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I sometimes take long breaks from the site. I'm more than happy to answer anyone's questions, but just make sure they're not too time sensitive. :)

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*large extended family
*bisexual
*advanced college degree
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What does cached mean? Like what does it do? You know when you search for something on Yahoo and next the the link of whatever your searching it says cache. I just wanna know what does it do and it is good or bad

It highlights the words that you typed into the search engine. So lets say you searched for Fall Out Boy Lyrics. If you click on the cached webpage, the words fall, out, boy, and lyrics will all be highlighted each with a different color. It makes things easier to find if there is a lot of stuff on the page that you don't want to comb through to find where what you're searching for is mentioned.

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i think i'm anorexic... i really don't know what to do but i love the way i feel when i don't eat! but i'm just so fat! i went from 87 to 100 in a couple months and now i never want to eat anything and even if i do i don't... i can stand the way i look and i wanna change. NOW. i think im' anorexic and i don't know what to do

Your age and gender would have helped a lot. Remember that for next time. My GUESS is that you are 13 or 14 years old and female. If you're not, it's your own fault for not saying. Okay, well if I am correct with my guess, this is about the time when you will be going through puberty. Women gain weight at this point in their lives. You are just becoming a woman and getting a figure. Wouldn't you rather have a few curves then be completely flat? This is a good thing. You weigh more, but you look a lot better. Weight has nothing to do with the way you look. Have a friend trace your body onto a sheet of paper or your driveway or something and take a look at how small you really are. It is normal to feel like you're fat. If however, it's affecting your life, like how much you eat or socialize, you should probably talk to someone about it. Someone like a nurse or school counselor. Any of your friends or anybody on here can tell you how thin you are, but I don't think that any of that will affect the way that you feel. Someone that's a little more professional that has some experience with this will be able to help you out quite a bit. So, if you are just feeling fat, don't worry about that, you will get past it, but if it's affecting your life do seek help. Good luck!

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im kind of embaressed...but like, i masturbate and i think its gross and i know everyone says its not gross and its compltely natural and everyone does it and its not a big deal, but i cant help how i feel you know? but im trying to do it less like only once a week or something and (this sounds dumb) i told god that i would only once a week but it seems like i cant and i've done t like three times already and im worried im going to go to hell for lying to god...and i feel really stupid but i just wanted to ask someone...

God knows that we will give in to temptations. Only Jesus was perfect. Just ask for forgiveness and try not to worry about it so much :)

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My friend has been taking pills that some, or many of you, are familiar with. The street name are "triple c's" or "skittles". I think theyre called 'Coridicin Cold and Cough' or something, and what gives people their 'high' is the dextrophine or something close called that. Well, She steals them out of walgreen every day and swallows about 16 of them every day or every other day. I, myself, have only taken 6 in my life and I learned it was a very stupid decision and that I will never take them again! But my friend on the other hand, I think, is becoming very dependent on them. Shes been doing this for about a month or two, every day taking more. She keeps telling me and herself that she'll stop but she just won't. She is my best friend and im really concerned about her health and what permanent effects these pills can have on her. So what i need is some info and/or sites that give me the dangers, etc. of taking these pills. Thank you guys so much i want to help her.

I know this is going to sound kind of mean, but your friend does need help. Tip off someone at the store that she steals from. She'll get caught and it will at least be a start. After she gets caught you should talk to her about it and tell her that she needs to get help. Give her suggestions, tell her where to go. She may do it after realizing some of the negative consequences of what she is doing. Right now she is only focusing on how good the pills make her feel and is blind to everything else. If she refuses to get help even after getting caught at the store you need to step in. Tell a counselor at your school and that will set the wheels in motion and hopefully get her the help that she needs. This is a really tough situation to be in and so far you're doing a really great job at being a friend. I hope that everything gets worked out and good luck.

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i have ad-aware SE and i have to option to either quarentine all the critical objects to to send them all to the ignore list.. which one is better for my computer, send them to the ignore list or quarentine them? and also, what is the difference?

thanks, i will rate 5's if you help

Quarentine them! Never ignore them. Ignoring them does just what it says, it ignores them and lets them continue to slow down your computer. After you've quarentined them, there's an icon on the top that looks like a lock. Click on that. Then highlight anything that is on the quarentine list. Click on the icon on the top with an erasor to delete them completely. When files are in quarentine they aren't hurting your computer or slowing it down, but you should delete them so they don't take up space. Good luck!

