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how do i get a girl (link)
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You be nice, become their friend and treat them right. Don't be a jerk, don't use them or be rude and that's how you will get a girl.
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My friend is multi-talented. She can play viola, violen, and piano. She also sings pretty good and can draw pretty good. She doesn't really realize how good she is but she is really good. I've wanted to be good at a lot of those thing but I just don't think I sing very good, I know I suck at playing the violen, and I can't draw without a tutorial unless it's a random doodle. I want to be a fashion designer and I think I'm pretty good at that. I make sets on polyvore and I get a good amount of likes. Would that be considered a talent? And if not how do I find my talent? (link)
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Well to be a fashion desire you obviously have to be good at drawing so you can try to get better at that.
You'll never know unless you try different things. There are so many things to learn. Most people don't just pick up an instrument or pick up a pencil and just magically get good at it. So practicing for awhile will definitely help.
My friend sucked at play violin and piano at first but now she is amazing and gets asked to play for tons of things.
There are sports-
Volleyball, basketball, baseball, softball, golf, track, swimming, tennis, aerobics, gymnastics, colorguard.
Or other instruments-
Drums, piano, xylophone, bass, accordion, tuba, french horn, clarinet, flute, harmonica, trumpet, saxophone, trombone, harp, guitar, cello, electric guitar, ukulele.
Or maybe you'd be into composing music.
Different arts-
painting, sewing, cooking, ceramics, photography, jewelry making, sculpture, gardening
I think speaking other languages are a talent :) I also think it'd be cool to show off..
Spanish, French, ASL, Greek, Latin, Italian, German, ect.
Dancing-Ballet, jazz, tap, hip hop, modern, swing, belly dance, hawaiian, latin, ect.
Or even martial arts, acting, theatre or taking singing lessons.
Computer stuff-
Html, graphic design, word processing, web design, programming, desktop publishing.
Or other random stuff that's hard for a lot of young people.
Speech, debate, public speaking, journalism, creative writing
Anyways, good luck and there are so many things to learn and once you do, you can enjoy it.
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So I'm in 7th, and I like this guy that's in 8th grade. He's so adorable and really nice, but school is ending in 2 weeks. He'll be going to high school and I won't be able to see him for a year - PLUS there will be a bunch of new girls there. What do I do? I really like him. I don't know him. He's smiled at me walking through the halls and stuff, but that's pretty much it. He's like all I think about... What do I do? (link)
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Honestly, there isn't much you can do.
School is ending in two weeks and you haven't even spoken to him.
I mean these are your options..
Tell him how you feel and hope that maybe he felt the same even though you guys don't exactly know each other.
Or move on and find someone else to crush on.
Those would be your options that I could think of. If you did decide to tell him how you feel, you'll have to be able to handle rejection because who knows who he likes or if he'll want a relationship with a girl who's in another school.
So if you decide to just enjoy that you had a crush and that was it, then that's just fine too.
So whatever decision you decide to make, good luck.
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Well I'll explain this as short as I think I can. At the beginning of the year was a huge nerd. EVERYONE hated me for no reason. I finally got a couple of friends, and since they were kinda popular they changed my look a little bit. Then I got a boyfriend. He was sweet and he loving! But then everything started goin down hill. One day my friends got mad at me because I was telling someone one of her "secret" (because she had already said it was ok if I tell people) but anyways she got mad and to give pay back she wasted her food all over my clothes. Then the next day she asked if I wanted to be her friend again and I told her no. So she got mad again and she got me back by telling my boyfriend that u was cheating on him with his best friend. I told him I didnt buy apperently his friend was in the plan too because he also told my boyfriend that I was dating him. I now I'm back to where I started and I'm a complete nerd again. I don't know what to do but I can't keep letting them spill stuff on me and calling me names and putting mean notes in my locker. I've told the princpal twice but after they get suspended they are still picking in me. What to I do? (link)
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Well you're obviously the better one from your so called friends.
Go to the principal again and explain your situation. If he doesn't do anything, talk to your parents, talk to teachers, someone will help you.
