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im in the tenth grade and there is this girl i like and now im pretty sure she used to like me back. i never asked her out because i wasn't completely sure she liked me back and i would have been crushed if she said no. her parents are really strict also. today i heard from our friend that she and another guy have been talking a lot lately and i got really depressed when i heard this.i want to ask her out but i don't know if her and the other guy are in a relationship. should i tell her how i feel and ask if she feels the same or should i just ask her out? or did i wait to long, should i just stop trying for her? (link)
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Why don't you start talking to her? Then you'll know how she feels about the other guy and whether or not you should move on.
Your friend could just be hearing things and who knows what's true until you hear it come out of her mouth.
So I think you should start talking to her again and see how she acts with you and decide from there.
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20/f
I would like to state that I am a 20 year old adult. I cut and have since I was 13. I'm not depressed but am going through a very stressful time. I know this issue may be more common in younger teenagers but I'm an adult and am not in the same mentality as a younger individual so, please take that into consideration to those of you who are kind enough to help me. when I was younger I tried to seek help but with my experience asking for help did more harm than good so i haven't told anyone since I was 13. This issue has carried on with me and hasn't gone away and I don't know how to stop. I've tried many times to stop but all I have managed to do is get better control over it at times. I've thought about going to counseling but am scared because of my prior experience and wonder if it is even necessary. i have a hard time sleeping without cutting because I feel so overwhelmed. sometimes when I do I'm happy. I don't understand why I do or why I cant stop.
Thank you for the help
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I like Melody's advice on trying to do something else until that urge passes.
Since that last time you went to try counseling or therapy was a lot time ago, I'd give it another shot.
If you don't find a counselor or therapist that you like, then try others. I'm sure they can get to the bottom of why you still do it. I do believe since you started when you were so young and now years later you still do it, is because it's all you've ever known. This was the way you always dealt with the pain.
So maybe they could help you deal with being overwhelmed better and help you manage stress better. I'm sure you know that leaving this like it is won't be helping you so at least try it out.
In the meantime, try to find other ways to relieve your stress. Good luck and I really hope everything works out.
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i am 15 yr old female from india. in india there are cultural restrictions. still i got driven away and sent 2 bikini pics to my bf by email.but my x who had dumped me hacked my acnt n saw them and also read our naughty chat.now since someone other than my future husband has seen me ...i feel ashamed of myself as i i am a slut and i can even be sold for sex. :(...am i a slut?...i am really depressed. (link)
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No you're not a slut. Since this was between you and your future husband, I don't see anything wrong with what you did. Your ex is the one that's in the wrong because he's the one who hacked your account. He's being immature and going through your things even though he's the one who left you.
So all you can do is learn from this experience and be more careful about sending your future husband pictures because once they are on the internet, lots of people can get to them if they try to.
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Му friend told ме she throws up to lose weight,she's 13,female. But now she told ме she threw up after eating lunch about twice then about a hour later she made herself throw up again,then a hour later again and after that again then she ate supper and then threw up again. Is this even possible? Му main question is,can чou throw up on a empty stomach? Like a few hours later after eating can чou make yourself throw up? Or can чou only make yourself throw up straight after eating? Thanks xx (link)
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It's possible to throw up on an empty stomach. It's just easier after you eat though.
You should be more concerned about helping her. This is a disease and it can cause so many problems. If it's not treated, it can cause long term problems. She won't be able to go back to normal eating without help.
Throwing up so often can really damage your mouth. Tooth decay, toothaches, swollen gums, gum disease.
She can end up having heart problems as well. She can suffer from dehydration, which could lead to kidney damage and fainting a lot. Not to mention the mental health problems it will cause.
It can even cause death.
So you need to help her and tell an adult about this because she needs help before it gets worse. She can lose weight a better way, not by risking her life.
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There is this guy and I am not sure if he likes me. We have never talked before but we have had shared multiple eye contacts everyday and there are times when we stare at each other for quite a while. However, our facial expressions are usually fixed. No smiles no nothing.
There are times when I will look first and vice versa.
Thanks you for taking time to read! :) (link)
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Yes, those are signs that someone is interested in you or has some curiosity about you. You don't normally stare at people you're not interested in or you're not curious about..unless of course you're one of those people who space off while thinking and don't realize you're looking at someone.
Anyways, yes those are signs. You should try talking to him.
