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ok the guy I'm crazy about is also a good friend of mine. And for the last week I've noticed he's been hanging around with B and I thought he liked her a lot. And today I saw him writing a note that and he was asking her out. Then after school I talked to him and said, "So did u give it to her?" and he said "yeah, but it's because I'm being forced into it." and so I asked him what was going on, and he told me that B's friend W has been driving him crazy trying to get him to go out with B, and he's sick of it so he asked her out and really only wants to be friends with B. (which made me really happy by the way... ) so my question is, what should I do now???

Being that he doenst like her.. I think its safe to make a move. He told you all that information..so maybe he lieks you!? He could have just said "yea i asked her out" so it wouldnt get out that he doesnt like that girl. Maybe ask him if he would ever see you as more than a friend. Or maybe get a guy friend who would ask for him. ( i suggest a guy friend whos friends with you and him..because this way they can have a "guy" talk) lol. Make your move soon before its official that hes going out with her (although being that he doesnt like her..he would probably dump her in a heartbeat)
If you need help with anything else leave me something else in my inbox..i hope it all works out smoothe though!
-melissa-

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Hi. Im 15/f and I have a problem, and I just hope you can try your hardest to help. ok I dont have many friends, but the ones I do have are my friends because they think I skateboard, but Im not good I can barley skate but they think Im pretty good, and I ALWAYS have to make excuses why I cant skate, but now its catching up with me and I dont know what I should do. I cant just skate cus I dont know how!.. please help =\ I dont know what people think if they knew.

If they are your friends only because you can skateboard..then how are they real friends? There are many important lessons to be learned in life..and one of them is showing people your not afraid to be who you are or worrying what people think. if your not a good skater..then just tell them. Real friends wouldnt make a big deal over it. Instead ..they would offer to give you some pointers when you guys skate together. You cant worry about what they think..just tell the truth and if they make a big deal..they arent your friends and you shouldnt be hanging around them. Your in high school now..so there are plenty of kids to become friends with. The trick is to just be yourself and you'll be fine. You dont need a million friends (i dont) but a small cluster of really good friends is all you need. So by being yourself..you'll find other people with your interests and people who appreciate you for yourself. All that covering up took a lot of work..so im sure finding new friends will be no problem. If there is someone in class who you occasionally talk to..get to know them better. Ask for their number..see a movie..and you guys will hit it off! Also if your on any sports teams..or any kind of clubs..its a great opportunity to make friends as well. If you want more help on making friends.. or with this situation just write to me! i'll be happy to help. Hopefully your skater friends wil be fine with the fact that you cant skate. telling them will make you feel a lot better (like a weight has been lifted off your chest)
Hope i helped
-melissa-

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Okay! My problem is that my boyfriend and I have been dating about two months, well evertime we are together he talks about starting his own buisness in the oil field! Well I am really starting to get fustrated with him cause that is the only thing he ever wants to talk about! I know that he has to make his living, but we are dating and he should make time for me to right? What should I do about it? Please help me!

Maybe when he brings it up say "wow im really happy your so determined...(then say my grandpa,friend, yourself, whoever was determined also...) hopefully that will trigger a new topic. I know its not the greatest topic..but hey its different right? Hopefully he'll go with it and talk about something else for a change. If he doesnt..then thats a problem. If he ignores your gesture for a new topic and goes on with the oil field thing..its time to confront him. Maybe he doesnt realize its bothering you? Ask "can we talk about something else? im really happy your so determined..but its all we've been talking about."
I hope it works out..if he doesnt catch on after awhile i would think about dumping him. Hopefully it wont get to that though.
-melissa-

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I met this woman through work, and I would like to get to know her better. I don't ever get to see er anymore though, and the only way I know of to get in touch with her is to cal her. I vever asked for her number, but I can look it up. Should I call her, or would it be a bad idea, since she hasn't given me her number?

I think if you never get to see her then go ahead and call her. I think she would be flattered..besides ..i wouldnt want to sit around wondering what could have been between you two. So i say go for it..and who cares if she turns you down. The important thing is to call her and ask her out to dinner or something. (if you dont it will drive you nuts..you'll be constantly asking yourself "what if?") So go for it and I hope it all works out with her!
-melissa-

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Well I've been going out with this guy for a month and we hardly ever talk but all we have done is hugged! Is that really bad or what?

