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I'm Jack/Jamie.

I'm 28 years old. I graduated from Michigan State University with my Bachelor of Science in Chemistry. GO GREEN! Now I'm a high school chemistry teacher in New York City living with my husband in a small studio apartment we pay way too much money for.

I've been on this site for 14 years as of March 23, 2020.
You may have seen me as CuxMiBeckNow7, but I've since shortened my name.


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Here is my Recommended Columnist of the Decade for the 2020s:
Laura!




--Jack

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can anyone give me any tips on getting a job. i really NEED one.

http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=543176

From there:

You don't need to get a job at a big chain. In fact, most of them don't hire until you're at least 16.

You can do simple jobs like babysitting for friends and family. [You can charge more for more kids the more troublesome they are]
Walk dogs of friends. [The more dogs at once the more money you get! ;)]
Mow lawns in the summer.
Rack leaves in the fall.
Shovel snow in the winter.
All jobs people hate. =]
Get homemade fliers and put them around the neighborhood.
For old people give them the fliers. They are old and can't go far =].

Use this search:

only search advicenators.com


--Jack
(16/m)

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Hey,

I just wanted to know, some people have gold stars,
I wanted to know what they mean , and how you can get them!

Thanks! :)

The gold star is for paid accounts. You can purchase a paid account for only $10 a year. A lot of people have said that it is way worth it simply because you no longer see those crazy ads all over the site. You get a bunch of extra features, as in being able to see the questioner's gender, age, feedback score (how many people they have actually feedback-ed), average feedback (what they usually rate people), and all of their previous questions. You can also see if they have any unread answers, so you have a better idea if the person has read your answer yet or not. The only thing you can't really see is their username, but being able to see their past questions is a huge help in giving good advice!

You can get a paid account here:

http://www.advicenators.com/paidaccounts.php

You also get a "Supporter Discussion" to talk with other paid account users ;]

I don't have one, but I plan to. =]

--Jack
(16/m)

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16/f
hey guys, thanks in advance for your help
this boy sam and i used to hang out a lot and hook up and spend a lot of time together. we just clicked and everything about us seemed compadible. he went on vacation to florida and we kinda stopped talking for alittle while even after he got back. i started dating this boy paul, who i dated 3 years ago and we're so cute together and we get along really well. i feel like were in love, every chance we get we see eachother. and we are both really happy.
well the other day sam and i saw eachother at the local pool in my neighborhood and we got to talkign again and i realized that i really miss him.. he wants to see me and says he would do anything to spend some more time with me. he knows my heart melts when he sings to me so he left me a 5 minute voicemail of him singing a song that reminds him of us. i don't know that to do because i dont want to loose paul, but i can't get sam out of my head.
pleaseee help =)

I say stay with Paul for a little longer. See if you start to feel as if you should date Sam instead of Paul. If over time you convince yourself of that, then I would say it's fine. But you would owe Paul an explanation, you know? If staying with Paul is less-desirable than dating Sam, then maybe it's right that you date Sam.

I guess what I'm saying is don't break up with Paul just yet. Time will tell, along with your heart, who you should be with. You're only a teenager and you have your entire life ahead of you to date =].

--Jack
(16/m)

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ok, its kind of bad, but i am 18 and have never been kissed... i met this one guy and i'm afraid of having my first kiss be bad because i've never done it, you know? anyway, how can i make sure that the guy does not know its my first kiss?

http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=542507

I know this sounds really lame, and I'm sure it is ;]

But just go with the flow. I don't really have experience in how to "properly" kiss, nor do I have experience with kissing at all! Can you say prude? ;]

Anyway- if it's your boyfriend/girlfriend- just be honest with him/her. Tell them you're nervous and you don't really know what you're doing. Apparently the people who are less-experienced is a big turn-on to some people.

Do what you feel comfortable with. If something feels awkward or uncomfortable, don't do it. If it feels right, ask the person if they are okay with that, and if they are- then you'll be fine.

There really isn't a CORRECT way to do it. Everyone does what they are comfortable with.

From my weak experience- this is what I can tell you:

1. Don't come on strong- it's really awkward for the other person.
2. Don't slobber all over the other person.
3. Don't stick your tongue all the way down their throat.


My friend on here, Laura, answered a question similar to this, and she gave a great answer. I will copy her answer, but know that credit goes to her.

www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=542699

Honestly, you could read a book about it, and you'd probably forget everything once you went in for the kiss.


Explore. Do what feels right. Make it fun, playful, romantic, whatever you want it to be. Don't make it all about jamming your tongue down his throat, and try not to drool all over him, because it's generally less than desireable to do so.


If you come off as confident it'll be a lot more fun. If all evening you're thinking "Oh my gosh, this is going to be bad" you won't enjoy yourself. Follow his lead at first, if you're truly that nervous.