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so i have been suffering with depression for a while now, and last semester (i'm in college) i had a complete breakdown. i started missing classes and avoided all my friends. avoiding them, mostly because i didnt wanna be the sad mopey one who eventually everyone wont wanna hang out with. also i just didnt want to burden them with my sadness. i've been struggling with the same issue for so long that i felt my friends got disillusioned by it. people texted or called me and i'd ignore or avoid them. i was completely isolated from everyone else.
but after a while, i felt better and talked to my friend about it. instead of being comforted, she yelled at me for being selfish and not thinking about her. and tells me that im not being considerate of other people's feelings while i was preoccupied with my own sadness.
should i feel offended? i know that being depressed makes you more pessimistic, but i just didn't think it was other people's problems. is it okay to think that my friend is making the main issue into her problem instead of mine, without considering my feelings instead?
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She dealt with your depression the wrong way. She probably just doesn't understand.
It's fine to feel offended by her behavior but she was being a little blunt. What she is saying is true but she doesn't know how to word what she says so she doesn't make things worse or offend you.
You shouldn't be isolating yourself when you're depressed. It seems to be the natural thing to do and you sometimes can't help it but you need to get help and reach out.
I'm sure you know depression hurts the people around you and even though you tried to keep to yourself to avoid hurting others, you always will. If you have good friends, they will be there to help you when you need it.
You both were wrong but you both didn't mean to be. So yes, depression makes you selfish. It's not your fault though, just go get the help you need.
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So i asked this girl out and she said yes, it was kinda awkward at the beginning at it still kinda is. She acted nervous around me, and told her friends that she liked me, even her best-friend.
But today i found out from one of my friends that she said yes not to hurt my feelings! Was this just a fake? Could it be that she wanted to end the awkwardness by saying she doesnt like me? (link)
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Well you shouldn't let what other people say get to you. The only way to find out what happened is to go ask her. If she says she does like you and she didn't say yes not to hurt you then just believe her. It could have been fake and people make up stuff all the time.
A relationship is about you two only. Don't bring more people into it.
When I was a freshman in high school, my friends were so involved with my relationship. They'd try to get us to hold hands and keep moving forward and not let us go at our own pace. Eventually they would start telling me that he's flirting with other girls, ect. It was just annoying to have other people get nosy in your relationship.
So go talk to her and find out.
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Okay well I have a really close friend I knew for like 2 months now?
We actually talk everyday. About life and about all the random things!
But yesterday I mentioned my step mother in one of our chats. And he said: Wait.. Step mums? You have a step mum?'
So I said yeah and I told him I don't talk about her at all cause we aren't that close so basically I thought okay sorted.
But he sent me a picture on snapchat saying goodnight
Then he sent me the message on a messenger after that.
But since then he ignores my snapchats
And I have a feeling he's a bit different with me. He one word replies! :(
Do you think he might be angry for me not telling him about my step mum? We don't know each other in person. He's in America and I'm in Europe.
If it helps, I'm 15 and he's 16. And I'm female :p
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Honestly, that's a little weird if he did get upset over him not knowing you had a step mother.
It's not like this is something uncommon or it was a secret so maybe it's another reason why he's being like this. Could have just been bad timing, who knows.
The best thing to do in this situation is to talk to him and just ask him if he's upset with you. Then find out why and ask if it was about your step mother because that's when he started acting this way.
We don't know him so we can only make guesses. The only way you'll know for sure is by asking him.
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I need some opinions!
Okay so I have this friend, Chloe.
She has a little sister and an older brother. She's 15. Her brother is 16 and her sister is 11
Then she has 2 half brothers and one step brother.
I'm actually confused of her family tree
People think it's really crazy and not normal cause her dad got married twice apparently.
And now her mum and her dad are living together while her dads ex wife is living with her boyfriend that she has..
She's really upset cause people bully her cause of this!
What do you guys say? (link)
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I really don't see why she'd get bullied over this.
Ok let me see if I got it right..
She has two biological siblings. An older brother and little sister? Then two half brothers and one step brother. Her dad was married twice and now he's living with her mom again? Then her dads ex is living with her boyfriend?
If I'm understanding this correctly, it doesn't really seem abnormal.
Is the ex living with her family or something?
Well either way, she shouldn't be bullied no matter what her family circumstances are. I've known a guy who had a really weird family background. His mom and dad split up, and his dad got with his ex wife's mom. So now this guys grandma, is now his step mom.
