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how do i get him to notice me ?
I am 13 and i'm going into 7th grade. I go to this day camp, and, i am an aide there. There is this guy there, that I think is really hot, and I always catch him staring at me. I know his sister pretty well, but, she is two years older than me, this guy is on my grade, but, doesn't go to my school, and in camp, we have no classes together. I really want to get to know him, though. I think he knows my first name. He has smiled at me a couple times, but, we've never actually talked. how do I get to know him, by letting him take the first move? please help me because he seems like an amazing guy! :]
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Next time you see him and he smiles, walk over to him, and start a conversation using some of the tips from that website. Here they are if you would prefer to not open it =]:
1. Always start off with something that others don't use often. Example: You see a girl in a bar and she's sitting with some friends. You walk up to her and say, "I would like to sit with you, but before I sit down, what are you drinking?" "Bud Light (insert drink)? Good choice. I'll be back with 2 Bud Lights (insert drink) and I'll hope that this seat isn't taken when I get back."
2. Start with a "hello," and simply tell the new person your name then ask them theirs. Offer your hand to shake, upon his/her responding to you. (If you go to other countries, greet the person in tune with the particular culture, e.g. in India greet by saying 'namaste' with folded hands). If you already know the person, skip this step and proceed to step 3.
3. Look around. See if there is anything worth pointing out. Sure, talking about the weather is a cliche, but if there's something unusual about it--bam!--you've got a great topic of conversation.
4. Offer a compliment. Don't lie and say you love someone's hair when you think it's revolting, but if you like his or her shoes, or a handbag, say so. A sincere compliment is a wonderful way to get someone to warm up to you. But be careful not to say something so personal that you scare the person off or make him or her feel uncomfortable. It is best not to compliment a person's looks or body.
5. Ask questions! Most people love to talk about themselves --- get them going. "What classes are you taking this year?" "Have you seen (Insert-Something-Here)? What did you think of it?" Again, keep the questions light and not invasive. Do not ask too many questions if he or she is not responsive to them.
6. Jump on any conversation-starters he or she might offer; take something he or she has said and run with it. Agree, disagree, ask a question about it, or offer an opinion, just don't let it go by without notice.
7. Look your newfound friend in the eye, it engenders trust (but don't stare). Also, use the person's name a time or two during the conversation; it will help you remember the name, and will draw the person's attention to what you are talking about.
8. Don't forget to have fun with your conversation!
--Jack
(16/m)
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dont wait for him to make the first move!! =]
he might be a little shy so approach him and start a normal conversation. talk about the camp or ask him a few weird or random questions, you know, just talk to him. do that every time (not literally every time, but you know what i mean right ?you know like, every time you have a chance) you see him for a couple of days and see what happens.
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