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I'm Jack/Jamie.

I'm 28 years old. I graduated from Michigan State University with my Bachelor of Science in Chemistry. GO GREEN! Now I'm a high school chemistry teacher in New York City living with my husband in a small studio apartment we pay way too much money for.

I've been on this site for 14 years as of March 23, 2020.
You may have seen me as CuxMiBeckNow7, but I've since shortened my name.


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Here is my Recommended Columnist of the Decade for the 2020s:
Laura!




--Jack

advice

Im going to a audtion..
and it said it was at TBA???
Where is that?

TBA is "To Be Announced".

That means you'll find out shortly =]

--Jack
(16/m)

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does anyone know any websites where i can get completely free ringtones? i've been looking forever and cannot find any

www.funformobile.com

www.mobile17.com

Enjoy =]

--Jack
(16/m)

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How do I start a conversation with a guy/girl I like?

www.wikihow.com/Start-a-Conversation-When-You-Have-Nothing-to-Talk-About

1. Always start off with something that others don't use often. Example: You see a girl in a bar and she's sitting with some friends. You walk up to her and say, "I would like to sit with you, but before I sit down, what are you drinking?" "Bud Light (insert drink)? Good choice. I'll be back with 2 Bud Lights (insert drink) and I'll hope that this seat isn't taken when I get back."
2. Start with a "hello," and simply tell the new person your name then ask them theirs. Offer your hand to shake, upon his/her responding to you. (If you go to other countries, greet the person in tune with the particular culture, e.g. in India greet by saying 'namaste' with folded hands). If you already know the person, skip this step and proceed to step 3.
3. Look around. See if there is anything worth pointing out. Sure, talking about the weather is a cliche, but if there's something unusual about it--bam!--you've got a great topic of conversation.
4. Offer a compliment. Don't lie and say you love someone's hair when you think it's revolting, but if you like his or her shoes, or a handbag, say so. A sincere compliment is a wonderful way to get someone to warm up to you. But be careful not to say something so personal that you scare the person off or make him or her feel uncomfortable. It is best not to compliment a person's looks or body.
5. Ask questions! Most people love to talk about themselves --- get them going. "What classes are you taking this year?" "Have you seen (Insert-Something-Here)? What did you think of it?" Again, keep the questions light and not invasive. Do not ask too many questions if he or she is not responsive to them.
6. Jump on any conversation-starters he or she might offer; take something he or she has said and run with it. Agree, disagree, ask a question about it, or offer an opinion, just don't let it go by without notice.
7. Look your newfound friend in the eye, it engenders trust (but don't stare). Also, use the person's name a time or two during the conversation; it will help you remember the name, and will draw the person's attention to what you are talking about.
8. Don't forget to have fun with your conversation!


Tips

* Just relax. Chances are that whatever small-talk you're making isn't going to stick out in anyone's mind a few months from now. Just say whatever comes into your head, so long as it's not offensive or really weird. (Unless, of course, the person you're attempting to converse with is into weird stuff.)
* Remember, if you think of something in your head while you're talking, it's probably related.
* It will help if you watch some TV, listen to radio shows, and/or read a lot -- newspapers, magazines, and/or books. You need to have some idea of what is going on in the world.
* If you are shy, it will be helpful to have thought about a topic or two that you could talk about.
* Follow the lead that your listener is expressing. If he or she appears interested, then continue. If he or she is looking at a clock or watch, or worse, looking for an escape strategy, then you have been going on for too long.
* Interesting and funny quotes or facts can lighten things up, and make way for things to talk about.
* If talking over the phone, keep the person involved in the conversation at all costs. If you can't come up with a good topic, try the "questions" game. Just keep asking them questions; random questions work just fine as long as they are appropriate. This technique can save a phone conversation. The questions should be open ended questions that do not require a yes or no answer. For example "How do you know the hosts?" This way you can ask questions about what they just said or follow up with how you know the hosts (for example) instead of acting as if the conversation is an interrogation.
* Half of an effective conversation is the way you non-verbally communicate, and not necessarily what you say. Practice better non-verbal skills that are friendly and confident.
* Read newspapers and magazines to increase your knowledge so you can have more interesting things to talk about


Warnings

* Don't be overly invasive with questions.
* Don't use tons of fillers like "umm" or "soo". It might make the person you're talking to feel awkward or obligated to say something. Instead talk slowly and pause. This will create a little tension and make your newly found friend more invested in your conversation.
* Don't desperately ask personal questions.
* Keep eye-contact
* Don't ever comment negatively on the person or someone's looks... you never know if they have a personal attachment to it or if they are friends with the person you are criticizing




--Jack
(16/m)

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What should I do if the kid I'm babysitting has a heart attack and the parents left no phone numbers??