You can't change your family. You can't pick your family, they're just given to you. She needs to find someone to talk to who can help her with the bullying. No one deserves to get bullied so try to get her some help in that area and be supportive.
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I have been completely faithful to my boyfriend. Since we've been together, I discovered that he had signed up for a lot of webcam and dating sites as single, added more than 50 girls to facebook and asked a few of them out, and recently he planned on hiring an escort. He denied everything until I had proof infront of him. He explained that the reason he signed up for the sites is because he didn't think I would mind because I'm a sexual girl. And he asked girls out on facebook because he didn't think I was serious about him, and then the escorts he said he isnt as attracted to me anymore. Not because of my looks, but because of "The things I do". Recently I gained at least 10 pounds and he told me I would look hotter if I trimmed weight on my tummy and legs, and the girls that he almost cheated on me with are like tooth picks covered in makeup. I asked him what I can do to make him more attracted to be again and he said I can dress up more. (Which I thought I was doing) Up until now, I always thought I looked beautiful and that he thought I was beautiful no matter what. Now, I want to know if its worth it. I don't want to have to change to stay with him. What should I do? (link)
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You shouldn't stay with him.
You have been the good faithful girlfriend who just loves her boyfriend. But he thinks he can cheat on you because you gained a few pounds.
A boyfriend should be loving how you look. If you really love someone, it won't bother you that they gained weight and it's absolutely not an excuse to cheat.
Just end this now and you'll find a guy who loves you and will keep loving you no matter what.
This guy you are with is shallow and thinks he can have it all. Those fake girls aren't going to be pretty forever so he's wasting his time and you are wasting yours by staying with a guy like this.
Move on and find someone who treats you like you deserve to be treated.
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Hey, everyone! I've got a lot to unload I'm sorry. In the seventh grade, we got a new student.I'll call him Lou. The year went on and Lou and I didn't really talk because we both are extremely shy. The shyness is almost crippling, actually. Eventually, about midway in the school year, he found me on Facebook and I accepted his friend request. Right away, we opened up to one another. That first day we talked for hours. We kept in contact all summer, which is unusual for me. Lou did not return for eighth grade, but we kept in contact, calling and texting one another constantly. I'm in highschool now and we still talk.(I'm texting him as I write this)One day(in the early summer between seventh and eighth grade)Lou revealed that he had a crush on me and asked me to become his girlfriend. I declined because I felt that we should know each other a little longer. Now that we've been talking so long, I feel that I'm ready to accept that offer if it still stands. We recently found out that we live very close by. He truly makes me happy and I'd love to have him in my life. My question: Is asking him out a good idea? (link)
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Yeah I think it's a good idea. I'm sure he still likes you since you both are still talking and you did explain the reason why you declined before so I think you're good.
I mean you could always bring up the time he asked you out and ask him if that offer still stands.
Anyways, I think it's a good idea.
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i am 13 and i know it sounds dumb but i have had a crush on this guy for three years, anyway, i reay likehim ad idon't know if he likes me, sometimes i catch him looking over at me, we talk to each other alot and when i walk by his frieds always stare at me ad bug him. Does this mean he likes me? thanks in advance for your help :) (link)
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Well it's very vague to tell whether a guy likes you because he looks at you, but if you guys talk a lot and he shows interest in you, he probably likes you.
I mean there could be tons of different reasons why he looks at you and why his friends look at you. But you'll never know unless he tells you.
There is a good chance he does like you though. Just keep talking to him and become his friend and see where that goes.
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Hello. I have been dating a guy for three months. We are both 15. I've been friends with him for a year, had a crush on him almost that whole time, and everything had been going great. He's not popular, he's quiet, and I thought he was just the nicest guy ever. He treated me great, wanted to hang out with me all the time, said he loved me, kissed me... I couldn't have been happier. We never fought or anything, and I thought I'd found a cute, nice, smart, funny guy who really liked me. He was mature, chivalrous, complimentary...everything I could ask for.
Of course, everything had to change. Last week he became a different person. He told me I sound obnoxious and I talk too loud, that I'm boring when I don't talk (he literally froze all last week and barely talked, so I didn't want to keep blabbering on when he wasn't reciprocating), and I think he may like this other girl we're friends with. They've only recently become friends. That girl is really nice and funny, but tons of people think she's annoying because she does not stop talking, and she is NOT attractive. I am considered attractive. But he's been lighting up when she comes around, and today at school he told me that seeing her for five minutes at the end of the schoolday is "the highlight of his day." That REALLY hurt me. So, after he said that, I flat out asked him if he liked her and he said "EW, no." He used to text me every day (until one week ago!) and when we would say goodnight he would tell me he loves me or send a heart or SOMETHING. Now, IF he texts me at all, and IF he bothers to send a good night text, it will either simply say "good night" or sometimes just "k."
