about

My name is Laura and I'm 28 years old. I live in Illinois and work as a licensed veterinary technician. I am a runner, bookworm and obviously, an animal lover.


I've been on this site since '05. I take hiatuses, but I'm never gone for good. I enjoy giving advice and I've made such lovely friends on this site that I couldn't imagine giving it up!

chat it up yo.


ps. here's my bestestestest friend.
I love him. You will too :)

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my boobs look pointy...
i always have to wear a bra or a tight tank top to make them look normal.
they're pointy because i'm a 34 B and i have big, puffy nipples...
and they sag a little and point outward a little..
they're so ugly!.
besides surgery, do you know any way i can fix this problem? is there anything i can take to make my boobs grow? or is there an exercise that can pull them into an adequate position?

There is no way to make them grow, and there is no miracle excercise to pull them into an "adequate position".

You just have to let it happen naturally. You didn't mention your age, but I'm assuming you're young and that your body is still growing. So, just give it some time. This is just the awkward in between phase that most girls go through at one point or another.


-Laura. (16-f)

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I have been trying to kill myself sense I was ten. It never worked out right, either there was some-one to stop me or they found me before I could finish. I really don't want to live any more. But I don't seem to have the strength to go on. I don't want to feel this way any more. It scares me and each thought is stronger than the last. I want these feelings to go away. What can I do? Nothing ever seems to help me. I feel that my only option is to kill my self. I still WANT to live though! I'm scared that I might take this to far. Please help me, I don't think I can hold on much longer!

The good thing is, you still WANT to live. You have a desire to be alive, and that's a good thing. You need to focus on it. Think of all the good things in your life, and just block out the bad. Forget about whatever it is that is causing you to turn to ending your life. Suicide is NEVER the only option. There is ALWAYS another way. You CAN make these feelings go away. You're already a strong person for having dealt with these suicidal feelings for so long, I believe you can make them go away. I really, truly do.


Next, you need to talk to somebody. A question about suicide hotlines was just asked, and I think it could really help you out.
http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=542569
You also need to talk to your family. Tell them about your feelings, and be honest with them. Let them know you need help now. Ask them to take you to the hospital, where you can talk to somebody face to face. It's ok to have to talk to someone, they're there to help you and it WILL help you. You need to tell somebody, whether it be somebody on a hotline or somebody at a hospital, what you told us. You need to explain to them how you're feeling. If needed, print your question out and read it out loud. There's no shame in that.


Ending your life won't help solve any of your problems, but will only end up creating new ones for those who love you. Think about the effect it will have on those who are close to you. Losing a loved one is a really hard thing to go through, do you really want to be selfish enough to put your family and friends through it?


Somebody below said:
"Have you ever thought that maybe you haven't been able to successfully kill yourself for a reason? You are here for a reason, and there is a purpose and meaning to your life. No one knows what the future has in store. Yes, things could get worse, but they could also get better."

And they are absolutely right.




-Laura. (16-f)

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My little sister is going to graduate grade 8 next year but just so I don't waste any time to look, what do I wear?

Normally, you wear something nice, but nothing fancy and prom worthy. A great store to look at is Forever 21. They have great prices and awesome clothes.


Here are some examples of what to wear:

Option One:
http://www.forever21.com/product.asp?catalog%5Fname=FOREVER21&category%5Fname=dresses&product%5Fid=2051847045&Page=1


Option Two:
http://www.forever21.com/product.asp?catalog%5Fname=FOREVER21&category%5Fname=dresses&product%5Fid=2050227837&Page=4


So, if you're catching my drift, a simple dress will do. But if you're not into dresses, you can try something like this:


Option One:
http://www.forever21.com/product.asp?catalog%5Fname=FOREVER21&category%5Fname=casual+tops&product%5Fid=2048580765&Page=2

http://www.forever21.com/product.asp?catalog%5Fname=FOREVER21&category%5Fname=Denim%5FSkinny&product%5Fid=2043841563&Page=1
- You don't have to wear skinny jeans, of course, but a nice pair.


Option Two:
http://www.forever21.com/product.asp?catalog%5Fname=FOREVER21&category%5Fname=blouse%5Fshirts&product%5Fid=2050645410&Page=2

http://www.forever21.com/product.asp?catalog%5Fname=FOREVER21&category%5Fname=skirts&product%5Fid=2051173665&Page=2



Hope this helps!


