it a few weeks to see if anything changes. Let him know you need a bit of time. If you don't let him know and you act a bit "off" with him, he may think you aren't interested any more and he may move on.
You're not messing with his feelings. You're just being honest. If he likes you like he says he does, surely he will wait a short while until you come up with a decision.
If you don't feel you're ready to date him after getting to know him more, you must tell him.
Apart from that and if things go well, there's no harm in trying, right?
It's your decision in the end. and try not to feel so nervous about seeing him tomorrow. Just act as you normally would. :)

I am 16 years old and I really want to see a therapist. I just need someone to talk to. I cannot ask my mom because she is simply a bitch and does not believe I have any issues. All she thinks of me is that I am a drama queen. Please, I all I need is someone to trust and talk to.

Are there any other family members you can trust enough to talk to? Even friends? If not, I'm sure your school has someone who can help. I'd also recommend phoning a helpline. They're free, will listen and they will offer great advise to help you with your problems.
You can even talk about your problems online. If you click this link, an adviser will be with you in a matter of seconds and you can explain to him/her what's wrong.
https://www.cxdirect.com/Visitor/IndexTalk.htm
You shouldn't have to suffer. There are plenty of people to talk to :)
Best of luck.

ive had sex several times, but this last time i did it, i bleed.... what was the cause of that?

Could be a number of reasons:
1. Too rough
2. Period?
3. You weren't wet enough
It's most probably the 3rd option. I wouldn't worry about it too much, but if it becomes frequent, you may want to get checked, because it can be something which may need treatment, ranging from slight infections to fibroid tumours.
This search should help you out a bit to gain a little more knowledge on reasons why you can bleed during or after sex.

I needed an inexpensive/free gift for my friend and finally just decided on a CD - also she said this was something she might want.
I decided to make a CD covering a lot of different genres. I'm positive she will like this- just trust me - and so I need to know what different genres to include. The CD will hold 80 minutes, and as much as I would like to include EVERY genre...I obviously cannot. I would like one song for each genre as representation. Here's what I have so far:

Ska
Hardcore
Alternative
Indie
Techno
Country
Rap
Hip-hop
Screamo
Emo
Powerpop

I know I'm missing a LOT of genres...please help me fill in the gaps and also PLEASE reccomend songs that would be good. Thanks oodles!!

http://musicsearch.myspace.com/index.cfm?fuseaction=music.search

You see the drop down genre section on the right? That should help you out loads.
Good luck with the CD by the way :)

One of my friends has got pregnant what should i do to be there for her?

Respect her decisions and let her know if there's anything she needs of you, to let you know.
There's nothing you can really "do" as such apart from let her know you'll stick around and support her.

I had sex ONCE with my boyfriend in late October. He used a condom and it was only for a few minutes, but i'm so ridiculously paranoid. I know he didn't ejaculate because he told me. I've had my period sense then, but my stomach has been hurting for a while. There's been a bad cold going around so i'm pretty sure that's it.
is there any way i'm pregnant?

No.
Stop worrying over nothing.
Pregnancy doesn't just consist of a stomach ache just so you know.. and stressing won't make you feel any better!
Might be worth a trip to your doc if it's bad to rule out any illnesses.

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