I have no idea what to do. He's never been like this before. He's a different person all of a sudden. I'm still in love with him and I don't want to break up with him. Also, last weekend was the first weekend we didn't hang out (I asked him to and he said he couldn't...but he doesn't do any extracurricular activities). I don't smother him. We both have other friends. I don't know what happened and why he's acting this way, and I have no idea what to do. How can I get back to how we used to be? I had never been happier in my life, and all of a sudden he's become mean and disconnected and just weird. Thank you. (link)
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Well you obviously know something is up. It was a definitely rude of him to talk about another girl like that. In my opinion, he's trying to show you that he's losing interest.
Honestly, you can't change that. You're a good girl who tries to respect him and his boundaries.
I've noticed in young couples, they don't stay together very long because someone eventually gets bored. When you're young, it's just fun, most guys won't take relationships seriously.
I'm not saying this is the reason why he's being like this, but it's a possible one.
You have two choices if you want to be with him. You can either talk to him about this and tell him you miss how he used to be and you want to know what's changed. If he starts accusing you, tell him that you will work on those things. Then if he keeps this up, bring it up again and show him that you've been putting effort into this relationship.
The other option is to let it be and see if he starts going back to normal.
My advice is to at least talk to him. Tell him that you just want the truth. Don't start accusing him, pointing fingers and telling him everything he's doing is wrong. Just tell him that it worries you and you care a lot about him.
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i have always had vivid dreams sense i can remember but this one was just straight up weird (to me anyways, because ive never had a sex dream before)in this dream my family was at church camp and my family had gone on the other side of the lake and i got naked and jumped in a bath with 2 guys and suddenly we started having sex (remember this was a dream ;P) then b4 i woke up i was freaking out because no one had a condom on and i thought i was gonna get prego!
does that dream mean anything? maybe maybe not, what do u guys think? (link)
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I don't think the dream has some deep meaning behind it. I think since you're just growing up, and going through puberty, that you just had a sex dream. It's not something uncommon, especially for someone your age.
So don't stress out about this, it will happen from time to time.
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My boyfriend and I had been dating pretty seriously for seven months or so; we are grad students, and in the stress of the end of the semester, he got very cranky for a few days and then said he wanted to take a break, and that he wasn't sure if he wanted to be together; but before the end of that conversation, he was crying and trying to take it back. We are in our 20s but he is a couple years younger than me, which caused some internal frustration for me sometimes (me wanting to settle down soon, him not even thinking about marriage yet etc). Anyway, I felt so very hurt after he said those things that I couldn't give him an answer about being back together or not. It has been a few weeks, and I suppose we are "seeing" each other. We were best friends, so it feels natural. The thing is, randomly enough, I seemed to have lost my feelings for him in the weeks since the break-talk (I have been crazy about him before this). So confused, any thoughts? (link)
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I think either two things happen after a break. You either get back together and it really helped the relationship, or you just don't feel the same because you lost your feeling of security.
A lot of women don't feel comfortable with a relationship when something like this happens because it shows that it could happen again if he gets moody.
With the whole difference in age, that you want to get married and he hasn't even though of it, that could be a problem because if this is something you really want and you're not sure you want this with him, it can bother you.
You can't make him change. You can't wait around for him to change. You know your feelings are different now and you don't know if you'll get them back.
So all this is just my thoughts on the situation. I really hope everything works out for you.
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i know 4K doesnt sound like much but im a unemployed 15yr old girl. i want the money for 2 things to fix up my car and a trip im going on next year.
can you please list some supper fun jobs, or jobs online a teen can have? i dont want to babysit or mow lawns or anything like that.
thank you for any ideas :) (link)
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It is really hard for a 15 year old to get a job that isn't babysitting or something. Most fast food restaurants and retail stores hire 16 year old's. So you can't exactly be picky.
I mean you can try surveys online. You can also try and look around and see if there are any stores around you that do hire 15 years olds.
Age is a problem for most employers because it limits what they can do. That's why they normally hire people who are older.