No one has said this, but maybe try [as a precaution] taking a CPR and First Aid course or something through Red Cross [I'm sure there's one nearby].

That way you can learn how to treat a child should this happen, though unlikely.

And obviously have the parents give emergency contact numbers, and your first option should ALWAYS be 911.

--Jack
(16/m)

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Okay, why do guys ALWAYS freak out when they hear their girlfriend ask them this question: "Do you love me?" I don't see what the big issue is. It doesn't mean the end of our relationship, does it?

Laura below is dead-on.

I've had relationships and the "love" word was thrown around a bit, and it really started to freak me out.

I didn't want to feel like I was getting married to this person, I was scared that if I didn't say it back I might get dumped, and a whole bunch of other emotions.

Basically questioning if your boyfriend likes you can either scare them or just piss them off. Love is often mistaken for infatuation, and it's mostly guys that realize that more than girls, in my opinion. Maybe try talking to him about it and why he was upset. If he asks you not to ask him, then don't anymore or he might break it off with you. i know I would because that word scares me in teenage relationships.

--Jack
(16/m)

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14/f
My period has been sorta normal lately, like 2 days off from the expected date, but I was supposed to get it on the 13th of july and now today will be the 8th day late. there is no chance i'm pregnant, so that's not it. i told my mom and everything. but is it normal to get it late sometimes but most the time regularly? i started my period when i was 13.

For teenage girls, their periods are hardly ever regular. It may come in a week or so, but stressing about it will probably delay it more ;].

If it doesn't come for awhile, as in a few more weeks, I would see a doctor about it.

--Jack
(16/m)

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My boyfriend is 20 and I'm 16, we have been dating for a while.. I am more sexual than he is believe it or not. I have never met a guy quite like him.. he has only has sex with one other girl besides me they has sex twice.. me and him have only has sex 1 time and it was for only like 5 seconds.. he didn't cum or anything. He doesn't want to have sex i don't know what it is.. i named somethings to him like have had bad experiences or worried bout having bad experiences.. worried bout gettin me pregnant.. self conscious.. jus not attracted to me.. worried about stds.. all this stuff and he said that it isn't any of that... what do you think it could possibly be?

Maybe he's just a good guy. Not every guy is just out for sex. In fact, a lot of them aren't. I would take this as something very positive. He might just want to focus on the non-physical part of the relationship. He's likely a romantic, which most girls would love about a guy.

Maybe try asking him what the reason, but remember you can't force him to have sex with you. =]

--Jack
(16/m)

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I like this guy, it's my boyfriends best friend... kind of bad I know. This guy really isn't what most would consider attractive hes a real big guy but i love his personality he's really cool.. i have noticed this more and more since my boyfriend treats me like crap. I don't think this guy would do that to his friend though.. what should I do about this...? I mean me and this guy hang out sometimes.. should I tell him wussup

If your boyfriend treats you like crap, I would first address him about that. Let him know you don't feel like he's treating you right, and give him a chance to correct himself. Maybe he doesn't know?

If he doesn't shape up, well then maybe you could pursue his best friend, but like Laura said, not right away. I would give it at least a few weeks. Like you said, he probably wouldn't do what your boyfriend is doing, so that may be a better option for you.

--Jack
(16/m)

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does anybody have a list of college level books i an read???
all i know is shakespeare...
thanks, i need this to 'expand my vocabulary' for my SAT test!
thanks for your answers [=

Hmm I only have a few- I hope that's alright.

"Moby Dick" -Herman Melville
"The Scarlett Letter" -Nathaniel Hawthorne
"Cat's Cradle" -Kurt Vonnegut
"The Iliad" -Homer [translated by Robert Fitzgerald]
"The Aeneid" -Virgil [translated by Allan Mandelbaum


I hope that's at least a few. My English teacher last year said Moby-Dick is a huge one for vocabulary. We read it as sophomores in high school, though =].

--Jack
(16/m)

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What is Gender Inbalance?

It's actually "gender imbalance", with an "m" not an "n".


From here:

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sex_ratio
[which is redirected from "Gender Imbalance"]

Sex ratio is the ratio of males to females in a population. The primary sex ratio is the ratio at the time of conception, secondary sex ratio is the ratio at time of birth, and tertiary sex ratio is the ratio of mature organisms.