And really, it's almost impossible to find a truly bad kisser. If anything, they might do something you're not used to; give it a chance before you hate it. Who knows, he might be thinking the same thing right now about you!


Over time, you'll develop your own personal style of kissing/making out, and that's not a bad thing. Do whatever feels good/right to you, and gets a positive reaction. For example, some people love a gentle, or less than gentle, bite of the lip, "necking", and other techniques. Like I already said, experiment & make it fun!


From personal experience I'd advise that you brush your teeth and floss, and have some mild mints with you, like TicTacs. Fruity is usually good, and less overpowering. If you're at a party, don't worry too much about what you're eating if you're both eating the same things, but a huge plate of hummus & extra garlic is a bad choice right before kissing =P. That's where mints come in handy for both of you. Casually offer him one if he's been gorging on something stinky.





If you do that, he probably won't know, though it's a real turn-on to guys when they are your first kiss.

--Jack
(16/m)

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What are some amazing classics? I'm thinking along the lines of Pride and Prejudice or A Tale of Two Cities. (But not those because I have already read them... i love them.) I need ones that I will thoroughly enjoy reading.

Hmm..

I agree with The Great Gatsby and The Catcher in the Rye, but there's also:

The Sun Also Rises
To Kill a Mockingbird
The Scarlet Letter
The Adventures of Tom Sawyer
The Adventures of Huckleberry Finn

=]

--Jack
(16/m)

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What happens if the 4mth. yr old baby starts to choke on somthing?

http://www.ehow.com/how_15397_help-choking-infant.html


Step1
Check to make sure the baby is not breathing. Watch to see if the baby's chest rises and falls. Listen for the sound of a breath, but don't spend more than 30 seconds listening and watching if you believe your baby is choking.
Step2
Shout loudly and ask someone to call 911. If you are alone, go to the phone with your infant and call 911 as you simultaneously attempt to dislodge the foreign body in your baby's throat.

Step3
Hold the baby in a face-down position, placing the baby lengthwise on your forearm, head pointed toward the ground. The baby's body should be firm against your forearm. Brace your forearm against your thigh if necessary.
Step4
Deliver five firm back blows between the shoulder blades, using the palm of your hand.
Step5
If your baby doesn't begin to cry after the back blows, lay him or her face up in the other arm.
Step6
Administer five chest thrusts: Place three fingers in the center of the baby's chest, with your middle finger positioned in an imaginary line between the nipples. Raise the middle finger off the chest and use the other two fingers to thrust.
Step7
Look into the infant's mouth for a visible blockage. If you see no sign of a foreign body, attempt to ventilate the baby with your mouth.
Step8
Place your mouth over the baby's nose and mouth. Make a tight seal with your lips and blow out. If your breath does not move the baby's chest up and down, move the baby's head and neck into a slightly different position and try giving one more breath.
Step9
If the airway is still blocked, continue with another set of back blows and chest thrusts until trained medical help arrives.



--Jack
(16/m)

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why is everyone so in love with the jonas brothers?
personally i dont like them, and if i express my opinion everyone yells at me and says "how can you hate them you don't know them" and my retort is "how can you love them you dont know them either". but anyways im so sick of being ridiculed for not liking them, and i just want to know what the big deal with them is?

They've become so commercialized in partnership with Disney Channel, and since every little teenage girl watches Disney Channel at least once in her lifetime, they are most likely exposed to them.

Personally, I don't care for them- I think they are all talk and no walk. Their music is lame and I only like maybe one of their songs- but it was before I knew who they were.

People can't force you to like them. Just keep standing by your position, because there are a lot of people who agree with you.

They really are just a boy band whom every girl thinks is "totally super hott, lyk3 omg!", and it gets irritating, I know.

--Jack
(16/m)

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16/f
hey so i have been hooking up with this guy for a couple weeks, who is alot more experenced than me, hes has fingered me a couple times and i know i should give him a hand job, im ready and everything just a little nervous. Do you think i should tell him i have never gave a hand job before or just go for it and hope for the best haha. Thanks 4 your advice in advance!!!

I would tell him. Being honest about things like that is your best bet. You wouldn't want him thinking you're lying to him or something.

--Jack
(16/m)

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ive been on yaz for over 2 years now.. and i was put on antibiotics 2 days ago.. my boyfriend and i had unprotected sex yesterday, what are the chances of me being pregnant?

I'm not a doctor, but unless antibiotics have some adverse effect on the effectiveness of birth control, then your chances are slim.

But there are a lot of people who still get pregnant even on birth control.

Try to use a condom next time to decrease your risk.

--Jack
(16/m)

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how is having sex defined?
like if he puts it in u does that count?
or does he have to actually cum in a condom? like i dont know what "counts" and what doesnt
thanks!

People define sex differently when it comes to oral sex, anal sex, and the like.