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I've been known lose my temper easily, usually with me ending up slapping someone in the face. Usually it only happens once a week where I'll just get really angry over something stupid that wouldn’t have mattered the day before. I take my anger out on guys usually (I'm a girl) I'm wondering if I have bi polar (sp?) since I can be totally fine one second and out of control the nest. My mom thinks I need a consular since she thinks I'm "Angry all the time" and "Depressed" but I’m not sure what to think. Any ideas? Btw, I’m 14

My guess is that it's hormone levels. Not to such an extreme where you need to do anything about it though. It's very normal for someone your age to go through this. Unless it's seriously disrupting your life I wouldn't worry about it too much. If your mom wants you to see a counselor you might as well. I don't think anything will come of it though so again, try not to worry. At 14 your body is going through a lot of changes and hormone levels are all over the place. That can cause your moood swings and give you the PMSlike symptoms that you described. I hope I helped and good luck!

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Ok i had invited 6 of my guy friends over and we were just hanging out in my room. We got sort of bored so we decided to play truth or dare (haha i know). The dares were pretty embarrassing. Everyone had done their dare, so when it was my turn i was in no position to turn mine down. They dared me to make out with my friend Derek until the song they picked out ended. Of course the song they picked was like 4 minutes long. It was odd kissing someone of the same sex, but i kind of liked it. After about a minute we got sort of into it and he started to take of my shirt and kissing my neck. The other guys were laughing so hard. So it was finally over and around 12:00 the guys headed back home. But Derek stayed a little longer. I really wanted to kiss him again so i went for it and, it went a lot farther than i expected...
So the next day he snuck out at like 5 in the morning before my parents were awake and i went back to sleep. I woke up around 8 to head to school and as i was eating breakfast my mom pointed out the hickey i had on my neck. She was like who gave you that, because you didn't have it yesterday and i was like i have to go. So i drove to school totally embarrassed. Just my luck at lunch my gf noticed the hickey and got really pissed and asked me who did it and i didn't know what to say. So now my gf won't talk to me and my mom wants to know what happened. I am also very confused how i feel. I wasn't really attarcted to my gf, but i really did enjoy being with Derek, so does that make me gay? And Derek called and asked if i wanted to go out with him but i don't know if i should. Should i tell my mom and my gf the truth?
Thank you, sorry it was long

I think that telling the entire truth is a very bad idea. You're still not sure about your sexuality and if you tell your girlfriend or even your mom the news will get around FAST. Everyone will start picking on you and calling you gay, maybe physically hurting you too. That isn't something that you want to put up with especially if you really aren't gay or bisexual. Even if you were positive that you liked guys, I would still advise against telling anyone at your age. High schoolers can be really cruel. You do however have to explain the hickey somehow. If you're okay with lying (which I would really suggest that you do) I can come up with a really good lie for you. Tell your girlfriend first. Say that you and the guys were talking and you were telling them how you really weren't that sure about your relationship with her and you were asking them for advice on what to do. You were trying to think of a way to let her down easy without hurting her because the spark wasn't there for you. Kind of cheesy, but she'll believe it. They didn't have any good ideas and when you were asleep one of the guys gave you a hickey to get you in trouble with her so that breaking up would be really easy. You woke up and it took you awhile to figure out what was going on. All the guys were standing over you laughing and joking so you don't know who did it. You were mad at them and embarassed and didn't want to tell her, but you figured that you had to. This will save you from everyone deciding that you're gay (your girlfriend won't keep it a secret no matter what she says) and it will be a good way to break up with her. Then tell your mom the same story, but make it sound more lighthearted. Like they didn't mean anything by it and it was all in good fun. If you aren't that good at lying or are against it for some reason you can give some half truths. Tell your mom first. Say that you and the guys were playing truth or dare and that one of the other guys (don't tell her his name) was dared to give you a hickey. Don't include anything about making out or liking it and that kind of stuff. Not yet. Then say how silly you were all being and that you shouldn't have let him give you a hickey. None of that is really a lie. Even though it would be better to tell your girlfriend the lie, if you're not that worried about hurting her just break up with her and don't even say anything about the hickey. After all of that is taken care of, you're going to have to do some thinking about your sexuality. Don't rush it, but it's important that you figure everything out in the next few years just for your own sanity. I hope I helped you and I wish you the very best of luck.