The human sex ratio is of particular interest to anthropologists and demographers. In humans the secondary sex ratio is commonly assumed to be 105 boys to 100 girls (which sometimes is shortened to "a ratio of 105"). In human societies, however, sex ratios at birth or among infants may be considerably skewed by sex-selective abortion and infanticide.





So basically it's that there are generally more men than women.

--Jack
(16/m)

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I have a serious problem with flirting. Everytime I flirt with a guy,they seem totally turned off. I don't say mean things to them or bore them with stupid one liners. What is the best way to get a guy's attention?

http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=505520

From there:

First- I'm going to tell you that relationships aren't all they are cracked up to be. Sure- they are fun having someone to share things with and be with. But they involve a huge commitment and if you end up with someone who is clingy- they'll want to be with you every minute of every day- and you might not have time for friends or anything else you want to do. I say this because one of my ex-girlfriends was sort of like that- and got mad if I was busy with other plans.. and it was just really retarded.

Anyway- the best way to attract a guy is to be yourself. If you try to change yourself just to get a boyfriend [especially at your age]- you'll just end up with someone who only likes you for what you've become- not who you are. If you be yourself- and don't change- you'll attract more guys who actually care about your personality rather than just your looks.

I myself like any type of girl. I honestly don't judge looks as much as I do personality. If a girl is absolutely stunningly beautiful, but she's a bitch- why would I like her? What would our relationship be? What would we talk about? Her latest hair extensions? Yeah- that would be REALLY nice *Sarcasm: Party of one!*...
If a girl has a really nice personality- and she's really outgoing and sweet and nice and smart- and she's not necessarily the best looking girl- but she's not super unattractive- then I'll most likely want to date her over the beautiful bitch.

Do you get what I'm saying? If you let guys see your personality more than your looks- you'll end up with someone great. Trust me- most guys prefer personality over looks- they just don't know it yet =].




http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=543909

Flirting tips:
1. Smile! If you're not smiling, chances are the guy won't be interested.
2. Don't always talk about yourself, let him talk about himself, too! Balance the conversation. Yes, conversations are a HUGE way to flirt more indirectly ;].
3. Think about what you do. Don't just blindly go around flirting with everyone. Some people don't want to flirt, and you can tell by their body language, facial expressions, etc.
4. Be nice. I can't tell you how many times I've seen girls be complete bitches. It's SO irritating. If you're not nice, then it isn't worth the effort. Guys don't like bitches.
5. BE YOURSELF! I know you said not to say this, but as the above question told you, if you aren't yourself- who are you going to be? You aren't being truthful with the guy if you're making up things about yourself or you're doing things you normally wouldn't do. The guy will get the wrong impression and may like something about you that isn't even a part of you.
6. HAVE FUN! If you aren't at least doing that, I don't know what to tell you ;]


--Jack
(16/m)

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So like my subject says, my best friend just had to put her dog to sleep and it is seriously killing her. She knows I'm always available to talk and be with her when she's down, but is there something else I could do or get for her to make her feel a bit better? Let me know.

I recently had a pet pass away, and it was tough. As much as I didn't want to think about my dog, it helped me to just cry it out and let people know how I was feeling.

I agree with the person below. Make a slideshow or something, or just sit her down and talk to her about it. Let her know that it is PERFECTLY alright to cry and let out her emotions. Let her know that you won't make fun of her or anything and that you are there to listen to her.

She's obviously going through a lot of pain, I know it helped me when friends just let me talk about it with them. I know it must have got annoying, but obviously I'm still not over my dog, but the pain is definitely lessened because I had that help from friends. She needs a friend, and you being that friend is all that you can do =].

--Jack
(16/m)

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almost 16 female.

I like more than one guy. 5 to be exact. and if one of them asked me out, i would go out with any of them. but heres the thing, my friends say that im too shy and that i should make the first move. (btw im not even friends with any of these guys) so all of my friends say that i should send them an IM and be like hey whats up. now im really desperate for a boyfriend so i dont know if i should first be friends with all of these guys and see who makes a move first or just go for one guy and play hard to get.

or should i even play hard to get? because im so desperate and i was thinking maybe i should just straight out tell one of the guys that i really like him... what do you all think?? help!

Oh dear. I definitely don't agree with the making lists of people's bad qualities and then forgetting about those with the most. That's like natural selection and it's honestly very stupid and immature. So I don't suggest you do that.