But everyone seems to agree that whenever a penis enters your vagina [in fact, it's not the fact that it's a consensus that makes it true- that's the ACTUAL definition], that is having sexual intercourse.

Whether he cums inside of you or not, it's still sex.

--Jack
(16/m)

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Is it better to pop a blister or leave it to heal by it's self. My trainer told me to tear the skin, drain it, and keep it clean and covered but it just seems like it would be better to heal itself.

Which one?

http://www.ehow.com/video_3365_care-blister.html

From there:


Step1
Clean the skin around the blister.
Step2
Place a doughnut-shaped piece of moleskin over the blister. This will keep pressure off it.
Step3
Try to avoid popping the blister unless it's in an especially awkward place, such as the bottom of your foot. The blister provides a sterile environment for the skin underneath. Breaking it makes the area more susceptible to infection.
Step4
If you need to pop the blister, use sterile implements, puncture it in a few places at its base and drain the fluid.
Step5
If you need to puncture it or if it breaks on its own, clean the area with soap and water or Betadine.
Step6
Avoid peeling any skin off the blister; this can lead to an infection and delay healing.
Step7
Cover the exposed blister with a thin layer of antibiotic ointment and dry sterile gauze.
Step8
Change the gauze regularly and watch for signs of infection, such as pus or redness.


Basically, don't pop it unless it's in a very awkward place.

--Jack
(16/m)

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So ive been talking to this guy for about 3 months now and we have been long distance friends for about three years..he lives about an hr n half away from me in montana..we started talking again this summer..we would talk every nigh ton the phone even if i was on vacation..well a couple of weeks ago he started dating this girl..and i thought we were talking..i was planning on spending a couple of days w/ him but then he told me he was dating this girl..i was shocked i couldnt believe it..i told him i wanted him to be my first and now i feel stupid for saying that..what do i do about this situation? it makes me so angry

As much as I hate to tell you this, you have to accept that he has a girlfriend. Trying to steal him from her would be wrong.

Most teenage relationships don't last more than a few months anyway, so maybe just be patient for a month or two and he might be single again.

Then again, he might not want to date you. You certainly can't make him date you. Being friends is often the smartest thing you can do.

--Jack
(16/m)

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Ok so after that i was doing what you said. Taking my mind off of him. I found another guy over summer, in a different state at my dads. He lives about 3 houses down but yeah. And he would be real nice to me sometimes but at other times he would act like i was a burden to be around.
And for the record all i ever tried to do was be his friend. I defended him- like a friend. I talked to him- like a friend. I was nice to him- like a friend. He told my brother he thought i was "hott"... And my dad says he is always asking about me and when im coming back.
But i dont know. Sometimes i just feel so. Just so. He was nice to me over myspace and he had his friend asking me if i liked him. But yet wouldnt tell me what tyler was thinking. And he is so concieted and he is 16 and this really ticks me off because this lil girl is like my sister. But they was in a swimming pool and he untied her bikini and let everything show. And that is horrible... he is immature. But still i think i like him. But then i think im wrong and am wasting my time....

He was defending me when my psycho cousin started calling me and threatening me...(he tried to pretty much rape me but didnt get very far) and im still a lil jaded from that. So im starting to think im going to wind up alone with 20 cats. And thats where the thoughts of cj come in.

Hmm well I think that kid you met at your dad's house may like you if he's always asking about you. Sure, guys can be immature, but I'm sure he means the best. Why not try it out with him; if it doesn't work- it's really no big deal because he lives a little ways away, right?

Plus this kid might help you get your mind off of CJ.

--Jack
(16/m)

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14/f
Ok well theres this guy,"A", and I really, really like him. He is so sweet, funny, & attractive. I found out that he liked me!!! I was so happy, but it doesn't seem like he likes me and ask me out. I think he's flirting but just in case heres what he does:
1. I'm his top girl on myspace, even before his best friend thats a girl
2. He always talks to me on myspace, and even calls me on the phone
3. He invited me over to his house a couple times just to hang out
4. He always insults me, and i'm like awhhh ur meann, then he smiles
5. He has had only 2 girlfriends before, so i dont think he has a problem with asking me out, although he is a little shy
So, i just wanted to see is he really into me? & Is he going to ask me out?
thanks!
=D

Laura stole my automated answer to this question ;].

But basically, I think he does like you, because of the way he acts toward you. So that answer is yes.

Like Laura below said, we can't tell the future, so we can't tell you if he'll ask you out. He definitely could, though.

Here's how you could possibly ask HIM out:

http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=543173

=]

--Jack
(16/m)

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hey i recently have had people logging onto my s.n so i need a new one.i would hate 2 copy of of sum1.any ideas? i see yur a wiz at stuff.im just having a hard time with ideas.people call me dezzy.or dez.my names desire.i would like my new s.n 2 look or sound original.PLEASE HELP!!! i have dark hair nd im spanish

PLEASE HElP.!!!