Don't be upset with being a nerd. They are probably the best people to be friends with and way nicer than the friends you had.
Your ex is honestly really immature to believe their crap especially after what they've been doing. So if he believed them over you, he wasn't worth it in the first place.
Be who you want to be and you need to be happy being you.
Stand up for yourself and make sure they stop doing this.
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Okay so i like this guy but we aren't dating. Hes moving away in 3 days and i STILL haven't told him i like him! I'm 12 so I'm very shy and insecure so i don't think i could stand the embarrassment of rejection. Will you help me? (link)
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Well honestly, you have nothing to lose. There is no point to tell him if he's moving, unless you think you might see him after that?
I don't know, but if you really want to tell him, you shouldn't be afraid because even if he says he doesn't like you, he's leaving. You don't have to see him or feel all awkward.
Just tell yourself that and then just tell him that you've had a crush on him for awhile and just wanted to tell him. If he's around your age, he'll probably be a little awkward but at least you got out of your comfort zone to do something you wouldn't normally do.
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I'm 18 years old, and I work part-time after school. A few months ago, this new guy came in. He's a bit older than I am, and really funny and very cute, and I immediately took a liking to him.
I didn't think he'd ever be interested, but we started talking and he's asked to hook up. I have a few concerns;
1. He's in his 20s, and I feel like hooking up to him is sex. I don't feel comfortable going all the way with someone that I'm not even dating.
2. I like his personality, and I worry that getting physically intimate will cause me to develop feelings for him.
3. I gained a lot of weight recently. I'm just barely overweight, and you can't really tell how big I am in clothes. If I were to take anything off, I'm sure he'd notice some... trouble areas...
So, what should I do?
Thanks :) (link)
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I think you both want different things. He's interested in a casual thing because he asked you to hook up, not to go on a date. So he's not looking for a relationship or dating.
Hooking up does mean sex. If you ended up making out with him or something and then you told him to stop when he starts trying to go further, he'd probably stop but it'd get irritating and he wouldn't be interested to do it again.
This will get ten times worse if you develop feelings for him. Friends with benefits never work when feelings are involved.
As for your insecurity, if a guy judges you on how you look, he sucks and he really doesn't deserve you. You need to work on your insecurity separately so you can become more comfortable with yourself.
My advice would be to tell him that you don't mess around with guys you're not dating.
If he asks you out, then he's interested in you and will wait. (Or is just desperate to get some, but let's assume the best in the this guy)
If he just says, "Oh ok" and blows it off, then he's only after sex and he wasn't worth your time.
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There's not much more to my question than what's in the title. My sister is getting married in June of 2014 and I'm thinking I might get married around that time as well. Like in August maybe. There's a reason why it may be important that I get married by that time, but I'm worried that people will think I just did it to steal my sister's thunder. Also, it's my dream to get married married in this church at the Grand Canyon, which I'm afraid people will think of as a real thunder stealing attempt. Also, I'd kind of like my own thunder. I don't get much at all. I got a tooth infection in February that was so bad I had to go to the emergency room and I liked it because it got me some attention. It's not a good enough reason to not get married when I plan to, but still. What do you think my sister and family will say? (link)
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I think it's ok to get engaged before you sister gets married. But to get married around the same time can be a little weird.
What's the reason that you think it's important to get married around the same time your sister does? I mean if it's a valid reason, then it's fine but if you don't have a good reason then waiting shouldn't be a problem.
My brothers wife, when they got engaged, her sister got engaged a little after but she didn't get married around the time her sister got married.
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Why boys are eagar to see girls breast (link)
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Because guys like sex. Breasts are seen as sexy and sexual. Boys have raging hormones. Simple as that.
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Ok so I was at a grocery store and I had my hood on. An employee was like "Can I help you with something, sir?" And I turned around and he said "*Ahem* Ma'am. Sorry, I'm just tired".