So pretty much, don't turn down any jobs if you really want the money. Maybe start out doing something like babysitting but also keep looking for something else so at least you're making some money while you're looking for something better.
Experience will really help you with getting a job. If you have no experience, lots of people will turn you down because of that.
Take the jobs no one likes because it shows you're a hard worker.
Anyways, good luck and I'm sure you'll find something.
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Hi I'm almost 15 and I haven't had a period yet, it's kind of worrying me I have had discharge for 5 months and I'm starting to think that something it wrong with me. I'm 15 in 3 months and I haven't had a period yet. (link)
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You shouldn't really be concerned. Even though the majority of girls get their period around 11-13, doesn't mean that other girls don't get it when they are older.
It's usually around the time your mom got it but it really depends.
If you are concerned, just go see a doctor. I'm sure everything is fine.
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26 y/o female.
In the fall, I went in for a job interview at a local store. I instantly felt attracted to the guy giving me the interview. I passed it, but had to turn the job down for reasons not worth mentioning.
A week later, he "followed" me on Facebook. I wasn't sure what his reasoning behind it was, but I decided to add him as a friend. We didn't speak to each other whatsoever, but I always hoped that somehow he'd get a hold of me first.
It never happened, and in the spring, I saw that he took me off his friend's list. Was I annoying? Did he delete me so only his close friends were on his list? It's killing me. I wish I had closure, but I find the idea of outright asking him to be hard. It's been almost two months since he's taken me off, and I can't stop thinking about it. I've even had dreams with him in it. I'm also rarely rejected by guys so I'm not sure if my ego is bruised or I really do just have a major crush on this guy. Either way, I'm tired of thinking about it! (link)
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He most likely deleted you because you guys didn't talk.
It's almost impossible for him to find you annoying when you guys didn't speak at all.
The best thing to do, in my opinion, is to just let this go and move on.
If you really want to start talking to him, then add him again and message him every once in awhile and see how his responses are.
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my boyfriend and i had started dating six months ago knowing he would leave for college abd we'd break up. he leaves at the end of june. needless to say, I'm having a hard time. I'm a year younger, 17/f. recently he said he "cares about me and likes me sometimes," because I'm sometimes "clingy,needy, and dramatic." maybe i am. whenever he pulls away or seems distant, i hold on tighter. we got in a weird fight, and i didn't know what to do. i talked to a few friends. he got hurt that i told my friends things he told me in confidence. he's angry. he thinks he still cares about me. idk where my relationship is. we talk sometimes, and he seems almost normal, but then he sways back. he's way too busy to talk often and hang out,he has work to do, itrust that. main issue is,i broke his trust. i need it back. how do i not be clingy? it's hard when i remember he's going away soon. in the beginning, he was the perfect boyfriend. we were great. five months in, it got rough. i still like him a ton, but he's having a hard time. we haven't had sex. am i the problem? and what should i suggest? we haven't kissed in four days. we talked just last night and it was normal. but idk if he wants to be around me or kiss me. he said "I'm staying with you because even though I'm upset, we're still in a relationship and if you want to try and move past it, we wil." but he does not know for sure if we will. but he's willing to try and i am to. what do i do to help it? (link)
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So at least you are realizing what the problems are.
It seems like he doesn't know what he wants and you feel like you're too clingy.
So you obviously don't want to lose him. But holding on tighter to a guy who is confused will make things worse. You probably feel if you let him go, he'll just move on.
You aren't the problem, a lot of relationships get like this. After the first few happy months, things start getting more tense, more fights happen, ect. But you can get past that by working on it.
Just let him know you want to work through this and you are going to work on not being clingy and he should put some effort in. Two makes a relationship, it won't work if only one is working on it.
So to be less clingy, start finding time for yourself. Don't call him as much, text him as much, ect. Start doing new things, new hobbies, new activities, clubs, sports, anything really. Go out with your friends and do stuff with them.
It's better to not talk to your boyfriend all the time or hang out with him all the time because you don't get a chance to miss each other.
Take this time to improve yourself and enjoy yourself.
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Hii
i was into a relationship frm last 4 yrs.. N v broked up few mnths back.. V had sex on a normal basis..Now i gotta new guy n he thinks that m virgin.. Can anyone pls suggest me how to show d fake virginity..
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My advice is to at least be honest with the guy. If this relationship starts out with a lie, there's going to be a lot more coming.
I don't even know how you can fake virginity. Every girl is different and every girls first time is different.
So the best thing to do is tell him the truth.
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