-Laura. (16-f)

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Well i met a boy on bebo ages ago and hes rly nice, hes got a nice personality and hes good lookin and hes a guy id go out with but he thinks im stunnin but im not! hes seen a picture of me and all that but im not that pretty but he thinks i am, i try 2 keep tellin him that im fat and he wouldnt like me (its true) but im to scared to tell him incase he wont talk 2 me anymore...

wat should i do??

Thanks

Well, I kind of know where you're coming from, only not completely.


I think you should be honest and be yourself when talking to him, but you should stop being so negative. I don't mean to be harsh, but eventually [if you keep up the constant pessimism and such] he's going to get sick of it and stop talking to you. So you think he wouldn't like you, who cares? Obviously, he likes you enough right now to continue talking to you and to be a friend to you. Your negative attitude is only hurting your chance of friendship and whatnot with this boy.


Plus, you never know if he wouldn't like you or if he would think you're ugly or fat, because you guys have never met. Just because you don't like some things about yourself doesn't mean he won't.


Bottom line:
Stop being so darn negative, and just be thankful he's your friend at all. Different people have different opinions. You might think you're ugly, but other people [like your friend in this question] might think otherwise. If everyone had the same opinion, the world would be a pretty dull place, wouldn't it now?



-Laura. (16-f)

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Does anyone know the code or how to change the color of the new myspace navigation bar?

I doubt that there's a code yet, because it's a really new feature. The only way I know of, is to change your page theme.


-Laura. (16-f)

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I was diagnosed BPD. [Borderline Personality disorder] at 18. My friend took me so that my mother wouldnt have to know.I'm now 20 and I'm not on any medication but I'm afraid that if my mother knew she would disown me. Should I tell her?

Yes, I think you should tell your mother. I don't know if the two of you have personal issues with one another, or if you are just afraid to tell her, but either way, it's best not to hide something this serious from your own mother.

Why would she disown you? Because you're not perfect and have one flaw? I highly doubt a mother would disown her own child for something that is beyond their control.

Then, maybe you can talk to her about trying a medication of some sort? I think that if you asked your mother to help you with the medication, she'd appreciate being involved, too.

Good Luck!



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I always change my profile to different quotes about my boyfriend who is amazing..

But now basically I have run out of quotes, I have looked at wittyprofiles.com and xanga. For example right now my profile says


people always say that you only fall in love once,
but everytime I talk to you I fall in love all over again.

Any other websites, love quotes, specific xanga pages with good quotes?

thanks a tonn

My profile always has song lyrics. So, if you're listening to a cute love song, listen for some cute lyrics.


I also like putting conversations with people [kind of like the ones I have with this one cool guy who thinks you should search on Google for love quotes] in my profile, also. So, if you're talking to your boyfriend and you guys say something cute to each other, put it in your profile =]



-Laura. (16-f)

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Me and my boyfriend have been together for over a year now. I'm 14, and he's turning 15. We haven't had sex, but we have talked about it. The problem is, there are other couples in my school having sex that haven't even been together that long. Basically, I'm pressured all the time to have sex with him. I feel like we have waited way too long and if everyone else is, then why aren't we? I know I should wait until I'm ready..but it's been over a year and I feel like we have to. What should I do.

You KNOW the answer to this question. Don't do it.

If you're not comfortable, do not do it. If you have any doubts, do not do it. If you're not ready, don't do it. You know you shouldn't do it.


"The problem is, there are other couples in my school having sex that haven't even been together that long."
- WHO CARES? Just because other girls are easy doesn't mean you have to be. You have morals, don't break them.


"I feel like we have waited way too long and if everyone else is, then why aren't we?"
- Because you're NOT everyone ELSE. You are who you are, and if you don't want to have sex, then don't.


"I know I should wait until I'm ready.."
- Then wait until you're ready. What's the rush?


The way I see it, is you're 14, which is WAY too young to be having sex anyways, and you have your entire life ahead of you. What would you do if you got pregnant? Or got an STD?


I'm sorry if any of this came off as rude [I don't mean for it to!], I just think it is sick [absolutely NO offense to you, though, because you aren't doing it and hopefully won't be for a while] that people this young are sexually active! What happened to purity until marriage? =/



-Laura. (16-f)

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I am looking for a gift for my girlfriend's birthday, and I have absolutely no idea what to get her. What sort of gifts do girls like? I guess that's my question. I just need a few ideas, here.

