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My ex, my friend :/ Im getting bullied
Well I'll explain this as short as I think I can. At the beginning of the year was a huge nerd. EVERYONE hated me for no reason. I finally got a couple of friends, and since they were kinda popular they changed my look a little bit. Then I got a boyfriend. He was sweet and he loving! But then everything started goin down hill. One day my friends got mad at me because I was telling someone one of her "secret" (because she had already said it was ok if I tell people) but anyways she got mad and to give pay back she wasted her food all over my clothes. Then the next day she asked if I wanted to be her friend again and I told her no. So she got mad again and she got me back by telling my boyfriend that u was cheating on him with his best friend. I told him I didnt buy apperently his friend was in the plan too because he also told my boyfriend that I was dating him. I now I'm back to where I started and I'm a complete nerd again. I don't know what to do but I can't keep letting them spill stuff on me and calling me names and putting mean notes in my locker. I've told the princpal twice but after they get suspended they are still picking in me. What to I do?
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Well you're obviously the better one from your so called friends.
Go to the principal again and explain your situation. If he doesn't do anything, talk to your parents, talk to teachers, someone will help you.
Don't be upset with being a nerd. They are probably the best people to be friends with and way nicer than the friends you had.
Your ex is honestly really immature to believe their crap especially after what they've been doing. So if he believed them over you, he wasn't worth it in the first place.
Be who you want to be and you need to be happy being you.
Stand up for yourself and make sure they stop doing this.
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Just hang in there honey i promise it gets better!!! High school kids are mean and someday I promise the bullies get theirs too. I think you should talk to your parents and see if it's possible to change schools. If they wont stop and you've gotten the administration involved it might be time to find a new school. Talk to your parents and see if it's possible to change schools, it sounds like you really need to get out of that situation. No one deserves what they are doing to you.
If it's not possible then you need to go to the police. Perhaps just threatening to go to the police could do the trick. They are calling you names and throwing food on you. That is verbal, emotional and physical harassment. Also after Columbine and other past bully related violence, bulling in school is taken seriously by authorities. So tell them that if they don't stop your going to go to the police. Tell the authorities at your school as well. Just say, look these kids are seriously harassing me and i'm going to have to get the police involved because it's taking a tole on my emotional and metal stability. Whats happening to you is wrong and you do not deserve to be treated like this.
Lastly be proud to be a nerd. The greatest people throughout history have all been nerds. Also be grateful everyday that you are not a rude, stupid, uncivilized barbarian that acts the way that they do. The way they act only proves that they have no respect for themselves and they are no better then monkeys that that throw their own s**t at each other. Actually i think monkeys are more respectable then these X friends of yours. Hopefully they will grow up and look back in shame on their behavior. No matter what be grateful that you are not friends with them anymore. They don't sound like people that you should associate yourself with. Trust me people like that never amount to anything and your falling out with them is a blessing in disguise.
Good luck dear take care, be strong and brave!
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What you're doing is you're letting someone else change you.
There is nothing wrong with being a nerd. Nerds are the ones who get jobs. Nerds are the ones who have a bad time of it in high school but have all the money during their adult life.
Nerds are the managers/bosses of this world.
You know, you don't have to conform to societies pressures of what it thinks a teenager 'should' be like. I think if the principal isn't doing anything about it, then you need to tell some other adult who will.
But by far the best way you can do this is by sticking up for yourself. In the adult world, you can't really go running to someone if someone slightly picks upon you. If you learn to be a little more assertive, then it'll make you a stronger person, and you'll be a nerd-yourself-and people will respect you for it.
Honestly, as you get closer to serious exams, teachers don't have the time to be dealing with tittle tattle, and neither do you! Sure, teachers will help you if you're being bullied, but it requires something from you as well. Check out online 'How to be assertive'.
I think when you're a teen, you're still trying to find out who you really are. Are you a nerd? Are you one of these with a boyfriend every week? Once you find out who you are, you can play to your strengths. As you get older, doing well in exams and being this 'nerd' that you seem to dislike the image of at the moment, will seem quite cool.
Plan of action:
Tell a parent/adult if the bullying gets any worse
Learn how to be more assertive-everyone gets picked on by the way, its just it may not seem like it, because others deal with it differently.
Focus on your studies-otherwise in 10 years time when you're not doing the career you want to, you'll regret it.
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