Try starting conversations with each guy and seeing who you relate to more. Yes, conversations in person. AIM, though very useful, is very very very impersonal. The best way to determine if you truly like someone is to have an actual face-to-face conversation.

http://www.wikihow.com/Start-a-Conversation-When-You-Have-Nothing-to-Talk-About

Playing hard to get really irritates most guys, to be quite honest. I don't suggest doing it. If you end up deciding you only like one of them, just flirt with him. If you play hard to get, I can almost guarantee he'll become uninterested.

--Jack
(16/m)

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I am 13 and i'm going into 7th grade. I go to this day camp, and, i am an aide there. There is this guy there, that I think is really hot, and I always catch him staring at me. I know his sister pretty well, but, she is two years older than me, this guy is on my grade, but, doesn't go to my school, and in camp, we have no classes together. I really want to get to know him, though. I think he knows my first name. He has smiled at me a couple times, but, we've never actually talked. how do I get to know him, by letting him take the first move? please help me because he seems like an amazing guy! :]

http://www.wikihow.com/Start-a-Conversation-When-You-Have-Nothing-to-Talk-About

Next time you see him and he smiles, walk over to him, and start a conversation using some of the tips from that website. Here they are if you would prefer to not open it =]:


1. Always start off with something that others don't use often. Example: You see a girl in a bar and she's sitting with some friends. You walk up to her and say, "I would like to sit with you, but before I sit down, what are you drinking?" "Bud Light (insert drink)? Good choice. I'll be back with 2 Bud Lights (insert drink) and I'll hope that this seat isn't taken when I get back."
2. Start with a "hello," and simply tell the new person your name then ask them theirs. Offer your hand to shake, upon his/her responding to you. (If you go to other countries, greet the person in tune with the particular culture, e.g. in India greet by saying 'namaste' with folded hands). If you already know the person, skip this step and proceed to step 3.
3. Look around. See if there is anything worth pointing out. Sure, talking about the weather is a cliche, but if there's something unusual about it--bam!--you've got a great topic of conversation.
4. Offer a compliment. Don't lie and say you love someone's hair when you think it's revolting, but if you like his or her shoes, or a handbag, say so. A sincere compliment is a wonderful way to get someone to warm up to you. But be careful not to say something so personal that you scare the person off or make him or her feel uncomfortable. It is best not to compliment a person's looks or body.
5. Ask questions! Most people love to talk about themselves --- get them going. "What classes are you taking this year?" "Have you seen (Insert-Something-Here)? What did you think of it?" Again, keep the questions light and not invasive. Do not ask too many questions if he or she is not responsive to them.
6. Jump on any conversation-starters he or she might offer; take something he or she has said and run with it. Agree, disagree, ask a question about it, or offer an opinion, just don't let it go by without notice.
7. Look your newfound friend in the eye, it engenders trust (but don't stare). Also, use the person's name a time or two during the conversation; it will help you remember the name, and will draw the person's attention to what you are talking about.
8. Don't forget to have fun with your conversation!


--Jack
(16/m)

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i always pick my nose in my sleep....yeah, i know GROSS, right???? i didn't even notice until my mom told me! it wasn't that big of a problem until my friend saw me doing it at a sleepover and blabbed it to my crush at school!!!!!
ever since then, i always made some kind of excuse wheenever i got invited to a sleepover! but i can't go on doing this forever, can i?? how do i stop???

Put your hands under you pillow before you go to sleep. Wear gloves, mittens, or wear something that will cover your hands.

I don't think there's any medical treatment for something like this.

--Jack
(16/m)

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How do i tell my boyfriend that i'm cheating on him?


Signed,
confused chicky
female

As blunt as this may sound, say this:

"[Insert name here], I'm cheating on you."

If you're sorry, tell him ONCE. If you're not, then don't blindly apologize. If you want to stay with him, ask if he is willing to trust you, but you have to be prepared that he might leave you, which you only have yourself to blame for. If you don't want to stay with him, break it off. It wasn't fair of you to start cheating on him, and it wouldn't be fair to continue to date him while cheating on him and not wanting to date him at all.

--Jack
(16/m)

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I like a guy in my grade(7th). I know he likes me to.Lots of people have told me. He is to scared to ask me out and I dont want to ask him out. I get nervous. Please Help Me!

http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=543173

From my friend Laura's answer:

Well, there are 2 major options you can go about to solve this problem:


1. Be blunt about it.
2. Be shy about it.


I highly suggest being blunt about it, and either asking him if he's into you too, or simply asking him out yourself. Guys like when girls show confidence, and there's no better way to show you're confident than walking up to a guy and asking him out!


