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big problem involving abusive bf
i have a boyfriend.. we'll call him R. R and i have been dating for 7 months. The first 5 months were great! He's been starting to hit me, he kicked me, and I fell and I had a bump on my head last week. Last night he tried suffocating me. I've also been told about him flirting with about 5 other girls at school. 2 of them are some of my best friends. Oh, by the way, I'm only a freshman in high school. He's a sophomore. But anyway, I'm so sick of hearing about him doing other stuff with girls. He told me if i ever broke up with him, he'd ruin my life. What am I supposed to do? I am scared of him, but he'll do crap to ruin my life (believe me, he's done it to many.. trashed reps.. everyone hates that person, etc.) but what can i do? please help! i'm scared
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Break up with him. If everyone hates him, they will take your side. Have more respect for yourself than that! And next time don't go out with an asshole.
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You stupid ass. Dump him. I hope he goes to jail in the future.
And if he tries to threaten you, tell the school counselor. Hopefully he'll be kicked out of the school. And like. Make a new screenname and make sure you have no one tell him your's so he doesn't harass you. If he ever tries visiting you to say he's sorry or something, just don't talk to him, ignore him, leave him at the door. If he tries to get in, tell him you're going to call the police and put a restraining order.
Trust me. I know how the mind of a stalker works.
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First of all if you act like you're scared and he gets a vibe that you are then you gatta change that. Deep down you might be scared but you have to pretend that you're not. And even if you do break up with him and sais that he's gonna ruwin you life just say: "phfsh... yea right...i'll ruwin yours first" or whatever. But i mean stick up for your self and tell someone that hes neglecting you.
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What you really need to do is seek out an adult that you feel comfortable confiding in. You then need to decided whether or not you should go to the police and file a restraining order on him. This is serious stuff, and if you don't take care of it now then things are only going to get worse. I know your scared, but keeping this inside is only going to increase the pain. Let it out, you need to tak to someone as soon as possible.
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dear scared-
Drop this guy like a hot potato! Do it now before you get involved any deeper than you already are. If he slaps you again call the cops.
Guys like this will get you killed.They DO NOT change, so don't let him pull that crap on you either.Your TRUE friends will not listen to this creeps lies.Anyone who does you don't need anyway.He is not going to RUIN your life, YOU will if you keep dating him.Show him the door NOW!
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This guy is only in 10th grade? omg sweetie im so sorry you went through this! Your bf has serious prblems with hurting women..especially since hes hurting them at such a young age! Definately tell someone about this. If i were you..I would tell my mom,the principal,the police, and his mom. You need to make these peopl aware of this in order to ensure your safety! Break up with him and tell them the situation. He wont ruin your rep because you were the victim..hes the one whos ruining his own rep..not to mention his life. What he did was serious..and you should get a restraining order out against him. This is serious stuff and you need to tell these poeple in order to protect yourself. Best of luck and i hope you get out of this..please drop me something in my inbox if you need anything else..im here for you!
-melissa-
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u should tell someone but if u really need help get the authrity u dont no what he could do!?!!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!
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As everyone has stated so far, tell an authority figure of some sort, whether it be the police, parents, teachers, or whomever.
Now, since I have been known to go to extreme measures under extreme stress, under this situation, I would stab my boyfriend in the crotch. I am not joking. I do not suggest you take that advice, however. That's just what I would do. Imagine him having to explain the knife wound in his thigh his girlfriend gave him cause he was being a dick. But then again, you'd gain a reputation as the psycho girl who stabs people. That, or become the hero. Who knows. Don't test it to figure it out.
Whatever you do, act quickly. It only goes downhill from here.
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Talk to your mom, or someone at skool..they can help you alot, you need to get it out there -- You dont deserve to be treated that way, nobody does -- If you let it go too far things can get alot worse, and itll be even harder to get away from him
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OMG! you should definately tell someone! if you let this go on any longer he may end up killing you! do something about it. Which is more important>? your rep or your life?
-<3-
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Oh my god! Tell somebody! You have to do it now before he hurts you even worse. He's doing something illegal and you have got to tell your parents and get his parents and possibly even the police involved. You'll be okay if you tell somebody but if you don't the abuse will go on and it'll be so bad. I really hope that things get better for you.
-Caydee
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Whoa. Tell your mom. Moms always know what to do, and if your mom isn't that great at handling it, then tell HIS parents. I don't know, all I know is you HAVE to get away from him. Guys like that end up killing their girlfriends.
Don't worry about your reputation, that will disappear after high school. You need to worry about your safety, because if you end up dead, your reputation won't mean anything.
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Dont stay with him you DONT need to go through all of that. He could seriously hurt you. You dont need to worry about HIM ruining your rep especcailly if his is bad ..why would they listen to someone like that? Also if your hearing him doing things with other girls thats not good at all you dont need guy like that. I understand your scared of him and also just scared you shouldnt have to be. There are alot of options to do about someone like this. You could tell your parents adn they could get a restraining order on him. Tell the school and tell them your threatend by him. Tell some of your big guy friends so they will protect you and show him that they are beside you. lots of more options and i am sorry you had to go through that!!:( Plz Find Help And Break It Off With Him!!!! -hope I helped- CrAzY-
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Teacher, parent, COPS.. what even it takes ! That's not the way ANYONE should be treated no matter what this situation is. Not even this girls should you be concirned about, if he's beating you like that I would personally gotot the cops. Try talkinq othere girls he's dated and done this to , into going to the poilice with you.. Or some sort of high authority. Wow, don't deal with this any longer. I think your life it more important that some rep..
If you need any more help feel free to ask, x0x Jordy|♥
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you need 2 get a teacher or your parents involved in this. you never know he could kill! he might have mental promblems but doesn't no. besides he's treathening u! i hoped i helped. please get some help NOW
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you saying you went out with him even though he had a bad rep? Ah well, we all make mistakes...anyway, if you really think hes dangerous, I think you should get other witnesses and report him to the police. If you dont want to do that, try talking to him, although I dont think it would solve anything. But trying wont hurt.
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You need to tell an adult what is going on. This isn't a relationship, it sounds more like abusive blackmail. You need to get out of this relationship because things are just going to get worse, and the longer you stay with him, the harder it's going to be. You can bounce back if he says bad things about you, but you need to get out of this situation before you really get hurt. Good luck!
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