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Well, I am really wanting a digital camera these days. I know they are pretty pricey also. I want one that has the little screen in the back so you can look at the picture you took.
How much are digital camera's in range? And another thing, I am about 13 and I really want to buy my own because I know my mom can't buy me one.
What would be a good job for me to get some money for that? Babysitting is my biggest option right now. How many times do you think I would have to babysit if I ask for 6-11$ an hour?

Thank you so much for the help!

A nice digital camera will probably cost between $100 and $400. I got one for $60 not too long ago and it's pretty crappy. It works fine and has lots of features, but the picture quality is quite low. I wouldn't say that I made a very good investment. What you need to do is first think about what you want it to have. Rechargeable battery? How long do you want the battery to last? Does picture quality matter? Video? Timer? Then go to a place like WalMart and talk to someone there. They usually have a pretty good idea of what you're looking for. I would say that $250 is plenty of money to get a nice camera, but you should still go to the store and figure out exactly what you want.

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Okay, so I'm getting so annoyed by not being able to re-size my images. Ugh! I have InfranView but it just doesn't work now because when I pick a size, then I upload it to photobucket, it just makes it smaller!!! And i try using paint but it just takes to long. Can anyone tell me any good softwares that you can re-size images that are Windows 98 compatiable? Please help. It gets so annoying.

Maybe you should try not using photobucket? It sounds like photobucket is giving you problems. There's nothing wrong with Irfanview! It works great for me. I use it all the time. I don't know that much about photobucket because I've never trusted it...the reasons should now be pretty obvious to you. I'm not sure what you're trying to do with the photos. Add that info to your question or inbox me and I can try to come up with something you can use other than photobucket. Good luck!

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ok i was just wondering... what does it mean if you get split ends *down there*? what causes it?

Split ends happen to all hair no matter where it may be. It's just the normal wear and tear on your hair. People get their hair (on their heads) trimmed once a month or so to get rid of these split ends. They make your hair unhealthy and it won't grow as fast. As for the hair "down there", I wouldn't worry about it. It doesn't matter if it looks healthy or grows. You can trim it if you want, but that's just going to make it itch. Nobody's going to be looking at it and if anybody does get a peek I don't think they'll be looking at your hair. I hope I helped you and good luck!

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I've heard a whole bunch of stories lately of what happens to guys who go to work up in the oil rig camps in Northern Alberta Canada. One was that because it's so cold up there, that they have nothing to do but spend all their money on alcohol or drugs. They make a ton of money and spend it on drugs or alhohol because it's too cold to do anything else. I heard that some come back as addicts. I also heard some guys become addicted to porn because there are no woman up there.
This concerns me because right now a male friend of mine is working up there as a cook. I hardly ever hear from him. I know he works his ass off, and doesnt get a break for two weeks.
Has any one else heard any stories like these?

It sounds like your worries are just sterotypes. Yes, maybe some people that go up there have those problems, but there are people that live in Florida that have those problems too. I think that getting addicted to alcohol, drugs, and porn depends more on the person than anything. The environment would just bring it out. Why wouldn't there be any women? And why would that make someone turn to porn? It's no different than just being single, plus I'm sure that there are women anyways. The alcohol and drug thing...I'll bet there are no more people up there that are addicted than there are in the very town that you live in. It's good to be worried about your friend because that shows that you care, but try not to worry too much. My guess is that he's just fine. :)

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I just found out that I have to give a speech in front of my english class. I have a month before I have to deliver it, and wanted to get a head start. The objectives are to strive to speak without any notes; which is why I want to start early to practice.
I can basically pick any topic I want. The topic has to have a general and specific purpose, with a beginning, body, and conclusion to reinforce the purpose. Does anyone have any ideas for a topic that would really catch my classmates attention and ensure I get a good grade?
Id really appreciate it!

I'm going to give you a really important tip. When you have to give a speech without notes, don't write it ahead of time and try to memorize it. If you do, first off it will be really hard, and second off, if you forget anything when the time comes you'll have no idea what to say. Pick something that you do a lot and know a lot about. Do you play a sport? Take care of animals? Babysit? Go through a typical day in your head and write down everything that you do and pick something that you talk a lot about in real life. Make an outline for your speech. Lets say you decide to talk about soccer. Your outline would include things like "why I decided to play", "skills", "rules", "attitude", "why I like it", "would I recommend it to other people". Then you can spice up your speech. Wear a soccer jersey and hold a soccer ball while you're talking. And just TALK! If you don't know what to say just remember one of the topics in your outline and start talking about the next topic. Practice in front of a mirror or stuffed animals and then once you feel more comfortable, practice in front of your family. It will get easier and easier the more times you do it. You have a whole month to prepare. I think you will do really well. Good luck!

