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Should I stay with him?
I have been completely faithful to my boyfriend. Since we've been together, I discovered that he had signed up for a lot of webcam and dating sites as single, added more than 50 girls to facebook and asked a few of them out, and recently he planned on hiring an escort. He denied everything until I had proof infront of him. He explained that the reason he signed up for the sites is because he didn't think I would mind because I'm a sexual girl. And he asked girls out on facebook because he didn't think I was serious about him, and then the escorts he said he isnt as attracted to me anymore. Not because of my looks, but because of "The things I do". Recently I gained at least 10 pounds and he told me I would look hotter if I trimmed weight on my tummy and legs, and the girls that he almost cheated on me with are like tooth picks covered in makeup. I asked him what I can do to make him more attracted to be again and he said I can dress up more. (Which I thought I was doing) Up until now, I always thought I looked beautiful and that he thought I was beautiful no matter what. Now, I want to know if its worth it. I don't want to have to change to stay with him. What should I do?
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This problem you have has very little to do with your weight. Your boyfriend is shallow and defines beauty by what he sees in the media…which is an illusion. He has a lot of growing up to do. His sexual appetite is what drives and motivates him. He cannot love you if he is seeking outside gratification. A real man would not lie and would embrace your changing body. Lose weight if that is what you want. Do not let your beauty be defined by a man/boy because you will be soon lose your self-esteem and self-worth. Whatever he says, know that it is not your fault. As far as him saying he thought you wouldn’t mind….straight up lie. He would have never kept it from you if that was true. There is someone who would love everything about you… ten pounds heavier or not. Hope this helps.
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You shouldn't stay with him.
You have been the good faithful girlfriend who just loves her boyfriend. But he thinks he can cheat on you because you gained a few pounds.
A boyfriend should be loving how you look. If you really love someone, it won't bother you that they gained weight and it's absolutely not an excuse to cheat.
Just end this now and you'll find a guy who loves you and will keep loving you no matter what.
This guy you are with is shallow and thinks he can have it all. Those fake girls aren't going to be pretty forever so he's wasting his time and you are wasting yours by staying with a guy like this.
Move on and find someone who treats you like you deserve to be treated.
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Never ever change who you are to please a man.
I know...I did that. Not worth it. No matter what changes I made, it was never good enough. The problem wasnt me, it was him.
You want a person who doesn't weaken who you are at core. The right man will uphold and support the you at core, and strengthen you, not weaken you.
Sounds like he was attracted to the fake females, what Hollywood portrays as the looks every women to strive to achieve.
Those actresses dont even look like what we see on TV. in real life with optical illusionary makeup, they like very average and would not turn a single guys head out in public. Me at 54, I am prettier than a whole lot of them.
Look up online "celebrities without makeup" it will be a good boost to your self esteem.
I dont know your weight but when i gained 20 lbs. My husband still loved me, no complaints still saw me as beautiful. For some reason, its come off on its own again because...i wasnt worried, my man wasnt complaining.
Sounds like he was making lots of excuses so his saying he didnt like things you do, i wouldnt give any credit to it.
Let him go and start looking for someone who appreciates you just as you are. Give it time, the feelings you may have for him will disappear as time goes on, and maybe faster than you think. Once away from him for a bit, your mind will gain perspective and you'll see how he will never make good boyfriend material for any girl.
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