I'm starting to think I look like a guy.. I had my hood on, but I have long-ish hair and it showed. I'm not really "grown" yet, so.. I'm a teen (Late bloomer.. Haha). Do you think he was really tired or he thought I was a guy? (link)
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That kind of thing actually happens a lot when you wear a hood. My boyfriend's sister wears hoodies all the time and has been mistaken for a boy because of it but she is completely and totally looks like a girl. He saw you from the back, didn't see any hair. Plus whether you were wearing tight jeans or baggy clothing, both can be mistaken for a guy nowadays.
Plus it's not like he looked at you and didn't realize you were a girl. He did, so you have nothing to worry about.
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so i want to talk to my mother about my "love life" since i got myself a girlfriend, and i cant keep it secret forever. So how do i start a conversation about what is going on? (link)
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Well I don't know your mom but if you believe she will react fine to you having a girlfriend at 13, then ok.
Just go up to her and tell her. It's pretty simple. Just tell her that you met this pretty girl, you talk to her a lot, you've started to really like her and you recently asked her to be your girlfriend.
So she'll probably just ask questions about her or maybe ask to meet her.
Good luck!
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I was in English and I looked over and saw this girl walking back and forth (She isn't in my class. I looked in the hallway and she was doing it). I asked these girls in her grade (They're one grade ahead of me.) what was wrong with her, and they said she had bad anger issues. They said it really creepily. Then, they walked away and I think they were talking about me. They kept looking back at me while talking. They're her friends by the way.
I'm kind of scared that they will tell that girl what I said and she'll get mad and try to hurt me. What do I do? (link)
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Ok I highly doubt she's going to hurt you. People talk but it's usually nothing more than that.
If it does come down to that girl approaching you, just tell her you were concerned and it wasn't anything offensive.
It's not like you said anything bad about her. All you did was ask what she was doing.
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I'll try to explain this as briefly as I can.. I'm a girl (19) and I'm secretly in love with one of my classmate. A few months ago, his best friend started approaching me, he asked for my number and we gradually became "friends". BUT :
1. he says very ambiguous things to me, gets jealous of other guys, texts me a lot and makes efforts to be near me in class, etc.
2. he often talks about his best friend (the one I love) and he invites him when we do things together.. the other day, he even said to me that his best friend was single (i don't know if he was testing me or something)
-> I don't know if one of them or both or none likes me.. What do you think ?
-> What should I do ? I don't want to hurt the "friend" but if I stop our relationship I won't have any contact with the one I'm really interested in.. (link)
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I was in this situation last year. I just ended up telling the guy that liked me, that I liked his best friend. He cooled off but we are still friends.
You can still be friends with this guy but he might not be interested in just being friends with you so you'll have to take initiative and try hanging out with his friend on your own.
I mean if you really don't want to tell him that you like his friend, then tell him that he's coming on too strong and you don't want to give him mixed signals. I mean he's being obvious he likes you, and if you keep letting him be like this, then it's leading him on and letting him think that it's ok for him to act like this. So either way, you have to put a stop to him acting like this. Or you could always just lead him on and then his best friend with know he likes you and won't be interested.
So my advice would be to tell him you like his friend or just tell him you're not into him like that.
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I have really large, almost buggy eyes that everyone makes fun of. they are big and they practically bulge. they're not that bad, but there's like a line under my eyes. they are blue. I have middle length blond hair that is really thin.. its light blonde and has a purple streak. I'm a girl, 13, and 88 lbs. , and 5 foot 2 and my breasts are 36B I'm not like stick skinny, though. I'm just skin, bones and muscle.
my best friends say I'm gorgeous and they wish they looked like me, but other people like some guys and girls say I'm ugly and weird. I get depressed about this, and one time I carved ugly into my arm with a pointy stick...
Do I sound ugly? I'm in middle school, also. (link)
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No you don't sound ugly.
You're only 13, you're still growing.
Your friends think your gorgeous so why do you think they're lying and some other people are telling the truth? They know you better than the other people, they don't have any right to judge you.
I'm going to be honest, in life someone somewhere is always going to criticize you. No matter where you go. This world sucks but you can't let people like that get to you.
People think being skinny makes you beautiful or having perfect skin. It's all crap because of Hollywood.
Don't let people who talk about you take over your life. These people shouldn't matter to you.