There was a question similar to yours asked just recently.

http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=542229


Good Luck!


-Laura. (16-f)

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i was on jacks mannequins myspace, and i saw there was a concert for august 28th. i want to go really bad. how do i get the tickets?

Well, if they don't have a link on their Myspace, the tickets might not be on sale yet. But, I'd think they would be, as the show is only a few months away...


Have you tried going on their official website? Or tried searching on Google?


only search advicenators.com



-Laura. (16-f)

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do guys like long skinny legs, or girls that look like models? im not asking because im overwieght or jealous, but becuase my friend is not that pretty, but she has a model-like build and guys tend to be attracted to her...

Honestly? I think if I asked my friends [the majority being guys, obviously], I think they'd say legs really don't matter.


"Plus believe it or not, guys are attracted to things other than physical appearance."

Yeah, not all guys are totally shallow and only care about how you look.
Example: There are 2 girls.
- One is completely gorgeous, but has the worst personality ever.
- The other is a not so gorgeous girl, but she has an amazing personality.

Guess who gets the guy?



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Latly, everything has been so different. but the one thing that i really want it my first kiss. I'm 16 yrs old and it is somthing that i want. Everytime i like someone, i find a way to tell them and it never turns out good! i don't want to wait, this is somthing i want this summer. I really want a b/f beecause it will make me feel better and away to escape from my crazy family!i just want someone to keep me close and care about me but i don't know what to do about it. So if u could plz help me in any way, i would appreiciate it very much! thanks

Your first kiss will be a complete waste if you pre-plan it and whatnot. Really, what's the point? The element of surprise is one of the things that make a first kiss [or almost any first, really] so great.


And if you want a boyfriend, don't get desperate and go out with the first decent guy you find. That's a dumb thing to do, actually. Wait and find somebody who likes you for who you are. Wait to find somebody who you like and want to be with. Just wait, you're only 16! You have your entire life ahead of you, and plenty of time for boyfriends.


Sometimes, the wait is worth it.


-Laura. (16-f)

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i have a huge regents exam tomorrow and i planned on studying today but my mom's friend insisted on having me babysit their son. he's 4 so he's really hyper and all that. how can i keep him occupied while i study? he loves to talk and bugs me a lot and i can't focus.

Ask him to draw you a picture.
Play the "quiet" game.
Put on a movie.
Give him a puzzle [obviously no 1000 piece ones] to do.
Give him an activity book with mazea, connect the dot, etc.


-Laura. (16-f)

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i was wondering if anyone knew of some good movies??

heres the kinda movies i like so anything like any of these:
thirteen
grandmas boy
rent
superbad

i love comedys,but even more so i oddly love movies about teenagers,and their issues,like sex drugs and things like that

Knocked Up.
Almost Famous.
40 Year old Virgin.
Little Miss Sunshine.
Odd Girl Out.


-Laura. (16-f)

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I want an ipod. I have a fair amount of money
I have about 5 gbs of music
I want at least 3 movies
I run and would take it with me
I am very clumsy and i need something to be practically indestructable, lol, or at least it cant break easily

Which do you think i should get?
Pros/cons please?
THANKS

I definetely agree with Laura's answer below.


Get a video iPod. I've had mine for almost 2 years and have dropped it more times than I'd like to admit, and it STILL holds up and works great. It also holds a ton of music AND a lot of videos/movies, etc.


I run sometimes, too and I got an armband for it. It's really nifty and I'd suggest getting one:
http://www.amazon.com/Belkin-Sports-Sleeve-Armband-Black/dp/B000F3PBG0/ref=pd_bbs_2?ie=UTF8&s=electronics&qid=1214152090&sr=8-2


And then, of course, get a protective case. I have this one and it's held up extremely well:
http://www.amazon.com/Belkin-Acrylic-Brushed-Metal-Case/dp/B000KIM9OW/ref=pd_sim_e_1


Good luck!


-Laura. (16-f)

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(16/m)
What do girls like to get as a gift?
(only girls answer!!!!!)

I got roses on Valentine's Day, and I think it was the sweetest thing. Any flowers are nice, really. It's a simple gesture, but it makes a huge impression. Trust me.


Other than that, I think it would be really cute if a boy made me a mix cd. Another simple gesture that makes a big impression.