THANKS

-d

You could have an inside joke of yours combined with your name somehow.

So one of mine could be:

JKub_eXtreme16

[nickname/inside joke/age]

Take your favorite activity/heritage and add your name to it:

SpanishDesire
DezzyBabexo
DezzySpanishGirl

And add your age, favorite number, or graduation year on the end.

--Jack
(16/m)

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I know everything happens for a reason but i honestly am so confused about this...

There was this guy last year named CJ and he was dating someone named Julia and i didnt want to start any drama but i really liked him and from what i could tell and what i heard he like me too. He always flirted with me and stared at me. At his graduation, he stared at me. Not his girlfriend. And because of myself not wanting any drama i kept my feelings private.
-Is this wrong???

Now all i do is think about what a chance i had, and why did I have to screw it up?? Saying i regret it is an understatement. But sometimes i see him driving down my street. Every time he sees me he just stops and stares, even when he is with her. But he is leaving for college in august and is going to have a new life.
-What should i do???

Your feelings are perfectly normal, but I just want to congratulate you for not ruining the relationship with his girlfriend. Although he may be rumored to like you, he's still with his girlfriend. I know that may hurt, but you definitely did the right thing.

Sometimes keeping your feelings in is the worst thing you can do, but in this situation, what you did was absolutely right, and there are so many people in your situation that feel they need to just butt in and try to change his mind about his girlfriend. Thank you for having self-control.

I know sometimes you can feel like you made a huge mistake [I've been in your position, except I'm a guy, and it was a girl and another guy], but you'll realize eventually that what you did was right.

Try just getting over him, or maybe try going places where other guys or so that you can get your mind off of him. Just know that I think you did the right thing =].

--Jack
(16/m)

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i need a new screen name. my name is jessica but i dont know what to put. please help me find one

You could have an inside joke of yours combined with your name somehow.

So one of mine could be:

JKub_eXtreme16

[nickname/inside joke/age]

Take your favorite activity and add your name to it:

VolleyBallJess
SkatingJess
ScoringJess

And add your age, favorite number, or graduation year on the end.

--Jack
(16/m)

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what kind of areas/sizes do guys like beauty marks? or do they even like them at all?

Each guy is different. Personally unless it's right on her face and it's huge and distracts me from seeing anything but that, I don't mind them.

A guy would be stupid to let a girl go for having a beauty mark, because it's something you're born with and you can't get rid of unless you have surgery.

If you have one and you're worried, don't be. You'll find the right guy who won't let it bother him.

--Jack
(16/m)

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im 14 and i dont know if im bi, i think i like girls whenever i see i pretty girl i usaully think "shes pretty" and i cant just stop staring. i always wanted to kiss a girl but everyone i know is straight i licked a girls lip before and i kinda liked it so im confused.. well please help

By definition, since you are attracted to women, and possibly see yourself having sex/sexual relations with them, you are most likely a lesbian.

If you see yourself having sex with both men AND women, and you are attracted to both, you are most likely bisexual, though I see that as a state-of-mind rather than a forever type of thing.

If you see yourself having sex with ONLY men and you are attracted to only men, you are straight.

Your sexuality is determined mainly by which sex[es] you engage in sexual activities with. But don't be in a rush to figure out you're sexuality. You're only just a teenager and you have your entire life ahead of you.

Thinking another girl is pretty doesn't make you a lesbian. Wanting to kiss her and have sex with her does.

--Jack
(16/m)

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i want to make s cd of songs for my boyfriend. he's 20. he likes ALL types of music as far as I know. Except maybe like scremo, oldies, blues and etc.

i dont want them to be all cute little love songs but id like some in there :)

so we meet at work, he was nervous but he asked me out. we had a good time together. started dating a bit after a couple dates. its only been a month since we've been together. yes we have said i love you. he will be leaving to california for college in september.

^all that i just listed^ because this song
"theres nothing" by sean kingston is one that will be on my cd i give him. and also bc u can have a little idea of songs that might have something to say or do with our relationship.

thanks again everyone!

I won't be able to give you enough to fill a CD, but I'll give you some that are definitely worth it ;].

"So Much Love" -The Rocket Summer
"I Need You" -Relient K
"Must Have Done Something Right" -Relient K
"Run To You" -The Rocket Summer
"The Best Thing" -Relient K
"I'm Taking You With Me" -Relient K
"My Girl's Ex-Boyfriend" -Relient K
"Getting Into You" -Relient K

And basically anything by Maroon 5. Those are all love songs. =]


Yes, I realize this is only from three bands, but they are the most amazing ever. I promise you'll love them =]. These are soft rock, generally.

--Jack
(16/m)

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