Everybody gets talked about, even the prettiest girls get called sluts. So seriously, if everyone went around getting depressed over what people say about them, no one would be happy.
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i am 17 and my bf is 18. i love him a lot and he too. we were in a long distance relationship for about 5 years. now he has moved into my city and he wants to give me this special gift of being physical with him on my birthday next week. it is okay since his family knows about us and our future plans so he will not dump me. but i am really shy. i do not know why but he took me out to a date yesterday and i did not even let him hold my hand. i feel butterflies in my stomach with him around. i tense up and sweat. i have told him this but he says that i will not be shy after the first time. but how do i get over the first time itself? the idea of him with me in bed , touching my private parts and seeing me naked, feeling him inside me,kissing him etc. is like too difficult . please help!! i have to do this and i want to...so please don't ask to postpone it. just help me with the shyness thing, maybe give tips on how to relax with him around. thanks. (link)
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You won't enjoy it if you're not ready. You might even come to regret it.
You can't just have sex with a guy when you can't even let him hold your hand. You need to get to that comfortable level with him first.
I wish I could tell you how to relax with him around but there is no way until you spend more time with him and know him physically.
You won't necessarily not be shy with him after the first time, it will be awkward if you don't know him physically and you don't want that.
Like Rahzie said, don't do it on your birthday. That could just end up ruining your birthday if things don't go as planned.
You guys know each other on a different level. You don't know him physically yet.
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I crave for a true purpose in life. I would like to help people and do something that really matters. But I feel like I'm so incapable of reaching my goals... or maybe I don't have any definite goals anymore. I always have this fear. I know it's very unnecessary and I don't need it. But it's always here in me. I want to say something, to speak my heart or just to simply be wherever I am. I think I've lost my voice and I can't simply say what's in my heart. I always run away. That's why I don't have a stable job, never been with a relationship and I don't want to be this way anymore. Maybe I know what to do but I feel like it's so hard to start and I don't have the strength anymore. I need help. Please I beg for help. (link)
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It's hard to let go of fears but it's a necessary thing to do in life if you want to keep going.
This is something working inside of you, so the way to let go of your fears is to push past it and go outside of your comfort zone.
Everybody is afraid of something but a lot of people either move past it and do great things or they sit around wishing they had.
So if you want something, go for it. My dad just gave me some advice on trying to figure out what I want to do for a career. I told him I wasn't sure if I'd be good at it or if I'd even be able to handle it or do it.
He told me that if people sat around thinking, "I don't know if I can do it" Then nothing would get done. Nobody ever knows if they can until they actually do it. And if you really want it, then you can do it. It'll be hard at first but eventually it'll get easier.
He used his example, he came from India to America. He said there are tons of people in India who were wishing they could leave but my dad said he wanted to go so he did it. It was hard because he had no support or money but he wanted it, so he did it. He said he still knows people who are still there wishing they had but let their fear get to them.
Anyways, you need to get out of your comfort zone and start enjoying your life. You can't let this hold you back.
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I have been in a relationship for about a month. I feel like i'm all alone. I really don't have any close friends because with daily life's don't hardly ever see them.So,being depressed is not cutting it. I live about 40 mins from him and we talk all the time and a few weeks ago. He didn't text me for two days and Now, It happens AGAIN! This week two more days again. He has been off work and had no plans and I keep getting these short texts back when I reply with a long message. Never a long message from him. He still refers me as babe. not baby like I do. I say I love you and he says "love you too." I'm always the first person to say it. I don't wanna assume he is cheating. It have been acting like everything is alright. I really don't wanna be hurt right now. Can anyone help or give some advice to this situation? I don't wanna come out and say " Are you cheating". He said he wouldn't ever cheat on me. Even if i'm busy I make time to text him even if it's a short message. He doesn't make to effort to do that. (link)
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Well you don't want to jump to the worst conclusions. It's better than thinking the worst and then ruining the relationship.
There could be tons of reasons why he's not texting you as much. Maybe there is something he's not telling you, like things bothering him where he's living or anything really.
