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Boyfriend not wanting sex!?
My boyfriend is 20 and I'm 16, we have been dating for a while.. I am more sexual than he is believe it or not. I have never met a guy quite like him.. he has only has sex with one other girl besides me they has sex twice.. me and him have only has sex 1 time and it was for only like 5 seconds.. he didn't cum or anything. He doesn't want to have sex i don't know what it is.. i named somethings to him like have had bad experiences or worried bout having bad experiences.. worried bout gettin me pregnant.. self conscious.. jus not attracted to me.. worried about stds.. all this stuff and he said that it isn't any of that... what do you think it could possibly be?
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it's because he's afraid that you're going to get him into legal trouble.
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Maybe he's just a good guy. Not every guy is just out for sex. In fact, a lot of them aren't. I would take this as something very positive. He might just want to focus on the non-physical part of the relationship. He's likely a romantic, which most girls would love about a guy.
Maybe try asking him what the reason, but remember you can't force him to have sex with you. =]
--Jack
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There are various reasons.
All include the reasons that you listed.
He may have lied to you saying no to a reason you listed.
He could be secretly homosexual.
He could be nervous about your age and if something wrong were to happen, being charged with statutory rape (when an adult has sex with a minor).
He could realize that he wants to wait until marraige (or just until you're older).
He might be confused and think you're taking it too quickly.
Don't be in such a hurry. If you're only in this relationship for sex, then you might want to get out now because it doesn't seem like that's going to happen. You're young. You shouldn't be in a relationship for sex. You may not just be in it for sex, but you make it seem that way in your question and I'm not mind reader to know any differently.
Don't pressure him. You wouldn't want a guy to pressure you, so don't do the same to him.
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I can't say for sure... But it might actually have something to do with your age. Since your boyfriend is, legally, an adult and you are still technically a minor... He could actually get into big trouble. I'm not saying he would... But guys do take statutory rape charges very seriously. Many guys that I've known, while they were 19 or in their early twenties, would not date girls that were still minors for that very reason.
Like I said... Can't say for sure. It's just a guess. And since he could get into big trouble, you might want to hold off on the sex for now. If it's really disturbing you the best thing to do would be to discuss the situation with him and express your concern.
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