Some other things:
- Stuffed Animals.
Not all girls like them, but I know I do?
I really think the idea somebody below suggested about going to Build-A-Bear. I don't know what else the columnist said, as I was only skimming, but that's an adorable idea.


- Books if she likes to read.
This would be an amazing gift in my opinion, and it would show you pay attention to things she likes.


- Something personal.
Make her a card, or a picture frame with a picture of the 2 of you together in it.


You can always take her somewhere, like the place you went on your first date [if you're dating]. Or, just a place the 2 of you have gone to and had a really great time together at.


I hope this helps!


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i want to impress a girl studying in my class i luv her....so what should i do to express my feelings infront of her so that she accepts me and we should have a good relationship....but i feel scared that if she rejects me then....
i luv her so much i could do anything for her ....

*i hve ask many questions on this website but
never got an answer...plz help me this time.

Here are 2 questions very similar to yours. One I answered, and one my friend answered. I think they'll help you out.

http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=541093
"First of all, I'm going to say the best way to impress somebody is to be yourself. I know that's it's so cliche, but it's honestly, the best tip I or anybody can give.
I mean, you don't want somebody to start liking you for the way you think THEY want you to act or talk ot dress. Why would you want somebody to like you when you're not even being yourself?"


http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=504399
"Well- you can't MAKE someone like you. It has to happen naturally. Sure- you can do nice things for them and hope that they like you more for them- but you shouldn't thrive to make a girl like you. There are plenty of girls out there that will like you for who you are."


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15/f

I just started my first job ever about 2 weeks ago, and it's a pretty boring job. I just stand around most the time. but I want to go to work because there's a guy who works there too. He's my age, really cute, and really really sweet. Its a tiny store, so there's like 5 people total who work there. I spend at least 4 hours a day (5 days a week) standing around talking to this guy, and I'm falling for him. Like bad. and I can't help it. It really would be better to just get over it, you know? but i don't think that's gonna happen. So what do i do? I flirt a bit, and we're just getting to know each other. but i am ABSOLUTELY not going to tell him how i feel unless he says it first (under no circumstances). So I guess my question is, how do i get him to fall for me?

Well, you can't MAKE a guy fall for you. But here is a similar question my friend answered that might help you out.

http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=505520


From there:
"Anyway- the best way to attract a guy is to be yourself. If you try to change yourself just to get a boyfriend [especially at your age]- you'll just end up with someone who only likes you for what you've become- not who you are. If you be yourself- and don't change- you'll attract more guys who actually care about your personality rather than just your looks."


That is completely true, and I'd advise you to do just that, and be yourself! =]


-Laura. (16-f)

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My grandma has just been diagnosed with Alzheimer's 6 months ago, but we think she's had it for much longer. My parents were hiding it from me all this time. I'm really upset with them for that. But anyways...
I'm just scared for her. I just was wondering if anybody could tell me things about Alzheimer's...I know like what it is but I just wanted to know a little more. I'd ask my parents, but they sorta don't want to talk about it. I mean, they didn't even tell me. I figured it out when they mentioned it in casual conversation. So basically asking them is completely out of the question.
Thank you.....

First off, I'm sorry to hear about your grandmother, and how your parents are treating the situation.


Here are a few good websites I found for you. They can explain it a lot better than I can, as I'm not a doctor:

http://www.namenda.com/sections/about-alzheimers-disease/?WT.srch=1&PlacementGUID=9D98DE43-7274-46E3-A177-78FD2AC22866

http://www.alz.org/alzheimers_disease_what_is_alzheimers.asp

http://health.nytimes.com/health/guides/disease/alzheimers-disease/overview.html

http://www.ahaf.org/alzdis/about/adabout.htm



-Laura. (16-f)

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15/f
So I shaved "Down there" just because like, I was curious and stuff. So now its like thereare little red bumps, and they're kind of itchy so I looked up this stuff and "Pubic Lice" came up. Can you get pubci lice from shaving? Also, a while back my sex ed teacher said "If you shave and you get red bumps and stuff its easier to get STD's" Is that true?! Help.

The little red bumps are probably just razor burn. It's just like the razor burn you sometimes get on your legs and under your arms after you shave.


I don't know about the STD part of your question, as I'm not sexually active and was never concerned with STD's. However, I don't think that the "little red bumps" have any affect on how easy or not it is for somebody to catch an STD.



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