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kissing?
ok, its kind of bad, but i am 18 and have never been kissed... i met this one guy and i'm afraid of having my first kiss be bad because i've never done it, you know? anyway, how can i make sure that the guy does not know its my first kiss?
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Well this is any easy one for me to answer because I was in the same situation.What you do is you kiss him first let him tell you what he thinks of how you kiss and then tell him its my first kiss.If you don't want him to know that its your first kiss then just dont tell him unless he asks.Keeping things from a boyfriend is not good so try not to keep things from him but if you have to so you wont get laughed at or humiliated then do what you have to but keep your chin up
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I know this sounds really lame, and I'm sure it is ;]
But just go with the flow. I don't really have experience in how to "properly" kiss, nor do I have experience with kissing at all! Can you say prude? ;]
Anyway- if it's your boyfriend/girlfriend- just be honest with him/her. Tell them you're nervous and you don't really know what you're doing. Apparently the people who are less-experienced is a big turn-on to some people.
Do what you feel comfortable with. If something feels awkward or uncomfortable, don't do it. If it feels right, ask the person if they are okay with that, and if they are- then you'll be fine.
There really isn't a CORRECT way to do it. Everyone does what they are comfortable with.
From my weak experience- this is what I can tell you:
1. Don't come on strong- it's really awkward for the other person.
2. Don't slobber all over the other person.
3. Don't stick your tongue all the way down their throat.
My friend on here, Laura, answered a question similar to this, and she gave a great answer. I will copy her answer, but know that credit goes to her.
www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=542699
Honestly, you could read a book about it, and you'd probably forget everything once you went in for the kiss.
Explore. Do what feels right. Make it fun, playful, romantic, whatever you want it to be. Don't make it all about jamming your tongue down his throat, and try not to drool all over him, because it's generally less than desireable to do so.
If you come off as confident it'll be a lot more fun. If all evening you're thinking "Oh my gosh, this is going to be bad" you won't enjoy yourself. Follow his lead at first, if you're truly that nervous.
And really, it's almost impossible to find a truly bad kisser. If anything, they might do something you're not used to; give it a chance before you hate it. Who knows, he might be thinking the same thing right now about you!
Over time, you'll develop your own personal style of kissing/making out, and that's not a bad thing. Do whatever feels good/right to you, and gets a positive reaction. For example, some people love a gentle, or less than gentle, bite of the lip, "necking", and other techniques. Like I already said, experiment & make it fun!
From personal experience I'd advise that you brush your teeth and floss, and have some mild mints with you, like TicTacs. Fruity is usually good, and less overpowering. If you're at a party, don't worry too much about what you're eating if you're both eating the same things, but a huge plate of hummus & extra garlic is a bad choice right before kissing =P. That's where mints come in handy for both of you. Casually offer him one if he's been gorging on something stinky.
If you do that, he probably won't know, though it's a real turn-on to guys when they are your first kiss.
--Jack
(16/m)
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As long as you keep yourself composed when you're about to kiss, it'll be okay. I don't think he'd know unless you're open bout it being your first kiss, although I don't think the guy would mind if it was, unless he was really petty with that kind of stuff.
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