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did i wait too long to ask her out
im in the tenth grade and there is this girl i like and now im pretty sure she used to like me back. i never asked her out because i wasn't completely sure she liked me back and i would have been crushed if she said no. her parents are really strict also. today i heard from our friend that she and another guy have been talking a lot lately and i got really depressed when i heard this.i want to ask her out but i don't know if her and the other guy are in a relationship. should i tell her how i feel and ask if she feels the same or should i just ask her out? or did i wait to long, should i just stop trying for her?
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I understand the fear of rejection is stiff to get over. Your young, just starting out and it's scary. However the worlds most successful men were good at being rejected. This is the trick you have to learn to take it lightly. And when your speaking with girls keep it casual. Just say "hey, i don't know if your seeing someone but i'd love to take you out sometime if your free." It's true she might say "sorry, I'm seeing someone," or "I don't think it's a good idea." YOu just reply casually "okay well you know where to find me if you change your mind," and give her a casual smile so she knows that your not destroyed over it and it's just fine. Then if she does change her mind or stuff doesn't work out with guy she's seeing, she'll feel like your a nice cool guy she can go to and say, "hey i changed my mind i would like to go on that date."
As for you, the sooner you tackle the girl anxiety and get it out of the way the better! Your young and just starting to date and the anxiety is not going to go anywhere until you deal with it. Which means ask girls out, go on dates, get rejected, keep trying and learn how the dating world rolls. The great thing about it is that the more comfortable and okay you are with rejection the more girls are are going to say YES to you. It's true we have this crazy way of sensing confidence and for some reason human nature tells us to choose confident males. So go for it! Ask girls out right and left!! It's wonderful practice for dating. Get over it, it's really not a big deal. I'm a 25 year old woman and I have been reject by men and I have rejected men and it's just part of life.
Good Luck
If you'd like to tell me how it goes i'm interested in hearing it :)
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Why don't you start talking to her? Then you'll know how she feels about the other guy and whether or not you should move on.
Your friend could just be hearing things and who knows what's true until you hear it come out of her mouth.
So I think you should start talking to her again and see how she acts with you and decide from there.
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You say her parents are strict. Is that about what age she can date? Or restrictions on the dating process? If they were strict then, they havent change in a few months or years. So it is possible whatever restrictions they enforced then could possibly still be in play. That could mean that maybe all she can do is chat with a guy but not date him. Sometimes, the things you want to really say are so hard in person but easier to do in writing. Any rejection would not be witnessed by others.
Keep in mind that there are females who bond in friendship with males better and prefer male friends over female ones. Although they usuually dont act on that til out of high school because of what others might think. It's normal, I am like that. It does not mean I want a deep romantic relationship with them all. I have a husband. He likewise enjoys female friends , but doesnt not go out with them away from me.
You won't know what's up until you find a way to ask her. Ask if she is allowed to go on dates yet. If so, tell her you have been smitten with her for a long time and you would love to spend more time with her and take her out.
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