No i dont think its bad, Everyone goes at their own pace. The fact that you dont really talk should be worked on though. Try hanging out with him a little more..and while your out you two will naturally start talking .Like if you go to a movie..talk about it after you get out. As far as the affection part..dont sweat it. Maybe your guy wants to go further too but hes shy. so if your ready for kissing..make the move! It might seem weird at first because your the girl..but there is nothing wrong with the girl taking control..guys like it sometimes :)
Hope everything works out
-melissa-

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For health class i have to pick an anti-drug..like yeah kno...sports.. my anti-drug, but i can't think of any. I don't wanna use sports cuz sum1 already has it? does any1 hav some ideas? thnx

How about
Pride,courage, friends, family, life, your future, are just a few. Hope i helped..im sure you'll find something because everyone's suggestions are awesome

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i have a boyfriend.. we'll call him R. R and i have been dating for 7 months. The first 5 months were great! He's been starting to hit me, he kicked me, and I fell and I had a bump on my head last week. Last night he tried suffocating me. I've also been told about him flirting with about 5 other girls at school. 2 of them are some of my best friends. Oh, by the way, I'm only a freshman in high school. He's a sophomore. But anyway, I'm so sick of hearing about him doing other stuff with girls. He told me if i ever broke up with him, he'd ruin my life. What am I supposed to do? I am scared of him, but he'll do crap to ruin my life (believe me, he's done it to many.. trashed reps.. everyone hates that person, etc.) but what can i do? please help! i'm scared

This guy is only in 10th grade? omg sweetie im so sorry you went through this! Your bf has serious prblems with hurting women..especially since hes hurting them at such a young age! Definately tell someone about this. If i were you..I would tell my mom,the principal,the police, and his mom. You need to make these peopl aware of this in order to ensure your safety! Break up with him and tell them the situation. He wont ruin your rep because you were the victim..hes the one whos ruining his own rep..not to mention his life. What he did was serious..and you should get a restraining order out against him. This is serious stuff and you need to tell these poeple in order to protect yourself. Best of luck and i hope you get out of this..please drop me something in my inbox if you need anything else..im here for you!
-melissa-

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What stocks should I buy?

I would personally research stocks on my own to get an idea..asking a wise person with experience about stocks like my grandpa..dad..etc. would be something i would do. I mean think about it..i wont lie..im 15 and not very knowledgeable on stocks and many people who give advice on this website are teens like me. I just thought i would point that out before you took any advice from someone on here. Its your money..be wise with it!
-meliss

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lmao mellissa... it always sees that your answers anout sex resort right back to that lady and her sex tlak show!!! lmao... why dont you try a new one for once like real sex on HBO thats on thursday nights at 11pm? Not that I would know or anything... lmao..
lots of love
-ashley

LOL! o man i didnt think of that..thanks ashley..i'll think back to real sex on hbo..not like i'd know what that is or anything..haha

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HELP!im 14/f..here it goes..in like october i started kinda fooling around with an eating disorder but didnt really realize i was. since then ive collapsed twice..im really getting scard somethings really wrong with me bc of this! my sister knows & she thinks i told my mom and that im all good now. i feel guilty that im basicly lying to my sister when she asks me how its going and im scard ive done some kinda permanent damage to my body! i really dont want to be known as that girl with an eating disorder but its hard not to be!

You need to tell someone right away. Talk to your mom..shes here to help you through this. You can get help..and you'll be fine again! But if you wait..it could do dammage to your body ..dont wait until its too late. Have you heard about the case of that woman in florida? I cant remember her name..but 10 years ago she was admitted to a hosptiol for an eating disorder. She cannot talk or walk. She can only communicate through her eyes. This is really sad because with some physical therapy she could be ok again but it gets complicated with her husband..(long story) anyway to make my point..you dont want to end up in a hospitol sweety..do you? The body needs food to work..and if you dont feed the body..the body will start to break down your muscle tissue and your heart weakens. Im happy you want help...the next step is to talk to your mom or your doctor..anyone! If you would rather talk to your dad or your aunt thats fine too but talk to someone!
Best of luck sweetie..write to me if you need help with anything at all
-melissa-