My boyfriend does the same thing with texting. He just hates texting and sometimes it can be a little irritating when I want to talk to him and we don't get to see each other.
He used to text me a lot in the beginning of the relationship but since it's not the beginning anymore and we know each other well, he just doesn't feel the need to text me as often as we used to.
So my advice?
Talk to him, tell him you just need a moment of him time. Then once you get a chance to talk to him. Express how you're feeling. Don't accuse him or cheating and don't start pointing out everything he is doing wrong. Just tell him that you're wondering if anything is wrong because he doesn't talk to you as often as he used to. Just tell him that you'd want him to send you a long message every once in awhile.
So see what he says and go from there. Also, start making time for yourself. Start doing other things so that you're world doesn't revolve around him.
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i am 18 year old boy . my gf is 17. i love her immensely and i have promised to marry her once i am financially strong.however every time i want to touch her , hold her hand or kiss her...she pushes me back and turns away.she does not even talk about sex!! when i asked she says that she loves me and she wants closeness but she is SHY??...i really love her a lot and it is 4 years now , and i want to make love to her. i can figure it out that she wants it too , i have gone through her diary secretly but she says that she is too shy to let me touch her private parts or kiss her??? however she agreed to make love soon. guys please give clues on how to approach to her once we are in bed so that she feels comfortable and it is easy for her to come out of her shyness. and also can anyone explain to me this psychology of girls??? (link)
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I don't really know what there is to understand other than she's not ready for sex or any kind of physical intimacy.
It seems to me she agreed to have sex with you soon because she wants to make you happy. This isn't what she wants. The only way to make her more comfortable with you is to stop asking, stop touching and let her be comfortable with just you. She'll come around when she's ready.
There isn't anything wrong with her. She's shy, and that's it. If she was more comfortable with you, she wouldn't have to be shy so don't push her anymore.
Also, don't ready her diary. That's not the right thing to do.
She won't think the sex you both had was great because when she's not ready, she might even come to regret it. You definitely don't want that to happen.
So just stop asking her to have sex with you, and stop touching her. I'm sure you love her so this shouldn't be a problem.
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I have been planning this for a while but there is just one problem... I dont know how to do it quick and permanet...If your lost then what im trying to say is ... I want to kill myself today and I need a suggestion on how to kill myself quick and permanet. (link)
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No one on this site is even allowed to tell you how to kill yourself.
I'm pretty sure you would know that.
There are lots of people who have gone through terrible things and still find reasons to live. You can do that too. So seek help.
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Ok, so this is not really about me, but I have a question just in general. So guys & girls who should make the first move in a relationship? Is it more proper for boys too? Or should it not matter? Thanks for the feed back! (link)
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I think it's kinda a preference. I don't think that it should really matter though.
I mean years and years ago, it was the proper thing for guys to make the first move but now it's getting common for girls to make the first move.
A lot of girls are more shy than the boys, so they think the guys should make the first move. While there are guys out there who think the girls should make the first move as well.
So honestly, I think if you like someone then just make the first move. It's not really an uncommon thing for either gender to make the first move anymore.
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Okay, so I am 14 & a female. I have a really big crush on this kid in my grade. I don't know what to do because I also have a boyfriend. We have been dating for about 5-6 months, but the problem with him is that I don't get to see him that much and when I do which only is on the weekends t is really awkward but I still like him a lot but I feel bad and dont know what to do should I stay with him? are tell my crush how I feel? Pleasee help! (link)
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If your boyfriend is a good boyfriend who treats you right, then stay with him because you said you still like him.
It is natural to have crushes on other guys but it's better to not act on them.
The guys that flirt with a lot of girls can draw attention. He's most likely the type of guy who likes attention from girls. So he's probably not the type of guy you'd want to date. They're cute and charming but they'll be that way when they're with you, flirting with other girls.
You have different options..
You can leave your boyfriend, for a guy who flirts with you and every other girl and not even knowing if he has feelings for you.
Or you can stay with your boyfriend and move on from this other guy.
You don't need to see your boyfriend every day to have a good relationship. As long as he treats you right, it's fine.
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