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friends, boyfriends, life sucks.
ok, so me and my husband had a baby when we were 18. i know what your thinking, but no, me and him are fine. its my friend. she really liked him when we were going out, but we were secretly going out so she didnt know. anyway, she's gotten pregnant who this guy who punched her in the eye, and i think she got pregnant to get back at me. well shes had like 9 boyfriends since my daughter Isabella's been born, and its killing my husband because he's trying to protect her from these people, and she keeps getting mad at him. i dont know what to do to help, i hate to see either one of them unhappy. ive known them my entire life.
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it's her life, you can talk to her and try to protect her, but if she doesn't want help then it's impossible to help her. just make sure that her baby doesn't get hurt because of it.
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I think you're definitely right when you say she got pregnant to get back at you. It's like her saying:"I don't care you had a baby for the man I liked; look at me! I've found someone of my own" She my also be trying to keep the guy there by having his baby, so she can really say she has a guy of her own, and a family, like you.
Your husband sounds like a really nice person with a lot of patience, and she doesn't seem to care.
Some people just don't respond to niceness, and are filled with jealousy, and are programmed to try and keep up with the Joneses'.
I know how it feels to see people walk away when people are trying to help them,and I've dealt with these type of people before, so my advice would be to let her go. Try not to talk to her anymore, because she doesnt seem to be a very good friend.
But since you're really worried about her, and you'll feel guilty if you just turn away from her without one last effort for help, I think you should take her somewhere, just her, you and your husband, and explain to her, provide details and examples, of what she's doing and why you're trying to help her.Tell her you're worried about her, and you're willing to let bygones be bygones, because you can't reverse what's happened. You may want to include that you think she's still not over the fact that you and this guy are together now.
She isn't a very good friend, because she should have been there for you, babysitting and everything, instead of doing the things she's doing. I know you want to help, but after all the talks, she still may not respond. Then it would be time for you to take the right side of the fork in the road, and her, the left.
After all this, I surely hope that i helped you out at all, and that everything works out okay.
Good luck =D
*Diamyn*
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Your husband sounds really sweet for trying to help her. Its a shame she isnt appreciating his help. I would talk to your husband and ask him to conisider maybe just letting her live her life. She obviously has made some foolish mistakes in the past and although you dont want to see them unhappy (beleive me i wouldnt either) its time for you and your husband to live your life and raise your family. Maybe in the future sometime she will come back and apologize..but fr now i would stop getting frustrated because right now..she isnt appreciating your husband's and your concern.
I know its hard but sometimes when friends try their hardest to help..and it still doesnt work..its time to let them learn from their own mistakes on their own for now.
-melissa-
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well i mean your friend should respect who you love...
hope i helped
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