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im a 21yr old single parent, amd am in love with a married man with two kids, we have been together for 4yrs this would be the 5th now, he tells me he loves me we always argue about our relationship for weeks but eventually amke up and all he teells me he is having major problems with he wife and wants to divorce her i dnt know how true this is or whether he just says so to get what he wants and it has worked for all these years, he doesn t not agree for me to see anyone else but he is married, i love him but im not sure whether it is worth waiting for he says he also wants to have a baby wiht me but what ifheruns away denies it my parents dont know about this relationship but my mum has emphasied never to go out with a married man what do i do, he also expects me to do all the contacting callin smsin and if i dont its a big story does he really love me is heworth the while????

O no..this is not a good situation. Your a young woman..so live it up! Dont get involved with a married man..its too much work ..with the sneaking around. If he really wanted you he would get a divorce. Plus..picture yourself as his wife..wouldnt you be heartbroken if you knew your husband was fooling around? Your not the bad guy or anything..trust me..because he wants you also. But im just saying..its traumatic to a family if the kids or the wife ever found out. I always say..once a cheater always a cheater. What makes you think he wont turn around and do the same to you if you guys got together? I think your young..and you desserve something better than this. I think you should get a guy whos single..doesnt have a wife..because thats too much baggage to be worrying about. I think your mom is right. So i would break it off with him and get a guy who isnt married.
You desserve so much more!
-melissa-

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hey im 15f, whats the best way to quit smoking? i tried cold turkey and lasted 3 days.

O man cold turkey will never work. Try Nicotine patches or gum..maybe have your mom (im assuming she knows you smoke) to hold onto your cigerettes and only give you 2 for the day..then slowly cut back. Let see.. Do you live anywhere near Ny or CT? If so go to fox5news.com i dont know if its still on there..but there was a section about a doctor who can treat smokers and make them stop smoking. Its quite amazing because it doesnt require a patch or pill. It costs about $90 a session. He has offices in NYC and somewhere in CT.
Hope one of those options work..and best of luck with the quitting! Im so happy your quitting now..its best to quit now because doctors say its easier to do it now than it is when you get older.
-melissa-

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ok im new to this here, but i am getting frustrated with getting only crap for advice. im 24 and i dont really have much of a drive. i mean i have my times but you might as well put it on the calander, its not that often. anyway my bf- fiance thinks that hes not doing it for me, but i tell him its cuz he beats me to it. when i am in the mood its great, and even when im not, he still makes it wonderful. i dont know what to do.. please i need real people to help with this.

Ever watch Talk Sex With Sue Johanson? Its a talk sex show on the oxygen channel and its great. I like to watch it when I can and she gets a lot of callers asking the same thing you are. What she says is for the guy to pleasure you before the sex. Have him give you oral and finger you. This way you get to have your excitement. Show him the way you like it is what she also tells her female callers.
As for the sex part..try new positions..that might get it going for you..what about buying a dildo or a sex toy? The two of you can have fun with that. If you get a vibrating sex toy..he can pleasure you. These are all things Sue Johanson suggests and shes excellent at the talk sex stuff. She also says role playing gets people's drive up. You could dress up as a "policewomen" etc (i dont know if your into the role playing) ..check out her website for more. Talksexwithsuejohanson.com
But if you can i strongly suggest you checking out her show! Its usually on later at night..( like 11)
I hope the website and what i said helps out with the sex.
-melissa-

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ok well i am 13 female and there is this boy named alex and he is really really hot and popular and he said that he needs a girlfriend becuz he is lonely and my friend adriana put all these girls names on a piece of paper and gave it to alex so he can rate them and my name was on there and he rated me a 1!!! I am not the prettiest girl alive and i am kinda overweight so what can i do for him 2 rate me like a 7 or sumthing???? and any advice about excrise so i can lose weigt???????