Or, you can go the other route and be shy about it, possibly doing nothing to show him you're interested in him. Sometimes, people who use this method drop subtle hints such as smiling [which is common in girls and doesn't always show you're into a guy] or having a friend ask if he's into you [this only shows that you're too shy to do it yourself]. This option is really kind of stupid, and is used all too much...


As I always say:
Life is WAY too short to not take chances and risks once in a while. Why sit around wondering what could've been, what would've been and what should've been, when you can answer all of those questions and then some by being honest and telling a boy how you really feel about him?





--Jack
(16/m)

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ok well me and my boyfriend are going out for about 5 days now and i like him and all..its just i dont get to see him..like at all..i dont know if i should break up with him because i like him but then i dont its weird what should i do?

I wouldn't break up just because you don't see him. You'll see each other if you both make an effort.

If the question is whether you like him or not, I would say the insecurity means you probably don't, and continuing with the relationship is not fair to either of you, unless you decide you like him.

--Jack
(16/m)

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okay,first of all i'm a 14 year old female. sorry if this is long, but let me try to explain my situation:

to start out, i didn't really like this guy (lets just call him Sam, that really isn't his name, but thats what i'll refer to him as for this). but then one day during music class, we both volunteered to demonstrate something for the entire class. after we finished two girls (who happened to be both of his ex-girlfriends) came up to me and asked me if i liked sam. i told them no (which was the truth then..we were really just friends). Then they told me that they think we would make a really cute couple. So that got me thinking. Then that same day one of my best friends asked me if i liked sam because i was talking to him. I told her the same thing i told the first two girls, no. Once i started talking to him more i started to think that he liked me, so i started liking him too. like this one time on the bus (we ride the same bus to and from school) i came on the bus and just kidding told him that he was sitting in my seat. he realized that i was kidding but said sorry and said that i could sit next to him in the seat. i thought he was joking and laughed and said that's ok. but then he felt bad and got up so i could sit there, but then this other kid quickly took sam's old seat. so sam ended up sitting in the seat next to mine. did he really want me to sit next to him? and does that mean that he likes me? then one night when i was out to the movies with my friend he came to my house with 3 other guys friends to see if i could hang out, but my dad told him that i was out. sorry this is so long, but i'm almost finished. then last night my school had a school dance. it was the last slow song of the night and he asked this other girl to dance, but the girl didn't really want to dance with him so she told me to dance with him. i danced with him for a little bit. but for some reason he thought it would be funny to dance with like 5 girls in one song. so he danced with me for like 20 secs, then another girl, then another girl, then back to me for like another 20 secs. Then before the song even ended his friend ran over to him and told him he had to dance with this other girl from 7th grade. so he just stopped dancing with me to dance with this other girl. i thought he was being rude at the time, but maybe he just felt bad for the other girl.

so my final question: does he like me?

thanks!

http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=506340

From there:

I'm going to give you a list of what guys tend to do when they like girls:

1. They don't call you "sexy". They call you "beautiful", "gorgeous", "amazing", etc.

2. They make an effort to hug you. They might high-5 instead, but it really depends on the guy in question.

3. They DO find any reason to touch you in some way. Mostly it ISN'T in a sexual way. Its more of just an excuse to remember what you feel like, I guess. Its hard to explain...

4. He is always smiling around you. If you're feeling bad and he's around- he'll be smiling because he knows that he's there to help you- and that's like brownie points for a guy if they can help a girl out. That, like the above, is hard to explain.

5. He'll tell you things about himself that he normally wouldn't tell everyone. He opens up to you. Guys don't get a chance to do that when pressured to "be manly".

6. If you have a feeling that a guy likes you- you're probably right. Guys aren't the best at hiding it- and girls are even better at figuring these type of things out.

If you like this guy- and he does all or most of those things- my best bet is that he does like you. That means one and only one thing: Ask him to make sure, and then try the relationship out. Who knows- it could be great!




Based on his actions, I think he could. Guys in 7th grade are often sporadic, so I wouldn't take him dancing with other girls at the dance in offense. =]

--Jack
(16/m)

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Can you get your cherry popped when you masturbate or does it happen only when you have sex?

Your cherry can pop from really anything, like falling down or horseback riding or any sports. Masturbating might break your hymen, too. It definitely doesn't only happen when you have sex for the first time, though "popping [one's] cherry" is often synonymous with losing virginity.

--Jack
(16/m)

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