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what do you do when your in a bad mood?
i have so much homework to do and its stressing me out and i just dont wanna do it anymore

Taking a shower helps a lot. It relaxes you physically and gives you enough time away from what you're stressed about to calm down but not so much that you don't get anything done. Another thing I do to cheer myself up is eat. Don't go and eat a lot, but having your favorite snack helps so much. I used to do chemistry homework with a chocolate bar. It worked wonders. I'd bribe myself with food. Every time I finished a problem I got to eat a section of the chocolate. One more suggestion I have for you is to go for a quick jog. Just like with the shower, it will take away a lot of the tension and give your mind a little peace. Good luck!

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hey well i was wondering what all u alls views were on teens (well 14 yr olds) making out? is it to young, or not? and what about not going all the way like sex but..just a little ways? i just need to know what other peoples views are on this! please please please i'll rate high!! xo thanks

I think that 14 is a good age to start exploring sexuality. As you said, sex is much too far to go, but kissing and maybe even a little more is definitely an okay thing for a 14 year old to do. As others have said though, many people don't get their first kiss until they are 16 or older. Whenever you are ready and have the opportunity is the right time to start. Good luck!

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I would like to gain at least 20-30 pounds before April 11th, 2006 (my b-day) I am at least 120 pounds. All of my life, I have been skinny. I'm now 14 years old and in high school. Most of the girls are thick with boobs and butt. I got butt but nothing more. I'm a black girl and I'm not thick but long and skinny. If I were to gain at least 30 pounds (of thickness!) I would fill out my clothes better and feel good about myself.

1.) Can someone give me websites on how to gain pounds faster?

2.) Can someone tell me how they gained weight? (if you tried to gain weight and succeeded)

3.) You can also give food ideas!!!!!!

*~* please don't tell me how stupid this is because that won't change the way I feel about this. Please don't give me websites about how to gain muscles because I am already exercising. *~*

THANK YOU SOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO MUCH IN ADVANCE :-* Lol : )

Gaining weight on purpose is not a good idea. It's very unhealthy. You are a very good weight for your age. If you were to try to gain weight it wouldn't just go to your chest. It would go to your legs and your stomach...everywhere. In other words, you'd get fat, not fill out. You are only 14 years old. Your boobs have 4 more years to grow! Just be patient. I know that this isn't what you want to hear, but it is the truth and I really hope that you believe it. Good luck.

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hey everyone my name is nikita and iam 15 years old. well my problem is that about a month ago i got punched in they eye for callling a girl skinny and a whore. Now ihave to go to court for that!! and im super scared. ny parents told me not to ever call neone skinny because iam too and they told me not call anyone a bad name at all. well i told them plus the principal i won't do that again. well i kind of did. i called this one girl a bitch because she pointed at me. i don't know what's wrong with me. i fee like abad person because im either callin people bad names or talking about them behind their back. and at home my parents tell me that the only reason i call people names is because i can't even talk to them properly without having an attitude! and there right i do! i always talk back if they tell me to do something. and i always have an attitude for some reason! and im a freshmen in high school! and im scared what i might do when i get older. idon't want to become a bad peson but my attitude and actions are making me! so what should i do?

Don't worry. It's very normal to call people names. I'm SURE that your parents did it when they were your age. Having an attitude is sometimes better than being too shy to defend yourself (like I was). If you weren't like this when you were younger, I would say that you are just going through a phase. I definitely went through a swearing phase. Now, I can control what I say very easily. Try not to worry about it so much. You are not the one going around punching people. The girl you called skinny that punched you has much more of a problem than you ever will. I would say not to worry about it so much now. If you want to work on the swearing, try replacing swear words with different words. Like every time you want to say "whore" say "humbug" instead. It's going to sound really dumb and that's the point. You'll laugh at yourself, it will lighten the situation, and you'll stop calling people that name altogether because it's kind of embarassing to call someone a humbug. I hope I helped you and good luck :)

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The show fiddler on the roof: i am the fiddler. opening night is tomorrow and i am terrified of getting off the roof in the blackout. i am on top of the roof, playing my violin... thats scary enough! i dont think im going to be able to do this all week, i get panic attacks and im scared i will get one while im on the roof! what should i do? ill rate high!!!