-confused

Aw..sweetie this boy sounds pretty shallow. Yeah he may be hot but he doesnt sound so nice.He shouldnt rate just based on looks. At that age..boys dont really see girls for who they are on the inside..which can get frustrating i know..because ive always been overweight. Dont lose weight just for this boy..wouldnt you want a guy who is sweet,nice,and likes you for who you are..and not your pants size?
If your going to try and drop some pounds..do it for yourself! As for excersising..i would say join a school team. They are great because you practice 5 days a week and its also tons of fun. If your not into the sports team thing..maybe join a gym with a friend..that would be pretty fun also. In my school there is a new fitness room with tons of machines. If you have that at your school maybe go there during a study hall or after school. At home you could take a walk. Walking is an easy way to really get in shape.
I hope I helped you out..write back to me in my inbox if there is anything else i can help with..i'd love to help more if theres anything else at all :)
-melissa-

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ok, so me and my husband had a baby when we were 18. i know what your thinking, but no, me and him are fine. its my friend. she really liked him when we were going out, but we were secretly going out so she didnt know. anyway, she's gotten pregnant who this guy who punched her in the eye, and i think she got pregnant to get back at me. well shes had like 9 boyfriends since my daughter Isabella's been born, and its killing my husband because he's trying to protect her from these people, and she keeps getting mad at him. i dont know what to do to help, i hate to see either one of them unhappy. ive known them my entire life.

Your husband sounds really sweet for trying to help her. Its a shame she isnt appreciating his help. I would talk to your husband and ask him to conisider maybe just letting her live her life. She obviously has made some foolish mistakes in the past and although you dont want to see them unhappy (beleive me i wouldnt either) its time for you and your husband to live your life and raise your family. Maybe in the future sometime she will come back and apologize..but fr now i would stop getting frustrated because right now..she isnt appreciating your husband's and your concern.
I know its hard but sometimes when friends try their hardest to help..and it still doesnt work..its time to let them learn from their own mistakes on their own for now.
-melissa-

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my sister and i have always gotten along great...until last week when she came home...shes 21 & im 14 btw..anyways, she became the first to find out about some "not so good" stuff ive been doing and told me i had to tell mom..I DONT WANNA! she said if i by next week shes going to!im so mad @ her! PLEASE HELP! i dont want my mom knowing and i dont want to loose the awesome relationship w/ my sister either!

Your big sis is looking out for you..which is pretty cool.Ask her pleease not to tell . Say " didnt you ever do something mom and dad never found out about?' maybe that will bring back memories for her and let you slide. Ask her to let you get away with it just once..and the next time she catches you she can tell right away. I hope i helped..if she doesnt budge write bac to me..i would love to help you out more..i hope everything works out smoothly though!
-melissa-

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at school, there's this boy who's been bullying me for ages. he's nasty anyway, but he always picks on me. it's stuff like hitting me on the head with his folder, hitting me with a ruler, putting things like selltape and pencil sharpenings in my hair, calling me a minger, and saying stuff like 'your hair is nice, *ahem*'. my hair is horrible, but he has to say something nasty about it. i've spent loads on products to sort my hair out, but nothing worked. sometimes in the corridor he just pushes me into a locker, or into someone, it's embarrassing. if i'm happy, he will do something like that, and i'll feel really depressed, like i want to die, 'cos i'm worthless. i can't tell a teacher, 'cos 1. it's embarrassing, and 2. his twin sister and mum will hate me for getting him into trouble, he's from a rich family and he thinks he's better than everyone, he always gets his own way =/ sorry it's so long, but please help? thanks xo

This kid needs to grow up. If you dont tell a teacher..how will things get better? Hes just going to keep doing it. I say tell a teacher ..who cares if his family gets mad..what he did was wrong and immature..and if his mother doesnt see that than there is something wrong with her and you'll know where this kid gets his arrogance from. Please tell a teacher..its the only way to solve. If you dont want to tell a teacher..tell your mom. Then your mom could talk to the teacher about. The teacher could keep an extra eye out and when she sees the kid acting up..the teacher could send him to the principal or something.
I hope I helped and please write to my inbox if this doesnt get solved..because i know how it is to get bullied (i did when i was little..and all my brothers have)

