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Boyfriend
ok so me and my boyfriend went out for 6 months... and then things started to change. so i broke up with him. then the next day he asked me back out and i said yes. and then after like a week i broke up with him again because it was different then before and i didnt like it. and he keeps calling me when hes in tears and i dont know what to do.. if i went back out with him ide be doin it because i feel bad for him and i dont wanna hurt him. more and more people are telling me "he'll change for you... he'll be different" and its all retarted and i dont wannna go back out with him.
any suggestions on what to do next???
thanks in advance
13/f
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Explain that he shouldn't have to change for you and that he needs a girlfriend that will accept him as he is. It's ok that you don't want him back, but he does need a girl who really wants him. Also, tell the other people to mind thehir own business. Sure they might be "trying to help", but it's only making the situation worse. You're only 13, surely they knew it wasn't going to last forever and you were going to move on to someone else. No offense, but I'm surprised you guys lasted 6 months. That's a long time for a lot of relationships especially for 13 year olds.
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your being a player and leading him on
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if you dont want to go out with him then dont force yourself too...he will eventually get over it its not like you 2 are set to be married...hes not going to think about i all of his life, it may seem bad now but it wont last for long, you should tell him that you dont want to go out with him because it dosent feel right for you and he may not be happy about it but you may feel better about the situation after you consult him...hope i helped in some way... <33
~danni
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i think you sould talk to him about what is it that is goin on w/ his mood-swings or w/e......then just make a choice
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if you dont wana go out with him, dont! if you dont like the way hes acting, dont waste ur time with him. tell him that you just want to be friends, and nothin else. if you went out with him just because you feel bad for him, it'll hurt him even more if he finds out. hope i helped!
~*ana*~
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guys always say that they r gonna change.. but they wont tell him that you just want to be friends with him for now and nothing more! x0
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introduce him to a girl!
hope i helped
♥ indeed2
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Sweetie, your right. You shouldn't go back out with him just because you feel bad for him. You gave him a second chance and things really didn't work out. What makes you think things would work out again? Just because he's in tears when he talks to you, doesn't mean that's a good reason to take him back. You don't like him or have any feelings for him, so the best thing would be to have nothing to do with him; besides talking to him as friends and such. These people that are telling you he'll change if you guys get back together, ignoring them. They should understand your feelings and when you said you don't want to get back with this guy, they should drop it. If they keep bugging you about him. Tell them you don't have feelings for this guy anymore. Say to them if you actually did go back out with him, it would just be wrong because you'd only be with him cause you feel bad. They should understand were your coming from and should drop bugging you about this boy. Try finding a new crush or boyfriend. That way they'll stop bugging you and your ex will back off.
♥ Krissy
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just still be friends with him and support him but dont go out with him. it obviously doesnt work out!
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Don't go out with him. He's not going to change for you, whoever is telling you that needs to wake up. Tell him to stop calling you. If that doesn't work, you may have to get a new number and don't tell it to him.
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Your absolutly right about not listenign to everyone saying "he will change for you" You gave it a shot and it didnt work out. Dont go back out just because you feel bad for him. He has to learn how to cope with breakups. If you go back out with him just because you feel bad..it wouldnt be fun for you because you dont like him..and it wouldnt be fun for him because he wouldnt be feeling the gf bf connection. What to do next is to really lay it on thick that you dont like him anymore..and you want to move on. If you want to be his friend..tell him. Tell him he has to stop crying to you about it. Tell him to just hang onto the good memories..but he needs to let go of you in the affectionate matter. Tell him you guys can still hang out and talk..but the relationship part of the two of you is done. When people say "go back out with him..he'll change" tell them..no and how you feel etc. (sometimes dont you just hate those people who think they are so wise and smart in relationships..and they think they have all the answers? lol) Well try that for now and if it STILL doesnt work ..and hes still harassing you..then you need to talk to your mom..an adult or something because its harassment. I know you feel bad for him..and i do too..but tell him to be happy with just being friends..tell him you dont want the friendship ruined by him crying for you back.
If things dont get better..write to me in my inbbox id love to help further
hope i helped!
-melissa-
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13 is kinda young for a 6 months relationship
BUT im not here to lecture im here to give advice
Tell him how you feel -- Dont lead him on to think you still like him, tell him everytime you guys go out it changes and you hate that, maybe you two could work things out and give him another try...or you can just tell him striahgt up how you feel, no harm done
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Do nothing. Dont go out with him, your not happy so you shouldent be stuck in a relationship. Even though hes heart broken, he'll get over it. I'm not trying to be mean it just wasint meant to be. So he needs to realize that and move on!
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