Is it possible for the curtain to be closed and the lights left on so that you can get down more safely? Tell the director that you are very uncomfortable with the way it is now and you don't think that you will be able to concentrate enough on your performace because you will be worried (even if this isn't the case). If it's just not possible, see if a stage crew member can have a small flashlight and shine it on the floor behind the house. If that's not possible talk to two or three of the stage crew members and have them spot you on your way down. You'll feel a little better knowing that there are a few people there to catch you. Good luck, I know you'll do great!

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okay is it true that your boobs can become deformed if youre wearing a bra cup size too small..? cuz mine tend to hurt after a while and i think my bras getting a little small.. cuz im like right between an a and b.. and its really difficult to find a nice bra.

By "after a while" do you mean like once a month or every day? Lots and lots of women experience breast tenderness a week or so before they get their periods. I used to think that the bras I was wearing were too small until I realized that my boobs just hurt because of that. I ended up with a bunch of bras that were too big. Any study that has been done about bras deforming your body or giving you cancer have not been proven at all. It's just like saying peanut butter gives you cancer. It could. But it hasn't been proven so people still eat it. Wear bras that feel comfortable on you and remember that your boobs hurting every once in awhile might not have to do with the bra being too tight. If your bras are uncomfortable, try looking at different brands and finding size "barely B". Good luck!

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So i have pin straight hair, like you can not curl it at all no matter how long you leave the iron in for or sleep in curls, it does not work. I was thinking about a perm, but how long do they last? Do they damage your hair? Can you still straighten it? Is it hard to straighten? Are there different types of perms? Yeah I am a perm-dummy so all the help and information would be helpful :] I will rate high if I get a good response.

Wow, nobody really seems to know that much about perms. Of course they will damage your hair if you get them done all the time, just like using hairdryers too much or straightening too much. However, you only need to get it done maybe once a year. When I was 5 I had very thin very straight hair. I got it permed once a year from 1st grade to 5th. Because of the perms my hair is now wavy and thick. I love it. Perms do a lot of good for your hair. The chemicals aren't terrible, I mean, come on, I was 6 years old when I got my hair permed. You can still smell them slightly for about a week afterwards, but after that there's nothing to worry about. I am talking from personal experience. Perms are good for your hair. I don't see why you wouldn't be able to straighten it, but I think that is a question for a professional. Ask your hairdresser. If I were you I wouldn't trust much of what was said on advicenators about this topic. Even my answer. Not many people on here are going to have much experience or knowledge with this topic so before you make any decisions definitely talk to a professional and trust what they say over everything else. Good luck!

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My boyfriend is way too clingy! he is driving me and my family crazy! Every night he calls me at least 30 times and if I don't pick up he keeps calling and leaving me annoying messages! All he thinks about is me, and I'm not even sure he actually has any friends. I tell him NOT to call sometimes and he does anyways, so I have to unplug the phone because it bothers my family alot. I like him, but man, he needs to stop being so clingy.

What can I do? // How can I set him straight? He never listens to me, so what should I say? Should I break up with him?

You've already tried talking to him, but you still have a few options. Why does he call you so many times? Try to figure out why and then work from that. For example, if it's because he thinks of something else he wants to tell you and is afraid that he is going to forget or can't hold it in, suggest that he write it down to tell you the next day. I've actually done that before. It's commen for that kind of thing to happen in the beginning of a relationship because you have so much to say. I didn't want to be annoying so whenever I thought of something I wanted to tell my boyfriend I would jot it down on a notepad and whip it out the next time we talked. My advice is to have your parents talk to him. Have them lay down the rules. I think that will work. A civilized face to face conversation without you present. If that doesn't work threaten to break up with him if he continues. If he still can't control himself yes, break up with him. If he's really into you, he will tell you how he's going to change and all that good stuff. Don't get back together with him for at least a month no matter how much he says he will change. Your point won't be made if you start dating again right away. Also, don't plan on getting back together with him. If it happens, that's great, but if you find someone else that's great too. Try to be patient with him. It doesn't seem like he has very many social skills yet. I wish you the best of patience and luck.

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