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ok so me and my boyfriend went out for 6 months... and then things started to change. so i broke up with him. then the next day he asked me back out and i said yes. and then after like a week i broke up with him again because it was different then before and i didnt like it. and he keeps calling me when hes in tears and i dont know what to do.. if i went back out with him ide be doin it because i feel bad for him and i dont wanna hurt him. more and more people are telling me "he'll change for you... he'll be different" and its all retarted and i dont wannna go back out with him.
any suggestions on what to do next???
thanks in advance
13/f

Your absolutly right about not listenign to everyone saying "he will change for you" You gave it a shot and it didnt work out. Dont go back out just because you feel bad for him. He has to learn how to cope with breakups. If you go back out with him just because you feel bad..it wouldnt be fun for you because you dont like him..and it wouldnt be fun for him because he wouldnt be feeling the gf bf connection. What to do next is to really lay it on thick that you dont like him anymore..and you want to move on. If you want to be his friend..tell him. Tell him he has to stop crying to you about it. Tell him to just hang onto the good memories..but he needs to let go of you in the affectionate matter. Tell him you guys can still hang out and talk..but the relationship part of the two of you is done. When people say "go back out with him..he'll change" tell them..no and how you feel etc. (sometimes dont you just hate those people who think they are so wise and smart in relationships..and they think they have all the answers? lol) Well try that for now and if it STILL doesnt work ..and hes still harassing you..then you need to talk to your mom..an adult or something because its harassment. I know you feel bad for him..and i do too..but tell him to be happy with just being friends..tell him you dont want the friendship ruined by him crying for you back.
If things dont get better..write to me in my inbbox id love to help further

hope i helped!
-melissa-
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I have a short story outline due on thursday and I am FRESH out of ideas! If anybody has ANY ideas whatsoever, please tell me! Even if you only have an idea for a scene, I can make something of it. Please just give me any ideas that come to your mind.
By the way, I like stories in which unusual things happen
Thanks I'll rate 5's for any ideas!

Hmm I know how it is to be stumped and its no fun!

What if someone from the past/future came to you with a problem or even just to take you into the past or future. That would be a pretty cool story ..use your immagination and i bet it would be excellent.

How about you write about a vacation where you and your family find an old amusement park which is haunted..or all the people are zombies..etc.

You could write a story that God or and angel or something came to you in your dream and took you on a journey maybe to your past..or into a certain time period. yes its a different approach..like a religious approach..but its different.

What if you write astory where all the adults in the world are suddenly unable to function..and the kids run the world.

What if a car crashes through this one person's house..and the person discovers nobody was in the car. Then throughout the story the guy has all these weird creepy things happening..then at the end you make it where he was really doing these things himself all along or maybe he was in a mental home.

WHat if you write a story about like science fiction. Maybe have it where man finally is able to go so far in space he reaches another galaxy and finds more humans/aliens whatever you like. (im not sure if your into science fiction)
Remember all those "citings of UFOS?' maybe make your main character one of the people who cited it..then something happens where he's captured by the CIA and take the story into the secretness of the government.

How bout a story where technology corrupts the human race and takes over? Like vacuums ..robots..etc. come to life! It could be like a creepy horror story.

How about a story about a little girl who continually shows up at this one person's house..and ends up killing him..etc. she could end up being a ghost.

What about a story about how scientists came up with a way to have it where no humans ever die. The world becomes so overpopulated..that the world spirals out of control and people start killing each other.

These were off the top of my head..i hope oyou like a couple of them..write to my inbox if you would like more..i could probably think of some better ones for later.
Good luck with the story and i bet it will be awesome
-melissa-

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Hey! Im looking into seeing broadway shows, i love watching them and i was wondering if anyone had some they'd like to recomend!?
THanks a lot!

I saw the Lion King with my french class and it was really awesome. All the costumes..singing..the acting..it was all really great and i had a lot of fun. My french teacher also raves and rants about the Phantom Of The Opera (which as you probably know recently came out as a movie) I havent seen it..but we are plannign on seeing it next year. From what i've heard..its a really great show.
Hope i helped with the suggestions..and i hope you go to an awesome Broadyway show.
Have fun!
-melissa-

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